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[–]emptiness1017FDS Newbie 932 points933 points934 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
“We haven’t made things official”
Translation- I’ve been sleeping with a guy that doesn’t like me and expects me to pay for everything because he doesn’t want to waste money on me while he looks for another woman.
[–]deep_faked_beansFDS Newbie 322 points323 points324 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I don't know why else anyone would split the cost of a coffee, that's just ridiculous.
[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 206 points207 points208 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
My coworkers don’t even split the cost of coffee. It’s a couple bucks. Who ever invited pays.
[–]Dense_CattleFDS Newbie 104 points105 points106 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Right? Never once have my coworkers and I paid each other back for piddly stuff like that. If I'm going through the drive thru coffee shop and I call asking if anyone wants me to pick them up a coffee I buy. And vice versa. Because interpersonal relationships aren't transactional.
[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly! Like, I get that maybe someone is in a financial phase where that’s a burden so they don’t pay. It happens. It’s also a time when maybe you don’t date until that part of life has been shored up and you’re financially stable again.
[–]Guyincognito9876FDS Newbie[S] 353 points354 points355 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Plus she’s cooking for him.
[–]JaelismyhomegirlFDS Newbie 40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. He’s referring to her as a “difficult plate” on a scrote website right now, and getting advice about how to spend as little money as possible so he can collect more “plates”. I guarantee it.
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck.That.Shit
I see it so often. They keep hanging around hoping that one day he'll want what she wants. He won't. Ever.
Same with flakey guys that contact months later. She sees it as maybe he really wants marriage and a family this this time.
He doesn't. He.Only.Wants.Sex
[–]janeaustenfan99FDS Newbie 785 points786 points787 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
If he can’t spend $4 on someone else he has no business dating
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 482 points483 points484 points 5 years ago* (10 children) | Copy Link
Or even ONE FIFTY. Like this isn't frugal, we've hopped skipped and JUMPED into stingy, penny pinching, cheap ass territory
[–]CB4lifeFDS Newbie 75 points76 points77 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Plus he’s perfectly content coming over to her place and eating a dinner she buys and makes for him. She should Venmo him the cost of what he east as soon as he leaves and see how much he likes it. Maybe then when he stops coming over she will realize he doesn’t really care about her.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And the time spent cooking plus shopping*
[–]sashimi_girlFDS Newbie 48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This has Extreme Cheapskates energy
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some ECE 😂
[–]Highteaatmidnight 190 points191 points192 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Meanwhile he's hopped, skipped and jumped onto her couch, expecting her to go through the labour of paying for and preparing his food. Not even a relationship. He just wants her for what she can give.
I'd say bill him for the fucking oxygen he's using in her house, but honestly? Get him the fuck out.
[–]fdssavedmylifeFDS Newbie 85 points86 points87 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly. No one is forcing men to buy anyone dinner, but if they can’t afford that, they should not be dating. What don’t they understand about it? Men think they’re automatically entitled to sex and a relationship regardless of their mental, physical, financial, or emotional state. Get your shit together before trying to get laid, and if you can’t get your shit together, stop whining about not getting laid.
[–]me_ologyFDS Newbie 940 points941 points942 points 5 years ago (51 children) | Copy Link
I don't like how she needs to ask other people if it's a red flag when she already doesn't like the behaviour. Regardless of what anyone else thinks, if you don't like how he's acting, that's a red flag for you.
She just doesn't see her worth because it's like she doesn't know if it's okay for her to be upset over a man treating her like that.
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie 479 points480 points481 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
It might be because of the brainwashing and guilt tripping that women should pay their share because 'equality'
[–]me_ologyFDS Newbie 296 points297 points298 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Oh yeah, that's true. I've been on FDS long enough now that I legit forgot that's what a lot of women feel they need to do.
I feel like this guy's taking it to the next level though. It's not just splitting it 50/50 for equality's sake, he's going out of his way to make sure his share is as low as possible by strategising the grocery shopping, wanting her to cook, do cheap activities and asking her to cover $1 charges. The man's broke.
[–]blueveinnobleFDS Apprentice 25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
He's worse than broke. I've had broke guys try to impress me at least at first, even if it was just a bag of chips (back when I was a teen, cuz I quit broke guys by my early 20s).
