Your life does not end at 18 nor your worth as a woman

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-23T09:35:21+00:00

That is some deep internalized-misogyny right there. I will just assume it is written by a woman, because this advice is for women:

YOUR LIFE DO NOT END AT 30! Women are strong, capable and smart. Do not believe in the lies by the patriarchy and STOP BELIVEING you need a man to be happy! It is statistically shown that married women die earlier than single women. Men need marriage so much more than women do. Stop making your life revolve around men. Have you seen men? leaving skidmarks on sheets and not even washing their butts? 🤢

Women need to learn this. Men suck in general.

(however I have strong indications that the OG OP, is a larping "female")

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-23T09:36:05+00:00

All I thought was “ew”. This isn’t right

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-23T11:11:01+00:00

This kind of thinking is a consequence of excessive Instagram usage - my teenage sister who has been on insta since she’s been 9 has the same mindset.

There are terribly many young girls out there, believing that the only purpose of a woman is to be beautiful to serve men. She also think that sex work (sugar babying) is the best option for women and basically after 25 you should off yourself.

shortywannarock · 2021-03-23T09:38:15+00:00

Even if women did become hideously ugly after their 20s, how does that impact on their worth? Like oh no now I'm a hag so I can't contribute positively to society, bring happiness to people in my life, improve myself or have fun. Honestly this sounds like OP is a man pretending to be a woman because I can't imagine any woman honestly having such an extreme attitude.

advice1988 · 2021-03-23T10:45:01+00:00

Beyond sad that her worth / will to live, is in conjunction with what men ‘prefer’, breaks my heart.

All I read is a empty person, looking for validation and meaning from another human to cover up her loneliness and self worth issues. ☹️

Go to therapy. Get some hobbies, have a goal (climb a mountain, write a book/play/blog, start making more friends, travel!) , get a better job, connect with people and have some scope on how short life is & nothing being guaranteed EVER, every moment is borrowed time, so you might as well have fun and do your best.

Shit....we’re on a rock in space, let’s have some perspective.

Imagine getting to live that long and all you have is ‘what’s the point of living?! if I no longer fit a arbitrary demographic that is based in patriarchal concepts that would sooner have us want to die than not be of use to men’?

That’s it?! Just saying some truly damaging shit to people that will agree via a click of a button and you further self victimised yourself via internalised misogyny.....for what? People need to start going to therapy.

luxurypinkvirgo · 2021-03-23T10:46:47+00:00

Sad to say this but I used to feed into this extreme internalized misogyny. Thank you to my LVM ex who brainwashed me with redpill garbage about women becoming less desirable after 25.

I am only 20 and in my experience, many of these men use this propaganda to scare young women into settling down with the first man that shows interest, and make all women over 25 feel worthless.

If anything, women only love life more as they get older. They know themselves better. They accumulate knowledge and experience. And let’s not forget that statistically, unmarried women are the happiest subgroup of society.

Worldly_Sell · 2021-03-23T11:03:01+00:00

I’m honestly shocked, I didn’t know women actually felt this way. We should know this is garbage. Yes, there are men who won’t pay attention to you over 25 but guess what? They are only youth obsessed and do not care about you as a person.

Truth be told, a lot of visible aging comes down to how you manage stress and how you take care of your body. Notice people that still keep up their looks exercise religiously. All of that sounds easier said than done, life comes at you fast as you gain more and more responsibility.

sleepykittn · 2021-03-23T11:28:44+00:00

The only reason she questioned this at all is because the patriarchy conditions girls to fear their age to commit to men before their brains have finished developing and not leave because 'wHo wOuLd wAnt mE afteR bEing a tEenagEr' which allows men to treat women like doormats because of the 'dying alone' lie. Women have to do the opposite of double standards to even be empowered.

CandidKick · 2021-03-23T10:28:03+00:00

I hope there aren’t women out there who actually feel this way. The only people telling women they have no worth after the age of 30 are middle aged men whose whole career and personality are centered around ‘FeMiniSM is CancEr’.

