Have you ever turned a woman down for her body count?

LotBuilder · 2022-10-19T23:48:37+00:00

Not specifically for body count but if they have had sex with a scumbag or two that I know about then I’m really turned off. I have rejected a few women in HS and College for that. If She was banging some guy I don’t respect them I just 🤮.

h1shman · 2022-10-19T21:24:46+00:00

For sex, no it’s not a big concern. For a LTR yes it’s pretty important, however I’ve never asked a woman what her body count was. The “bad”behaviors of a typical high N woman are what matter and they can be there at lower or higher N counts anyway. Most women can’t pretend for a long time or when they get a little alcohol in them so the whole aspect about her lying doesn’t play out either. Edit: Also it’s good to see what her friends are like. Birds flock to the same feather, or however that saying goes.

The exception is clueless men or men who don’t care. I’d say they make up the majority of men so I don’t think high N women really have an issue meeting quality men of their standards. Even the sorority girls who had trains run on them aren’t finding it difficult.

tonyghow · 2022-10-19T22:59:35+00:00

Yes. Indirectly.

I briefly dated a woman who used Tinder as a weekend hobby when she was single. She said she was always loyal within a relationship and she is very attractive so I didn't care about her body count.

What made me reconsider was when she said that she had had 5 abortions. And quickly added, "if you ever accidentally got me pregnant, I'd abort your baby so fast! lol" (The lol was actually out loud.)

So the combination of the thought of her getting dicked down every weekend as if getting a pedicure or a massage, plus the carelessness of not taking care of her body, made me exit stage left.

I simply told her we weren't compatible.

ViolentTakeByForce · 2022-10-20T00:06:36+00:00

Yes for LTR.

In the past it didn’t matter to me bc I am not a judgmental person and believed people can make mistakes and change. Unfortunately people have patterns and it’s more comfortable to repeat patterns than break them.

Asatmaya · 2022-10-19T21:23:50+00:00

It's less about the number than it is about the behavior; I have female friends with 4-digit n-counts, that I love dearly, but I would never date them because they don't take it seriously.

There's nothing wrong with it, it's just not what I am looking for.

anonymous-platypus1 · 2022-10-19T23:21:10+00:00

Yeah I was really into my friend’s best friend, but her body count was 60 at 18. I just couldn’t do it

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-10-19T22:10:25+00:00

I've turned 2 down for it.

One was a girl that was friends with a coworker of mine. She was very vocal about her n count (and proud of it?). She told me it was in the low 60s and she was 20 years old. She also told me she used to be really fat and lost a lot of weight and was enjoying her newfound male attention. I stopped seeing her after the 1st date and just told her "we're not compatible".

The 2nd was actually a gf who lied to me about her n and then confessed about 9 months in. I promptly broke up with her. This one really stung because I liked her a lot.

I don't have a definitive number that's too high. Every person is a case by case scenario, I weigh the total package before making a decision. If I had to place a number, I'd say anything over 15 is probably too high. For casual sex, I don't care about n. Only when committing.

darksoul1622 · 2022-10-19T21:45:17+00:00

I think I can speak for most guys when I say that the n count only matters if it

A. has effect on my social standing ( extremely promiscuous women ala pornstar and the likes )

B. Was collected not because of a desire for fun but compensate for lack of self esteem or if it is because of a mental illness.

In truth most reasonable guys care about how the woman treats him and her attitude toward LTR.

personally if she is none of the above and treats me right and is sexually compatible with me and is a loyal honorable and a good person then n count doesn't really matter to a reasonable degree ( for me personally no plus 80) but then again it is not a hard rule

Tldr; it depends really

themostgianthorse · 2022-10-19T21:34:37+00:00

Yes.

Occurrence 1: I was once dating this girl when I was 24-25. I was acquaintances with a few guys I knew she had slept with prior to. I went to a bar and sat down at at table which eventually consisted of all dudes she had fucked before (5 present that night I believe). I was grossed out with this in front me. I broke up with her the next day.

Occurrence 2: Was briefly hanging out with girl who was a friend of a friend. Went on a date and came back to my apartment. This was right when Facebook came out. We were in my room and she wanted to show me her Facebook account. One of the pictures was a group of guys and she tells me point blank “I’ve fucked this guy, this guy and this guy.” This turned me off. She got in my bed and I stayed on the computer. At one point she said “you can come over here and touch me you know.” I don’t remember what happened after that but I did not touch her and ended the night smoking weed with my roommate.

In hindsight, I should’ve just kept both of these as plates but I was naive then and did not know how brazen women could be and this really bummed me out at the time.

purplepillowed · 2022-10-19T22:18:19+00:00

I’ve never rejected anyone for a body count per se, but for slutty behavior.

A long time ago when I was single, I met a girl in a club. We were dancing, made out and exchanged numbers. She wanted to fuck that night… unprotected… I was grossed out and ghosted her.

I know it’s weird for rejecting someone because she wanted to have sex with me… but I couldn’t stop imagining how many others went in raw recently.

spinky_bum9451 · 2022-10-19T21:21:36+00:00

yes

ex from a religious community (different from mine) claimed she was a virgin, I respected that and we were just dating. Then I discovered she wasn't. Didn't listen to the excuses, dumped her shortly afterwards.

