Daily Community Chat Megathread

EulenWatcher · 2022-07-21T09:57:46+00:00

I've made enormous around 5 kilos chocolate cake and now we're struggling with finishing it. But it did turn out rather good. I really need a smaller baking dish though.

Fat_Papaya · 2022-07-21T09:52:13+00:00

I got reported for harassment on a comment that isn't even harassment, quite annoying haha

Play_Muted · 2022-07-21T09:38:53+00:00

I want to get divorce graped so I can cry about it on redpill forums then get a beer belly and bald in peace 😎

WaffleBurner96 · 2022-07-21T09:14:47+00:00

WHY are some of the men here acting like one day a woman just comes along and goes “I’m your wife now; give me all your money” and then treats them like garbage?

Have some fucking agency. Respect yourselves, and don’t let your woman disrespect you. Don’t marry someone who treats you like an ATM if you hate the thought of being valued for your income. Don’t marry at all if you don’t fucking want to. Nobody is forcing you to do anything.

Oh no, you’re sad because pussy isn’t falling out of the sky onto your dick like it is for Chad? Go cry about it. Or go to the damn gym and raise your standards.

decoy88 · 2022-07-21T08:56:15+00:00

This place insane.

“Why can’t I treat women like shit? What’s the purpose of treating another human being any other way?”

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T08:45:04+00:00

Q4Men: in a hypothetical where you must pick one of the following; would you rather BB or be alone (relationship wise) until you 💀

Rubber-duck7203 · 2022-07-21T08:27:02+00:00

If you think dating as a single mother is hard, you have no idea about the single fathers.

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T08:22:55+00:00

Guys dating coaches are making the rounds on twitch, which means this will trickle up into Youtube. Get ready for PPD to have millions of subs

😎

Also RIP

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T07:58:53+00:00

I'll never be a BB

Cause I'm broke

😎

😂

😭

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T07:52:30+00:00

Pretty sure this girl in the discord is actually a guy and the boys have been sending her **** pics

😂

^ooooh

Drama 💅

PraiseGod__ · 2022-07-21T07:38:13+00:00

The possible effects of Roe v Wade

You think this is actually a possiblility or just some doomer on one of the most pathetic subs on Reddit?

No way that actually happens. I stg all Redditors love exaggerating and believing in scenarios that aren’t realistic in the slightest, just so they can feel wronged all the time.

PraiseGod__ · 2022-07-21T07:35:26+00:00

Atheists need to come up with a better insult than “skydaddy”.

It’s getting hackneyed.

EulenWatcher · 2022-07-21T07:17:04+00:00

Thins like this:

Apparently I am more desired now in my mid 30's than in my teens and 20's. You know how much of a slap in the face is that to me? Some of these women better be lucky I'm not single (right now at least), becauae if I were and a woman who obviously had her fun back then and wants to date me as the settle down guy, you know what I would do? I would use them for sex and lead them on intentionally, and watch them cry when they realize how I broke their hearts. I wouldn't give them any emotional availability or anything they desire in a relationship, not even pay for her dinner. I would just intentionally use her for sex and if she asks about a relationship, I would ghost her. Maybe keep her at arms length just so I can watch her feelings get hurt. I would do this with every woman who fit into that category until I felt that I've been compensated for the pain I've gone through. And everytime I feel bad for doing such a thing, I would remind myself of those days when I wasn't the kind of man that women wanted during their hookup phase but the kind they look for to settle down. The biggest violators of this are the girls who you knew back in high school that had no interest in you but will hit you up years later when they are single moms.

Kind of show that the narrative "choose a guy without options" is wrong. Chances are high he won't be grateful or more loving because you're his only hope, but rather that he's already way too jaded, bitter and angry with women to form any kind of close relationships with him.

GhostRidersInTheSky7 · 2022-07-21T06:55:54+00:00

PPD overwhelmingly agrees that AFBB is a real and prevalent phenomenon. What now?

In this thread all of the comments I saw by bluepillers concede the existence of AFBB.

If I can talk a little about my feelings without this post getting removed, the above thread made me feel awful:

I still find it hard to accept the harsh reality, it makes me nihilistic and misanthropic and sad. It makes me lose faith in humanity and in my own moral compass. By lose faith in humanity I mean in a literal sense that I currently value human life less than I did before reading through that thread.

I’m normally a very altruistic and genuinely good human who adheres to a utilitarian moral framework. But I also have basic human dignity that prevents me from accepting life as a BB, being a BB is my nightmare scenario. Now I feel I must be an AF douchebag to get anywhere with women, because that’s what women truly want. This has resulted in me feeling that I should adhere less strictly to my utilitarian moral framework.

I feel slightly misogynistic because AFBB is a humongous source of misery and heartbreak ingrained into women, and thinking about it triggers a feeling of deep disgust. I feel like the only way to cope with this demented reality is to view AFBB as a force of nature, as the only alternative would be to view women as malevolent.

Now onto the actual question: So what now? The Red Pill obviously acknowledges AFBB and advocates for transforming into AF. Blue pill from what I’ve seen on this sub focuses on accepting BB.

But nobody wants to be a BB. That’s such a worthless and pathetic existence. So what other choice is there? What are men supposed to do within such a bleak reality?

