Has anyone else found that Right Wing Man/Left Wing Woman pairings seem more common than the reverse?

Eaglone · 2025-03-24T18:36:01+00:00

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It's a well-known phenomenon.

thunderchungus1999 · 2025-03-24T13:19:41+00:00

Could it be because there are a lot more right wing men than there are right wing women also?

Noted it as well lol. It's a meme that reappears in my Twitter feed every once in a while.

AngeAware · 2025-03-24T14:50:20+00:00

I am a left-leaning moderate and this is my observation.

Conservative men with liberal women: I can fix her

Liberal men with conservative women: I'm not dealing with that

Edited to elaborate a bit more: I find that for women religious affiliation and conservatism tend to go hand in hand, while that isn't quite as true for men. And religious differences are a lot more difficult to overcome than political. This leaves liberal men, who are often not religiously affiliated, not wanting to date a conservative woman. It is also puts non-religious conservative men in a weird position where they would rather date a woman who is more liberal than he is than date a woman who's gonna try to drag him to church every Sunday.

anonymousppd123123 · 2025-03-24T16:24:36+00:00

That is quite literally the average young man average young woman pairing

calmly86 · 2025-03-24T17:53:10+00:00

This phenomenon speaks to observing women’s actions as opposed to their words.

Despite saying they want equality, it’s a fact that many women want to have their cake and eat it too, cherry picking the parts of antiquated gender roles that they like and discarding the rest.

Throw_r_a_2021 · 2025-03-24T16:30:24+00:00

Right wing man left wing woman pairings are obviously going to be more common than the reverse simply because there are more right wing men than left wing men, and more left wing women than right wing women.

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2025-03-24T16:32:43+00:00

Nice guy but frequently goes on about how "woke" the world has become, and how "everything's offensive these days" etc.

That doesn't mean he's right wing. I'm left wing, but I'm not fond of wokeness, since I feel it just divides people to keep them too distracted to develop class solidarity.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-03-24T16:16:40+00:00

It makes sense that many women, regardless of affiliation, want a dominant man

modidlee · 2025-03-24T16:22:40+00:00

I think men that are too liberal-leaning come across as feminine. I find that women say they want a man that believes what they believe, but they’re just naturally more attracted to the right-leaning man.

AntonioSLodico · 2025-03-24T16:40:25+00:00

Men are more likely to be more conservative, and women are more likely to be more liberal, at least in the us. even if politics had no bearing on who people chose to date, you would still see more conservative man liberal woman pairings.

ThorzOtherHammer · 2025-03-24T17:58:06+00:00

Yeah and that makes sense. Left wing men tend to be less physically and emotionally masculine, which is what most (not all) women (regardless of politics) desire.

Normal_Red_Sky · 2025-03-24T15:28:21+00:00

You're not the first to notice this, it is a thing.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/why-is-every-man-i-m-attracted-to-right-leaning

Apparently the women find the right wing men more masculine and so more attractive.

PunkRock9 · 2025-03-24T15:41:53+00:00

Idk, humans make no sense. We seem to want what we don’t have the most. When women say they don’t want men hitting in them in public, which would be more likely to listen? Which is more likely to ignore a woman’s request and shoot their shot? Which one has the chance of getting a yes?

I thought bumble was the answer but that wasn’t the case.

Temporary_Cow · 2025-03-24T16:32:53+00:00

Yes, since there are an excess of both.

No-Appointment-8270 · 2025-03-24T21:01:34+00:00

Because empathy (left) is a feminine trait and discipline, hard work (right) is a masculine trait, at least in most species.

BobtheArcher2018 · 2025-03-24T14:59:19+00:00

The left currently has a masculinity problem. There was a time when left could be more conventionally masculine. But very few are these days.

Kind_Mongoose_4730 · 2025-03-24T14:58:02+00:00

Yes. It’s because liberal women are generally more single than conservative women, and a lot of conservative men are the masculine type that women like.

My husband almost exclusively had liberal women wanting to start a relationship, wanting to hookup. They were willing to put aside politics only for the physical attraction/Chad aspect.

GrandpaDallas · 2025-03-24T13:40:53+00:00

I will say I've seen more of that than the opposite, but there is a further observance that I've made regarding it, and that's the couples don't last long.

Granted, I've seen them go a couple years, but eventually one of them gets sick of it and bails.