Steakman1 · 2022-10-20T00:12:58+00:00

You usually can tell by the way they carry themselves if they’re promiscuous or not. I’ve never needed to ask to know. Probably the most obvious sign is if they’re willing to hook up with you. As much as our egos would love to tell us we’re the only guy she’s ever been willing to hook up with, reality is that’s very likely not the case. And in case anyone sees this and jumps to conclusions, no I don’t decide to hook up with them anyways and then just never give them a relationship. I don’t hook up casually with women and never wanted to.

Also the people they surround themselves with are also an indicator.

DarthFarris · 2022-10-19T23:57:56+00:00

Not specifically, but women who've had a lot of sex usually tell me about it (usually when they're trying to have sex with me) and it's definitely killed my interest in them at times either for fear of STDs or because I was looking for something more serious/ exclusive and didn't want to compete with other men.

wtknight · 2022-10-20T00:32:26+00:00

No, but I've never dated a high N woman, either. I only seem to attract very low N women. Probably because I'm very low N, myself.

Hypothetically I wouldn't have dated a woman who I knew had a casual sex history. I don't really care about an actual N number but more about sexual behavior.

herefortheparty01 · 2022-10-20T10:28:27+00:00

Yes. More than a few times

DeJuanBallard · 2022-10-20T11:44:22+00:00

Yes , it was very difficult because I really, really liked her, probably the best decision I could've made tho. The aftermath of her relationships is always messy. It was a rejection not in the typical sense, I just pretend not to realize she is throwing signs at me until she eventually goes "I'm too pretty to have to "pursue" a dude like this ", and she stopped.

It's very sad , cause it was one of very few things that I didn't like, but being disciplined is paramount for men, the results of being careless are too much for me , so I'm always extremely careful.

NationalistGoy · 2022-10-20T12:51:38+00:00

Have you ever turned a woman down for her body count?

That's impossible to do because we don't know their body count. The right question would be "have you turned down promiscuous women?".

In my case I do have turned down women if I they display all signs of being promiscuous and consider them a risk not only to my health, but to my status.

Women known for being promiscuous lower the status of a man. That's why we may have sex with a promiscuous woman, but we don't want to be seen with her or associated with her. Much like a woman don't want to be associated with.

Supreme_Salt_Lord · 2022-10-20T13:07:40+00:00

Yes i have turned down a virgin. I wasnt looking for long term relationship and i wanted good sex. Honestly the sluttier the better. Anyone who is purposefully trying to have casual sex with a woman who has no or little partners and not take seriously is a weirdo to me.

If the goal is busting nuts i want the BEST nut buster i can find. Gimme that gawk, that wap, all the past experience to make nights i will never forget.

Im a degen who fucks with OF girls so, maybe my opinion is invalid.

Edit: I will take anyone woman seriously who matches with me on the important levels. Regardless of body count. Sex is like #6 on my top10 of what makes a good partner for me. I dont want encourage “no wife a hoe” energy. 🙄🙄🙄

ConvolutedMaze · 2022-10-20T17:33:07+00:00

If you aren't prioritizing a husband that shows in your body count. I think any woman under 30 who has more than 10 past partners is a red flag. That being said no I haven't turned anyone down for their body count.

filthyburrows · 2022-10-19T23:41:16+00:00

I don't mind how many partners you've had, I care about the frequency and variance.

It doesn't bother me if a 26 year old woman has slept with 20 - 30 guys over the course of 10 years. That would be 3 guys a year, that's not so bad. Assuming she lost her virginity at 16.

But I met a girl once when she was 20 and she had lost her virginity at 19 and she had slept with 25 people already. For me this was a little too much and I just didn't call her back after the date. I did the math once and was just like naaaaaahhhh even I wouldn't be that liberal with my body.

KirthWGersen · 2022-10-19T21:22:21+00:00

I have turned women down for many reasons but never that. I just can't find any way to care about it. The content of her character, how hot she is and how well we connect have always been much more important.

awaythrow1234588 · 2022-10-19T21:21:13+00:00

No.

Very few women have high body counts. Y’all terps need to stop assuming every chick is banging a shitload of dudes, because they just aren’t.

Aromatic_Shop9033 · 2022-10-19T22:48:56+00:00

I have, and they hate men having standards.

They hate accountability.

It is what it is.

rantsincognito · 2022-10-19T21:52:06+00:00

My experience is that women have brought it up earlier than I have. It really isn't as unusual as the women here try to claim. I've even found out the numbers of women I haven't slept with but are in the same circle because women talk so much and can't keep their mouths shut. All it takes is for one girl to blab about her friend to her BF and the boys will soon find out.

But yes, I have turned down girls for LTRs if their body count is too high. I usually make it clear I'm not more interested than a FWB. There was only one instance where it became an ordeal. This girl was pushing for a relationship and I just didn't want to cuz she was a slut. She kept pushing me about it and accused me of "using her for sex". When I told her I didn't want to be with a girl that slept with that many dudes, she freaked out. I do think she had mental issues though, maybe BPD or something. Anyway, to get out of the situation I eventually had to lie and tell her that the "real" issue was something super specific because she just could not handle being rejected due to sleeping with too many guys.

LordPeppino · 2022-10-19T21:52:53+00:00

For sex? No, quite the opposite.

For LTR? Ha! Women swear they can hide it, but the same way most of them "smell" insecure guys or virgins, it's possible to notice when a woman has been promiscuous.