You don’t need to cater to men, especially men like that. They are NVM.

Look how many attractive women there are in their 50s and beyond. Even if they weren’t, there is sooo much more to life than being attractive to men. Really. So much more. If you stop basing your value and your quality of life around whether or not NVM find you attractive, your world will be filled with so much more color and love and vibrancy.

PrincessBeefloof · 2021-03-23T10:44:38+00:00

Why does that have so many upvotes?!! This is gross!!

shelballama · 2021-03-23T10:50:52+00:00

As a woman almost in their 30's, I only worried about this in my early 20's. Now I'm psyched to hit what should be a really good period in my life where my years of hard work will start coming to fruition, where I've explored myself more and can now enjoy that, I've made more friends and had more experienced and have become a better friend and partner.

And if I were still single, I wouldn't obsess about age. You're going to age (ideally) and you can't expect your partner to simply "tolerate" you after you hit 30. Any person, regardless of sex, needs to see that aging isn't something to be ashamed about. It's how you age that is important. Are you becoming a better person? Nourishing healthy, reciprocal relationships? Working hard towards your goals? Dating someone who is also of high value (or just enjoying being single)?

BlackJeepW1 · 2021-03-23T10:27:49+00:00

Omg 🙄 can we just go back to lying about our age? It’s not like they would know the difference. I’m 38 and took my 16 year old son in to be tested for COVID earlier this month and the nurse thought I was his sister.

The_Pyramidion · 2021-03-23T11:03:24+00:00

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2021-03-23T12:23:52+00:00

Shit like this proves how easy it is to systematically destroy someone’s entire world, their sense of self-worth and their perceived gender value, by feeding them steady lies and manipulation for the first two decades of life. This is proof that misogyny is real and just as destructive as we constantly reiterate.

TheFinalGirl_21 · 2021-03-23T12:46:25+00:00

Lol! They are obsessed with this “wall”. An attractive woman is an attractive woman at any age. Period. I never hear attractive men who are confident and successful at dating obsessing about this. Any man who tries to put a shelf life on a woman’s sexual market value is pretty much communicating that he has none.

“Men in their late 30s/40s prefer to date younger women. That’s just how it is.”

And younger women prefer dicks that work and sperm that doesn’t have three heads. That’s just how it is. I went out with a successful “never married, no kids” guy in his 50s a couple of times. Super fit, obsessed with the gym. Wore “younger” clothes, but his face and sun-damaged skin still gave him away. He sent me an unsolicited nude mirror selfie after our second date and I wanted to vomit. Yeah, he had muscles and abs and all of that, but he looked like he was wearing someone else’s skin. And his behavior was very aggressive once he realized I wasn’t going to have sex with him.

Men do not age as gracefully as they think they do.

keep_my_stuff · 2021-03-23T12:56:15+00:00

A man wrote this to instill dread. Give aways: The use of the word females and the specific 35 age cutoff were aging men become magically attractive to teens 🤣🤣🤣 also the projection about becoming gross as one ages in their 20s

thrway01010 · 2021-03-23T09:52:46+00:00

If only this was true... I would love it if L/NVMs stopped bugging me as I get older. I don't want them and they don't want me, perfect!

Mimosa_usagi · 2021-03-23T11:17:56+00:00

This makes me so sad because I feel what she says about family and parents very deeply. My mother is insane. But I do feel less loved and cared for by my family every passing year.

2021-03-23T12:14:37+00:00

I used to believe the same thing as the poster when I was younger because all my life, I heard that a woman turning 30 years old meant your life was basically over.

Which is bullshit.