This guy is a financial sadist. He probably enjoys exerting "control" over their spending and feeling like he's "the man" because he's making "decisions" for the both of them. Not to throw the N word around loosely, but Ns love to inflict distress in their victims in anyway they can (usually as overcompensatioon for what they lack within).
He may be broke, but he's taking it a step further by projecting his brokenness on this woman. Ultimately, he's pissed at himself, for not being able to contribute financially, yet twistedly "charges" this woman, to feel "superior" anyhow.
Edit: apparently "N" was confused as a racial slur?! Context clues aren't clear? Anyway. I meant Narcissist. I've seen "N" used in "Nex", "Nmom", "Nparents". Not sure why "N" on it's own is a no-no? 🙍♀️
[–]hafdedzebra 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He could just be selfish. It doesn’t require a PhD level analysis. He’s a cheap bastard.
[–]devoid-of-senseFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
N word meaning what I hope it doesn't mean? Or narcissistic? If it means narcissistic I'd advise you to short it with "narc" or it looks like a racial slur. If it's not narcissistic, girl, I'm all in with your points but let's not throw race into things
[–]blueveinnobleFDS Apprentice 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Girl, I would never stoop to using racial slurs. I TOTALLY MEANT NARC (is it not apparent from context?)
[–]devoid-of-senseFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm sorry then 🥰🥰 no problem!!! Honestly I really doubted it, everyone here in FDS rocks!!! Just making sure! Narc is better suited for the internet I think, just an advise. It totally happened to me too once!!
[–]drunkmoonfarmerFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's really sad. So many things in my past I knew were wrong or red flags, but I'd been so brainwashed by society into thinking my needs were me being irrational and my feelings weren't relevant that I was constantly gaslighting myself just like this poor woman. Having this community is a lifesaver.
[–]PasDeToutFDS Newbie 32 points33 points34 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Equality and pettiness are two different things.
[–]candyfox84FDS Newbie 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm certain he's a "but equality" guy.
[–]thinktwiceorelseFDS Newbie 183 points184 points185 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Ikr? A red flag doesn't need a general consensus in order to be considered a red flag.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 305 points306 points307 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
She also gave the "haha" at the end to soften it because in an online space god forbid a woman doesn't soften her language and second guess her dismay
She knows, not that deep down even, that this is ridiculous and he's a taker. Venmos her for 1.50 coffee and expects her to cook for him and shop for him, so labor AND money.
That's a nah from me, sis
[–]veniphylFDS Newbie 80 points81 points82 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that haha bit tells a lot. I hate it so much that she had to do that.
[–]thehappiestelephantFDS Newbie 77 points78 points79 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
But the haha also shows that if someone disagreed that she's worth an actual date, she would likely accept it.
I think a lot of us have been there before, having had our own sense of injustice trampled for so long we believe we can't trust our judgment anymore.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 77 points78 points79 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Probably think she's not being very fIftY-fIftY and EquAl about it even though she's shelling out the labor of shopping, cooking and paying for the ingredients. And he was bold as brass to ask for that in return for literally nothing. HE didn't have a problem being an audacious leech, and she's over here trying not to be too mean and accusatory or fluff it in case some dudebros call her crazy so they can keep the bar in hell
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Adding: you KNOW if the roles were reversed and she 50/50'd him and asked him to work for free for a few hours on her car (and buy the equipment) he'd laugh in her face and insult her. So why does she not see it for what it is? The reverse of that? She should have laughed and said "nah, 50/50"
[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 69 points70 points71 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly? I hope she makes him a super crappy over salted dinner of spaghetti, makes sad puppy eyes if he doesn’t seem to love it, Venmo’s him for half the cost plus an hourly cooking rate based on what In-home chefs make in her city.
THEN dumps him. Exploitative pr|ck. Let him go brag to his buds about his “plates” while he nurses a tummy ache.
[–]eatnthrowtrashawayFDS Newbie 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I read it as she not only cooks for him but splits the grocery bill or buys the groceries which omg what a loser he is I’m getting secondhand embarrassment.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's a word for that in German!
Fremdschämen
The more you know stars and rainbow here
[–]the-lonely-spirit 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I saw the "haha" and thought: "Gotta mask that pain inside sweetie! Ha...ha"
I feel so bad for her...:(
[–]relationship_redditFDS Newbie 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I wish we could make every woman that posts on relationship subs (or just every woman in general) understand this. Too many women think they need the approval of scrotes and pickmes to be bothered by something.