It's pretty rare when a woman can effectively hide it. Sometimes the guy himself is pretty naive/desperate.

hairy_bamboo · 2022-10-19T21:21:54+00:00

No, my policy is "don't ask, don't tell" (though I'm struggling with "don't tell" part, they always ask). If she's ashamed of her n count she'll lie anyway so what's the point?

daddysgotanew · 2022-10-20T00:32:45+00:00

As far as relationship material? Absolutely. I always play the non-judgemental understanding dude and even reveal my body count to have them let their guard down. Then when they tell the truth or close to it I mark them as target practice only.

afjje273 · 2022-10-19T21:37:45+00:00

Yes, a few actually.

If a girl has a high body count I will fuck her but I know from the start she isn't wife material.

GrumpyOldHistoricist · 2022-10-19T22:02:39+00:00

I used to casually see a woman whose body count was 300+. We got along well, enjoyed one another’s company, and had great sex. We were both sleeping with other people and I wasn’t looking for boyfriend status, but I occupied the “cancel plans with another dude to get dicked down by this guy” position in her life. Flattering considering the sheer amount of experience she had for comparison.

But I ultimately ended it because she had the habits she had and was lax about condom use. She presented too great a risk to me and the other women I was seeing because of that. We stayed friends after she got over the initial anger of being dumped (or whatever term applies in a casual non-exclusive arrangement).

crujones33 · 2022-10-20T03:13:11+00:00

Never asked. Never turned her down.

KayRay1994 · 2022-10-20T04:08:16+00:00

Nope - cause ultimately i don’t really care unless it’s some comically absurd, and admittedly highly unlikely number (ex. new guy every few days or something)

LordPooky · 2022-10-20T07:09:39+00:00

Yes. I personally hold ssx at a level of intimacy that should be shared whe there is a deep emotional connection. For me it is an act of expressing your love physically. I know I need someone with the same values and outlook otherwise it wouldn't work.

I turned down many advances and relationships for that position but felt it was important for me. INot easy when you live in a culture that deals with sex as a low priced commodity.

But this strategy worked for me. Married at the age of 26, and still married to an amazing wife for 21 years.

I feel that I need to mention that I am a straight, non relegious, white male, living in the Europe...

smallstarseeker · 2022-10-20T11:39:11+00:00

For sex no, I actually prefer high N women for just sex.

I had ended relationships with multiple women after finding out about their sexual relationships. For high N number as well as for relationships with men I considered trash.

Rockbottom503 · 2022-10-20T12:15:56+00:00

For sex, no. For a relationship, yes.

bootyhunter69420 · 2022-10-20T14:06:16+00:00

Not turned down, but I had a hard time seeing my ex the same after hearing her body count.

BridgeBurner22 · 2022-10-20T15:57:19+00:00

For sex, no. Sluts are fun in bed. For anything serious, hell yeah. Sluts are useless in monogamous relationships.

2022-10-20T17:02:31+00:00

Yes, at the time tho it wasnt a high bodycount, but it was just that she was generally too slutty around the guys and she banged a guy who was in my social circle that was kinda a nemesis. So i didnt wanna bang cuz of that

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-10-19T22:57:42+00:00

Never found out, never asked. Never cared.

Moneydamjan · 2022-10-19T23:46:36+00:00

for sex no, for relationship yes

gopher_glitz · 2022-10-20T00:57:01+00:00

For sex or something casual no. But for long term, 1000%.

Comfortable-Unit-897 · 2022-10-20T02:01:30+00:00

Its none of my buisness, as long as she tests clean.

Tomango5 · 2022-10-19T21:30:51+00:00

I have never asked and I don't really care.

asshole67throw · 2022-10-19T21:41:49+00:00

No, but when I find out I’m somewhat irrationally jealous.

In my experience though, women with high body counts (one was 20 year old and slept with 18 people before me, since loosing virginity at 16) was fine as a partner, but not someone I was attracted to for other reasons (very poor, wanted kids asap, mother was around about 40 years old) and had a few mental health problems.

Another partner I had a situationship with for over a year. She was 23, didn’t know her body count exactly, but I think she said over 50, started about age 14.

Again her mental health problems and behaviour, she was low class/broke, couldn’t hold down a job, had some sort of cluster B personality disorder and substance abuse problems, alcoholic to the point of she would be drinking straight gin upon waking up, or would get drunk when we were walking around a shopping centre off what I thought was a water bottle but was clear spirit.

I don’t slut shame, I don’t rule people out on body count alone but if they are using sex as a coping mechanism, or have hyper sexuality, it’s generally a sign that they have mental health problems which could make a relationship with them very difficult. The 23 hit me on a few occasions, she was very erratic and had a lot of rage (but was also great in bed), the highs came with deep lows.

Both these women reported problems of sexual abused by older men during early teens when they were far too young.

SoIlikeMangos · 2022-10-19T23:28:33+00:00

I thought you guys were not getting any pussy :(

FlyV89 · 2022-10-20T02:28:40+00:00

Huge manwhore here. Not ashamed of it, and actually very open and honest about my past with all the women I've been with, both short and long term. I'm not going around flaunting it, but when asked I always give more or less precise numbers - I lost count already - and even provide detailed info if asked... Some women get off on it, weird but who am I to judge right?

A lot of women claim that guys never ask for body count and that it's mostly an online phenomenon.

I've met guys who ask, and I've been told by women that they were asked in the past. The ones with really high n-counts don't tell usually because they have been dumped by it.