Grand-Inspection2303 · 2025-03-24T23:25:28+00:00

Well yeah polls and election results have long shown that there are more conservative men than conservative women, and more liberal women than liberal men. So, of course, the pairings reflect this. Tomorrow's PPD observation: "Has anyone found that tall man / short woman pairings seem more common than the reverse?"

iamsojellyofu · 2025-03-24T14:59:25+00:00

The guys that tend to approach me and want to date me tend to have right wing beliefs even mine swing the opposite. It was not that common for men to share my beliefs so I settle for the right wing men.

HTML_Novice · 2025-03-24T15:28:04+00:00

The things that women are biologically attracted to are self sufficiency, ambition, confidence, going against the grain, capability. These aren’t modern American left wing values. So that’s why you see these pairings often

SquirmingAddict · 2025-03-24T14:44:34+00:00

Right-wing men tend to be more masculine, which is to say more attractive.

Statistically, they're also more likely to physically larger and go to the gym.

YveisGrey · 2025-03-24T18:49:13+00:00

No I have not see that I think more moderate or conservative woman with left wing man is more common. But most common is people just dating people with similar views as themselves. So far left with far left, far right with far right, moderate with moderate. Also the couples you describe it doesn’t seem like the men are far right just not far left, they seem libertarian actually and I think generally libertarians and leftists get along better than far right and far left would

Comfortable-Regret · 2025-03-24T19:35:55+00:00

Men tend to be more right leaning, women tend to be more left leaning. It would be pretty strange if the reverse pairing was more common.

No_Sky_6628 · 2025-03-24T21:01:51+00:00

Maybe I am opposite to this, but I haven’t seen a huge amount of people in my personal life swing this way, but this is just MY experience because I see memes about this daily.

The last 2 people I went on dates with were left leaning. I still talk to both of them and we get along swimmingly so far. My last ex was not political at all and honestly would agree with anything I would say. This relationship ended with nothing to do with politics lol.

My leftist friend’s husband also agrees with pretty much everything she says and if he doesn’t you bet she’ll change his mind. Two other friends are liberal and engaged. My parents are both liberal and have been married for 27 years. Pretty much every friend I have is in a relationship with a liberal man.

So even though my experiences aren’t law, I just don’t see how that trope really works in reality, but I also live in Chicago lol.

twilightlatte · 2025-03-24T21:02:21+00:00

The reason is that right wing women see left wing men as feminine babies w/no practical skills. I could explain it in nicer terms, but.

DonBoy30 · 2025-03-24T21:02:56+00:00

There is no more insufferable creature on this earth than a white woman who voted Trump.

Opening-Ad-6756 · 2025-03-24T21:04:35+00:00

I feel like you aren't an exception to the rule and kinda highlight the thought I almost made when I read the thread title which is that for the most part those super liberal women have more in common ideologically with right wing men (fit example ask them both about how dangerous men are to women or how women have more emotional intelligence). Left wing men usually have more in common with apolitical women. There's exceptions but it's rare.

Freevoulous · 2025-03-24T21:53:48+00:00

Politics are largely irrelevant in a relationship because the things people "believe" politically to fit with their Tribe have zero bearing on their everyday lives and relationships. Everybody thinks they are the exception from the rules of their political Tribe, and act hypocritically within their own house.

The obvious reason there are a lot of Right Wing Man - Left Wing Woman pairings, is because the Left is massively more popular with Women, and the Right with Men, but people need to find partners somehow, and can't find them in their own Tribe.

Melodic_Structure928 · 2025-03-25T01:45:30+00:00

Ya, I’ve pointed this out a couple of times. Women are usually very attractive to men who hold traditional masculine roles, which you’ll find much more of on the right.

hopeidontforget2021 · 2025-03-25T04:55:47+00:00

The only thing 'left wing' about most women are the feel good policies.

But most prefer to live a traditionally male led relationship style and want to have kids.

Disastrous-Chart-928 · 2025-03-25T11:17:06+00:00

Even western society has a much more concrete architype of masculinity that men have to appeal to, even the majority left wing women desire this.

Even most the 'blue pill' women on this sub will be dating an older guy that at the very least earns slightly more than them. Despite most of this subreddit coming from urban hellholes where young women possibly out earn young men or are well on their way to (for less labour)

Anyways the modern left has done nothing but make life harder for young men, they haven't gotten around to addressing WHY men should fall in line rather than just shaming them into doing so. The average man just wants to make decent money while not be judged for his occupation, go home and strip to his boxers then play video games with his bros, they're a lot more concerned with beer and cracking terrible jokes than they are politics in my experience

Eb73 · 2025-03-25T11:55:33+00:00

My significant other (Female) is an avowed Feminist Hillary supporter. Me, I'm Trumpian all the way. We simply NEVER discuss politics.