Mark_Freed · 2022-07-21T06:05:54+00:00

I just realised I'm trying arranged marriage the same way hot girls try dating apps. Just for validation. I'm not actually going to get hitched this way lol

PraiseGod__ · 2022-07-21T05:32:27+00:00

look at the comments shitting on this sub lmaoooo

They hate us cuz they ain’t us 😎

GhostRidersInTheSky7 · 2022-07-21T05:19:43+00:00

No idea how everyone here isn't completely nihilistic/misanthropic.

Mark_Freed · 2022-07-21T04:16:36+00:00

Is it just me or do girls like the thriller genre more than men in general?

cruciod · 2022-07-21T04:01:00+00:00

20 on the 20th 🥳

Q4A: general 20s advice?

VirtualRow4074 · 2022-07-21T04:00:16+00:00

I don’t get all the uproar of alpha fux beta bucks when honestly it’s no different than the sexual strategy men have executed or desired to execute which is have fun and fuck fun party girls or women who are down for casual sex in the short term and then get a wholesome good girl to settle down with in their thirties. That is not too different from alpha fux beta bucks so I’m confused. In college I didn’t have casual sex at all guys told me they would look to hit me up later when they actually wanted to settle down but didn’t want to when they were young because they wanted to have casual sexual relationships. I had no issue with their decision as it means that we were simply not compatible.

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T03:54:41+00:00

Some of you don't watch enough anime rom coms and it shows 💅

PraiseGod__ · 2022-07-21T03:46:47+00:00

She asked me if I do this everyday, I said often

WhiskeyOnASunday93 · 2022-07-21T03:46:18+00:00

Powers that be want us quarreling over pussy and n counts while they gut the housing market and stifle wages 😖

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T03:22:44+00:00

These guys are perverts in here

😳

errrright · 2022-07-21T03:15:26+00:00

Q4A - do you think that having a crush while married/in a committed relationship is okay? Why or why not?

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-07-21T03:07:35+00:00

Am I the only black guy who wasn't born in the 70's that listens to Carole King, Linda Ronstadt, Joni Mitchell, and Judee Sill? Jeez my music taste is all fucked up lmao

flash13131313 · 2022-07-21T03:00:01+00:00

food for thought: Of the ~25 or so apartments/rooms belonging to romantic interests that I’ve seen the inside of, 2 were clearly cleaner and more organized than mine, maybe 5 were at the same level and the rest were messier with maybe a dozen or so making me think “damn bitch you live like this?” And there was nothing that indicated that they would be messy people. There was a correlation between cleanliness and how satisfactory our relationship was though.

scwizard · 2022-07-21T02:45:06+00:00

The advantage of waiting until you're older to get married is that then you'll know you like a guy as a person and not just cause of your hormones.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-07-21T02:43:51+00:00

My girl says the music I listen to to work out is kinda depressing LOL even though Iike edm and pop, along with trap and rap while I party

WaffleBurner96 · 2022-07-21T02:02:05+00:00

The correlation between things like divorce rate or cheating and body count MAY BE valid reasons for someone to vet against high n partners BUT it is not a reason for women to not sleep around, as it has not been proven that sleeping around causes infidelity or divorce.

please learn how stats work

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T01:51:21+00:00

Alright how many of you weirdos are in the discord

🤔

biggestuzifanea · 2022-07-21T01:37:40+00:00

Reminder that sex is extremely painful for men, were eager to do it because we love women that much

huhwhatokok · 2022-07-21T01:30:53+00:00

Would you rather be 8/10 making 60k a year for the rest of your life or 4/10 making 100k a year for the rest of your life? Your earnings keep up with inflation and your looks adjust with your age. (IE, you’re an 8/10 for a person in their 40s). Let’s say this scenario starts when you’re 22.

poppy_blu · 2022-07-21T01:20:37+00:00

Enough of the concern trolling. Not a one of you gives any fucks about the emotional well being and future prospects of women having casual sex/fucking chaaaaadz.

The only thing worse than inherently selfish narcissists is inherently selfish narcissists pretending their selfishness is concern for humanity.

Get the fuck out of there with that bullshit.

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-21T01:09:52+00:00

Where's the shit posting at in this discord!?

Beneficial_Chard9471 · 2022-07-21T00:54:17+00:00

If "fatalism" really is the way the world is, then why shouldn't a person believe in it? Isn't believing in the truth better than a lie that is more comforting?

The only sensible thing to do is go with what the evidence says, regardless of what conclusions it leads to.

Like, you want a man to believe he has at least a small chance, rather than believing he has no chance (fatalism). Okay. You can never know what the future will be, so there's something to that idea. Now, let's say he lives his life, and at the end, we can see what actually happened, and it turns out he really didn't have a chance. "Well, it's too late to do anything about it, tough luck." Dude, no. Like, what are you going to do to make it better for him? The answer is: nothing.

If he had seen the truth he could have at least done what is best for him.

If you want to argue that believing in a lie gives someone a better life, then that is on you to prove. But then, you've allowed for it being okay to believe in lies, so you can't prove anything: how do you know that your belief that believing in a lie is better when that belief could also be a lie? You'd have to have some god's eye view of the world - perfect information - to know if believing in a lie makes you better off. But, if you had that kind of knowledge, then you wouldn't actually believe in the lie in the first place.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-07-21T00:50:04+00:00

A girl I used to train with and I were talking the other day

She told me, and I quote “You were such a powerful fighter”

This is a better compliment than being called cute by a girl, it’s better than being called big guy by dudes at the gym, it’s better than being called sexy, it’s better than anything

It’s an absolute top tier compliment that will stick with me the rest of my life

It’s enough to make a grown man cry

meteorness123 · 2022-07-21T00:46:28+00:00

Would you rather be good-looking or intelligent ?