I'm almost 32 years old now and it feels as though I am finally living life. I'm in the best shape ever, better than when I was in my 20s. I just got a new job that I'm starting in 2 weeks that will afford me to pay my bills and have fun money. I have hobbies now that makes me happy because I'm not wasting time on dating apps. My mindset and standards towards men still need a little more work (after years of horrible conditioning) but I'm getting waaaaaaay better at blocking people who try to tear me down and manipulate me. I'm happy for the first time in a long time after years of depression, anxiety and agoraphobia.

The love I have for myself is unbeatable, unconditional, wise and beautiful. I refuse to be surrounded by those who try to poison me or that love.

There's nothing wrong with growing older. You become wiser and so much more open to life when someone, something, a toxic (mindset) isn't dragging you down. The freedom to choose and discard is something valuable I wished I learned at a young age but nevertheless, I use it all the time now.

virginiagirl27 · 2021-03-23T13:47:36+00:00

So many guys 30+ have told me they don’t date girls their age because they move quick(I’m 24). Like no wonder you’re single dude, you’re a piece of shit human. Also don’t forget sperm quality goes down for guys at 37 😘

throwaway32132134 · 2021-03-23T10:55:53+00:00

Is this the way this lady views older women? The way she talks is honestly kind of insulting towards women over 30. "I don't want to grow more old and more disgusting each passing day." WTF.

MadsMkay · 2021-03-23T11:50:32+00:00

Reddit scrotes really had to act like women aren't getting hit on daily even after 30 to make themselves feel better

RojavaLover · 2021-03-23T12:51:14+00:00

I was feeling sympathy for her thinking she was going to talk about ageism and sexism towards women in the work place or something then it went to “guys don’t like...”. Bla bla bla.

Who cares? Who gives an absolute wank about what guys deem attractive? They go bald at the age of 20 and 50% of them start to become impotent after 40.

Stop giving these dumbos so much power, ffs.

fg_hj · 2021-03-23T11:13:49+00:00

This sounds like depression

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-03-23T12:07:23+00:00

I really really really really feel that a man wrote this to gaslight women.

Papaverinum · 2021-03-23T13:58:58+00:00

I'm 25 and tbh, my life hasn't even started yet, lol.

2021-03-23T11:40:40+00:00

I’m rolling my eyes so hard right now. This is is pathetic. I’m 35 and am even sexier and more beautiful than I was in my 20s. I make way more money and I attract higher value men. Right now, I have several amazing guys in their 20s-late 30s literally PINING over me to try to get any time with me. Young ladies in your teens/20s, please do not give into this misogynist brainwashing bullshit. It’s designed to make you settle for LVM out of fear. There is no “wall.” Men hit on my mother still and follow her around like a puppy, and she’s in her 70s.

SuperPale99 · 2021-03-23T11:52:33+00:00

Are we sure this was written by a woman? I smell a troll

teachcand · 2021-03-23T12:55:59+00:00

I know a lot of people think OP is a man larping as a woman, but my mother genuinely has fed me the idea that I will lose value if I'm not married by 26 (and even that is old for her, and yes I believed this). My cousin married his wife who was 34 at the time and my mother genuinely could not wrap her brain around it for the longest time.

FDS has been amazing for me and so have some of the amazing women in my life. I'm almost in my mid 20s and I used to work with this AMAZING woman who I'm still friends with in her 40s. She was and is always beaming of happiness (literally always glowing) - she has an amazing daughter, a HV husband who she had met in her 30s (which I don't envy but he was a great guy too), she has her own businesses, she's educated, she travels... she used to tell me that she would never go back to her 20s because when she hit 30 she escaped that fear of being "expired" or constantly judged and controlled.

If there any women who are still struggling with the idea that you lose value in your late 20s or at any point given your age, PLEASE fight this urge for your own sanity and well-being. Find where it comes from and the reasons why you think this way then constantly remind yourself that it is FALSE. Find what brings you joy in life and be excited about the future, where you're hopefully in a better place financially and pursuing hobbies you've wanted to try or goals you've been meaning to reach. The idea that we expire at all has been created by men to hurt and control us and we know that.

