Daily Community Chat Megathread

VastlyVainVanity · 2023-07-01T01:09:35+00:00

Man, if there is one thing that annoys me in modern feminism is how hard it tries to make every bad thing that happens to men and women be related to The Patriarchy ™ .

Like this shit on an AskReddit thread about what gives men the ick. A guy says "women who denigrate men for having feelings" and somehow the person makes it about women upholding patriarchal values.

No, it's just that some women are shitty people and have a negative reaction when they see a man being emotional. Not everything has to be about people being socially conditioned by The Patriarchy ™ to be bad, some people just suck.

Same thing with women being heavily favored in family courts. Or women getting more lenient sentences when compared to men. It can never, ever, be related to progressive values being more commonplace in the west. No, sir, it always has to circle back to The Patriarchy ™.

When you only have a hammer as a tool, everything looks like a nail.

That's all. Sorry for the rant. But I hate that.

5PointTakedown · 2023-07-01T01:07:18+00:00

Here it is

The fit check

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The question is simple: theoretically if I wasn’t autistic do I look okay enough to pull at a bar or club?

potoricco · 2023-07-01T00:56:51+00:00

Sorry if this is insensitive but I will never be able to comprehend having step siblings, step parents, babymamas or a blended family. Not that there’s necessarily anything wrong with it but like, I can just not comprehend what it would be like to have that. Like if my parents found new partners would they be parental figures or more like friends? I have so many questions about such families

Even as a kid i remember my friend telling me her dad had 2 families and that she had step siblings and I was just shocked

Willow-girl · 2023-07-01T00:44:30+00:00

Well, someone (not me) bid up to $31 on the crippled calf in the Rogers auction. He actually sold for a couple bucks more than his healthy herdmate! I think that says something positive (albeit not very smart) about human nature, don't you?

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-07-01T00:22:27+00:00

My partner surprised me with some treats from Target. So excited!

A new record, a new puzzle, pudding! And some other goodies for my period.

Sex is cool and all but a partner who looks out for your needs is top-notch.

Peacesquad · 2023-07-01T00:01:44+00:00

A good girl is just a bad girl that hasn’t been caught yet 🤭🤫💅🏾

potoricco · 2023-06-30T23:59:15+00:00

In 2019-20 my dad was staunchly anti trump Like I vividly remember him shit talking trump every time he would see him on tv. He wasn’t even a fan of Biden he just absolutely detested trump that much lmao

Now he says if he had the choice between trump and Biden again he would vote trump. It’s crazy how much people can change in just a few years

**This is not political endorsement, im not promoting either just providing an example

mummydontknow · 2023-06-30T23:13:19+00:00

CMV Exclusively having same sex friends is a non-issue if you believe men and women are equal.

Because for you to "miss out" on something it means that it is different than what you have. But if men and women were equal then in theory, it shouldn't make a difference whether you have 50 same-sex friends or mixed-sex friends.

The other side is accepting that men and women bring different things to the table, and have significant differences.

yvaN_ehT_nioJ · 2023-06-30T23:03:47+00:00

Can we get some Fs in the chat for RIF

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-06-30T22:30:10+00:00

Fattie women cockblock at clubs and bars because they can't get decent men to hit on them. They are ruining it for everyone, including themselves, by choosing to be fat. If they just did the simple thing to not be fat, they would get hit on not just by decent men but also by high quality men and they would enjoy themselves.

Everybody benefits. Fattie women get to eat up (hehe) the newfound male validation and attention and they get to have healthier bodies. Men would benefit from being able to interact with a pretty, not-fat woman. Non-fat women would benefit from not having to babysit their fattie friends who don't have any men interested in them. The venue and men benefit from having more room (and more women) in the venue. Every fattie women takes up the space of at least 2 or more pretty thin women. Fattie women are space inefficient.

I hope fattie women help themselves and benefit everyone around them by just not being fat. Not being fat is community service and beneficial for society as a woman. Fattie women please help yourself and do your part. People only want the best for fattie women and society when they are fat shaming.

VastlyVainVanity · 2023-06-30T22:29:44+00:00

I was just now in a café and next to my table there was a girl and a boy who seemed to be around 18 y/o. They seemed to be on their first date.

The girl was very cute, in good shape, well dressed, feminine, yada yada. Overall very attractive.

The guy was a bit chubby, not really that well dressed, beard not groomed very well.

But still, the guy was apparently a very decent conversationalist. The girl appeared to be having fun talking to him and seemed interest in him.

Why am I saying this? I dunno, I guess it was just one of those instances in reality that inc3ls refuse to accept that happen daily: an average man being able to attract an above average woman by simply being polite and knowing how to have good conversations.

The only inc3ls that have a decent argument as to why they suck at dating are the ones who are legitimately ugly. But average men, yeah, I don't think it's that hard tbh.

jobbo321 · 2023-06-30T22:28:13+00:00

Why is it that when people talk about the dire situation of Japanese men's dating lifes, people always try to blame the work culture or the economy?

The brutal work culture has been the exact same for hundreds, if not thousands of years. It's not a recent thing.

As for economics, there is a strong inverse correlation between birth rate and a country's wealth. The highest birth rates are in some of the poorest countries.