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-07-21T00:37:34+00:00

Q4w - thoughts on men who have perfectly replicated mortal kombat fight scenes in their garage?

eighthofbluedream · 2022-07-21T00:37:01+00:00

A lot of young guys here need to remember that women here are much older. Young women dont give af about money at all and consider "potential" more. enjoy it while you can, im sure older men can chime in here but i suspect that changes once you hit 25

growandappear · 2022-07-21T00:30:24+00:00

Why isn't she watching my stories for fuck's sake >:(

I'm about to mail them to her

Beneficial_Chard9471 · 2022-07-21T00:25:03+00:00

Is it just me, or are most of the women here using "discussion" as cover for putting down men? It seems that women on this sub can't separate discussion from insulting the men they're "debating" with. It's usually some form of "... if you think that, then that means you're probably a loser." I was reminded of this by a post from a few days ago calling some point of view "cowardly," as if it wasn't a question of how the world actually is, and more about character. For example, we can't talk about the laws of physics, but believing some constant is one value vs. another is not "cowardly" or "brave."

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-07-21T00:16:19+00:00

If you mutually want a relationship with a woman who has slept around but doesn't want to have sex with you for whatever reason, other than just leaving her, the next best option is sleeping with another woman behind her back. That way she can still get the relationship with you and you will have your sexual needs met. If she decides to finally have sex, then cut the other woman off. If your partner gets mad over the fact you slept with someone else, you can use the fact that she slept around but made you wait for it as the reason. I did this back in '09 with a girl who tried me with this.

Okay ladies and simps, don't forget to hit that downvote button 🤣

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-07-20T23:58:27+00:00

People who think that political ideology can be as simplified as "left" and "right" are just too lazy to actually look into policies and ideas any further and just want a basic label to loosely make an understanding of what they believe.

MrMushySauce · 2022-07-20T23:53:10+00:00

if you're not in the discord you're a pussy tbh

i too was a daily thread poster but now i've seen the light

- brought to you by a drunk mushysauce

-ImmortalOrochi- · 2022-07-20T23:47:48+00:00

Condoms are the devil.

Swimming-Profile-471 · 2022-07-20T23:27:37+00:00

Are men more likely to talk themselves into or outta sex with women?

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-20T23:20:26+00:00

The wall

😳

Spinning4plates · 2022-07-20T23:04:12+00:00

Never forget men Closure is Bullshit

Spinning4plates · 2022-07-20T23:03:34+00:00

Women seem to think of themselves as divine beings incapable of comparison to anything in our universe at all.

You're comparing her to a car? a cow? an animal? an incubator? a horse? a bird? a house? The sun?! Blah Blah Blah Blah.

The only thing you can compare a woman to without being called a misogynist is an angel ie something that doesn't exist.

Women are the only thing with which applying the laws of supply and demand is evil and misogynist.

Any talk of their value to you at all that isn't infinite is misogynist. 🙄

River_Archer_32 · 2022-07-20T23:03:20+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qwerz7/start_having_sex_where_the_man_doesnt_orgasm/
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/pmopnn/bare_minimum_vs_high_value/

yikes. do some of these people actually have partners? WTF does that say about men that some will shack up with absolute human garbage

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T22:56:49+00:00

I think men with functional depression and poor mental health have it hard on the dating market. Like really hard.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-07-20T22:45:20+00:00

Chick added me back on Snapchat, and I asked her what happened, she basically went into the same crap again about how I'm playing her, how I'm lying to her, how I don't actually like her.

I honestly think somebody has been in her ear or something, like a family member or friend, because things were good until a couple of nights ago where a switch just flipped and it's been like this since.

Gonna start dating around again because she said she needs "space".

It's not even necessarily us not working out that's annoying me, it's the fact I'm being painted as a liar and a villain by her.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2022-07-20T22:43:48+00:00

"Just treat women like people" is the biggest cap ever

C'mon... you really think most men who got married got there by not treating their now wife differently than other people?

Play_Muted · 2022-07-20T22:36:57+00:00

Yes I watch sumo AMA. did that mofo seriously kiss him after bitch slapping him?

Best sports ever.

Spinning4plates · 2022-07-20T22:26:29+00:00

IME as a great lover, virgins are way bigger sluts than girls with n counts of like 3.

A girl who's been with 3 guys, me being the 3rd knows how rare and great I am. A virgin who has had the time of their life getting fucked by me has no idea how much worse other men can be.

She just knows that sex is great. Without fail everytime I take a girl's virginity (Like 4 times not that many) They subsequently turn into a whore collecting mad reference points. The tamest streak was 9. Largest lost count around 25.

The thing is they all intellectually know I'm likely comparatively great (they have friends who tell them how disappointing a lot of men are) but they need to see it for themselves.

It's like the difference between the smoker who knows that cigarettes cause cancer and the guy who quits because he almost puked a lung when the escalator broke.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-07-20T11:14:15+00:00

This week summed up on all PPD comment threads : The reason you guys aren't getting laid is because you focus too much on judging women and trying too hard to be Chad. Why does it matter to you if her body count is over 100 and was gangbanged by 4 different Chads in college at every frat party? And you wonder why you're still a virgin? You should talk to women like regular humans and be happy that she is giving you a once in a lifetime chance to be in her life.