2021-03-23T12:44:57+00:00

Yuck! The misogyny is what’s disgusting. I really want to ask, does she honestly believe women older than THIRTY are just getting more disgusting every passing day? My mother, my grandmother, and I are all living, breathing proof that’s a lie.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-03-23T14:54:19+00:00

The secret is, as long as you strive to be the best you, you never actually lose value. My mom is in her 60’s. She is constantly bombarded by younger and high quality men. It never ends, just the super creepy one’s (the 14-24 seekers) start to fall off. This narrative is the patriarchy trying to manipulate you into settling down having kids to keep a man. Open your eyes. Everything you have been taught since childhood was to prepare you to be a mother and caregiver. Capitalism relies on womans’ reproduction, unpaid labor and servitude to function. Don’t fall for it!

Bubbly-Manufacturer · 2021-03-23T15:40:49+00:00

All guys that don’t like women their age are NVM.

2021-03-23T15:43:01+00:00

I'm 50, and right up until 35 people where I lived (latin america) told me incessantly that I had to hurry up with having at least one kid before my time was up and I was dropped from the job market (strong belief that 35+ women are aged out of work and even that menopause happens at 35!)

Well, 35 came and went, and then everyone started teling me incessantly "you did it right!" by not having kids or anything that goes with it. While they had a family of 8 crammed inside a house made for 2, with an exhausted woman 35+ going crazy from it, working sunup to sundown to support them, I was taking leisurely walks, dozing in a hammock, and sunbathing and gardening with my time, looking pretty much the same as I did before 35.

I HAD THE LAST LAUGH, AND YOU'D BETTER BELIEVE THEY TOLD ALL THEIR DAUGHTERS AND GRANDDAUGHTERS, LOOK AT THAT GRINGA, SHE DID IT RIGHT!

My drivers' license pic looks so much like the one from 10 years ago that I had a good laugh with the lady taking my new photo about giving up men to stay young.

Mcccy · 2021-03-23T12:23:35+00:00

I really really hope she gets the therapy she needs, lots of self hate and low self esteem going on In this..

BetterToBeLonely · 2021-03-23T15:30:23+00:00

I'm in my 40s and this is by far my best decade in every possible way.

I'm fitter, wiser, more money savvy, more life savvy, more educated, better dressed, more esteemed,and more expetienced.

And I have no idea if I am attractive to men because I don't really care. I am definitely more attractive than 98% of the men in my age bracket since most of them are a dumpster fire. But that logical reality doesn't really translate in the minds of many men so I don't give it much thought.

If you are living an awesome life, for yourself, you really wont care about what some arbitrary guy thinks. Men who try to scare you into believing in expiration dates are sabotaging you by encouraging you to live a one dimensional life.

threddedneedle · 2021-03-23T13:44:24+00:00

The wall is used to scare us women under 30 to feel that our time is running out and that we have to settle down ASAP.

That was something I read on this sub (of course, where else?) and it changed my whole perspective. Elderly women often said that they enjoy life better after 40/60/retirement for whatever reasons, and I believe them. Stressing about finding a man in your twenties will most likely have us rushing into relationships/marriages with LVM's and other scrotes, and who benefits from that? The scores, duh!

Most of us aren't experiences enough to know what we want in a relationship when we're that young, so we don't know what red and green flags to look for! We don't know what qualities we really should be looking for in a man when it comes to a long lasting, happy relationship, because we (as in, most ladies in our 20's) more often than not, haven't had time to be in one! So when we are rushed like that, we often time make bad decisions, and men benefit from it. They know that they only have to behave in the first few dates or months, because most young women will think that that's what they're like all the time. If he then makes a turn for the worse then she will pick up the slacks for him.

Don't worry about getting older. It's not bad at all.

c_a_t_lady · 2021-03-23T13:36:12+00:00

I used to feel that way too. I thought my life would be over at 30 because that's what I had been made to believe.