ThrowAwayHuman122333 · 2023-06-30T22:08:45+00:00

Communication is key, ladies and gentlemen. Always remember to word everything you say to someone in a way that makes it impossible for them to misinterpret it. This is your responsibility. Otherwise, the other person might misinterpret it, not ask for clarification, make assumptions, and then you have your obligatory falling out where one person must relent being stubbornly assured that they aren't at fault.

Thus sayeth the Lord.

13choppedup2chopped · 2023-06-30T21:52:34+00:00

Why does this place exist? Why does the debate exist? And why isn’t the baseline hypothesis that people are living their preferred lives, all the way down to the complaints they make? Incels complain on the internet because they like it. Women worried about incels enjoy worrying about incels and telling the internet about it. Men strategizing about red pill tactics like discussing redpill tactics. Women who complain about the lack of marriageable men just like complaining about men and marriage. And every who is single to married, likes that state more than the alternatives.

I mean get I why it’s fun to kill time on here, but for the people who see themselves as arguing in good faith and earnestly, I’m talking to you.

Slipthe · 2023-06-30T21:39:53+00:00

I wish it wasn't physically so hard to talk about your emotions.

Every time I want to, I get that lump in my throat where I can't even get a word out.

meteorness123 · 2023-06-30T21:24:41+00:00

CMV : A 25 year old woman will always prefer a 30 old over a 40 year old even if the latter makes more money, is more good-looking, etc. Age over looks.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-06-30T21:22:16+00:00

I can't believe I am joining my daughter in taking her mom out for her birthday rather than going to the PRIDE festival in Seoul today. 🤦🏽‍♂️

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T21:14:55+00:00

Here's one thing I'm wondering: Why am I doing any of this?

I don't actually care at all what I look like. I only care that I can date/flirt with women, beyond that I do no care.

But if the problem with me being unable to do that has literally nothing to do with my appearance. Why am I putting all this effort into my appearance?

I feel like I have to put effort into something, I can't put effort into being less autistic obviously, so I'm kind of at a loss.

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T21:13:23+00:00

Tomorrow I get my beard trimmed and my hair cut.

karspearhollow · 2023-06-30T20:57:18+00:00

Q4W: Can anyone explain to me what "women being therapists for men" and "women doing all the emotional heavy lifting" actually mean? Can you give some examples of what this looks like in daily life?

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T20:55:00+00:00

"Men are hypergamous too"

In what ?

We've no desire being with a woman who's taller,older,makes more money,more smarter

"Hypergamous in looks"

Ahh no, because a 4/5 can be considered fuckable by a lot of men, we don't only pursue the best-looking women 9s or 8s

If men did that then half of the female gender would not reproduce, but we know over 70% of women have reproduced including average/below average women

So again what are men hypergamous in ?

chilikettlechips · 2023-06-30T20:39:17+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/14mzvhc/i_interviewed_a_bunch_of_incels_as_part_of_a_film/

a very brave so brave woman on twox interviews incels for her documentary. Read her comments and descriptions, very objective. No doubt she'll get lots awards. yeah they were all ugly and unkept and unattractive but for some reason thought only attraction matters and if only they were confident then they wouldn't have any issues. Wow why don't men just listen to her? She's solved all dating issues. Ewww so scary, the incels were leaving her literally shaking so scary ewwww. Also whoops didn't interview any femcels lmao.

VampireChaser · 2023-06-30T19:53:18+00:00

Women are not more empathetic than men, they don't understand men's issues.

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-06-30T19:36:00+00:00

Women: Male attention and validation means nothing to us!

Also women: Wears "shirts" that are just glorified bras to clubs, bars and parties with many drunk and horny men.

WhiskeyOnASunday93 · 2023-06-30T19:29:43+00:00

What’s the deal with bromoeroticism? Homoerotic jokes among bros.

Working on a construction site and half the day is spent cracking jokes about each other’s cocks.

Closet homosexual urges is the easy explanation and probably true for many. I think there’s more to it than that. Like homosexuality is the ultimate taboo in masculine sort of backwards thinking spaces (construction, sports, frats)

So I think being able to joke about that taboo is a sign of friendship. Same reason banter works among friends. Saying mean things that would be fighting words to a stranger but it emphasizes the bro bond among guys you like.

aitathrowaway1972 · 2023-06-30T19:21:01+00:00

I support Trans women participating in women's sports because it's hilarious. Seeing hulking dudes destroying people half their size in sports will never not be funny as the farce it is

Royal-Tip4585 · 2023-06-30T19:13:20+00:00

90% of these issues I’ve been seeing on here can be solved via 1 simple method.

Dudes in the west. Stop giving so much attention to women. Stop caring what they say.

I visit the gulf and east Africa time to time. Do you know what convos aren’t happening? Men responding to the stuff women are saying. They talk as much stuff as they do in the west. But men don’t respond.

Why? It’s literally called “little girl” talk.

It’s ignored. Like almost always by the men.

Like your younger sister when she talks shit. Do you respond ? Or do you just smile and are amused?

Just stop responding dudes.

They can’t even grab the good cereal off the top shelf. Don’t let the small people make you mad.

They’re angry because they’ve never could see anything at a concert and barely ride most roller coasters.

Leave them be bros. They have enough to deal with. Like their arch Nemesis the curb.