TastyCucurbits · 2022-07-20T13:44:13+00:00

How is it that an entire horde of people supposedly devoted to logic and 'the true nature' of people's psyches still cannot wrap their minds around the idea that both looks and personality are necessary to make up an ideal partner?

hollo_man45 · 2022-07-20T13:20:10+00:00

Honestly this place is doing almost as much damage to my psyche as some incel subreddits I used to browse. I don’t feel too good

decoy88 · 2022-07-20T09:49:52+00:00

Linguistic distinction is why a lot here can complain about gender roles while simultaneously supporting gender roles.

Example: If I say “men are nurturers and carers of their children” I get pushback, but if I say “men are leaders to their children by giving advice to provide and protect” those same people agree with me.

Notimecelduv · 2022-07-20T09:15:12+00:00

I don't get chicks in OLD who answer your questions but never ask their own. If I'm so boring, then just ghost me and I won't be bothering you. But what's the point in a one-way conversation?

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T13:28:04+00:00

"Men would fuck anything"

Where did this come from ? Ive rejected advances of women who weren't even fat

pussy_destroyyer · 2022-07-20T14:22:12+00:00

PPD culture is just waiting for someone of the opposite gender to say le bad thing and so they can say “I knew it, they’re all like that! All of them!”

WhiskeyOnASunday93 · 2022-07-20T16:19:55+00:00

A bluepill I agree with is that if you have issues with women. Like resentment and misogyny, that’s gonna come back to you in a bad way.

I think girls can sense that better than a lot of redpillers believe. Especially once you’re over 25. I get the whole not taking a tinder girl to an expensive restaurant on a first date thing. But if you won’t buy a b*tch a cup of coffee on a 2nd date because you have a chip on your shoulder and a transparent rule that you refuse to spend money on her til she puts out. That’s not a good energy to send out on a date.

SuspiciousArdvark · 2022-07-20T10:20:19+00:00

Hot single mom I knew in high-school DMd be after I sarcastically reacted to one of her Facebook statuses.

She said

Do you wanna fight me?

Is this a declaration of violence or flirtation?

🤔

Snoo_16536 · 2022-07-20T16:29:58+00:00

A fat dude being blackpilled is a lazy SOB. like dude, just fucking lose the weight!

do you even like yourself?

Men who are out of shape should never whine about women. Gain some self awareness and buy a damn mirror. I support women who refuse to fuck fat dudes.

Wandos7 · 2022-07-20T17:44:43+00:00

What ever happened to Atlas? Half of the fun here was seeing her hot takes on shit. I know she changed her name a couple of times but I've lost track.

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T19:22:07+00:00

Many women don't give a shit about about height as long the man is taller than her. Face is king.

Slipthe · 2022-07-20T12:50:39+00:00

One thing I find amusing about Dissociative Identity Disorder on the internet is how every alter someone has wants to be an attention whore on the internet lol. And they are all so deeply consistent in how they rattle off the sexuality, pronouns, age, race. Like they are all being orchestrated exactly the same way.

SantarpiosPizza · 2022-07-20T15:15:01+00:00

Rather be rejected for personality than looks. Honestly don't understand why people say the opposite.

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T18:49:39+00:00

Anytime anyone here says "biologically programmed", you already know more about them than you would like to

dbz19_kai · 2022-07-20T09:55:22+00:00

Do you think less attractive men are by nature more inclined to be seeking serious commitment relationships and marriage as opposed to more attractive men who are statistically more likely to seek casual dating and sex?

hollo_man45 · 2022-07-20T12:52:09+00:00

As much as I take most of the stuff in this sub as a joke it’s really starting to weigh on me.

Spinning4plates · 2022-07-20T13:39:42+00:00

I think caring if she fucked on the 1st date is dumb.

Habil13 · 2022-07-20T14:28:58+00:00

There is a very strong case for men cheating being worse than women cheating. Hear me out: Most men don’t get pussy thrown in their face for simply existing, while most women get dick thrown in their face for just breathing.

Going with the flow is a lot easier than swimming against the current. Most men have to proactively cheat if they want to be unfaithful… if that makes sense.

TastyCucurbits · 2022-07-20T17:14:47+00:00

Sexual desire can be operationalized as the motivation to seek out solitary or partnered sexual experiences. A large body of evidence suggests that men experience sexual desire more strongly and more frequently than do women; however, it is not clear whether sexual desire is truly gendered or if gender differences are influenced by how sexual desire is operationalized and assessed...

...We conclude that sexual desire emerges similarly in women and men and that other factors may influence the observed gender difference in sexual desire.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11930-014-0027-5

Men and women were equally likely to be the member of the couple with lower sexual desire relative to their partner.

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2012.678825

“During women’s peak period of arousal, which occurs around ovulation, their sexual motivation is just as strong as men,” says Lisa Diamond, a professor of psychology and gender studies at the University of Utah. “Women don’t have lower sexuality than men. What they have are more variable patterns.”

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20160630-the-enduring-enigma-of-female-desire

[Same article.] Previously, doctors had also assumed that the male sex hormone testosterone could be linked to female desire. In fact, it probably does not play a major role: several studies found no difference in testosterone levels in women who have high levels of desire and those diagnosed with a desire disorder.

Overall, effects of sexuality on T across species highlight the malleability of androgens, particularly in response to the social environment. Not only does sexual behavior affect T, but the social environment in turn modulates the extent of sexuality’s effect on T.

[i.e. testosterone and desire are only linked very indirectly]

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40750-014-0005-1

“Thinking that sex just comes out of testosterone is such a falsehood,” says Sari van Anders, an associate professor of psychology and women’s studies at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, whose lab led the investigations. “Hormones have such small – if any – influence on desire.”