I don't feel that way anymore though! I realized that the belief was irrational and internalized misogyny after discovering FDS. And I am thankful for that. 🥰

I am 18 and definitely not afraid to grow older. I am now at the age when a bunch of creepy older dudes want to fuck me because of my age. Why would I want that?

I don't want to be attractive to the people, who pretty much fetishize younger women.

If I make it to 30 and at that point, they won't prefer me anymore, then that's my reward for holding on. 💖

whydenny · 2021-03-23T14:24:55+00:00

This poor girl really believes she exists not enjoy live and experience the pleasures of the world, but to entertain others!? 0.o

Baby, who cares if your worth anything to men? Are they worth anything to you?

Eddit to say that on a second reading this is likely written by a man.

2021-03-23T14:46:19+00:00

Sounds like her parents are bad people...imagine loving your child less because they are aging, wtf???

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-03-23T15:11:59+00:00

I was scared of getting older when I was only 22 or so. Just because I thought I will be worthless past the age of 25. Because everyone around me, including media kept saying so. I'm 29 now, and I couldn't care less about my age. I just wish I enjoyed myself more, when I was younger.

riseaboveagain · 2021-03-23T15:40:51+00:00

Men who make comments like this are losers. We don’t want them. He’s young now and thinks he’s hot shit and can judge women, but in ten years, he’ll still be a tire technician at the local auto repair shop, wondering why hot 19 year olds don’t want him any more.

Pasdepromesses · 2021-03-23T13:25:02+00:00

We found a LARPer.

carobrownie · 2021-03-23T14:47:43+00:00

I’m 24 and I was terrified of my life after 25. I began my self-love journey a year ago and realized that all the women In considered bad ass are over 25, also I started to don’t give a fuck about what men think so It’s safe to say I’m excited for the future with or without a man, I’ll still be a badass like those ladies I admire.

missisabelarcher · 2021-03-23T14:51:50+00:00

This makes me sad (if it's real.) The internalized misogyny is terrible. She's going to end up stuck in a dead end relationship with a horrible man living in fear of the only thing that NO ONE can change: the forward march of time. No one escapes time.

Being in my mid 40s, I can say that I'm way happier now than I was in my 20s. I had a good time but that doesn't compare to the deep contentment I have now. I feel strong in who I am; I have a home I love and great relationships with my son and my family and my friends; I have built up a career where I feel my talents are utilized and developed every day; I am creatively fulfilled and spiritually inspired. All I could ask for is a more normal social life, but I anticipate that I can work on this when the pandemic has passed.

By contrast, my lowest point was when I "had it all" in my 30s. I had a handsome, seemingly "good guy" partner, a home with him, our son, a career, etc. But after I had a kid with him, that partner basically ignored, neglected and treated me like an unpaid nanny and on-hand vagina provider. All my attempts to "communicate" and go to counseling only led to more friction because I didn't realize yet that none of that works with a covert narcissist. Eventually he was emotionally abusive -- so many horror stories -- and cheated on me. Thank God, because though it was traumatic and awful, it was my wakeup call to leave a horrible emotional situation.

The lesson? Patriarchy will never make women happy. You are asked to sacrifice so much of yourself to fit into the boxes that misogynists have made for women. You have to cut off your voice, your truth, and your inner peace to fit in -- and these are the very foundational things we need for self-actualization.

The sooner you stop trying to twist yourself into a pretzel and making yourself small, the sooner you unlock the most powerful tools to truly achieve your own version of happiness.

Edit: grammar

letsdoityesterday · 2021-03-23T14:55:21+00:00

I don't understand why age would have anything to do with our value? We are not an object, we are all human, and live like other humans.

Do they meant like fertility? because fertility does not defined our value. Woman are not synonym of mother. Some of us never want to be a mother, some of us are born sterile, and some of us can just adopted a child.