I never ask. I always wait for the girl to bring this out, this is the best aproach.

Somewhere around the third or fourth month of dating, the girl will try to bring "the talk", usually during pillow talk, after sex, when they are relaxed and feel confourtable.

They always try to get you in the mood, like setting your emotions on touch with theirs, preparing the field for a "deep, heart to heart conversation" (when they can bring up "exclusivity" just naturally while coming off as not too pushy), and somehow they think it's a great idea to start talking about exes and past relationships.

They go like "you know, I used to date this guy once who did this and that" or "I never felt so safe with the guys I used to date, they were all X and Y, but I feel different with you..."

Also someones stright out ask my number on a non-judgemental way, trying to sound cool and confident, or praise my "skills" in the sack while "hinting" that I may have been with lots of women.

You just need to pay attention carefully to what they say, shut up, let them talk and always make the feel confourtable, never judged.

When a woman brings the past during pillow talk, it's never because she wants to confess. It's always about bringing some emotional intimacy, closeness, to see if they can bring your feelings out so you can empathize with them and grow closer.

This is because they want a relationship with you, but they don't want to ask for it, they want you to think it was YOUR idea, because if it's your idea then you are submiting to their frame. It's a power play.

Yeah, I score really high in sociopathy, you got me.

In that moment I just stay cool, and apply the classic psychoanalytical process, this works perfectly.

Have you been into teraphy? Have you pay attention to how the psychologist makes you talk more than would you often feel confortable talking about?

He/she just make sounds. They never ask you direct questions. They always make sounds like "Mmhm...", "Ahamm", "Huumm". If they say some coherent shit, it's short phrases like "Really?", "Why?", "Ok", and they keep silence.

SILENCE. When she slips up and both of you realize she fucked up, don't say anything. Just keep watching the roof. The silence will force her to explain herself more, she'll keep talking.

It sounds stupid, but it always works.

They feel like you are listening, not judging them, and they think "I got him" and they just speed dial their talk.

In the end, some of them have even said something like "ok may be I talked too much". Honestly, I often find myself saying "yes honey, you're damn right" more times than I would like to admit.

How do you get to these talks?

Simple. Never commit first. Never bring the talk about exclusivity, never give her the impression that you are serious about her. EVER.

Women want relationships more than you want it, and if you two have been banging for a whole three months chances are she already sees you as her boyfriend. Never bring up labels, and always keep your options open until she bring it up.

The moment you put a tittle on your "situation", that's the moment when the girl is going to shut down all the chances for you to know something about her past.

Why?

Because she already got you, she already knows you want her, she doesn't feel the need to prove anything to you, and she's not going to ruin their chances with you for talking too much.

You should ALWAYS remember this:

Women don't want to lie. Trust me. They want to talk to your about their pasts. They DO WANT to be honest and open, and they don't want to hide stuff from you.

This is human nature. We all want to be loved for who we are, and this includes our pasts, our pasts are an incredibly importante part of who we are, and putting on a fake persona is extremely harmful for our emotional stability and psychologically draining.

Why do women lie about their past? Because men are judgemental, because we come off as insecure and emotionally inmature.

And damn, we have very good reassons to be that way, and I know most men don't want to date a promiscuous woman.

But if you want to get the truth right from the horse's mouth, trust me... Cool down a bit. Chill the fuck out. Let her talk. She will talk.

THEN you make your decision.

And for Jesus Christ, be mature, and let the girl go without making a fuss about it. You don't want to break her fucking soul over the dicks she has had in the past, you don't want to come off as an insecure fucker with penis issues, and you don't want to ruin it for the next guy neither.

You will be (I hope) still in a "situation" with her, so a clean break up, for an unrelated reasson, would suffice.

So these are the tips:

1) Don't bring any labels or rules before she does. Don't commit until she brings "the talk".

2) When she does, cool down. Don't be judgemental, don't ask anything. "Really?", "Oh", "Mmmh...", "So why is that?", "How is that?". Never, ever, fucking EVER "How much?", "How many?". Size neither.

3) Always be open and confident about your past. If you don't have any, invent yourself one.

4) Don't make a fuss about it.

5) Don't fixiate too much in exact numbers. It's absolutely imposible to know. Just round It by the information you are getting from her. If you feel like that's not the real number, always add up a few, never discount.

6) Ideally, you want to aim at girls who talk about long term boyfriends. If she mentions a dude "she had casual sex once with", or a guy she was in a "complicated relationship with", she's already telling you she's the kind of girl who could have had a few ONS and that kind of stuff. When a woman says "I had casual sex once", that girl is more likely to have had a lot of casual sex with different men than just "a one time thing".

7) BLACK FLAG (with skull and bones): she never brings up talks related to the past. She doesn't ask about yours, she doesn't want to talk about hers. "It's anyone bussines but mine". Run for the hills. . 8) When asked about my body count, my first answer is "More than you think but less than I would like". They always freak out with that shit hahaha.

Have you ever found out her body count and ended the relationship over it?

More times than I would like to admit.

What do you consider too high of a body count for a long-term relationship or marriage?

Double digits. 5-6 it's already high

Is it any different than casually dating?

Of course. Lots of men go to prostitutes and they don't even care how many dicks the girl had that very night.

Do you see a lot of men proposing to prostitutes?