Mental-Remote4510 · 2023-06-30T18:56:58+00:00

Everybody wanna be a victim

ThisBoringLife · 2023-06-30T18:51:29+00:00

Random comment:

Beast and the Harlot is a good song.

MysterySolverDog · 2023-06-30T18:49:28+00:00

Been reading a lot of comments from some women here regarding single men. From how often the obesity/zero social skills/horrible personality charges are levelled at men, it seems clear that they believe that if you're a man who can't get a date, it's because there's something seriously off about you. Not just a little difference. Men here will be able to verify that this isn't true, that you can get continually rejected just for being a cut below average or having one issue that wouldn't be a dealbreaker in a woman looking to date but stops a man outright.

But this has interesting implications for conversations here. If guys here are being pictured as having the looks, personality, and social skills of a bridge troll, even if it isn't true, that kind of stops any insightful comments from being made. If all commentary on dating issues are being read as "bridge trolls can't get a date please give gf" then it seems some strawmanning is taking place.

If the situation itself and the way the situation is being interpreted here are so different, it feels like any conversation is pretty doomed to be utterly useless before it even begins. Thoughts?

Maffioze · 2023-06-30T18:45:03+00:00

What songs do you listen to while you're feeling yourself?

I will start:

https://youtu.be/q2zL_qjNW0U

Fearless_Method_1682 · 2023-06-30T18:31:12+00:00

What's the deal with skinny guy/fat girl couples?

potoricco · 2023-06-30T18:30:18+00:00

My great grandmother is still alive and relatively young only like 80, which DONT GET ME WRONG, is amazing, but also kind of sad because it reminds me of how early women used to get married in those days

All 3 of my grandmothers were married and beginning to have children YOUNGER than me :(

My dads mother is only 15 years older than him

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T18:28:04+00:00

"Common Misconceptions of hypergamy"

That every women can pull it off or has the capacity to

If your some fat chick, your odds of being hypergamous are really low

But if your a hot chick then your odds are better

aitathrowaway1972 · 2023-06-30T18:24:04+00:00

I love seeing leftists throw tantrums over not being able to uphold racist policies and forcing other people to pay for their poor choices. Warms my heart!

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T18:17:54+00:00

"As the best strategy to achieve success in dating is to approach it as one big joke"

I would say the best strategy is sacrifice

What are you willing to sacrifice in getting your success

Many men sacrifice their time/attention

Others their money

Others their social skills

AspiringMogger · 2023-06-30T18:15:14+00:00

The most freeing feeling as a man is realising how binary attraction is for women. Especially young women. When I realised there was nothing I could do to “win a woman over”, my dating life improved tenfold.

When you as a man realise what it feels like to have a woman truly value you and love you, it will be impossible to see shit-tests the same way imo. The thing about the college jock is they had those good experiences young so they knew what it was like from an early age.

Fearless_Method_1682 · 2023-06-30T18:14:59+00:00

men don't want male birth control pills because there might be side effects

This is what women actually believe.

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-06-30T18:10:20+00:00

I don't think I've ever looked at someone with "burning desire".

Feels like a romance novel description of lust.

saraimarsena · 2023-06-30T18:09:13+00:00

how do i change my flair back to what it was 👀💀

aitathrowaway1972 · 2023-06-30T18:05:52+00:00

Reminder to feminists that you're not entitled to be saved from harassment

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T18:01:31+00:00

I need to get laid maaaaaaan

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T18:01:23+00:00

What did I miss? Part 2

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T17:42:08+00:00

Pregnant man emoji

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T17:41:59+00:00

Women I’m an ally. I’m your friend!🦤🫃🏾🧌🦾🙈🙉🐒💩

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-06-30T17:41:44+00:00

Lol at the people who actually thought they would get their student loans paid off by Biden.

It was never going to pass. Biden knew it and was just getting your hopes up for political points.

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T17:30:29+00:00

Tip of advice for the single men here

A good relationship is one that is effortless

What l mean is:

When she has true burning desire to please you and get on your program, many of you will refer to the girl as the ride or die type

When she has burning desire for you, there's literally no point or purpose in you having this conversations of boundaries or what you expect of her in the relationship, because she'll naturally/automatically want to do things that will keep you happy

Listen l can't cook but a good meal makes me happy, my girlfriend willingly just wants to cook for me in order to keep me happy since: l've been the best guy who's lived up to her expectations and standards unlike her exes, which is why she's never bothered doing things to keep them happy and always ended up in breakups

So l wouldn't recommend ever pursuing a relationship if she doesn't have that desire for you, best to stay single and getting laid than entering such relationships in my opinion

Because you'll get so many guys who complain "oh but she's wearing that and l don't like it or she's posting herself on Instagram and makes me uncomfortable" well duh because she has no desire getting on your program naturally, your not the best guy to make wanna give up this things to make you happy

SlothMonster9 · 2023-06-30T07:47:17+00:00

I still don't understand how a high n-count person specifically wanting a virgin or a low n-count isn't hypocritical. It's not merely a preference. You are actively creating the problem you are complaining about. It's like littering in nice places and then complaining there are no more nice clean places.

"Well, it's the same as a short woman wanting a tall man". No, it's not. Unless the man somehow gets shorter after their hookup.