And if we do want to consider value, I would argue our value increase over time as we educated ourselves and learn and have more experience over time.

This age/value bullshit is stupid and has not base.

Baekseoulhui · 2021-03-23T15:07:01+00:00

God this is the saddest line of thinking. I ised to believe that if i wasnt married by 21 i was a failure. Its a horrible mentality and it really weights you down. No woman should think her value is in her age, ability to besr children, looks, etc... Everyone is unique in their own way and deserves respect >:(

popsthrowsup · 2021-03-23T15:13:01+00:00

This is reallly sad.. your worth shouldn’t be based on how anyone else but yourself sees you.

There’s been this uptick in woman (millennial women) posting about Gen Z (is thar who’s behind us? Lol). How they aren’t gonna take skinny jeans or side parts away or whatever.

Someone pointed out this is American woman getting scared of aging because in American “culture” your “value” as a woman goes down the older you get

Where as in other cultures older women are celebrated, your wiser, a matriarch whatever

I never thought about it this way but now after reading this I feel like it’s true.

Even if you’re happy and in a relationship, your coworkers may treat you differently. Sort of like in the office how Pam got all bummed out when Erin came in, because now Erin was the new toy to play with

I really don’t now how we change this. Like I do not.

One one hand we should teach our daughters that this isn’t true, but then I see movies where the mother daughter duo are 5yrs apparent. Where the love interest is 20yrs younger than her counterpart.

We have to just change how we see aging, and stop acting like being hot is your own worth.

Look at these dudes balding at 28. You telling me they think their self worths gone down? Nope they see dudes like Lex Luther and Jeff Bezos

just-peepin-at-u · 2021-03-23T13:53:21+00:00

Do y’all think this is really a woman? I do have my doubts to be honest. I mean it could be internalized misogyny, but it also sounds like a man that just hates women and is pretending to be one so they can indirectly “neg” every woman who reads it.

veruscka · 2021-03-23T14:57:08+00:00

This is so toxic and sad.

switchitbitch · 2021-03-23T15:09:22+00:00

The most beautiful woman I have ever met was in her 60’s. She was absolutely gorgeous and had a radiance like a Goddess.

galian84 · 2021-03-23T16:22:35+00:00

It took me over three decades to finally realize that a woman’s youth is NOT everything. Growing up with mostly males in my generation, old school parents plus cultural and societal influences, it was drilled into my head that women were essentially old useless maids if they were still single by 25. I was constantly told to “hurry up and find a good man”.

I wish I had found FDS earlier. I spent so many years chasing loser men, lowering my standards more and more, staying in relationships that were going nowhere, and never taking an actual break from dating, all in the desperate race to find “the One” before I hit “the wall”.

I’m 36 now and it took me this long to realize there is no wall for women, that I am enough, and I sure as hell don’t need a man to “complete me” or make me more of a woman. My boyfriend doesn’t believe it, but if things don’t work out with him, I plan on staying single. Unless I happen to meet a HVM somehow, but its unlikely.

applemartin · 2021-03-23T16:56:47+00:00

This person needs to go outside, read more books, have more real life experiences and talk to more people. This behavior is clearly a symptom of being in an unhealthy online echo chamber for too long.

Zurflu · 2021-03-23T13:35:45+00:00

This mindset started so early for me. As soon as I was 20/21 I started being jealous of high schoolers. Now I'm in my mid 20s and I think I'm finally getting over it. I mean, I have a degree, a job, a dog, and a house... I don't need to be jealous of youth anymore.

OrangeyPanda · 2021-03-23T16:07:16+00:00

Sickening. When women are taught their only worth is being sexualized by men this is what you come up with. Fuck patriarchy.

Apricot_Ibex · 2021-03-23T16:48:44+00:00

It’s amazing (amazingly depressing) what societal brainwashing does to women. Are you fucking kidding me? Past the age of 25? 🤣 This must have been written by a triggered scrote. Men age like milk and any trip to the grocery store can prove that...even celeb males age like shit with a fortune at their disposal to take care of themselves.