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I believe FDS is doing a great job at getting the word out.
Tiktok also seems to be the platform right now to influence.
Bombard the internet with memes and short videos.
[–]Mella_20FDS Newbie 35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I used to do that. Seeking validation. I didn't understand what boundaries were and I thought I needed "permission" to not tolerate something. Its a horrible state to be in cause not only are people pushing your limits, but you are also allowing it and thinking its okay or that you have no right to expect good treatment.
Also, asking reddit for advice when it comes to stuff like that is a big mistake. They'll gaslight you.
[–]thepsychopathhunterFDS Newbie 149 points150 points151 points 5 years ago* (16 children) | Copy Link
I had a former friend who started going out with this guy from Tinder. He was a successful businessman who lived in a good part of the city. They met up for coffee on the first date. 🚩 She told me (and this was after they’d been dating for months) that they don’t go out or anything for meals although they did occasionally buy groceries and cook together. Even during that time she said their relationship was considered “casual” so they were hooking up without any official relationship or what it seems to be actual dates other than sightseeing stuff in the city. That relationship status seems to have changed as the last I heard she’s now living with him. Pre-FDS the way she described him was a nice guy in personality terms and although the cheapness seemed like a red flag (I’ve always been against cheapness even before FDS - being treated is a must for me) I figured she seemed happy. But now post-FDS I realize what a scam it all is. She probably contributes to rent while doing extra household labor. 🤯 However, she’s one of those pickmes who feels smug and superior to single women and gave off severe “at least I got a man, I pity single women” vibes as soon as she started dating him (it surprised me because she didn’t seem like that before) so she probably doesn’t even know what she’s settling for. I saw her on the street once holding onto her LVM for dear life and giving off that cheery smug look. I think women’s standards are so low in our society that they think the bare minimum of a guy being nice to them is better than nothing. 😣
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 74 points75 points76 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
The smugness still makes me feel bad for them. She doesn't realize how unequal that relationship is and someday his 50/50 bullshit (while she focuses on making his food and cleaning his house and he can focus on his career and make WAY more than her but STILL insists on 50/50) will catch up with her and she'll wonder where it went wrong
[–]thepsychopathhunterFDS Newbie 61 points62 points63 points 5 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
I would normally feel badly for her so I completely agree with you! I think the reason I don’t feel as badly for her in this situation is because she also began acting super catty, arrogant and condescending to me during that time and made me feel awful about being single which is why I never pursued the friendship further.
She only reached out to me months after disappearing from our friendship to brag about how she was looking for apartments with her bf in my area and was in my building (though they ended up choosing a more affordable option).
Pickme tendencies can be damaging and some of the worst pickme women I’ve ever met have been extremely harmful to me almost as worse as the effects of LVM. They either don’t realize or don’t care how their condescending behavior affects their female friends and some even relish in having the superiority status of being in a relationship that society misguidedly assigns them. I will definitely never voluntarily spend time with a pickme female friend again, I’ve been through way too many horrific experiences with them.
[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I agree that it’s damaging. I just want to be super super careful that we don’t shift the blame and our rightful rage over male mistreatment to other women... it’s okay to be fully angry with men for doing these things.
[–]thepsychopathhunterFDS Newbie 35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh I am not shifting the blame. He is definitely at fault for being cheap and low value as I mentioned in my original comment. However, her pickme behavior should also be called out. There are actually a lot of threads on pickme women friends here. So we are allowed to dismantle and challenge these tendencies in female friends as well as single shaming because these tendencies only feed into the system, perpetuate the toxicity and also harm other women (especially the pickme women friends who further gaslight other women about abusive relationships).
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jps8n2/pickme_friends_are_poison_eventhough_you_love/
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fl6sy5/why_pickmeisha_friends_can_be_dangerous/
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mn1l6q/a_great_example_of_how_libfem_pickmes_are/
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/exriwo/storytime_why_you_should_never_settle_out_of_fear/
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ibnnwq/best_friends_who_discard_your_friendship_for_a/
[–]FemclFleshBeckyBonesFDS Disciple 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sis, the opinions of trash value people, whether male or female, should not have such a negative effect on you. If you're not already, see a therapist to work on building healthy self esteem so you know not to let their bullshit bother you anymore.
