As a woman (and who will qualify as a liberal no less), I feel there are way too many posts here trying to guilt trip cuckolded men to bring up kids that are not theirs. I say I have to disagree with Blue Pill on this one.

Many BP advocates would say "What about adopted/foster kids?" Adopted parents are as valid as biological ones!

No one said they weren't.

But adoption is a voluntary decision. Men who made a conscious decision to adopt a kid are 100% the dad and it's an admirable gesture no doubt.

But it's not the same as a man who has been blindsided by his wife/gf and made to believe he is the progenitor of his kid (s) when he isn't.

That is straight-up gross exploitation and a man has the right to extricate himself from his "family" if he has been lied to like this.

Many would say: Think of the child!

Forcing a person who wants nothing to do with the child, to play dad/mom is just asking that child to be subjected to some form of emotional abuse at the very least.

Let's say that the man in question is only capable of loving kids who share his genes. Maybe he doesn't even like kids in general, just ones who share the same DNA.

A lot of men and women are like that, despite what BP likes to believe.

Like, okay he's an "asshole" for only being able to care if the kid shares his genes. Wouldn't that make him an extremely bad fit to raise a kid that isn't his?

Do you know who people who have been forced into unwanted parenthood/guardianship take their anger out on?

In most cases, it's the kids.

I dunno how many of ya'll have read Harry Potter books. But the titular character was raised by his aunt, and she didn't want to. She was made to, and you know what happened? He was a victim of child abuse.

Yes, some men continue to care for and love their kids even after they find that he is not the father. Kudos to them.

But it should be a conscious decision, not something expected from him.

If the man finds he has no love for his ''kids'' after he finds he isn't the father, he should not be made to remain the dad to the kid/kids. It's not fair on the kid too.

Like you are dooming a child to a parent who implicitly resents them. Kids are not stupid. They can sense that someone hates them.

It's kinda like asking someone who hates cats to adopt a cat. Why would you?

To Blue Pillers:

You are free to believe that fatherhood is not dependent on genes. And to some extent, you are even right as adoptive dads exist.

But you have NO RIGHT to impose that worldview on people who think otherwise. None.

You don't care about genes? Go ahead, marry a single mom, or adopt. You have my blessings.

But don't try to dictate the same to people who want to have kids who share their genes.