If she thinks women stop getting attention at 25 or 30, she can think again. But why does she want the attention of “creepy guys” who want PRETEENS anyway? Again, this sounds like it was written by an incel. No sane woman would want this.

Her parents don’t love her anymore because she’s an adult? Wtf? Sounds like “raised by narcissists” material and that is really sad. They didn’t ”love” her as a child either- sounds like they just wanted a cute prop. If this is real and was even written by a woman (which I seriously doubt), then she has major self esteem issues and is the perfect target for some predatory LVM.

A woman doesn’t “waste her youth” by being happy or single, or by loving herself. She wastes it by getting trapped with an LVM who sucks all the joy out of her life!

mitskiismygf · 2021-03-23T18:59:34+00:00

why would you WANT to date a man who you admit finds PRE-TEENS and teenagers the most attractive.

_queeeen_ · 2021-03-23T20:39:54+00:00

“Normal” guys not being attracted to women their age after 35. Ma’am, that’s a perv. Not a normal man.

berrylikeova · 2021-03-23T16:41:03+00:00

This lady needs a powerful woman therapist

T5ubaki · 2021-03-23T17:54:39+00:00

I think growing old and alone as a woman is awesome! Why? Because there's so much media and societal shit that tells me it's not! Lol somebody (a bunch of men over generations) made sure to make women feel like shit for being alone. They burned us at the stake and called us witches, they call us crazy cat ladies when we have cats, there's just so much bullshit. On the other end, men weren't treated that way and there is no crazy cat man title or anything close to it.

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-03-23T18:51:45+00:00

My ex used to tell me that my worth is only till I turn 25. So I should focus on banging as many guys as I can/ or bag a "good" guy as soon as I can, because after 25, my dating life is over.

Also named a girl over 25, who is a really smart woman and I used to look up to her and thought she was really awesome. He told about her, "do you see her ? Do you think anybody would like her now?"

So fucking disgusting. I'm more ashamed of myself that I believed all that fucking shit.

HlGHFIVE · 2021-03-23T20:51:25+00:00

This is the damage of the male gaze and pornography.

Pornography for men exists everywhere, even outside of porn itself.

I felt this exact same way for so long. When I'm no longer a "fuckable" woman I lose my worth.

It is terrible and traumatizing what we are put through.

Substantial-Win-7612 · 2021-03-23T11:46:51+00:00

My God this is scary, I understand her though, growing old is no fun, but you can take care of yourself, invest in procedures or beauty products, if that is your concern. Technology has really advanced in the anti-aging field. But whoever posted this forgot to take in consideration that even men age, and not so well. I don't see a problem with this, yes I ma not growing younger, but trust me, if he is after you only because you are 20 years old or a teenager, you are dealing with a men that has mental health issues and that does not value women as people, but only as fuckable toys.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-03-23T16:03:38+00:00

Oh my God-- what happens when a woman's mind is invaded by the perspective of evil. To quote scifi author William Gibson,

Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, make sure you're not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.

I agree she needs to self isolate-- from assholes. Starting with her parents. Then rebuild her social sphere from the ground up.

One of the chief tactics of abusers is committing "perspecticide." The problem for women in repairing their perspectives is that doing so requires being even more at odds with men. This is challenging since that was the original implanted fear, the core of "perspecticide."

UnashamedWench · 2021-03-23T18:12:09+00:00

This is 100% a wishful thinking role-play written by a man.

PicklesNBacon · 2021-03-23T19:48:20+00:00

It also doesn’t end at 30. I see people posting as if as soon as they turn 30, their lives are over

GreatOrchidAmbition · 2021-03-23T20:15:13+00:00

don't even post this dumb sh i don't want to see it

2021-03-23T14:30:18+00:00

Oh good God, how has society gotten so lost? How is it people even think and write this about themselves and others??