Etc., etc.

TL;DR: The idea that women's sex drives aren't as strong as men's because of testosterone has no true scientific basis, and PPDers need to stop using 'male sexual desire' as an excuse for behavioural patterns.

Giallo_submarine · 2022-07-20T19:11:45+00:00

Observing a massive gender divide in reactions to men seeking relationship advice on Reddit.

Hypothetical: Man has (female) partner.

Man is slightly irritated with an aspect of her behaviour. (N.B. average person would deem this irritation reasonable but not relationship-ending, examples could include; she dominates conversations; she wakes him up in the middle of the night to talk; she never cleans up after herself; she bites her nails and spits them out on his carpet - choose for yourself.)

Reactions from male Reddit users generally focus on either communication or behaviour modification. Resolution of the issue.

Reactions from female Reddit users is generally along the lines of "BREAK UP WITH HER, SHE'LL FIND SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATES HER FOR WHO SHE IS, SHE DESERVES SO MUCH BETTER THAN YOU, YOU FUCKING INCEL."

This discrepancy is rather pronounced, and has led me to conclude that there is a vast gulf between how men and women are socialised to view relationships (men on women on Reddit, at least).

Women seem to be working on the logic that if you aren't 100% satisfied with every aspect of your partner, you should replace them with a new one.

On the other hand, men seem more option to the idea that longterm happiness requires compromise and sacrifice, and that you can't firebomb years of marriage for a Seinfeld-level irritation.

I wonder how prevalent this attitude is in the real world. I've never encountered it, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Lysa_Bell · 2022-07-20T11:21:49+00:00

Q4M

Do you ever dress nice just for yourself? Do you only dress to impress not to feel good about yourself?

dbz19_kai · 2022-07-20T11:21:54+00:00

Do you think FDS makes an effort to understand how male sexuality and attraction works the same way TRP does for female sexuality and attraction?

I feel the problem with FDS is it encourages too much seethe. TRP tries to encourage guys to become chads (hit the gym, have sex with random women at bars etc) whereas FDS is stuck in permanent anger phase. FDS doesn’t teach women to become Stacies. In fact a lot of FDS threads are basically “I’d be happy never having another relationship again”. Basically MGTOW but for women

However I think the sub /r/vindicta which focuses on looksmaxxing is kinda more similar to this because it basically teaches women to focus on their appearance the same way trp does to men.

Habil13 · 2022-07-20T12:35:00+00:00

Found this today. I’m in absolute chock. I don’t understand how society is becoming this cucked.

itzReborn · 2022-07-20T12:43:58+00:00

How does one not feel jaded after going from no success with women to having success? Like if all of a sudden I get attention from women after getting a six pack but I’m really the same person prior to the 6 pack how is that suppose to make me feel? I get that I’d be more attractive but deep down I’d be the same person and it just feel superficial

Or maybe I’m just overthinking it

Phoenix_Obscurus · 2022-07-20T20:13:31+00:00

This thread serves as a useful reminder that many on this sub are only here to try to feel like they've won something. I have little doubt that most people knew what the titular question was getting at (esp. given the million times it's been asked), but unfortunately many ladies chose to take the route of contesting the verbiage, ostensibly to invalidate the question in its entirety.

Which is actually invalid in this case because, from what I've seen, 'withhold' does not inherently imply entitlement in its definition.

It's wild because people like to use the "this is a debate sub" line of thought to justify giving bad-faith interpretations of a given statement or question, but (at the time of this writing) the 'About' for the subreddit says the purpose is to [civilly] discuss sex and gender issues.

Y'all are a piece of work lol

CliffPR · 2022-07-20T20:33:37+00:00

It's adorable that my doctor still worries whether the meds he prescribes for me will lower my sex drive. Like, my brother in Christ: you've seen me naked. You know as well as I do that it would affect exactly no one if my sex drive fell or even vanished altogether.

gobblegoobleoneofus · 2022-07-20T10:00:28+00:00

its only been a few days but I miss drugs so bad

what are the best copes that aren't food/sugar, or alcohol, or jerking off, or nicotine, or caffeine?

any copes that are actually good for you? cardio/weights or something?

ayowai2 · 2022-07-20T12:16:26+00:00

“If he wanted to, he would” is one of the dumbest phrases in modern dating. I don’t do things I want to do all the time.

Spinning4plates · 2022-07-20T12:20:48+00:00

There seems to be a theme with the body count discussion and the way it's viewed in women's minds.

I'm not sure why this is the case but every time it's brought up women seem to think that the standard can only exist for moral reasons.

I'm saying that sluts are bad people so I shouldn't be turning women into sluts. That'd be a fair argument, if I thought that sluts were bad people.

I have actually never said this, I just think that for myself and for a lot of men a slut would make a bad long term partner as I couldn't trust her.

If a woman wants to be a slut all power to her. But if a woman's been a slut and angry that she's getting rejected. She's kind of a moron tbh.

No woman's saying that short men are bad people they're just saying they don't consider them to be good partners, that's all.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-07-20T12:33:59+00:00

This bitch really just went and shit tested me again and I passed like usual with flying colours.

Her: So who's paying for our next date

Me: We're paying for our own stuff.

Her: Oh ok fine whatever.

Me: Do you have a problem with that?