BrummieAMN19 · 2022-10-19T22:09:20+00:00

For me nah I haven't so far for LTRs, I don't give a shit about her laycount unless its higher than mine which is very high for my age cause that would indicate that she has a personality disorder(most likely NPD or BPD) or validation issues. But I refuse to sleep with virgins or marry or get into an LTR with one, I cannot imagine anything else miserable than a fucking virgin they're dreadful in bed every single time. I've refused girls who wanted me to take their virginity because of this factor.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-10-19T22:42:10+00:00

Just for fucking? No not really for a long-term relationship or for anything serious I have once explicitly not just because of the number but because I knew every guy that she had fucked she had been with a couple guys on the basketball team I I knew, some of the guys on the football team, a couple other guys I kind of sort of knew and I was on the baseball team and she had been with three of those guys that I was aware of, that was just a no-go for me

DumpApe135 · 2022-10-19T22:45:45+00:00

Turned down a girl no, decided I did not want anything long-term yes.

2022-10-19T23:51:59+00:00

If she got an onlyfans, she ain’t your only man lol. But yeah I never ask for body count you can just kinda tell can’t you?

jayval90 · 2022-10-20T00:05:02+00:00

I didn't initially turn her down, but it definitely was a factor that made me feel disgust and contributed to me losing interest in her as a potential Long-Term partner. She didn't process it well though. I think I could've got past it if she wasn't trying to demonize the guy in a way that made it appear like she was skirting responsibility for her own actions. Like I want to know how you changed from that, not hear excuses.

For context, we were both religious, and I was (and still am) saving it for marriage.

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2022-10-20T00:57:30+00:00

Oh yes. Not for body count but body count within a time period.

If you’re having sex with a different person every month something is wrong with you.

2022-10-20T01:05:00+00:00

I absolutely ask and it matters for a LTR. You're a fool if it doesn't.

mitigated-disaster · 2022-10-19T23:12:33+00:00

Yes I have. She was stupid enough to lie to me about it forgetting we had mutual friends.

But beyond that you can usually tell when she is high N count despite what people like to say. Because they usually have certain tells.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-10-19T21:35:41+00:00

My first girlfriend. She was 16 and I was 15 and she told me that she had only been with 3 people, including me. Only to later find out that she had hooked up with at least 6 guys from her grade. Needless to say, I didn't take it very well. I just about called her every bad name I could think of and then broke up with her.

NockerJoe · 2022-10-19T21:24:45+00:00

Yeah when I was younger there were a couple of times. One turned out to be already pregnant and looking for someone to pin it on, and the other turned out to be totally fucking crazy and joined a cult that told her I didn't have a soul. 10/10 would reccomend not sticking your dick in crazy.

anjovis150 · 2022-10-19T22:04:33+00:00

Turned down a girl because she said she didn't believe in monogamy and made it clear she had been with quite a few men. We did remain platonic friends though.

Laurely4u · 2022-10-19T22:13:20+00:00

Some of the licensed prostitutes who staff the legal bordellos in the US state of Nevada are married.

zabrak200 · 2022-10-19T23:16:32+00:00

Why would i ask? It doesnt matter. Im curious more how her previous relationships have shaped their outlook on life and relationships that shit is WAY more important.

Jakes1967 · 2022-10-19T23:23:02+00:00

Have you ever found out her body count and ended the relationship over it?

Yes

What do you consider too high of a body count for a long-term relationship or marriage?

Double digits

Is it any different than casually dating?

Don't do casual.

Davegvg · 2022-10-20T00:11:52+00:00

Yes.

It wasn't the n count per se, but the behavior patterns that lead to it.

Leather-Creme2611 · 2022-10-20T00:23:57+00:00

Yes 😱

shadowofdoubt13 · 2022-10-20T00:31:15+00:00

Yes but not overtly. Don’t want to hurt her feelings

Teflon08191 · 2022-10-20T00:54:58+00:00

I've never "turned a woman down" for her n count per se, but I have stopped some relationships from becoming serious with n counts being one of the main reasons.

I never told them that of course. To them the reason was because I "just wasn't ready for anything serious".

hari_hbp · 2022-10-20T01:26:38+00:00

Not really. I've never cared about that number and all that matters is how she is as a person. I refuse to let my love life be hampered by a number too easy to lie about and increase.

GloryToChadlantis · 2022-10-20T01:29:47+00:00

No, but I didn't call her the next day

2022-10-20T01:49:47+00:00

Yes. For marriage its an absolute no. Remaining unmarried is better but such women ,hell no. For sex , I'd be ok but goal will be ultimaty to find one who is less promiscous. Marriage has a lot of responsibilities. Kids etc. One who couldnt get satisfied by 10 avg men ,I m no different from 10 avg men. These divorce,alimony,child care ,property laws are too much of a burden. They should keep being promiscous their whole lives.

Recently I read ,, a pornstar gave birth to a son. If he goes to school ,hes going to be fucked up lol,,especially when her speciality is interracial porn. Same goes with kids when parents divorce,they re-marry etc. A happy peaceful life for kids is our responsibility.

Best_Illustrator_137 · 2022-10-20T03:04:26+00:00

This chick I met freshman year of college..she was so bad and I had been trynna get her for a bit and she hooked up with my roomate which was already a lil sus but she was so hot, and we slept together a couple of times and spent a lot of time together than my fraternity brothers told me some of the wildest sh*t and told me how many of them and other guys she was sleepin with in that first year I (I think like 20+ bodies that semester). I immediately lost all interest and stopped hanging out with her after cause I was disgusted..my max would have to be like 15..