More reading, writing, and spending time with yourself instead of TV, movies, and "influencer" watching. Makes me sad people (no matter what side of FDS) people even entertain an idea like this.

May I challenge any ridiculous thought like this that ever comes across my mind. I'm just getting started in my amazing life and well beyond this 'age range'. Watch out world!! Here I come!!

Protoetype · 2021-03-23T18:27:39+00:00

The older I get the happier I am. You move into your own power as you age and it's glorious.

Maude2010 · 2021-03-23T19:56:31+00:00

I’m pretty sure a man wrote this. Though I imagine that there are women who feel this way, unfortunately.

Hmtnsw · 2021-03-23T17:37:30+00:00

I glad this was shared because I sometimes feel the same especially when I have a family that continously reminds me that men will view a woman who had never married in her late 20s/30s as a whore and that I will basically won't be taken seriously because I don't have a man.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2021-03-23T22:17:39+00:00

...said no woman ever. Larping much, you red piller? I hope you get that attention you so desperately crave. 🤡

FantasticBlood0 · 2021-03-23T23:24:33+00:00

What. The. Fuck. What the fuck did I just read?

aquietsword · 2021-03-24T00:48:06+00:00

It's a low bar but I'm proud of myself and those of us here that have never thought like this or have stopped thinking like this. I hope she can find someone to help her through.

NoMoreWordsToConquer · 2021-03-24T02:18:22+00:00

This screams troll post... it's way too dramatic (I don't know how to keep on living!) when more women are too preoccupied with real problems, especially after COVID

degnan1214 · 2021-03-23T21:09:46+00:00

Just ask Michelle Pfeiffer if she's useless and if life ended for her when she was 18. Scrotes want us to think we're useless but they'd feel lucky to breathe the same air (only from a distance) as Michelle Pfeiffer.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-03-23T21:11:30+00:00

As a 19 year old, I can only say there is magic in growing older, more expirienced, wiser, smarter. As children, we wanted to grow up and be adults who are allowed to be self-sufficient and now that we ARE adults we should want to never grow older or even wish to be teeny-young again to be appealing to disgusting pedophiles???? And do not get me started around the beauty standards around yourh and age. I already have little spaces of grey hair that is visible with certain hairstyles and I think i will just not color them + wear these hairstyles to show the world to f* off with such stupid expectations.

throwawaynevermindit · 2021-03-26T07:11:00+00:00

It's possible this was written by a man BUT I've heard similar sentiments from other actual-factual young women, if worded somewhat differently. Unfortunate PSA to all the doubters in the audience: you shouldn't underestimate how much red pill/manosphere rhetoric has filtered into general discourse. Some of the shit I hear younger Millenial and Gen Z women say/see them conform to makes it seem like they were raised by 4Chan creepers that time-traveled from 2007 for mass grooming purposes. Things that were considered OTT misogyny to be called out for older Millenials like me are now borderline normal.

I wouldn't recognize it except I went through a phase in my early 20s where I spent a lot of time reading PUA material (and arguing with it in my head). Even seeing how logically and factually flawed it all was, it soaked itself into my brain through sheer exposure and I had to grapple with some similar thoughts/concerns myself at that age as a result.

(I'm early 30s now and spoiler alert: 30s so far are indeed better than 20s, even the wheat to chaff ratio in my dating prospects is more favorable.)

-badmadAM · 2021-03-26T21:39:50+00:00

So even if guys would suddenly stop being interested in me once I hit 20 years old, I am still a human being with my own life ahead of me. Your worth is not dependent on some cumbrains opinion of you, wtf.

Title	Your life does not end at 18 nor your worth as a woman
Author	Gerltofen
Upvotes	689
Comments	194
Date	March 23, 2021 9:15 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mbao6y/your_life_does_not_end_at_18_nor_your_worth_as_a/
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