Her: No it's just that you say you want to date me yet you don't pay for things and you haven't asked me to be your girlfriend yet

Me: We've gone on a couple of dates already ad we went 50/50 both times, that's what we agreed on, if you have a problem with that you don't have to come on another one.

Her: No you're right we did agree on that, it's fine I'll pay for my own food :)

She thinks I'm gonna give in, not gonna happen.

nahuel-nahuel · 2022-07-20T12:34:35+00:00

To the people who advocate that "sex is a need" ... What's the point of arguing for that? What do you expect would be different if people agreed "sex is a need"?

IMO it's not like anything would change. You can either get a partner or pay for sex, those have always been the two options. Do you expect the govt to pay for your sex like they'll pay for food stamps or something?

Exercise could also be considered a need and that is far more crucial to health than sex, but even then, even knowing all the benefits, most people are obese or skinny-fat and don't do it. And there's no gym stamps lol.

Something being a "need" or not doesn't seem to matter unless you literally die without it (food, water, shelter).

annabeelongx · 2022-07-20T15:41:21+00:00

If a guy absolutely didn’t want commitment, and this perfect girl came along—his type which beautiful, caring, feminine, smart, and reliable, would he reconsider it?

decoy88 · 2022-07-20T15:59:48+00:00

If PPD rhetoric makes you start to doubt your saner worldviews, just remember that…

PPD Demographics are interesting. An obvious skew of opinions is obvious.

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T17:20:41+00:00

I'm still somewhat confused on the hyperfocus on the looks. Most time spent in a relationship isn't having sex. It's talking. After those 20 minutes, you need to talk the person. If you don't like their personality, things go sideways quickly.

scwizard · 2022-07-20T20:00:36+00:00

Being a misogynist is wrong. Being a misandrist? Honestly...there are many reasons why it feels justified. I think more women these days have much more knowledge about the gendered power imbalances and infringes upon our rights that it feels generous to even like a man haha.

So I don't think it's necessarily "wrong" or "right". It's simply your choice. When I was young, I used to want men's validation whether it was platonic or romantic, and they've all disappointed me in some way. As I got older, I realized I feel the safest and most comfortable around women; I'm a total girl's girl. Combine that with being a leftist feminist and the knowledge that more often than not, men will not stand up for women, means I just don't actively seek men out anymore in any capacity.

It seems a little too convenient that women like this lose interest in men around the same time men lose interest in them.

chilikettlechips · 2022-07-20T22:10:21+00:00

Misogynists infantilize women! Also some women who are not all women:

He wanted a mommy, he couldn't take care of himself, he whined, he threw a temper tantrum, he cried etc etc

🤔🤔🤔

Q4W: why is this so common?

dbz19_kai · 2022-07-20T09:50:08+00:00

If you’re an employer and your hiring two new employees: let’s say you have two prospective employees who are the same in all regards. Same education, same previous work experiences, same skills and knowledge. One of these has a far higher statistical likelihood of taking many months of paid leave in the first few years after hiring them.

In choosing the best economic and strategic decision from the perspective of a company seeking to make profit, which one will you hire?

ExpensiveShoulder580 · 2022-07-20T10:56:30+00:00

My cat is a perfect replacement for a massage gun

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T13:55:51+00:00

Thought experiment time.

Would a 29 year old woman go for a 32 year old guy who doesn't have his shit together but whom she finds attractive or a 39 yo who has his shit together.

I think her heart would prefer the 33 old guy.

PepperBusy1464 · 2022-07-20T14:22:19+00:00

I find it strange how common it is for women to bash men about sexual inexperience “most men cant find the clitoris or touch it wrong”. If thats a common thing dont you think it would have to do with women not being communicative in bed? I think most men can agree 75% of women dont know how to give a blowjob and 99.9% of women dont know how to give a handjob yet you see a lot less bashing about that because men are more communicative about what they like.

Fat_Papaya · 2022-07-20T17:19:23+00:00

I firmly believe most people can gain 2-3 points on their SMV by sitting on a horse.

NyahFriday · 2022-07-20T17:43:35+00:00

It has always been popular to give fat people shit for being entitled, shooting above their league, being lazy or unmotivated and engaging in unhealthy or awful behaviors and lifestyles. This is all true and I'm not justifying anything, but people need to realize a lot of the time the fatness is a symptom and the most visible manifestation of who they were to begin with. It may or may not have been their fault (probably both), but most come from a background of trauma, mental illness, deviant psychological profiles and such. In a minority of cases genetics also play a prominent role.

If they got to a point physically it shows they let things go without caring or at least not having the mental resources to care, and there are reasons for that deeply rooted in their persona already in place. Just another way of looking at it. It's not like they got fat and then consciously think despite their fatness they are going to be entitled or lazy or deserve the moon.

houstongradengineer · 2022-07-20T18:47:23+00:00

To be clear:

If a man posts "I hooked up with a chick and it was really just sex, we went our separate ways," I'm going to keep scrolling. I don't care. I might have an opinion, but it's not my business enough to get me to stop scrolling. I am not concerned by consensual stuff in itself.

If a man posts "I hooked up with a chick and she was a total dumbass but I put her in her place. She makes me sandwiches. Probably gonna keep fucking her as long as I feel like. I'm so cool," that is where I draw a fucking line. I will tell a man when he is not cool, he has serious issues, and he's whining about superficial, unnecessary problems of his own making. Then, certain men will ask me "herp a derp, why do you have a problem with consensual sex?" Umm... I don't. I have a problem with narcissistic, hateful pricks.

