If You Became Super Desirable To Women, Would You Be A Player?

meisterkraus · 2024-10-15T18:57:04+00:00

I would honestly sleep with a bunch of women then settle down. I would be going from no sexual interest to a lot. I would not consider it to be a player as if they had the level of interest I am thinking of I am not manipulating anyone. It would just be I am looking to sleep around are you down.

M3taBuster · 2024-10-15T18:30:05+00:00

If I suddenly became super desirable to women right now, still having lived the same life I've lived up until this point, then I'd still want the same thing I already want as is: a LTR/marriage with a single high value partner.

If I grew up having always been super desirable to women, it's impossible to say how I'd behave now. I would have lived my life in a very different environment and I'd have been socialized in a very different way. So it's possible (but not certain) that would influence me to want different things.

DPHAngel · 2024-10-15T18:07:18+00:00

I don’t think I could have sex with someone I’m not emotionally connected to

thernis · 2024-10-15T21:38:19+00:00

I have always been desirable to women. Unfortunately (or fortunately), my mom and grandmother who I grew up with were extremely strict about me dating because they were worried about me repeating their mistakes and having a child too early. I also grew up in a city that has outsized prevalence of teen pregnancy.

Being raised by women made me naive, overly emotional, and very clingy. Women hated these traits. I would get endless amounts of interest only to ruin it for myself by being too emotional and too available.

I moved out of home at 23, got a job, faced many uncomfortable truths, then gained some confidence. Ended up dating an extremely hot girl who had BPD, and she ruined me financially (that relationship ending is one of the best things that ever happened to me).

I proceeded to sleep with over 60 women in about a year and half. I regret most of them. I don’t know them. I don’t know who I hooked up with. One girl (after we hooked up) told me “next time we should go on a date”. That date never happened. I don’t know her name. So many people I’ve had intimacy with and I don’t know anything about them.

I got sick of it. I got sick of dating, sick of ghosting, and just sick of constantly chasing the next girl for the sake of chasing the next girl. I kept a couple of my favorite girls on my periphery and would see them occasionally but the novelty of sleeping around was wearing off. I stopped, and started focusing on myself and my job.

About 6 months later, I met an awesome girl - we became friends then lovers and eventually became a committed relationship. Gaining the experience of being with multiple different girls gave me confidence and taught me how to interact well and get along with women while maintaining chemistry. That experience, plus my newfound appreciation of a loving, committed relationship made me realize that all the hoes in the world are not worth a capable, intelligent, and loving partner.

My life is much better, it’s healthier, and happier now that I’m with someone who I enjoy being with every day. Someone I can trust, someone who I can share the burdens and blessings of life with. I had to go through the muck of the dating world to realize that, but I’m grateful for it.

StruggleMuffin75 · 2024-10-15T18:43:09+00:00

I've turned down every hookup and fwb situation I've ever been offered.

Sex without a romantic, emotional connection seems like it would be awful and uncomfortable. Sex without love sounds makes me feel like it would be more akin to awkward wanking with a stranger than what I think of as sex.

I've only slept with 2 women at 30, but I've turned down like 8 or 9.

Casual, short-term, and situationships hold no interest for me.

Edit: I sat back, and l tried to recall from 18 to 30. It was 11 offers for casual sex, repeating or one off, that I declined.

It makes me sound like a bit of a pussy, but really, I just want to be loved and in love. I have a high sex drive IN relationships, normally, like, 5 or 6 times a week. But outside of them... I just see love sex and casual sex as two entirely different things. I only want love sex.

MikeArrow · 2024-10-15T17:57:19+00:00

My former best friend had a glow up in his mid-20's. He started going to the gym and really took it seriously. He would bike everywhere, like 2-3 hour bike rides at a time. The transformation was pretty staggering.

And every time I saw him, he would mention, "oh I have a date this weekend". Every time. And it was almost always a different girl.

He had the kind of gentle way about him where women are drawn to him, he's extremely sensitive and empathetic and can have a conversation with anyone. Basically, he just needed the looks to match his personality.

So I imagine I'd be something like that. I wouldn't be actively running through people, but just dating around casually, having fun, just enjoying life. Not being chained down in a relationship with responsibilities and rules.