ExpensiveShoulder580 · 2022-10-20T03:14:52+00:00

Yep.

I don't do casual. Bit I understand that if I did, then body count wouldn't matter as long as there were no STIs.

Body count is a bitter thing, some bitterness is tolerable, but the more bitter the more ew.

House-MDMA · 2022-10-20T03:26:41+00:00

I turned one down even to sleep with it just disgusted me too much, she told me she had a different man for lunch and dinner for the past 6 days. That is just insane, I was friends with her for a while after and she was really really into me and some of my family members ( don't know why none of us was very high quality at the time). But the more I hung out with her the more and more I became disgusted by the thought of sleeping with her, even offers of group sex couldn't convince me and it's not like that was something I could get at any time I've never had an opportunity like that again, so when I say i was grossed out I was grossed tf out.

peacheeblush · 2022-10-20T11:26:11+00:00

I left a partner (male) a couple months ago due to communication issues on top of him having a HIGH body count. Turned me completely off from him and the quality of women he’s fucked were bottom of the barrel… (I know that sounds superficial as fuck and I know I’m wrong for shaming them for their looks but goddamn he was desperate for whatever pussy was available. Fucking gross)

Ohmaygahh · 2022-10-20T14:40:07+00:00

Yes.

What do you consider too high of a body count for a long-term relationship or marriage?

For me, it isn't so much the number as it is the context of the number.

Example; I was involved with a sexy, hot , beautiful 29 year old woman. She had it all, tall, strong, enhanced boobs, BIG butt, small waist, pretty face. Smart. Funny, in a cantankerous sort of way. That is all up my alley. After banging her the first few times she slowly let me know that she liked having sex with multiple men simultaneously.

Great, I thought. She obviously is awesome at sex and no doubt she has had a lot of practice. No problem. But then she started sharing that she was still participating in them while we were messing around. Ok, cool we haven't talked about being exclusive. All is fair game although my hypochondriac started to show a little. She assuaged my concerns with recent test results. Awesome, I'm ok.

But ... then she starts to show me the type of guys she is having sex with at these parties. I'm less than thrilled. She's an awesome girl, literally can have anyone she wants. She has a regular ( the guy who really started bringing her into the "scene" ) and it's just this bald, really out of shape, mid 50 something year old married (non ethically open) mid level corporate lawyer.

In my mind I judge her harshly for this. There's nothing special about this guy. I deem him significantly below me. But her actions has shown that she has a strong connection with this guy. Still entertains him. I find that gross and underserved.

I perform a slow ghosting. Last I heard, she landed herself a 32 year old long term boyfriend. From all accounts he's really green, and completely unaware of her past shenanigans. I have it on good authority that he has a completely different picture of who he's gf is in his mind. I feel pity for him.

In another example, I had matched with a GORGEOUS woman. Bachelors in Finance, yet bubbly and bouncy. Great charming energy. BIG tits, big ass, small waist, blonde hair, green eyes. She really does have everything!

She wanted to take things slow. Ok, fine, I'll try to play along because I'm thinking wow, what a catch. She invites me over, we drink some wine, we talk and kiss. She admits that she wants to take things slow, she's not "that kind of girl". I ask her what she means. She said she was a good girl, yes she likes sex, but that she was kinda embarrassed. I ask why. She describes how she was really infatuated with some guy in college, Joey B. He was the local bro type, trying to smash any tail in college. This somehow didn't dissuade her interest in him. She let him smash first opportunity she got!

I'm like, ok cool. Then she shares that she caught genital herpes and gonorrhea from him, her alleged one time lapse in judgement. I smile and excuse myself to the bathroom... I exit then tell her that I have to go. She did not take my sudden loss of interest well...

In yet another example, I was crazy about a young NYU grad. she was young, sexy, full of energy and full of ambition. Then she shared with me on a date how she went on a Greenpeace trip to Africa, something about saving some trees or something like that. She had been there so long, and was feeling horny so she fucked a local ... a 15 year old black CHILD from Gabon. She was 26 at the time... I noped out of there so fucking fast. It made no sense. She was intelligent and beautiful BUT WHAT THE FUCK?!

So it's not really about the raw numbers for me. Could be 10, 100, a thousand. It's more about how selective she's been, who are these guys. Why did she choose them, and how safe is it/was it? If they're garbage people, sick diseased people and she had sex with them anyway AND gives me a hard time to be intimate with her? I'm out. If I deem some of her previous lovers significantly beneath me, I can't help but think low of her.

I feel I can be this way because if any woman wants to question me about any of my past lovers, I'm more than happy to explain context and motivation. Even my less than best ones.

Peacesquad · 2022-10-20T19:53:20+00:00

Women lie about it so that would Be interesting to witness

gymbro718NYC · 2022-10-19T21:29:28+00:00

Yes, I turned down a woman who had a 0 n count.

Perfect_Promise_943 · 2022-10-19T21:35:45+00:00

Yes. I don’t do casual dating so I don’t know if it’s different. I don’t think casual dating should be a thing so I guess no.

Have I ever ended a relationship over it? No. But I don’t start a relationship without knowing this. So I just broke it off and thanked her for her time and mentioned she was great but sadly I didn’t think it would workout. Thanked her one more time and said goodbye.