WilliamWyattD · 2023-06-30T05:31:05+00:00

Why is it that any argument or observation about male sexlessness or relationship exclusion, no matter how nuanced or non-prescriptive, gets translated by the female brain into: "You want to force women to have sex with unattractive men."

This is not helpful.

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-06-30T02:54:28+00:00

Men: I want a non-whore for a wife

Whores: You're insecure and probably gay

purplish_possum · 2023-06-30T05:50:45+00:00

Some of the older children are coming up for the weekend and bringing an unspecified number of grandchildren with them. Our little two bedroom house is going to be overrun.

ThrowAwayHuman122333 · 2023-06-30T02:19:48+00:00

Update to my advice request from two days ago: Everything exploded beautifully. I found out from the girl's older sister whom I've also known for a long time that their family has never really liked me that much and yet never communicated anything about it to me. They were being fake nice to me for years.

Needless to say, nothing of value was lost.

Guilty-Instruction60 · 2023-06-30T17:17:18+00:00

To all those men who posts about what should or shouldn’t be, woe is me. Anytime you feel like posting, this is how everyone feels.

https://youtu.be/PLxhrlomYj8

Fearless_Method_1682 · 2023-06-30T17:16:13+00:00

Women expect men to sympathise with every neurotic concern they can come up with, up to and including manspreading.

But have you ever seen what happens when you ask them to sympathise with men having zero reproductive rights?

relish5k · 2023-06-30T03:28:49+00:00

Unfuckable hate nerds do you feel seen and heard?

Mostly a good article. The “wah women can have sex whenever they want” point continues to land of def ears for me. Women have different libidos and sexual objectives than man so that the author sees that as an objective rather than subjective advantage is dumb. But otherwise good points all around - men have it tough and could use support rather than derision. But the vitriol only makes things worse for them in the long run (and probably the short run too)

Mental-Remote4510 · 2023-06-30T03:32:00+00:00

Dudes who pay for any form of sexual services are weak and need to get some self respect. Whether it’s a prostitute, OF, or a strip club. It’s all ridiculous.

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-06-30T04:30:22+00:00

when women say 'dad bod' they mean lumberjack build

when men say 'milf bod' they mean ben shapiro's sister

Willow-girl · 2023-06-30T12:34:33+00:00

OMG, there are so many cute goats for sale at the Rogers auction today! I'm looking at the online sales listing ... there is a black baby billy goat who only has a 25-cent bid, poor thing.

Please stop me from doing something stupid!!

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-06-30T15:21:06+00:00

America continues to be a trash country. 🗑

Not getting sex will be the least of young men's problems.

Gird your loins.

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-06-30T02:03:44+00:00

First!

🍒

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-06-30T05:27:42+00:00

There's some silly irony in responding to comments about how men don't want "lecherous women" immediately after being dicked down by my partner.

Them: "No man wants a lecherous whore." "Your life is gonna be miserable. You lose."

Me: fucked then tucked into our beautiful bed that he bought us.

Stay cool, fellas! 😎

hopeidontforget2021 · 2023-06-30T08:56:01+00:00

What the fuck are you supposed to do when a girl grinds on you at a bar (dancing to music)? It's too loud to talk unless I literally shove my mouth in their ears, how am I supposed to move an interaction like this forward?

houstongradengineer · 2023-06-30T11:48:03+00:00

"People are selfish, they want what they can have while not caring about the welfare of others."

Like OK, but if you're on a debate sub, admit the logic of it. At least say the words "I know my casual sex is dangerous or harmful, but I want it anyway until the harm comes to me specifically. I know that my cheating and fickle ways will not make me a good partner, but I want a good partner for my main anyway." At least say the truth so that more experienced posters have a chance to take your words seriously. At least say the truth so that the next generation doesn't look at this sub and become bitter or delusional AF.

dyngladfel · 2023-06-30T12:35:05+00:00

One of the things I really enjoy about this sub is it does make me smug dating tall men as a short woman. I had no idea people were so mad at this until I went on reddit.

To be clear, I don't exclusively do so, and I don't have a minimum height requirement. They just gravitate to me.

Anti_Thing · 2023-06-30T02:08:21+00:00

Last night I agreed to meet a woman on July 8th, though she said she might be busy that day with friends so she'll ask them & then text met to let me know if we need to reschedule. I told her that I'll try to call her again before that time, & she agreed that that sounds good. Neither of us gave a particular timeline for when I should hear back from her; she still hasn't texted. Should I ask her if she's talked to her friends or if she's still good for the 8th or just wait things out?

chilikettlechips · 2023-06-30T02:26:53+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/14m7amu/my_32m_girlfriend_29f_slashed_my_confidence/

Daily dose of alpha widow beta bux from the normie subs.

Excellent_Badger123 · 2023-06-30T02:33:10+00:00

How long till you’re not so sore after a workout? I’m starting from zero (haven’t done gym in years) so I’m guessing it takes a while to get there.

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T14:16:38+00:00

I like my Honda Civic like I like my women •Reliable •Quiet •Low Maintenance

VTHokie2020 · 2023-06-30T14:26:49+00:00

The reason why I bring up the education thing is because I constantly see the point that "women have beat men in education!"

Really? Because from my perspective women need all the help they can get. They need their own job fairs, their own scholarships, their own Women in Engineering/Finance/Computing/Business/etc. groups on campus.