AdEffective7894s · 2024-10-15T17:40:31+00:00

In the past ( just less than 2 years ) I was a true romantic. I would have tried to look for one person to grow old and die with.

I have had to kill that man

Now? I would be a whore to even out the lack of experience. To prove to myself that I am desirable and to make sure I am not tempted to cheat if I ever decide to give up power enough to settle.

DGenerationMC · 2024-10-15T21:50:45+00:00

No because that sounds fucking exhausting, stressful and fleeting to me.

Flintblood · 2024-10-15T17:55:21+00:00

I would do it for a month just to see how it works but I suspect I would start to feel soulless and guilty after that. The number one reason to increase your attractiveness as a man is not to be a player but to increase your the doors your can open, your romantic options and your ability to be more discerning about your options and escape the scarcity mindset that keeps many average guys in relationships where they are only there as a placeholder source of comfort and resources.

BlackGriffin_1 · 2024-10-15T18:09:40+00:00

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krackedy · 2024-10-15T17:42:45+00:00

I don't think I'd be a player. I prefer sex with someone I know and care about and exploring kinks together. There's the risk of STDs and pregnancy too. I'm bi and I could easily fuck a new guy every weekend if I wanted, but I dont. So I don't think it would be different with women. Maybe if single I'd hook up a little bit but I'd want someone consistent.

breathofanarchy · 2024-10-15T18:12:48+00:00

I would have one girl till the end. I know which one.

LowCreddit · 2024-10-15T21:22:59+00:00

I have always been desirable to women physically but was unable to maintain my early relationships because I had no guidance on how to actually interact with women. I went with the traditional method of being a gentleman, giving her all she asked for, and treating her like a princess. Of course, this blew up in my face over and over. After a few times, I decided to stop bothering with relationships and just started fucking.

How long would you go before entering a long term relationship? How many women before you stop?

I went through several years and 100+ women.

Would you have a harem or one woman at a time?

I mostly did one night stands, but later on, I had a group of women who were down to fuck that I would rotate through.

Would you date every single type of girl or just stick mainly to one type?

I would just pick up every woman that showed interest and didn't piss me off.

What type of woman would you end up with?

My wife is a super-traditional SAHM with a masters degree and CPA.

Whiskeymyers75 · 2024-10-15T20:06:41+00:00

All I wanted to do was fall in love and live happily ever after. But upon rejection after rejection until getting into shape and becoming flooded with attention, I’ve become the man whore asshole. Now that I’ve become what many women want, I no longer want them long term.

DzejSiDi · 2024-10-15T20:29:33+00:00

When I was a teenager, I was desirable (not super, but still) to women. Did not amount to anything due to being borderline autistic back then :⁾ but even nowadays spinning plates would be too much hasle for me.

But likely I would leverage my attractiveness for passive dread, so I would NOT need to deal with drama or other downsides that often come with women.

berichorbeburied · 2024-10-15T20:36:33+00:00

I was looking for love and I have/had trouble finding it

If I suddenly became super desirable

I will realize I will not be able to find love

And I will sleep around as safely as possible

Never commit

Never trust or bond

And live life self independent as I’m living now

Because I’ve already learned how to survive on my own

Only way I’d pair bond is literally only to start a family

Needless to say

The old version of me truly believes in love

Only wants to be with one person

Etc etc

But after seeing female nature and understanding it

My heart is slowly turning cold

And my desire for love is slowly fading

Without love

I really don’t want to commit or pairbond or etc

Tbh

I don’t need women for anything

I can survive on my own

Unhappy-Yak-8648 · 2024-10-15T20:48:44+00:00

Yes. Sleep around to my hearts content. Only then think of something stable.

flextov · 2024-10-15T21:48:20+00:00

No. I don’t want to be a player.

EsotericRonin · 2024-10-16T01:33:31+00:00

Sex without emotional connection is pointless.

balhaegu · 2024-10-16T04:12:02+00:00

You have to realize that, as long as a guy has hobbies he is passionate about and get consistent sex from a woman that is kind, understanding, and supportive of him, he doesnt need so much pussy in his life. If you had all the money in the world there is only so much water you can drink.