What do I consider too high? I want a virgin. If they are not a virgin. I need to ask more questions about their past relationship. If it’s by a long term relationship, like there were together for 3 years or something, I would be okay with it potentially. If it’s like through rape or grooming, I feel bad for you and I don’t care, you were forced to and It’s not your fault. I would totally be okay with that.

athlete2biz · 2022-10-19T21:42:38+00:00

Well I havent "ended a relationship over it" because i wouldnt get in a relationship with a high body count woman, but I have put many of girls in the fuck zone and casual only category based on their body count.

Acceptable-Chip5833 · 2022-10-20T01:36:17+00:00

Yes. If I realize a chic I liked had an adventurous past, she quickly is pushed to the recreational_use_only category. If she's hot enough I'll lead her on for awhile to get constant supply for sex then when I'm done I end it. I mean fair is fair...

ex_red_black_piller · 2022-10-19T21:31:48+00:00

Yes actually.

domdomdom333 · 2022-10-19T23:46:05+00:00

Women usually with a known body count at the asking out stage usually aren't that attractive in the first place to begin with to continue learning about her more than just an acquaintance level.

This question has been asked so many times that I've basically come up with a formula by now. If a woman's body count is above: her age - 16 then it's a red flag. I'll think thrice.

Ok-Cupcake-2854 · 2022-10-19T21:45:07+00:00

not body count per se but her attitude surrounding sex and her previous sexual behavior yes

ShoCkEpic · 2022-10-20T06:01:26+00:00

not after asking… but yes, i quietly turned down her advances while still being in contact, she is hot, but even the fact that i knew she slept with a few other dudes in the city made me feel she was dirty… i know i shouldn’t feel this way, because it s unfair… but i didn’t want to be the one that stays with her while other dudes would say : « oh yeah i fucked her dirty / she sucked my dicked in this club etc… »

PassMyGuard · 2022-10-20T11:53:08+00:00

No.

A lot of dudes online talk about body count being indicative of being a shitty person.

Guys who actually are getting laid have enough social skills to be able to tell if somebody is a shitty person by talking to them, not by asking them a specific question.

I don’t need to know how many guys a girl has slept with to know that she is a bad potential partner after I’ve seen how she treats the waiter.

ZeusTheSeductivEagle · 2022-10-20T18:15:13+00:00

It's situational for me. The more time goes by you can assume you have had a few partners. at some point its to many but in the times I've said no it was more to do with time. Like you were just with so an so last night and Jeff on Wednesday. I'm not kissing you that's just nasty.

Think_History_5682 · 2022-10-20T19:14:16+00:00

No, bc there's a slight chance they might be good at sex... I'd rather have a high body count than a kid

cards88x · 2022-10-20T03:10:00+00:00

High body counts are sexy. I want an open relationship.

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EnteFetz · 2022-10-19T21:53:25+00:00

No, I have never turned down a woman.

RahLyt · 2022-10-19T23:24:13+00:00

I never turned down because I never even considered it. Lol if a girl is telling me there's nothing wrong fucking without a condom, because she has done it many times and nothing happened she disqualified herself. Girls will always say stuff like that so I always know where they stand. You don't need to know the exact number to turn you off from relationships.

On the other side I'm pretty sure there's girls out there with a N count higher than I'd prefer that I could see myself in LTR with, if their behaviour is not hoeish.

Now for casual sex I start minding above 50. Less than that I don't really care.

2022-10-19T23:44:03+00:00

Not for sex but I knew this one guy who rejected women even for sex cause they had a reputation

chenigmatressurion · 2022-10-20T03:02:56+00:00

Yes and no. She had high body count, which was fine. I went down to try and eat her but she stank horribly, that was the nono. It wasnt even ffishy/piss, those smells i’m actually aroused by

Trowaway4da8 · 2022-10-20T05:02:57+00:00

ForestOfMirrors · 2022-10-20T05:17:46+00:00

Nope

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-10-20T06:00:16+00:00

Never had bc the the opportunity didn't come up as much. Maybe I'm insensitive, but for some reason they try their hardest to come off as prudes around me but in hindsight, the signs were there but I just didn't pay too much attention to them.

DaoMark · 2022-10-20T06:05:35+00:00

Only one.

Statistically, most women are not sluts anyway, so this sort of thing happens way less than you'd expect just cuz of that; personally, I can overlook a reasonable history without any difficulty, we are grown and understand people fuck, so I can get past it - however, I have a massive turn off when it comes to threesomes.

If she ever fucked two + dudes at once, its a no go for me - whether its logical or not logical or whatever, I don't really know, I just can't handle that from an emotional standpoint.

LaloTwins · 2022-10-20T07:09:41+00:00

For sex no.

For a relationship yup!

CptKillsteal · 2022-10-20T07:17:32+00:00

I got a classmate I really liked into my appartment in our final year. It was leading up to finally banging after having flirted with for years. I wanted to fuck her for years. She then told me how on her internship abroad she got bondaged by a 40+ year old guy and how he was amazing. I lost all interest then and there.

boomershack · 2022-10-20T07:40:06+00:00

She gets automatically placed in a casual box/nothing serious box for me.

The guys (grown ass men) in my friend group gossip like school girls so it's very easy to know what's going on.

Keep it casual, be awesome friends.