TopShelfSnipes · 2025-03-24T14:08:54+00:00

I think this is a misperception on Reddit, and a symptom of the tendency to overpoliticize everything among political types on here. The definitions "left" and "right" are subjective anyway, and the goalposts have shifted hard to the left these days, so when it comes to individuals self-defining, especially on Reddit, far left viewpoints are likely to be overrepresented, and viewpoints that deviate from that, even juuust a little bit, will have most Redditors screeching and demanding complete ideological compliance like children who've never been disagreed with finding out their buddy prefers a different pizza topping.

More women are likely to identify as "left" or "left leaning" on the basis of reproductive arguments alone. Most women, even if they don't personally support abortion, do not want the state interfering with their right to receive healthcare, or the menu of treatments their doctors have available to them. I honestly think that most men - especially young men - have no idea how fucking terrifying pregnancy can be for women, even those who want children. The fact that in the 21st century, women can do everything right and still end up infertile due to complications from ectopic pregnancy, with preeclampsia, with a permanent degradation in their QoL due to gestational diabetes, dead, or suffer miscarriage, is terrifying to women. Thus, even if a woman doesn't herself intend to abort, the infringement on her abortion "rights" still very much hits home for her, if not for her personally, then a woman she knows.

Most men, even those who do identify as "left leaning" (pretty much all but hard left), absent these personal concerns cuz biology, go out of the house every day, and see the people living large on their dime. They can see the useless "homeless advocates" on the subway, asking the homeless stupid questions and aimlessly "counting" them while doing nothing to remedy homelessness, end addiction, get them into safehouses/job training/mental wellness programs. They can see government bureaucrats voting themselves fat pay hikes every year. They can ride the woefully wasteful public transit systems in America that hike fares, create new regional taxes to pay for "improvements" that never manifest, provide shitty service and project cost overruns/delays, while the officials padding their defined benefit pensions to supposedly keep things on schedule and within budget shrug impotently and beg for more $$ because "this time will be different". They also disproportionally bear the risk of violence, since most violence is man on man, so when things like bail reform and decriminalization upend the relative safety of the preceding 20 years in the name of left-wing advocacy, men tend to oppose that. And they see the lunacy in some leftist spaces that target them as "oppressors" just for existing.

The reality of individual couples is far more complex than "left" or "right" - what matters is common ground. Plenty of men support women's rights, but don't want drag queens reading their 1st grader stories about genderfluid 6yo's during assembly. Formerly sane "left" positions such as pro-choice (not "pro-abortion"), anti-illegal migration, belief in voter ID and that noncitizens shouldn't vote, keeping women's sports for biological women who haven't taken testosterone or other cross sex hormones, opposing socialism, and wanting to keep gender identity stuff out of kids' classrooms - while supporting gay marriage and equality of opportunity (but opposing equity of outcome) - is enough to get you branded as a Charlie Kirk disciple these days. Women also oppose many of these things, and thus can bond with likeminded men while still identifying as "left" where the man won't. The men most likely to identify as far left are likely to be low ambition "antiwork" types - much more likely dependent on parents or otherwise unattractive to women. What matters is individual views on individual issues, and the impact of those issues on the couple's life. Not some arbitrary label that a terminally online ideologue attaches to them.

Show me a pro-gun, pro free-speech, pro-choice, anti-war, fiscal conservative, who opposes those who've benefited from male physiological development competing in women's sports, supports gay marriage, voter ID, rolling back decriminalization, enforces/secures the border, and wants to grant amnesty to DREAMers and those who've served in military AFTER the border is secured, and I'll show you a candidate who wins elections in a landslide. Neither major party runs on this platform, so people "identify" with the issues most immediate to them. The increasing number of Americans who self identify as "independent" each year bears this out, and honestly, that number would be even higher if more states had open primaries.

ClarkCant06 · 2025-03-24T15:00:46+00:00

Women in these kinds of relationships are hardly true leftist. If anything they only wear the aesthetic of leftism while still engaging in right winged lifestyles

leosandlattes · 2025-03-24T13:23:26+00:00

My boyfriend and I are also the opposite to the rule. We are both left leaning but I am more conservative than he is on certain issues.