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[–]FemclFleshBeckyBonesFDS Disciple 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sis... i never said you that your experiences didn't happen to you. And this sub is just as much about tough love and confronting hard to swallow truths as it is support. And i didn't assume about therapy, i qualified what i said with an "if" and followed it up with a suggestion. I find it interesting that you assumed i posted my comment with malice, which I did not. Part of leveling up is becoming emotionally resilient, and learning to choose whom to listen to and how much weight we give to what they say to us. An alternative (arguably more mature and emotionally secure) response to my comment would have been to think "Well that advice doesn't apply to me, I'm just going to keep it moving" and not even bother to reply.
Judging other people's stories is part and parcel of any discussion board that trades in personal experiences. Else we would never offer advice, pick apart libfem nonsense, savage scrotes, or laugh (and cry) over pickme bullshit. The posters here have diverse motives, opinions, and knowledge to share, and not everyone is interested in making FDS a hugbox, nor should it be.
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist 52 points53 points54 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds like projection. She feels worthless without a man, clings to any piece of dirt she finds then puts women who aren't desperate with low self-esteem down. She is better than them now. 🤢
[–]thepsychopathhunterFDS Newbie 26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So true. 💯 Have met several pickme women like this. It’s appalling to experience.
[–]CokeMoochFDS Newbie 48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And bc she settled for that out the gate, he will NEVER make the effort to take her anywhere- why should he? He won her over without doing it, prob thinking she’s a “cool girl” who’s super low-maintenance; meanwhile she’s thinking how awesome SHE is for being so cool- who wouldn’t want to date her? And aren’t they both SO LUCKY that they can connect and have fun without having to spend money- surely this proves that they’re built to last since they can find enjoyable time together in even the MUNDANE!! Lolz they’re so cute and special...she’d be happy in a cardboard box as long as he’s with her!
Yeah, she’s gonna wake up X number of years from now- could be months, but prob years- and wonder why does she feel like such shit abt herself??? What is this....terrible feeling? Much introspection will eventually reveal that it is, indeed, unhappiness and ill-satisfaction with life bc her BF doesn’t even gaf enough to pay for a nice meal on a Friday night; or get her flowers, or candy for Valentine’s Day, or maybe her birthstone for her birthday- or literally in any way, shape, or form show her that he gives a shit through ACTION bc he’s now walking around thinking he’s with someone who “doesn’t care for such material things.” (Which in guy speak covers the entire blanket of affection outside the physical. Also guy math- effort = money; both of which she’s waived forevermore for herself legit on day one, and then will wonder why she’s never treated to this later on).
What a recipe for fkng disaster... Fewer things have damaged us more than the “cool girl” push, I stg. I rly hope I’m wrong for your friend’s sake, but I’ve seen it so many times by now I could put it on a pillow.
[–]thepsychopathhunterFDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great comment on the cool girl low maintenance phenomenon that hurts us all! I think you are 💯 on the mark on how the trajectory is going to go. If it starts out cheap it will only get worse from there.
She’s a former friend, we don’t speak anymore because of the way she began acting all condescending and strange toward me as soon as she got a bf. 😅🤯 I hope for her sake she wakes up early and recognizes her own pickme behaviors someday and treats future female friends with more respect.
[–]millennialpink2000FDS Apprentice 17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup, yup, yup. That smug look will be wiped from her face when she's tossed aside cuz he found his 'dream girl' and isn't needed to warm his bed anymore
[–]Charming-Bee-2337 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like hes using her as a booty call
[–]MiddlingMeFDS Newbie 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a good point. Why is she coming to the internet, when she's clearly unhappy? Women need to listen to their gut more often.
[–]MofoMadameFDS Newbie 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very true statement. Who cares if other men or women find his behavior acceptable, they aren't the ones dating him. We have a right to set our own standards.
[–]Dipthecat 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes exactly! Trust your feelings.
[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She is afraid to walk away sadly, and needs validation to make the decision that she already knows is right for her.
[–]divination__FDS Newbie 239 points240 points241 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
it's amazing how this fear of being seen as petty or a gold digger is so deeply entrenched in women that they permit men to be the pettiest gold diggers.
There's this false idea that men who are generous aren't careful with their money, or that they're meaner than the broke guy with a heart of gold. It's not true at all, not in my experiences or that of my friends. Remember - you give with your heart, not your hand. Being broke is not an excuse to not be generous.