I think the MAIN advantage of being super desirable is that you can lock down one woman who has the values and personality and appearance you want in your partner.

And you can pursue your other passions that dont involve women, without worrying about infidelity.

To take an analogy, if youre thirsty, then having a well becomes a huge priority. But once you have 1 well that provides clean water for life, why would you need 10 wells?

The problen arises when the well closes up when it knows you have no other options, as womens hypergamy is known to do. So attractive men are often forced to give his woman the subtle reminder that he can still get other women, for her to continue being interested in him.

Puzzleheaded_Card_71 · 2024-10-15T19:12:59+00:00

You are asking blue pilled guys to admit their mindset is based on their physical deficiencies. That isn’t going to happen to often.

The answer is yes. Almost all men would because there is little to no chasing needed. I was a conditional chad - certain woman lose their mind over me and it was shocking how they would throw themselves at me, show up at my office unannounced offering to take me home, constantly asking to come spend the night at my place, etc. I could be incredibly dismissive and selfish and they would want me more, not less.

So ya, you would because it’s being offered with no attachment. It’s being pushed upon you. You aren’t prying some sweet girls heart open, you have women begging to bed you. So why the hell not?

Silver_Past2313 · 2024-10-15T17:44:38+00:00

I would use my desirability to get the highest value woman I could I get. Then I would have lots of kids with her. This might require more than 1 sex partner to achieve.

Randomwoowoo · 2024-10-15T22:21:29+00:00

I was desirable in my 20s, and dated and/or hooked up a bunch.

I don’t regret it now, but I also know I didn’t get much out of it. The reason being is that I rarely, if ever think about the people I just hooked up with.

Like I remember the fwb situationships fondly, because I truly cared about those people, we just weren’t meant to date. But the ons and hookups with people at parties? I never think about them, so they honestly might as well not have happened.

And I imagine it’s mutual. Like 15-20 years later, I don’t imagine any of the one night stand men/women I slept with think about me at all. It just…was.

Affectionate_Cat1512 · 2024-10-15T23:03:38+00:00

If I'd become super desirable to women right now (without any change to the past whatsoever), I'd most probably be the same as I am now - boring dude, going about his hobbies. Maybe a little more petty, rejecting all of those woman

fleshcrayon · 2024-10-16T00:30:50+00:00

No. Players ultimately don’t realize most of their life’s ambitions. They are also at very great risk of domestic violence and SA false allegations (every player I know has been jammed up in the justice system) as promiscuous women are generally untrustworthy and unreliable (never met a promiscuous man who wasn’t a classless POS either).

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-10-16T02:00:21+00:00

I would have a harem, because that’s what I do now. I would not say that I’m “super desirable“ to women, but I can get enough of the women that I want - very attractive 20 somethings - by using status and game (I’m certainly not classically handsome but I am tall and I do keep in good shape.)

wtknight · 2024-10-15T18:27:22+00:00

No. I like romantic relationships.

stats135 · 2024-10-15T18:43:53+00:00

You have any idea how hard it is to be Super Desirable To Women?

I'm not putting in all that work to get Super Desirable To Woman, to then turn around and not take advantage of it. Its like making money, and then not spending.

The only reason I make money is to spend it. The only reason I'd make myself desirable to women is to be a player with a harem. The only reason I would ever cultivate options is to exercise on said options.

Savings-Bee-4993 · 2024-10-15T19:01:11+00:00

No, I wouldn’t be or act like a player.

I wouldn’t sleep with multiple women, have a harem, or “date every single type of girl.”

I would hope to find a cute girl that desires me, wants to build a lifelong relationship, get married, and have kids, who is open-minded, curious, monogamous, mature, kind, honest, and willing to work through things. The rest doesn’t matter.

Sholnufff · 2024-10-15T18:06:33+00:00

I wouldn't play women but I tell them the truth...

This is for recreational fun only and you are one of many on my naughty list.