When a woman posts "I hooked up with a man and it was really just sex, we went our separate ways," certain PPD men will rain all hell down on the poor woman, calling her names, too. Few other men questions these men lol

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T19:42:46+00:00

In order for a woman to be able to respect her man, he can't be dumber than her. Certainly not much dumber.

Agree or nah

WaffleBurner96 · 2022-07-20T20:16:32+00:00

I think a lot of people (with the exception of sex workers) would be a LOT better off if they just viewed sex as something fun and nice and mutually beneficial instead of a currency to be exchanged for commitment or favors or whatever.

Tramelo · 2022-07-20T20:34:52+00:00

Considering the effort and time it takes to build a good physique naturally, I'd say being "too muscular" is a non existent problem.

WahmenH8ter · 2022-07-20T10:25:40+00:00

I guess the the feminist “my body my choice” and sexual revolution is limited to fucking older men.

teball3 · 2022-07-20T14:13:26+00:00

y'all know that quote that get floated around these days about medieval painters painting naked women with a mirror and naming it "vanity"? I'm not going to link it, google it if you have to. I don't like it. I think the person saying the quote is as much or way more guilty of condemning someone for something they made up. They assume the absolute worst of the painter, run with it as fact, then say they are a bad person for having condemned the subject of the painting.

I find way too much internet discourse takes after this. "I can't possibly know for sure, but instead of arguing in good faith, I'm going to assume the worst and condemn you for it as fact."

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T14:32:54+00:00

Can we agree that social proof, charisma, behavior and personality alters a woman's perception of the man ? Even the physical perception of him. Equally a handsome guy loses his appeal if he doesn't have those qualities which definitely happens. Meaning, you shouldn't worry about more handsome guys. If at all, ,you should worry about guys who can give her a more intense emotional experience than you. This is the actual danger zone.

No that doesn't mean that the 5'3 janitor gets all the bitches. But most men aren't 5'3 janitors.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-07-20T15:25:11+00:00

Q4all would you rather raise an entitled child or a people pleaser?

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-07-20T15:32:50+00:00

Well quick update, she's blocked me on everything for some reason. We were literally good up until 30 minutes ago when it happened.

Oh well 🤷

JustaGuyinFinance · 2022-07-20T16:05:23+00:00

Damn Carlsen backed out. Next Candidates is gonna be fun

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T16:06:45+00:00

If a woman shit tests you, you need to stand your ground. Say this :

Bitch, I'm the man, (ho), I'm the man you know Bitch, I'm the man, (ey) You know I'm the man Bitch, I'm the man (uh)

You must not forgot the adlibs. They are key to keeping your frame.

Dolphin_Moon · 2022-07-20T16:28:56+00:00

Kinda been thinking that the spark is overrated. The one guy I really fell head over heels for we didn’t have a spark immediately. I honestly felt meh about his physical attraction. But we had good conversation and he was polite so I gave it a chance and low and behold by the 3rd date I was wondering why we haven’t kissed yet and I wanted to jump his bones. By the 6th date we spent 3 hours making out and having sweaty sex lol.

Spark for me immediately means I want this guy to fuck me. I’ve had that a handful of times. Its just physical attraction. CHEMISTRY is the one where it combined the two IMO. Chemistry is more important than the spark. I feel like the spark cannot last long either. Sucks bc in a relationship I would want to constantly feel like, I want to rip this dudes pants off at all times, but then what else is there? So I 100% believe attraction can build. Obviously first dates put things into perspective but I have had first dates w ZERO spark or chemistry vs just one or the other. The chemistry ones usually led to something more.

Spinning4plates · 2022-07-20T16:51:18+00:00

This thread demonstrates how women feel entitled to men's attention/friendship in the exact same way they complain about men feeling entitled to their bodies.

nahuel-nahuel · 2022-07-20T17:04:19+00:00

Theory:

Men who go hard at the gym are more likely to be short or have been scrawny.

Women who go hard at the gym are more likely to have been fat.

Both are trying to compensate for what they lack, and are driven by a degree of self-hate and anger.

FFTzzz · 2022-07-20T17:46:51+00:00

Brad Pitt in a skirt at 58 is the most Chad move ever.

Slipthe · 2022-07-20T18:25:18+00:00

Q4ALL:

What function does sex serve for men?

What function does sex serve for women?

cvslengthbucketlist · 2022-07-20T19:13:01+00:00

Anecdotal observation is useless for trying to prove that a phenomenon in dating never happens, or that some people holding on to the belief that it does or can happen in the future is somehow wishful thinking.

Also it falls into the category of "fatalism" which is a no go on PPD anyway.

empresa_josefina · 2022-07-20T20:30:50+00:00

If consent is a fluid state and can be withdrawn at any time, why can’t a man’s desire to date a woman be a fluid state and be withdrawn at any time? Why can’t I have sex with a woman and arbitrarily decide I don’t want to date her seriously? Why is that “using her for sex”? And why assume I planned to pump-and-dump all along? My consent to date is fluid and sacrosanct so I can withdraw it at my leisure right?

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JustaGuyinFinance · 2022-07-20T09:11:18+00:00

First eh

dbz19_kai · 2022-07-20T11:59:24+00:00

Fuck it, quadruple dipping but I don’t care because all the yanks are asleep.

Do you think people who have a “type” that they’re attracted to will also have that “type” be more attracted to them than people who aren’t that “type” are?

Let’s say I’m attracted to Type A women. Would Type A women be more attracted to me than Type B and Type C women are?