And on the subject of what wealthy men are actually like - one of my friends just got engaged to her HVM who is incredibly clever with money and works in finance - he refuses to buy a new car because he knows its a waste of money, but when proposing he gave her a piece of jewellery that isn't a ring as a symbolic gift, and then told her that he put aside ten grand for her to choose an heirloom ring and an everyday engagement ring. Whenever I spend time with them, he gets the bill for all of us, because that is what polite men do. He is also one of the calmest and gentlest people I know (he wakes up early every day to bring her tea in bed). Don't let them think you can't have it all or that you're better off settling for someone broke or ugly because at least then you won't get abused - there's every chance you will still get abused, but also by some broke or ugly guy. Hold out for someone who ticks all your boxes or be alone, that is better than the indignity of that post. And remember - what happens in the beginning is the marker from where things go downhill. If he won't pay for you on the first date, you will receive absolutely nothing from him.
[–]MixWideFDS Newbie 91 points92 points93 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's literally the whole point.
Men invented the concept of "gold diggers" to obscure the fact that men are the reason women have less money.
Men prevented women from having our own money until within the last century. My mother couldn't have her own credit card or open her own bank account until she was in her 30s. Men deliberately created these systems and brutally enforced them.
Men rely upon unpaid labor from women to run every segment of society. Men created and maintain a system that literally cannot function without exploitation of women.
Men have engineered heterosexual relationships to be entirely framed around women serving men without reciprocation. They have been so successful that married women have poorer health outcomes, die sooner, and consistently report being less happy than single women, while the exact reverse is true for men. Married women have worse career trajectories and lower earning potential, while married men make more money and are more likely to be promoted. In every measurable area, hetero relationships profit men at the expense of women.
TL;DR: The concept of "gold diggers" is a patriarchal reversal.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 66 points67 points68 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men threw that label all over every woman indiscriminately back when women were expected to WFH and wanted to be with a man that could provide the most for their family, then reverse uno'd us and did the gold digging while gaslighting the hell of anyone who suggests otherwise
[–]Big-Paleontologist13FDS Newbie 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He sounds really wonderful ❤️
[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love this. Great description of a HVM relationship with a woman he loves.
[–]nonchalant77FDS Newbie 76 points77 points78 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She needs a FDS SWAT Team to bust down her door and rescue her from this fog she is in.
[–]shmarharFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
for some reason I just had a very vivid mental image of Shania Twain leading the SWAT team - "Let's go girls,"
[–]nonchalant77FDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LOL yeah! In big thigh-high shiny patent boots. Kick in that door and save the girl from her pickmesha ways!
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[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 64 points65 points66 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lmfao this is basically what I read. Poor girl already knows this is not acceptable and is basically second guessing herself for fear some asshats call her crazy
[–]randowordgeneratorFDS Newbie 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Someone who supposedly likes you gives you shit and you feel bad for expecting basic courtesy??!!!111!
[–]CuntWaffeFDS Newbie 197 points198 points199 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Uh. This is just embarrassing. Also, I'll be damned if someone came into my house and dictated how things were going to go. Pay my bills and I'll make you a meal.
[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple 26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I bet he also has no problem using her electricity and water when he stays over without paying a dime.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 39 points40 points41 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
100000000000%
[–]privacy_is_cool 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even if he did paid your bills, he’d better acknowledge that your making a meal for him =/= pseudo-mommy and “domestic slave that lives in the house he pays for”
Ladies, please kick any man who puts so even as a toe past your boundaries to the curb! Then kick him off that too.
[–]islandmaidenFDS Newbie 290 points291 points292 points 5 years ago* (16 children) | Copy Link
He's on TRP, most probably. Everytime I read about a man being stingy down to the last coin, I just know he's on TRP. This is one of their tactics: never spend money on a woman. Always 50/50. Get out of there fast. No one deserves to be in a relationship with a selfish person.
ETA: For people who are not familiar with TRP, it's the acronym for The Red Pill. You can look up articles, and there's a subreddit but it's now quarantined.
[–]PinkBlair99FDS Newbie 102 points103 points104 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I had an ex who was like this in 2002. It was cultural + family + awful personality. I stayed with him four years.
RUN.
[–]rightioushippie 58 points59 points60 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
2005 girl! Being cheap was first. Being a psycho manipulative cheater came next.