When I hear that women fare better in education than men, it has to be a distorted average.

I mean, we live in with an education gap for women but a wage gap for men?

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-06-30T14:38:37+00:00

I always wondered how many teachers would quit if we adopted a year round school model instead of the taking the whole summer off one we have in place. They would still get the holidays off, like for example if 4th of July fell on Tuesday there would be no school but you would have to be back at work the next day.

Now most of them are frankly not talented enough to get a better job or career so they would be stuck but it is interesting to think about.

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T15:05:46+00:00

I’m tired of this misandry! I’ve had enough of this. It’s time we men form MAMMA: Men Against Modern Misandry Activate

Maffioze · 2023-06-30T15:28:59+00:00

I honestly ignore most posts here these days. It's usually two sides completely unable to see the flaws in their own reasoning and then just refusing to acknowledge that both sides have some truth to them. And yes it's not always perfectly in the middle but often it is.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-06-30T15:53:46+00:00

RIP RIF

chilikettlechips · 2023-06-30T16:50:28+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/14n30c2/why_do_i_keep_getting_fuckzoned/

top comment, "be friends first before sex"

and just below this daily today

https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14mna1y/daily_community_chat_megathread/jq41bsm/

women mad a guy doesn't wanna be friends after rejection

or here

https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14mna1y/daily_community_chat_megathread/jq5aw4a/

why do guy friends hit on me???

tldr: ignore women, don't listen to them. Do what you gotta do to get dates and remember awalt and nawalt. Know that you're never gonna do stuff that all women like, and it doesn't matter because you only need one. Also just be Chad and brush your teeth.

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TooHornyToFap · 2023-06-30T02:24:58+00:00

Hating women was much more fun before incels became a thing :(

aslfingerspell · 2023-06-30T02:56:29+00:00

I've been making my way through One Piece (an infamously long anime at 1,000+ episodes and counting) and I'm already at episode 11.

One episode a day goes by fast.

threeman_2 · 2023-06-30T08:04:19+00:00

A woman (26) told me today that she misses being single. She’s very attractive and works a low wage job. She wants to go back to college. She also already has child but judging from the age (13) at which she became pregnant it may not have been consensual. I didn’t inquire further so I don’t know.

Her bf (36) is lawyer with multiple businesses. Apparently he’s also tall and very well blessed.

She said that he spent 6 months chasing her and she eventually gave in. She says she’s now in love wants to spend the rest of her life with him but sometimes misses the freedom of being single and going out on dinner and lunch dates with guys just to eat and waste their money.

She says if a woman really likes you she’ll even accept an ice cream date and Uber herself to your doorstep. She also said that her bf was initially suspicious of her and would show up at her place unannounced and even track her whereabouts. Apparently this was because he had to make sure that she’s not a hoe. He now says he’s lucky to have her and can’t believe how good he’s got it. She doesn’t blame him because where we’re from people are cheating and playing a lot of games.

Make of that what you will.

happy_discus · 2023-06-30T10:21:23+00:00

Why do women act like I owe them friendship after they rejected me?

It's always the same. You are such a great guy, you always have these great ideas for activities and I would love to keep doing these things with you.

If you only want to be friends from the get go just tell me I am fine with it. But don't lead me on.

nooneimportantinde · 2023-06-30T10:47:28+00:00

When you treat them as shit they follow? But why?

Why when we misstreat and missbehave women, then they chase and want us? What's the reasons behind? Anyone knows?

Most guys aren't used to it, how to learn this toxic game?, it seems to always work, like they are seeking for validation from us?

This tactic used my father to get all from family, but as everything he didn't teach me it.

Devourer_of_felines · 2023-06-30T11:37:25+00:00

First time in years a fresh and fit podcast popped up on my YouTube feed

And apparently they’ve gone full vatnik hosting the likes of Scot Ritter? Not a good look

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T12:37:34+00:00

Where should I touch grass tonight.

I'm thinking of just doing the bar like I usually do. Watch normal non autistic people have normal non autistic interactions and then go "Damn I wish that was me"

I actually think I go specifically for that honestly, sometimes I'll see 2 people who are friends looking at each other and I'll be like "Wow that seems nice". Or some guy will make a woman laugh or something like that.

But maybe there's a better place for me to touch grass tonight

yvaN_ehT_nioJ · 2023-06-30T13:00:56+00:00

Saw Kevin Samuels' youtube channel had a premier last night.

For anyone who doesn't know, the man died 2 years ago. Pretty scummy on the part of whoever has control of the account imho

VTHokie2020 · 2023-06-30T14:04:32+00:00

When people say women are winning the education race, they just mean more women go to college right?

Because all the useless majors I see are full of women, and the useful majors are full of men.

Law school might be an exception. But that one deliberately requires making a poor financial decision.

potoricco · 2023-06-30T14:27:37+00:00

Thank you for removing affirmative action 🙏

Now get rid of legacy admissions 🤬

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-06-30T14:33:28+00:00

My older sister said with every guy she’s every seriously dated from high school to the present at least one of his male friends or family members either during the relationship or right after the break up would try to holla at her lol. One time a boyfriends father who was married asked her to hang out a week after she broke up with his son. These guys had no idea too

Ohmaygahh · 2023-06-30T14:50:20+00:00

One of today's top posts made me think about a few things.