Phuxsea · 2022-10-20T08:13:01+00:00

It's definitely a TikTok and social media phenomenon. I've never asked or been told.

Crafty_Letter_1719 · 2022-10-20T09:14:33+00:00

The vast majority of Men will never turn any Woman down if she meets his very low attraction bar. Obviously when it comes to casual sex an “easy” Woman with a high body count is exactly what most Men are looking for. When it comes to a relationship it’s of course very different.

Regardless of how progressive he may appear, practically no man alive( unless he has a kink) doesn’t have an issue with his partner having a high body count. How big an issue will change on a case by case basis but biological evolution has hardwired the vast majority of Men to have a primal revulsion towards female promiscuity. How he reacts to this innate revulsion is something many Men can control but they can’t help feeling it in the first place.

Of course most Men do control it or operate a don’t ask don’t tell policy. If however it somehow comes up that your sweet virginal wife was actually once the village bike there is going to be a problem. Not because it intellectually means she is going to suddenly be unfaithful or has fundamentally changed as a person in any way; just that his primal revulsion response is triggered and he can’t help but lose some respect for her.

While a normal guy is never likely to leave a partner he is otherwise happy with as a direct result of this; it will start to insidiously eat away at him and become a contributing factor if other parts of the relationship aren’t working. It’s a bit similar to how many Woman suddenly start to lose attraction to their partner once they see them in a vulnerable state. For all their progressive talk about wanting Men to open up, to be emotional ect… as soon as they actually see their partner cry their pussy dries up like the desert. They can’t help it. It’s just a primal biological response driven by evolution.

RPInjectionToTheVein · 2022-10-20T10:37:32+00:00

Turned down nah, moreso 'soft quit' the ltr

missionarymechanic · 2022-10-20T11:25:34+00:00

My personal tastes and lifestyle pretty much exclude the vast majority of the population where that is even an issue.

Finding tats, smoking, other-than-ear piercings, and drinking a general turn-off. Selecting exclusively from my own religion and those dedicated to a very difficult path in following it. I've never encountered someone who it bothered me from that subset.

The highest was probably in the 20's. But she also turned her life around regarding sex and intimacy. (Honestly, she needed more time to heal from trauma. It was a really great mesh, otherwise, but. We were going different directions.)

2022-10-20T12:07:04+00:00

Define high body count?

I think it’s always a good idea to avoid crazy people That are going to break your heart, but do you see a difference between “just broke up with a long term partner and am out sowing my wild oat for a careless period of time” or “a sex addict who fucks anyone that’ll smile at them”.

Odd-Luck7658 · 2022-10-20T13:20:07+00:00

Never. How absurd.

2022-10-20T13:36:34+00:00

I‘m 46, I don’t even ask.

In fact, I’m back on the market out of a 15 year long relationship and was writing out my list of deal-breakers and “like to haves” the other day and body count never crossed my mind. Sex worker did though.. Previous or current sex worker of any type is on my deal-breaker list.

beleidigtewurst · 2022-10-20T13:50:54+00:00

Oh, FFS. It is not about banging, but "wife material".

GripofDoom · 2022-10-20T14:43:30+00:00

I Was never in the Situation to turn a woman down in my sad but funny life, if I ever get the chance I guess beggars can't be choosers lol. There are a few women however I wouldn't want a relationship with, not exactly due to their body counts bit their Overall characters.

Legaladesgensheu · 2022-10-20T15:06:23+00:00

Have you ever turned a woman down

No, I took the one chance that I got

2022-10-20T15:22:50+00:00

I know one of my fwb had a somewhat high body count and that didn't disturb me. I could have entered in a relationship with her if we both didn't have planed to move to different continents. But she was very honest so I could trust her.

On the other hand, my other fwb and one of my girlfriends lied about their sexual past and body count and that is a somewhat orange flag for me.

And I turned off one woman due to her body count because she made me really insecure and frustrated with it.

RealAmericanWeasel · 2022-10-20T15:28:58+00:00

I turned down a woman in 1992 because she had a Body Count CD and I did not want to dust some cops off.

tpablazed · 2022-10-20T17:44:41+00:00

I never even asked.. never cared either.

It would have been super hypocritical of me to ask about her count since I was fucking half the girls in the rave scene in my town while I was single.. so why draw attention to body count when I don't even know mine?

_Masaniello_ · 2022-10-20T22:07:15+00:00

Opposite experience for me, was seeing a girl I had no intention for a long term relationship with because I assumed she was really promiscuous. She seemed comfortable around men, dressed in a sexy way, told me she used tinder before, approached me, liked male attention.

We finally have sex and then I immediately can tell she was a virgin. She had to stop me quickly because she was in pain, then when giving a bj she had no idea what she was doing. Turns out the furthest she went was oral with a guy 3 years prior.

I'm not a "virgin only" guy, for me I don't mind as long as they don't treat sex like is something casual for girls I'm willing to date. Bit its funny how after this experience my perception of her instantly changed, I subconsciously saw her worthy as a gf and we dated for a couple years after that

TheEndTrend · 2022-10-20T22:36:42+00:00

There are two different categories for (most) men:

Have you ever turned a woman down for her body count?

For sex: no
For a relationship: yes

social_mule · 2022-10-21T01:22:29+00:00

Yes.

THExBEARxJEW · 2022-12-01T19:16:09+00:00

For sex? Yes

For relationship? Also yes.

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