I think most men lean moderate or right anyway - it will be hard for far left women to all find a man who matches her political values.

bluepvtstorm · 2025-03-24T16:07:57+00:00

Right wing men love to preach about their masculinity but prefer to be able to take that coat off sometimes. They don’t have to be alpha bro with their left leaning partners.

I have no respect for any left leaning woman dating a conservative man. He is completely against everything you stand for and if you are willing to put your morals aside for some penis, then they gave a character flaw.

There is no grey when it comes to human rights.

FairwayBliss · 2025-03-24T14:56:35+00:00

I’m libertarian, conservative leaning, and I constantly matched with left wing guys. Most of my relationships were with leftist men. Most guys I would classify as conservative/right wing (in my area), were blue collar or very religious guys: far from my type of men.

In the end I married someone with a much more similar background and political views (very white collar + non-religious).

doggiedoc2004 · 2025-03-24T16:53:39+00:00

I believe it was Andrew Shultz who made this joke/observation recently “there are no real men over 5’9” who support democrats/waltz/harris to paraphrase

Honestly I find this take surprisingly accurate and I live in central California.

If a woman wants to date a tall, masculine man, I bet the odds are very skewed toward that man being conservative or at least a bar stool republican

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-03-24T14:13:08+00:00

My parents were the opposite, although they both started out very left, and then my mother veered sharp right a few years after they married. I'd imagine left men find right women to be boring, while right men find left women to be interesting. Pretending to be left is pretty easy, so I can see right men playing nice for a little while to attract a woman, and going back to his right views once she's in.

Otherwise, I usually just see right/right and left/left, or center/either.

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-SidSilver- · 2025-03-24T16:47:47+00:00

Yep. People not encouraged to cast a critical eye on themselves and their own actions or choices are naturally going to fall prey to hypocrisy.

Present-Afternoon-70 · 2025-03-24T18:21:38+00:00

People hold public and private views. It could be that publicly she is more left than her private view and he could be more right. I advocate for things much further left than I live becuase my principles are for societal level issues. I may for instance be pro choice while never personally accepting abortion.

G0_0NIE · 2025-03-24T18:52:39+00:00

I either see;

liberal woman x conservative man (reminds me of that one millennial couple meme)
conservative woman x centre-right man (the woman is more politically to the right).

I can’t think of any irl couple (not situation-ship) whereby it’s the reverse tbh

ta06012022 · 2025-03-25T03:13:33+00:00

There are more right leaning men and more left leaning women. But an equal % of men and women pair up, so yeah, math…

LordShadows · 2025-03-25T08:47:20+00:00

Because being right-wing is seen as manly and being left-wing is seen as womanly.

Women tend to learn to be attracted to stereotypical manly guys, and men tend to be attracted to stereotypical girly women.

Then, you get people being shocked when their long-term partner vote against their interests.

kongeriket · 2025-03-25T10:11:01+00:00

Well, by your standards, I'm "far right" and I live in a "far right" country.

Still... this isn't a hard one. Men on average lean right more than women. So by pure statistics you'll necessarily see more often a right wing man with a centrist or even center-left woman than viceversa.

However, this isn't the only reason. Here's a few more:

Women do prefer a more dominant man. Reddit cope notwithstanding, dominant men are far more likely to be right wing than leftists. This wasn't true 50 years ago, but, as the Left itself became more feminine it necessarily led to the Right be (at least perceived as) more masculine.
Behavioral differences. Right wing women get married early on and don't stick around "dating" for too long. I know 50+ explicitly right wing women. All but one got married before the age of 25. And the one who didn't get married young was because her husband-to-be died in a tragic car accident. It tore her apart and it took her years to get over it. Eventually she married and had children too. Meanwhile, half of the left-wing women I know are still unmarried in their late 30s and have a mess of a personal life. But hey, the line went up in that sweet career - yet one by one, as they approach 40, they're suddenly realizing they're simply not happy. So who do they run towards? More right wing men!
Perception tricks. A lot of otherwise normal and commonsensical beliefs are now right-wing coded so the perception is exaggerated by that. Basic border safety was an 90/10 issue 20 years ago. Today it's "far right" in a lot of European countries. And it is/was mostly younger women who turned against the basic safety of the Nation by supporting open borders. And it is mostly younger women who suffer the consequences for it. So who do they run for safety? More right wing men.

orangestringtheory · 2025-03-27T17:27:24+00:00

Liberal men tend to be more effeminate and conservative men more masculine. And while liberal women may eschew gender roles for themselves, they still maintain an expectation of men to keep their own traditional gender roles. In other words, male feminists may get invited to the vegan potluck but they don’t get laid.

davidnailder · 2025-03-29T04:21:13+00:00

I sure don't. I know ow very few right wing men that would associate with a progressive woman.