Blitted_Master · 2024-10-15T19:50:27+00:00

I did it for about 2.5 years after a long term relationship ended. Went on hundreds of dates and had a lot of women where we skipped the date and went straight to one of our places. It became stale/empty for me after a while. Ended up banging about 200 women in that time frame. Now I’m more picky and looking for MY woman, not just A woman.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-10-15T18:27:02+00:00

The only woman I really want was taken off the market a decade and a half ago, so I’d rack up a body count that’d make Gene Simmons jealous

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Inomaker · 2024-10-15T18:09:44+00:00

Nah. I'm married now but I think in this situation I probably would have spent more time dating before ultimately settling down like I am now.

thedarkracer · 2024-10-15T18:17:36+00:00

Nah, I would like to be with only one but ngl that's not gonna be easy either. People put up an act infront of desirable people, they are attracted to only those qualities rather than the person itself.

I feel like I would wanna end up with someone who likes me as it is instead of those attractive qualities.

LAKings55 · 2024-10-15T18:48:12+00:00

I think I'd still opt to be single. I wouldn't say I'm "super" desirable to women, but I already turn down the occasional advance. I wouldn't expect that to change.

envious1998 · 2024-10-15T19:15:46+00:00

Knowing what I know now and having the experiences I’ve had, yes. I don’t owe women anything and that includes my commitment.

QuantityAcademic · 2024-10-15T19:19:09+00:00

I don't think so. I'd find the woman with whom I share the most amount of chemistry, and then I'd just spend a long time (2-3 years) just exploring sex with her and getting really good at getting her off, doing all the kinks she likes etc. Only then will I even think of maybe finding someone else to sleep with. And that too is contingent on me being bored (lots of people say sex becomes boring once the honeymoon period is over). If that hasn't happened, I'll just stay with her wns enjoy her in every way I can, and please her in every way I can.

KentuckyCriedFlickin · 2024-10-15T19:44:15+00:00

I think it depends on how "super desirable" I am to women and what they desire me for. I assume it is a sexual/romantic attraction time of way rather than in a utilitarian/pragmatic way (money, status, fame, useful friend, etc.).

Am I "super desirable" in a realistic sense? Am I able to attract women that would've liked me if I reached my maximum sexual potential in a human sense or do I attract women who would have never considered me their type in a million years (and vice versa)?

Am I desirable enough to take another man's woman or is it limited to available and ready women? Am I "celebrity" desirable, or is it relative to my own status? Does it only apply to where I live or is it universal?

It really depends on what you mean.

TERMINXX · 2024-10-15T20:49:33+00:00

Yeah, probably. I wouldn't try to be a massive piece of shit, but I'd also definitely try to sleep with women I'd have always wanted to but couldn't. Eventually, I'd use my desirability to get the long term partner I'd wanted tho.

CryptoThroway8205 · 2024-10-15T20:53:20+00:00

Nooooo!.... ^{^maybe}

I'd probably split bills more instead of covering most of it and just swipe looking for rich, attractive, smart girls. Be more wiling to break up if I didn't feel like they liked me enough or were too high maintenance knowing I had more girls I could date. It's that secretary problem with more secretaries to interview. I wouldn't lie and say I was looking for long term when I wasn't which is kinda a prereq to being a player.

If they were down for situationships and being fuck buddies, sure.

FreitasAlan · 2024-10-15T21:08:17+00:00

Unless I had terrible moral education, I would use this value to find the best wife I could. Although I still think it would be very difficult.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2024-10-15T22:37:59+00:00

People think I’m a player even without being Super Desirable.. probably I’ll have my fun first a year or two and settle in

TeacherSterling · 2024-10-15T22:52:21+00:00

I went from getting only a little bit attention from women to a lot of attention quickly. I did end up dating a lot of women, I don't think I was a player but I try a lot of things and I was interested in the process more than anything.

I still feel that way. It's been about 5 years, and I have transitioned to serial monogamy interspersed with bouts of sporadic serial dating. Usually I will date a lot of girls until I find one I really like and date her longer term until it doesn't work.

Neptune-Jnr · 2024-10-15T23:07:32+00:00

No not really. That would only happen if the women I court decided to stop hanging out with me.