[–]MuffcakelordFDS Disciple 111 points112 points113 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask these men to do the menses for you 6 out of 12 months, and do 50% of the pregnancy, and buy 50% of your self-care stuff, and-
[–]questionsaboutrel521FDS Apprentice 52 points53 points54 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
To me, even in FRIEND relationships sometimes and definitely in dating, even before FDS I think the inability to treat someone shows a lot about a person’s character. My boyfriend and I were literally always one check. Whether we were out with friends, on solo dates, and even when I occasionally treat him (he’s always ready with the card though). We’re TOGETHER. It just makes sense. We have had 0 conversations about this, it has always been “we will take that together.” That’s what partnership is?!?! I don’t know, the bar is on the floor.
[–]Dexaroo5716FDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The bar is in hell
[–]blonde_loser 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What is TRP? Sorry - new here!
[–]islandmaidenFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's acronym for "The Red Pill". They have a subreddit--you can look them up--although they're quarantined. I don't know how to explain it all but here's an article.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 39 points40 points41 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What is TRP?
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie 81 points82 points83 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Red pill, incel shit
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 32 points33 points34 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OHHH. Yikes.
[–]stankleykongFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Idk know what that is either
[–]IgetUsernameScrapsFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That article paints red pillers as hopeless romantics. 😒
[–]islandmaidenFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ahh really? I didn't read it, just skimmed it and the keywords are there so I thought it got it right enough. I'll read it and see, then I'll edit it for a more truthful article. Thank you.
[–]CrownFlameFDS Newbie 54 points55 points56 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is my first comment here and although I'm not OP, I'm so ashamed to admit that I have been in this same exact position. Not sure where I learned it from because my dad is an incredibly generous provider and a kind person in general. Everything OP says here, between thinking that "making an effort" requires tolerating this, to the "haha" when she says she doesn't feel worthy of being taken out to a nice meal, and grocery shopping for both of them and cooking the meal. I have done *all* of these things and it sucks so bad. I'm guessing OP wants to be nice and struggles to be assertive, but the resentment she's stifling is growing and she finally can't ignore it. It's hard when you have 90% of reddit conditioning us to think we should always go dutch. I hope OP finds FDS and we can undo this way of thinking and find the HVM we want and deserve.
[–]aoi4egFDS Newbie 61 points62 points63 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I dated a guy like this. But only it started normally, with him insisting on paying on dates (I always get my wallet out, but if men say "I got his" I don't insist).
Gradually it became more and more frugal, and with him living with his aunt, our dates turned into endless walks in parks or going "picnicking" with him bringing a blanket and nothing more (he explained it with "there are no toilets nearby so it's better not to consume anything just in case").
The relationship ended really funny tho. On one particularly cold evening we were walking and I suggested having some coffee or tea. He said, "Well if you really want to waste money and can't endure till you get home, go get some, I'll wait here". I misheard the last part and went into the coffee place, turned around and saw him literally standing outside with a grumpy face. Went back and said that I don't want it to go, cuz it'll get cold very fast. He said "No problem, sit and drink it there, I'll wait here" and proceeded to stand outside.
I ordered a coffee, called an Uber, jumped in and blocked that guy on my way home.
No, nothing wrong with being reasonably frugal, I never buy Starbucks, for example, but it's kinda not okay to act like a total jerk.
Now, after writing this story, I realised there were red flags before, the biggest one when we met somewhere to meet his friends and everybody got food and he just sat here looking how we ate, rejecting any offers from us either to share or to buy him something.
[–]no_pwnameFDS Newbie 26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That last part is one of my biggest pet peeves and it's only happened with guys. I refuse to hang out with someone who doesn't order anything. It's so weird and awkward to me. I would rather they stayed home just don't bother. Broke or cheap scrotes usually do this.
[–]BlindtothesidedFDS Newbie 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When I was 17 I went on a date with a boy who was considered to be one of the cutest guys at a neighboring hs. I was so excited and felt so lucky bc every girl I knew had a crush on him and I couldn't believe he'd "picked me".
So the date: he took me to Taco Bell, waited until I'd already ordered to say he didn't want anything, then sat and watched me eat, before rounding out the night taking me to our hs football game After halftime so we'd get in free. At the end of the night he got pissed when I wouldn't hook up with him "after such a great date".