I’ve found this to be true in my experience.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-07-20T13:58:04+00:00

What percentage of PPD men are incels? It's gotta be half at least.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-07-20T14:15:29+00:00

Q4men do you believe it's wrong for a woman to break up her family (get a divorce) cause her man cheated?

ririsbaby · 2022-07-20T14:38:27+00:00

Q4M

What’s the sexiest hairstyle a woman can have in your opinion?

lulll · 2022-07-20T15:04:29+00:00

q4m this woman comes up to you and smacks your ass what do you do

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2022-07-20T15:04:40+00:00

Are older women really walking around hating on age gap relationships where the man is significantly older than the woman? Or is it just what men on the Internet claim?

Don't women generally not care what other people do? My body my choice is the norm, right?

SignalThanks6766 · 2022-07-20T15:12:17+00:00

So it’s between Liz “Pork Markets” Truss the zombie ghost of Thatcher and Dishy Rishi the millionaire tax avoider for PM.

What a wonderful country I live in.

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T15:15:29+00:00

Social proof is at the heart of what women find attractive.

This is the ultimate truth. Anybody who isn't deformed but has social proof has no trouble to have women attracted to him. If a man is not able to accumulate social proof, he's out of the game.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-07-20T16:14:44+00:00

Q4w - Have you ever been ghosted after having 1st date sex?

Slipthe · 2022-07-20T16:19:29+00:00

Do you think competitive eaters barf up all the food later so they don't get fat?

Siukslinis_acc · 2022-07-20T16:45:17+00:00

Day 95 of music sharing. NIGHTWISH - Storytime

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T16:56:22+00:00

Let's see your thoughts on

"Fake it till you make it"

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T17:03:02+00:00

What is the next dragon you're meaning to slay ! A dragon being a major problem in your life.

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T17:34:38+00:00

Looking back, R&B is kind of a shit music genre with a lot of cringe music.

empresa_josefina · 2022-07-20T19:19:38+00:00

Q4W, how willing are you to have your sexual freedom restricted to “fix” the dating market?

If there was a button you could press that guaranteed all incels would find love in the next year, but in exchange you could not date anyone taller than 6ft, would you press the button? More generally at what height cutoff would you press the button?

I ask because discussion here tends to grind to a halt once a user says “well what’s your solution? Sexual slavery? You want to force women to date men they’re not attracted to?” I.e., curtailing freedoms. Well, what level of freedom are you comfortable giving up to have dating be better for society as a whole?

Edit: fixed the OP which had a glaring typo.

I knew the general answer would be “none” which is why dating market issues are not going to improve until there’s a market correction. Women will continue to chase high-quality guys, and those high-quality guys will use that bargaining power to juggle multiple options.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-07-20T19:56:57+00:00

There should be no reason for a woman to be extremely fat or actively trying to not lose weight unless theres a medical condition. The end.

Edit: not losing weight

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-07-20T20:09:28+00:00

So I realized yesterday at the gym I have a thing for white female singers that many would have had no idea they were white based on their vocals on their songs. Think Taylor Dane, Joss Stone, or Amy Winehouse for prime examples.

Past_Course_5130 · 2022-07-20T21:52:29+00:00

Q4All: Would you supports a system under which everyone adult is assigned a “divorce risk” score and people were only allowed to marry/date people with a similar score to minimize the risk of divorce?

IBreedSilkWorms · 2022-07-20T21:18:34+00:00

I just read a comment saying:

Every woman I know is with someone at the same level or “lower” than them in attractiveness.

Is this really a thing? Can you even compare men and womens attractivness like that? For instance, some beautiful woman might choose some ugly ogre. But she is short and chose him because that he is really big and tall.

ashpr0ulx · 2022-07-20T21:09:13+00:00

i just successfully fixed my own car, i feel fucking POWERFUL

even though it was a super easy fix 😂

meteorness123 · 2022-07-20T20:54:06+00:00

Any smart guys here who don't care about climbing the career ladder or making a lot of money ? If yes, why ? And how do you deal with the lack of social prestige and also how women perceive you ?

decoy88 · 2022-07-20T10:37:50+00:00

What women fear when they meet socially uncalibrated men…

Fucking hell

IME, single, above average looking women get at least 5 of these guys per year.

RegTextoffender · 2022-07-20T13:57:39+00:00

Month 6 of my wife going full sex sub.

Went for a walk in a public park after dark told her to strip (she was only allowed a dress and shoes) walked around the park nude, ran into no one, and had sex on the grass.

Shame its not purge week, it would be fun to post proof being how many think I'm LARPing.

Been a wild ride though. Probably taking her to a sex club on Saturday if it works out timing.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-07-20T14:46:47+00:00

Q4men would you rather your wife just straight up leave you (like your father did) or stay with you for the sake of the kids till they leave for college?

Severe-Pirate · 2022-07-20T18:01:46+00:00

https://twitter.com/chrissyforeverr/status/1549085610127802368?s=21&t=8ZuZWFFmXFFKWlXNvPhQgg

It’s funny how women who think like this believe they can just flip the switch and start acting different if they ever inevitably do get married.

scwizard · 2022-07-20T12:28:07+00:00

Do college girls even date guys and have boyfriends anymore or they just hook up?

Why would you date guys when you're pretty sure men hate your sex? Hooking up with someone who probably hates you and doesn't see you as fully human is one thing, but dating them or being in a relationship with them would be pretty weird.

On top of this your college is probably 70% girls 30% guys which also makes dating really challenging.

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