HighValueWomanBook · 2024-10-15T23:50:44+00:00

When life gives us lemons- we make lemonade. We'll keep fucking these low value hoes until a high value woman comes along.

shadowrangerfs · 2024-10-16T00:07:19+00:00

I think most men would spend a year or two dating as many woman as he wanted. Then find a woman that he really liked and settle down with her.

I think most women would just go for the top guy right away.

ta06012022 · 2024-10-16T00:20:32+00:00

I’ve always done well with women, but I’ve gone through phases. There have been times I’ve had a lot of casual sex and there have been times I’ve been in LTRs. I’m 26, and my adult life has probably been split pretty evenly between the two.

Whether it’s relationships or casual, I’ve mostly stuck to one type. I would probably describe that as sorority girl (or former sorority girl). But within that type there’s been a little racial variation. Still basically the same type.

purplish_possum · 2024-10-16T00:22:35+00:00

Baby mama's coast to coast!

Wherever I roamed I'd have a nice warm place to sleep.

Ultramega39 · 2024-10-16T00:51:14+00:00

No.

Disgusting lifestyle.

MaliciousMack · 2024-10-16T01:14:37+00:00

Been there done that. Truly even now where I don’t ‘feel’ as desirable as I used to, the experience of being single in college already gave me my fill so to speak.

Looking to date more long term now since I’m done with school and trying to build a career. Maybe could entertain the idea of a thruple (3 people dating, don’t know the proper way to spell that), but even then I’m not seeking it.

Nihi1986 · 2024-10-16T01:15:01+00:00

No, though I would definitely not settle for less than a woman I really, really like in a healthy relationship, which is probably what happens to a lot of attractive men with a reputation of being players...

I'm not saying there aren't players, lots of them, but women also give this reputation to men who just decided they weren't interested enough on the woman.

mrfoozywooj · 2024-10-16T01:43:08+00:00

I got ripped during covid and this happened to me, I came out of the lockdown era with abs.

I didnt become a player, I did end up going on 2-3 first dates a week inbetween relationships while I was searching for the right girl though.

Sleeping with women you arent 1000% into makes them too attached to you and makes ditching them way too awkward so I'd only sleep with someone if she was GF material, no point in playing around when you can just move onto the next one.

masterdarthrevan · 2024-10-16T01:49:08+00:00

id have them buy me drinks and paying for my food! |
LOL
once ive had enough maybe id strip myself through med school!

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-10-16T02:35:45+00:00

I have. I was tempted. But I was raised right.

SOwED · 2024-10-16T02:45:00+00:00

No, I want a relationship, not hookups. I certainly wouldn't be a player but would probably be more likely to get into a casual fwb kind of thing between relationships.

DelDivision · 2024-10-16T03:37:30+00:00

At this point kinda i guess. I dont really want to deal with people too much anymore outside of the internet. Being friends with a player really helped expose relationships and how alot of bluepill talking points is b.s. which left a nasty taste in my mouth for dating. I dont want a harem, a consistent legit FWB is just fine for me.

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-10-16T03:41:30+00:00

Nah, I'd string em along for a week promise a bunch of shit and ghost em

Cyrrow · 2024-10-16T12:36:29+00:00

As many until I feel happy. I think juggling more than two women is probably difficult. Would try every type I found attractive. Idk what type I'd end up with, would have to date to know.

Ziogatto · 2024-10-16T14:14:54+00:00

What for? To get babytrapped? No thanks

Intelligent-Insight · 2024-10-16T14:15:26+00:00

Obviously a harem or a main wife + side women for variety type of setup. That's the best of both worlds, there's literally no reason not to do it if you can.

bison5595 · 2024-10-16T15:41:35+00:00

I think a lot of guys underestimate how draining it is to deal with multiple women. I had a best friend who crushed it with women and would get frustrated from energy he had to give dealing with logistics and all the emotions.

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2024-10-16T16:20:49+00:00

One woman at a time. Dealing with multiple women's needs at a go can be mentally and emotionally exhausting

LordShadows · 2024-10-16T20:53:20+00:00

I'm poly, so I would probably have many life partners.

I would also mess around a lot more.

Maybe even sell content or services.