I think most men, even the majority on PPD, don't truly "get" how dire the dating situation is. It's not just a little off, it is orders of magnitudes off.

I noticed in my own life, one tiny aspect has changed my dating life completely. Having attained a 7 digit net worth in older age has changed the game radically for me. And while I sometimes bask that I made my goal, at an older age, I feel saddened, the outlook bleak when I think of the young bucks who achieved MEGA wealth in their 20s....

Like, man. I really missed out. If I had that wealth in my 20s, 30s... fuck I would be SO far ahead today. I'm the "poorest" affluent person in my group, and it really shows. It's an awkward spot to be in.

The great majority of guys will never experience how having a million+ changes the dating game. It morphs into this weird, comical, alternate reality where shit isn't "real" anymore. It's really disassociating.

All you blue pill and PPD guys are just so hopelessly out of touch, you may as well be aliens. Or better put, ants.

Ohmaygahh · 2023-06-30T15:10:19+00:00

Today's thoughts base on the great post today:

If you're some regular guy looking to get with some relatively attractive member of the opposite sex, you are in direct competition with

35 year old tech millionaires on steroids and unlimited willpower to make up for lost time

6'5" 4th generation football quarterback genetic lottery legacies

Instagram model fitness influencers in town for the month with 8 Tinder boosts on standby

It's much worse than that...

Recently my long time FwB opened up to me during pillow talk about the men she was entertaining/involved with around the time that she met me. Since she opened up a bit, I asked her to expand a little bit, and she openly told me:

There were 2 men right before me. A single father who lived 2 hours away. It was inconvenient but he was able to scratch her itch occasionally... until he started to not listen to her. As she puts it, she made it clear that she wasn't interested in being "serious" with him, but they had been casually fucking for so long that he felt compelled to behave "boyfriendy" which she didn't ask for, nor desired. She explicitly told him not to start treating her as if she were her boyfriend. He felt bewildered and rejected because they had been having the sexual arrangement for many years and he felt it was the natural "progression". She cut it off when she matched with someone on Hinge ...

Who was a 30 something, multimillionaire. He had sold his startup with a partner at 27,living in Los Angeles, and was just cruising through life! He was hitting up women, always on "travel mode", hitting up cities when he had multiple lined up. NYC, CHI, MIA, London, Paris, Istanbul, Tokyo... he would have at least 10 women "primed" before arriving to make the trip worth it to him.

She admitted she found him "interesting" until they met. He was plain spoken about his desires and what he wanted, and she was willing to go along until he divulged too much about how he was leading his sexual life. That gave her a lot of pause, and ultimately she rejected having a sexual relationship with him.

After him was a former underwear model, but he was stupid, poor, and too keen to smash. She rejected him because he was too into her.

Then I came into the picture... I wish I can tell you I'm a real giga Chad. Or that I'm super wealthy. Or that I'm at least really tall. I am neither of the above.

Somehow, someway, she felt something for me. All I did was try to listen to her the best I could, almost in a cold, distant sort of way while at the same time pushing to have sex with her. For some reason, she accepted me as a lover, then after many years, it's become something more.

I apologize if this is too lengthy, but I felt I need to add some context so that I can say this:

A regular man's competition is WAY worse than the: 35 year old tech millionaires on steroids and unlimited willpower to make up for lost time 6'5" 4th generation football quarterback genetic lottery legacies Instagram model fitness influencers in town for the month with 8 Tinder boosts on standby

It's:

The former model who kept himself in shape.

The mid 30s entrepreneur with life altering generational wealth who is on the prowl, worldwide, and efficient at it.

The numerous guys any single gal is currently fucking and entertaining in her life when you first meet her.

The hordes of matches on her Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, Insta DMs, Snap.... an endless amount of men interested in her.

Not to mention the barista who winks at her in the morning, the guys who compliment her at the gym, the guys at her school sneaking peeks, on the train, bus, bar, beach, smiling at her on the rooftop cocktail lounge, the common man is battling with seducers, cheaters, other men that have made it their life's mission to become as attractive as fucking possible, to appeal to the broadest amount of women on earth ...

Remember when Emma Watson came into her own as a woman, who was her first boyfriend/lover? It was this guy. Emma, who lets be honest, has a man's face and preteen boys body. Only because her wealth and fame can she land this GigaChad, and this is exactly what she went for.

In short, a regular man is competing with the rest of the world. And the regular man is so utterly unaware and underprepared. Like a lamb to the slaughter.

Dating is not just tough. It is ever increasing impossible task.

I wish I could say this was all hyperbole. As an almost 49 year old man, I can assure you it's not.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-06-30T15:36:19+00:00

I skipped leg day today and at 2 Krispy Kreme doughnuts. Fuck my life now.

lolmastr13 · 2023-06-30T16:15:07+00:00

“My guy friends keep hitting on me” These stories are really interesting cause it shows how a lot of men and women’s best interests don’t align.

For a substantial portion of men, sex/romance/physical intimacy are rare or hard to get so any is worth losing a friend for. While for women that’s less the case, since they find socializing more rewarding and have less difficulties getting sex/romance/physical intimacy.

