As a man, I've always felt ashamed to even experience, let alone show, any attraction to women. Society instills into men the idea that their sexuality is inherently objectifying, degrading, and disgusting, so that any man who expresses or even experiences male sexuality is a disgusting pig. I'm not talking about crude, crass "locker room talk"- even something that I personally think is sweet/wholesome, such as thinking a girl is cute and wanting to take her on a date, is touted by women as a disgusting form of objectification.

As a result, over the years I've developed a deep sense of shame about being a man, and especially about being a man who's attracted to women. Due to this shame, I have never in my whole life expressed any attraction to a woman or made any comment on a woman's appearance (either compliment or insult). If a discussion ever comes to dating I simply shut my mouth and wait for the topic to change. I even refrain from expressing my desire for going on a date or finding a girlfriend eventually, since an immediate wave of self-disgust ran over me.

All this is something experienced not only by me but by a significant fraction, if not majority, of young men growing up under the modern cultural zeitgeist. A very illustrative statistic is that 45% of men 18-25 have never approached a woman. It's also in stark contrast to the experiences of young women and middle-aged/old men, who seem to have no qualms expressing (or even flaunting, in the case of women) their sexuality.

So my question to the women here is first, are you aware that most young men feel this way, and that the stereotype of young men crassly expressing their sexuality is completely inaccurate? If you are aware of this, do you think this is a good thing? (E.g. is it acceptable collateral for a reduction in objectification of women? Is it only fair that men now have to go through what women went through two centuries ago?)