WhatTheyWanttoHear · 2025-04-05T22:28:40+00:00

My experience as a liberal man is only meeting conservative women who like me. Don't think I've ever been with one of these mythological liberal women.

But if it's true about women being attracted to men who're disagreeable, then it makes sense to me.

Lauren Boebert is also dating a Democrat.

Shoddy-Breath-936 · 2025-05-16T22:21:07+00:00

this comment section:

- angry leftists spewing hatred and negative stereotypes

- regular people giving their opinion

ShiningDee · 2025-07-09T16:43:53+00:00

Liberal=\= leftist, it's less likely a socialist or communist will date a right winger but liberals don't really have a spine and go by vibes instead of principles

Just_Natural_9027 · 2025-03-24T13:12:13+00:00

It’s incredibly rare.

Same-Treacle-6141 · 2025-03-24T23:21:13+00:00

Yea this is fairly common, incl. in my own home 😂. I’d actually say this is almost all of our friend group - whether it be from HS, college, or town. In some cases the wife is still conservative but more liberal than her husband so it’s more relative than absolute, but the point remains.

I think a few reasons -

First all of us (early 40s) met back in the late aughts/early-2010s meaning pre-social media and pre-Trump. Because no social media was around then (Facebook was pretty much it) we had to actually meet IRL and forged actual human connections - sense of humor, general kindness, personality, job prospects, etc. politics just never was a make-or-break for us. By the time politics came up you realized this was a genuine person, even with different opinions.

Second, very important - politics aside everyone we know is TEMPERAMENTALLY conservative. Even the liberal women - all married in long-term monogamous relationships with kids. No one’s living libertine lifestyles, wearing pussy hats with blue hair and piercings. Everyone’s an MD, lawyer, dentist, banker, sales exec., etc. so even if politics differ the lifestyle isn’t in conflict. Everyone is upper-middle/lower-upper class and we all make a good living. Too much vested in “the system” to be revolutionaries.

Global-Ad-1360 · 2025-03-25T00:28:36+00:00

It's because they can still get marriage out of RW men, LW men are less likely to be religious or invested in marriage as an institution

This is why e.g. Indians marry way more. It's a much more trad culture. That's also why western Europeans marry way less. They're WAY less religious than the USA

In general, this is probably why women tend to skew more religious than men across the board. Because religion tends to regulate this kind of thing

Fair_Rush_2697 · 2025-09-11T18:08:06+00:00

I feel women are easier to manipulate emotionally through manufactured Media designed to sway them into a certain viewpoint and once it's locked in it's near impossible to change their minds- their greatest strength is being used against them- their heart ❤️

RocketYapateer · 2025-03-24T13:52:20+00:00

Probably a necessity thing.

As a general rule: right wing spaces tend to be dominated by men and older women (there are ladies in photos of Trump rallies etc, but they’re very rarely south of 45.)

Conservative young women exist, but she probably married a 21-year-old guy from her church youth group when she was 19. I think conservative men have to get married when they’re young or else he’s in the desert for quite a while if shared political views are important to him.

AnonPinkLady · 2025-03-24T15:46:33+00:00

It isn't surprising at all to me that women more commonly lean liberal, and men more commonly conservative. It's common sense really, the only people who benefit from right wing bullshit are men so of course they're more likely to be the ones to support it, and left leaning politics are more likely to focus on protecting women's rights, shocker I know.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-03-24T15:03:05+00:00

duh?

flipsidetroll · 2025-03-24T15:30:56+00:00

Well, what you have described is how people are NOT all black and white thinking like redpillers make out they are. How bad boys are not bad boys all the time. How some feminists are not man-hating psychos you see on the internet. How not all young women want an old man with saggy balls just because he’s rich. What you have described is real life. And it’s terrifying that too many here have no clue this is what reality is like.

bluehorserunning · 2025-03-25T04:56:05+00:00

Yes, because right wing men are perfectly happy to lie about their politics to get someone into bed.

Sharp_Engineering379 · 2025-03-24T13:34:51+00:00

That's because men lie about who they are and what they have to offer in a bid to win a woman over. They hide their true identity and affiliation long enough to tie her down, then the truth comes out.

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