And the cultures of virgin and slut shaming make it worse.

night-time_coffee · 2023-06-30T16:15:14+00:00

A heterosexual man cannot be a misogynistic , he is sexually attracted to women’s bodies thus he cannot hate them

Only gays and hetero women can be misogynistic

Main-Leek7908 · 2023-06-30T16:16:24+00:00

Daily reminder that n count doesn’t matter

meteorness123 · 2023-06-30T16:20:28+00:00

There is no bigger hindrance to a man's dating life than anxiety, emotional dysregulation depression and mental turmoil. These men are truly living on hardcore mode.

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T16:22:38+00:00

"Most dating advice directed at men is about being as generically attractive as possible. This has a lot to do with why many struggle"

The RP doesn't just say looks are the only thing in attracting women

Get the hell out of here with that Blackpill nonsense

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-06-30T16:41:07+00:00

My partner is taking the day off to do "husband duties."

He's running errands, cleaning our home, and grilling up tonight.

meteorness123 · 2023-06-30T16:57:27+00:00

Women who break off long term relationships with men for "better" men are doing it because they have unresolved emotional issues. It has very little to do with hypergamy

Fearless_Method_1682 · 2023-06-30T17:00:04+00:00

Is it true that American women get the ick if you have an android phone?

jobbo321 · 2023-06-30T17:13:14+00:00

I've come to realize that life "ends" around the age of 30. Every time I've been told a fun story that someone fondly remembers, they were younger than 30 during that story.

I guess that at around age 30 your core memories seem to have set. Or most people just don't do anything worth telling about after that age.

meteorness123 · 2023-06-30T17:00:48+00:00

Women absolutely positively react to confidence. If you sure of yourself, in mind and behavior, many women will give you a chance. It's an evolutionary thing. "He's so secure in himself so he must have a good nervous system/good genes".

In the same fashion, they will reject good-looking men if they fail to have these traits.

Not just women, people in general want to be near confident people.

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T02:09:35+00:00

Okay comment before I head out to touch grass at a dance class (I do not believe it will turn out well)

I find it funny that when I first started posting here the overwhelming things people told me was "Bro, just touch grass bro". And I would say "Don't think that'll work but I'll try it" and we'd get into an argument about how it will definitely work.

The people that made those arguments are real goddamn quiet now

I've even had one person who used to argue with me about touching grass tell me it's annoying when I touch grass because I come back here to complain so I should stop

lol

PBtoast707 · 2023-06-30T03:28:01+00:00

Did anyone else’s parents want them to continue living with them as an adult? My dad wanted me stay at home and not go out on my own. I think he was worried I wouldn’t be able to take care of myself. I also think he would miss me too much, even if I lived just a few minutes away. Maybe he just wants to keep an eye on me. Hopefully he doesn’t mind hearing my baby cry all night in just a few months.

Environmental_Day558 · 2023-06-30T03:36:02+00:00

Aight I need help. 2 year anniversary coming up in less than a week and she's getting me a gift but i didn't get anything yet cause I didn't think we were doing gifts so idk what to get. Ideas?

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-06-30T03:38:44+00:00

hi dora_bowl

ThrowAwayHuman122333 · 2023-06-30T05:20:58+00:00

Question for everyone: Is it entitled to want an "experienced" partner? It seems like in this context a lot of people treat dating as a sort of job market where they have a certain amount of experience and that experience automatically warrants a partner with a similar level of experience, so that they can just enjoy the relationship without having to work together to address the disparity.

If someone with a lot of relationship experience would not accept someone because they lacked experience but checked some important boxes (since life experience is gained outside of relationships), I'd say that's kind of entitled. If you can't be patient with people, you're lacking some character development.

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T06:00:51+00:00

wow, okay,

i would tell you about that 5 hour long conversation i had with that girl on second life, but i promise you literally 0 of you would believe anything about it

https://imgur.com/a/QArvZP8

she called me from in bed

she's asleep she said she didn't want to hang up, I just have it on mute and now she's snoring

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

The shit she told me about her life was the craziest shit I will ever hear in my life. I can't tell if I'm being played or not. I would 100% believe I'm being played if she wasn't literally on the phone with me sleeping right now. But she claimed to have bought a fucking million dollar house, I'm serious. (EDIT: She still claims she's poor though, she almost cried about not having savings? And I'm like "Yeah that was the down payment....that doesn't make you poor" and she was like inconsolable about how poor she was it was crazy) Says she does some sort of private equity stuff where she investigates businesses and she went the business school in the UK? I can't tell if that's true but she seems like insanely honest and kind of like I don't know desperate to talk to anyone who will talk to her, it's weird, it makes me believe her

She like actually cried on the phone a bit? Like for like 15 minutes? I don't want to talk about what but like ...hmmm...

But we're playing a broken game of telephone here because me saying "Oh yeah I met a millionare on SL" sounds unfathomably fucking absurd

meteorness123 · 2023-06-30T06:01:25+00:00

Money (more accurately money-making ability) creates genuine desire in women. Unless you're a dork.