I would probably start a poly family, have children, have friends with benefits on the side, and the casual hookups.

It mostly would depend on my libido, though. It's easy to imagine doing all this when you have never ever truly been sexually satisfied, but the truth is that I have no idea of when it would be too much for me to handle.

HollowHusk1 · 2024-10-16T22:12:06+00:00

No, I find that lifestyle to be disgusting and immoral

EugeneCezanne · 2024-10-16T23:43:02+00:00

As a guy who has been above-averagely popular with women for a long time now: The general answer is that i date who i like. The seriousness of that dating depends on how it's feel about the person, mostly.

How many women before you stop?

I'm poly. So there isn't really a "stop."

Would you date every single type of girl or just stick mainly to one type?

I think my record has been pretty broad. But a type definitely asserts itself as more statistically prevalent.

I know some guys that just keep pushing and over 1000 women now

When I was younger, the idea of running up the numbers sounded really good. After a decent amount of experience though, I think most come to care more that they're spending time with people they really like.

As it stand, I'm at like 65ish, maybe. This year has been slower than the last few, but that's just because I'm usually with one or both of the women I'm already dating.

I think she’d go to the absolute top men that exist and work her way down.

In my experience, most such women tend to go for "the top," whatever that means for them at the time, then get tired of how they're treated and change their selection criteria. It's not that they're dating down so much as the scale of up and down flows on a different axis.

That's also not to imply that men at the top treat women worse--a common misconception. It's just that if you're choosing partners on aspects unrelated to what they're actually like as humans, you're not doing a great job of filtering out the bad ones.

WhaleBiologistCILISI · 2024-10-17T04:02:45+00:00

Ain't going back to LTR, that's for the birds. All types of women, one at a time though, say what you will to guys who enjoy spinnin' plates but that's a headache and a half I don't care who you are it's a lie to say otherwise. And screw having a kid, let alone children, need $ to keep my lifestyle going, and not having a LTR makes that a hellscape scenario & f**kin' nightmare I'm giving a wide berth to for as long as I'm not old asf like 34 or sumthin. got a little over a half decade before that starts anyways so no need to fret yet. Ending up with... don't particularly care, just *fingers crossed* just let her be at least pleasant to be around ffs.

Sargeras13 · 2024-10-17T11:38:28+00:00

If I grew up super desirable to women, then yeah, I'd be a player, simply cause it's the social conditioning, I'd be praised, looked upto etc.

If I became super desirable between 2016-2019, no I would not be a player, cause around then I was far more innocent minded, and I wanted to be moral, believing in love and everything.

If I became super desirable now, I'd just be a player, my life experiences upto this point have been painful enough, that my morals don't even matter anymore.

So I do believe it's all about age and experience.

throwawaypi123 · 2024-10-17T14:24:26+00:00

Having gone through a 6 year dry spell and then going on a 2 years maintaining 3 FWBs. It was about 2 years until I reached a point when it wasnt that special anymore.

More notably there is a point when your dick is too wet. The effort of chasing more women isnt worth it. I didnt do 1 night stands so maybe that was why it was so taxing. But maintaining a sexual relationship with 1 girl is more than enough hassle.

The lessons I learnt were the reason you are so desperate is because your self worth has gone down the drain. The only solution to that is getting it on with a bunch of women. It's incredibly validating being the source of a ladies pleasure and pretty much will sort out any mental anguishes that you are experiencing during the dry spell.

I dont think there are any downsides except the effort you have to go spend during the phase.

Rodemante · 2024-10-17T14:25:25+00:00

I can't give an answer to this question. Because, I never was a super desirable man. I never had lots of likes and dms flowing from ladies on my social media accounts. I never confronted groups of women scrutinizing me on the streets basing on my physical attractiveness. I am just an average guy with average height, average look, average income and average job with average status among the society. I can't know how does it feel to be a very attractive man or can emphatize with such men.

At the times when I did pursuit dates and women, my dating life was like hitting on women I met at social gatherings revolving around common hobbies and using different types of approaching strategies after each rejection I got. The negative feeling of considerable amount of rejections become cumulative in the end. This is why my experiences with women in dating world was '' meh''. I just try to enjoy my lafe as a loner now.