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InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-06-30T07:40:40+00:00

Anyone else who likes (loves) Elliott Smith? I think he is a songwriting genius personally he was so talented. I can listen to the first few seconds of his songs and sing them perfectly. Like most of his discography I have memorized. So fun to sing along to even though his music is very heavy

ioniqc · 2023-06-30T09:04:20+00:00

debate sub yet no one asks the real questions

how much time do you spend masturbating per day?

throwawayVishot · 2023-06-30T10:23:30+00:00

Thought of the day. Why do teachers hit on dads? We already have kids. Are they hoping to become side chicks? Inquiring minds want to know.

RahLyt · 2023-06-30T11:25:12+00:00

Why do women here think not being attracted to a high N count women in the context of a relationship is a logical decision? All this post about how guys can justify this and that. It's not logical it can't be justified. You are attracted or you're not.

throwawayVishot · 2023-06-30T12:08:41+00:00

I approve of this trend. More Zoomer girls need to become bimboz. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mHmXEtEJgEU

Young ladies! Copy this woman. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gCeXqw2pMcs

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T13:04:52+00:00

Shoutout to my fellow women who are hormonal 🙏

This is awful 🙏 I'm glad I don't get periods at least 🙏 \

Don't do PEDs kids

At least I can deal with my hormones by going to the gym and lifting weights because it gets the aggression from the test out, women just gotta fucking sit there and stew I guess lmao

mummydontknow · 2023-06-30T13:05:39+00:00

Fuck money, get bitches

DoinIt989 · 2023-06-30T13:38:51+00:00

Q 4 Women - Do dating apps really let you see your "Likes" for free (as in people who already swiped right on you)? Even if they do, why would you decide to sort through all the "Likes" (many of which are garbage) instead of just swiping like God intended?

meteorness123 · 2023-06-30T13:54:13+00:00

Men are privileged in terms of hair color. Nobody gives a shit if men go grey. It can even make you look distinguished. Women with grey hair on the other hand isn't that accepted.

But then again, most men will lose their hair so everything I just said goes out of the window lmao.

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T14:16:08+00:00

What did I miss

SeveralSadEvenings · 2023-06-30T14:36:20+00:00

I'm kind of over the story if Dune, now I'm just here for the aesthetic and world building.

Peacesquad · 2023-06-30T15:10:28+00:00

I changed my mind. I’ll take whatever I can get. If you have a 200 notch count come on over!

PeacesquadDownBad

Preme2 · 2023-06-30T15:10:55+00:00

The Supreme Court must be ready for vacation. They’re going 3 for 3. LOL

Several_Pressure7765 · 2023-06-30T15:19:06+00:00

I've been invited to a cousin's wedding later this summer. Thing is, I don't even talk to him. I have not spoken to him once this whole year.... I feel like I should not be invited. If he only invited people who were regularly in his life, there might be a dozen people at the wedding.

I was also at a pre-wedding event for work, and the groom didn't have any friends from what I saw. The only people that he was close to was his sibling and cousin (?)

Willow-girl · 2023-06-30T15:27:20+00:00

This right here is fixinta kill me.

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T15:35:39+00:00

"Masculinity is not only in the domain of men"

Ok then what the hell is it

Because if it's not something uniquely linked to human males, then again what is it

Because if everyone can be naturally masculine, then why even bother calling it that to begin with

Why not call it virtuous "acts" aka providing,protecting,provision all those popular traits of it

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T15:47:13+00:00

Subtweet but it’s telling that the only people who scream about how much money matters and how much you gotta hustle culture

Are fucking poor people

The worst is that they come up with these hair brained idiotic hustle schemes to get rich, because that’s what matters, when the truth is that they weee never going to be rich, they missed true boat because they were too stupid to study in school and now they’re going to be working at Home Depot for the rest of their life while running from ‘hustle’ to ‘hustle’

5PointTakedown · 2023-06-30T15:59:25+00:00

Here’s a perfect example of my last comment

I’ve had probably 6 people I ‘knew’ (they made me tutor them and they prided they’d hang out if I did, we never hung out) who either dropped out completely or switched to an easy major message me randomly about coding and programming

That’s currently he hustle culture sc, somehow learning python without any of the requisite computer science will make you a millionaire

For some reason

It’s all just nonsense like this, and of course they all gave up after a month or two if they even got that far

DerayRevan · 2023-06-30T16:00:11+00:00

"My woman is my best friend"

Well we do get along well

But wouldn't necessarily label her my friend and surely not my best friend

She's my partner, because l still have many things l take only to my friends

Mental-Remote4510 · 2023-06-30T20:07:57+00:00

Wtf is up with what women wear at the gym. I could just wear my boxers in and it would be less reveling than half the woman at my gym. Don’t tell me it has anything to do with performance or being hot, half the guys I know life in t-shirt and sweatpants.

WhiskeyOnASunday93 · 2023-07-01T02:55:07+00:00

general bitterness is a major turn off i suspect many people here dont conceal it as well as they suspect when interacting with the opposite sex.

talkin about the women haters and man haters both

night-time_coffee · 2023-06-30T12:16:32+00:00

A sexless guy will make his situation worse by seeking empathy and complaining about his problems

For a lonely women it’s the opposite

BigVulvaEnergy · 2023-06-30T02:22:16+00:00

Comments about body counts are so steeped in insecurities.

It's wild. And then those insecurities create obstacles, and then grifters step in to "help," and then the cycle continues.

It's just a clusterfuck of insecurities.

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