Just trying to show I cannot put myself in the place of a super attractive man within the boundaries of a hypothetical situation.

Beautiful_Bunch_6079 · 2024-10-30T02:26:06+00:00

No. I’m speaking from experience. I’ve turned down a number of hookups.

I did it out of principle and because I was one considered very unattractive. Glowing up changed the way I see things.

I have no desire to get back at some perceived wrong, and I only wanted to sleep with a woman I could see myself having kids with.

Plot twist, I think I’m on my way to being a father atm with a woman who’s also similar to me in backstory.

James_M_Croft · 2024-11-14T14:57:12+00:00

I would be a player. Until I found someone worth me staying... like most "players" out there.

catdog8020 · 2024-10-15T18:48:28+00:00

1) have a harem of woman - yes 2) a chad will be able to date any woman and all types 3) chad may settle down but why should he - he has hot woman coming over to his house or apartment weekly 4) if i sent you your favorite meals to your house weekly would you go shopping 5) I’ve seen when woman who are unattractive all of a sudden go overseas to a place where there are way more men and woman become like men - they go through a sexual phase for a while fucking all the chads they can get a hold of. lol. Not all woman of course but woman are human - verrrrrryyy human almost to the point of completely taking over the sexual market to their advantage

2024-10-15T18:23:30+00:00

Not that I've ever been super desirable, but when I was a younger, more socially active, man, I had women, some friends of friends, some strangers, try and sleep with me and I had no interest in it then, so I am quite confident in saying "no" to your question.

treadmarks · 2024-10-15T18:59:37+00:00

At my age (40) I see the writing on the wall and would just try to get the best woman I can, one where I won't see a better looking woman every day and have regrets. So probably a woman half my age lol.

Redpill-mind · 2024-10-15T17:59:04+00:00

I ain't saying nothing

Yall know the answer lol

catdog8020 · 2024-10-15T18:40:29+00:00

According to Greco-Roman stoic philosophy yes you would.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-10-15T19:38:11+00:00

No because it's damaging to most women. I would look for a unicorn to marry or remain single if she doesn't exist.

Barely-moral · 2024-10-15T17:52:00+00:00

For the sake of argument I will answer from the position I was in before having a partner.

If You Became Super Desirable To Women, Would You Be A Player?

I don't think so. I would find one partner and keep her.

How long would you go before entering a long term relationship?

A single day

How many women before you stop?

One. I already have people vetted.

Would you have a harem or one woman at a time?

One.

Would you date every single type of girl or just stick mainly to one type?

One type.

What type of woman would you end up with?

Probably a religious nut from a family of religious nuts that would rather die than divorce or fail to fulfill the role that God expects her to fulfill.

I think the consequences of having children becomes too high. I also think you’d just start to feel gross after awhile. I don’t think most men are making it that long, throw in the towel in 1-2 years.

Fair.

I know some guys that just keep pushing and over 1000 women now. Seems like is more like an addiction to them.

I wouldn't know.

TallFoundation7635 · 2024-10-16T18:52:25+00:00

Most men would rather be in a good relationship with a good woman and maybe stray on the side once in a while making sure that they don't get caught.

Circle_of_Steel_ · 2024-10-15T17:52:57+00:00

I would keep orbiters around that are FWBs until I found the right girl and if I find out she monkey branched from another guy to me I would just use her for sex and kick her to the curb. I mean I have done this once or twice but I am not SUPER desirable, just a mildly above average, so I don't have women just orbiting me like that. I used to struggle with women a lot before i had somewhat of a glow up so I sympathize with these men more than I ever will with women as they just will never have sympathy for us. Trying to break the mold when it comes to the male out group bias because I have met far more decent men that are overall good people then women. Usually more empathetic on average too. But at some point obviously you want to use this high desirability to find a highly desirable good woman to build a life with. Desirability doesn't last forever, don't want to fall into the same trap most mid women do in their mid 30s.

Title	If You Became Super Desirable To Women, Would You Be A Player?
Author	rustlerhuskyjeans
Upvotes	41
Comments	335
Date	October 15, 2024 5:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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