Twenty-three years later, I still consider it the worst first date I've ever had. It was my first experience with a guy who felt that because he was in such "high demand" it wasn't necessary to put forth even an ounce of effort.
[–]AlextheAnalystFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hate this too! What are you doing in a building that literally only exists for you to eat in, if you're not going to eat? Makes no sense.
[–]aoi4egFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't mind being the only one who's eating if I'm hungry and it was my idea to get food in the first place. But when a guy specifically asks you out and brings you to a restaurant and then sits with an empty plate — that's the whole another level of weirdness.
And very much yes about broke or cheap scrotes. I went on a date with a guy from Tinder and he was 20 minutes late. Afterwards, he asked for "feedback" lol. I wrote that it was okay, but him being late without a warning or an apology was quite a bummer. He sent a bunch of laughing emojis and wrote that he's always late for first dates because he chooses places where you need to pay for food first, so he makes sure that women order theirs and won't be waiting for him to pay.
[–]EveSerpentFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why did he want to stand outside in the cold by himself? What am I missing?
[–]aoi4egFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He wanted to "teach me a lesson" apparently, by making me uncomfortable for a desire to drink coffee, since he deemed such things as a useless waste of money.
Well, jokes on him, cuz I have a big dog and quite immune to someone standing nearby and "shaming" silently for not sharing human food :D
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple 47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I bet there are many scrotes in the comments justifying this behavior and defending him. If a man is not willing to spend some money to court you now, he won't do it later and he'll be selfish on other areas of his life. It will be a nightmare to be with such person down the line if things get more serious.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
When he gets comfortable, he'll start asking for you to do more in the house, pay more for the bills because he "just couldn't afford it" (he earned the money and penny pinches but just didn't spend any on YOU)
No thx
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
In same cases he isn't even broke. I know of some men who do this and they make good money. They just save everything for them or spend in things for them (cars and videogames for example).
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well how else would they get married and then at the divorce claim that the woman who put in most of the effort and unpaid labor and even took on extra non- 50-50 expenses was a gold digging harpy for then asking for half?
[–]depressed_aesthetic 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly! No time until he says he's broke and that you need to help him out because he's going through a rough time and you should be understanding and all the usual gaslight.
[–]luxurypinkvirgoFDS Newbie 193 points194 points195 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is repulsive 🤮
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist 41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She is definitely one of his plates. No commitment but he gets to have sex with her, she's making meals for him and he's making her pay for half of everything when he probably eats more. What a waste of time.
[–]_HEDONISM_BOTFDS STRATEGY COACH 38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She’s a pickme and this is what you get when you erase all standards in order to get picked
[–]AlextheAnalystFDS Newbie 248 points249 points250 points 5 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
TRASH. Is he going to deny you or your sick child medical attention because it's too expensive? Is he going to refuse to drive you to visit your elderly parents because of the cost of gas?
Yes, yes he is.
🚮
[–]jupitaur9FDS Newbie 116 points117 points118 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
“It’s your baby, you’re the one who wanted it, you can pay for the diapers and clothing and furniture and formula.”
[–]DallasM19FDS Newbie 35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I have a girlfriend who has a boyfriend who treats her this way. She works so hard (three jobs) and does all the cleaning. He has one job and sits around. He doesn't even parent her. When my friend has something to do,she drops her daughter off with her mom. His parents don't help at all either.
[–]jupitaur9FDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is so sad for her and the baby, who will learn this is the way dads treat moms.
[–]ivarteefiesFDS Newbie 77 points78 points79 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Not a sick child story, but in high school I had a retail job. One lady co-worker had to wear bleach ruined black pants with her uniform. She was married to an accountant. Only had one pair. He wouldn't let her buy another because it wasn't in the budget.
[–]AlextheAnalystFDS Newbie 40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is horrible. Way to humiliate your wife to save a buck or two.
[–]TerryCrewsNextWifeFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wtf. I don't feel so bad now about the idiot I briefly dated who unprompted told me he wouldn't ever take me out for dinner etc (as he was extremely frugal, something about being homeless briefly).
What an absolutely overcontrolling douche canoe. There's a huge difference between having that kind of limitations on your own purchases and that of another person's.
Budgets also include allowances for clothing and "emergencies".
[–]privacy_is_cool 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s great that scrotes always tell on themselves. What an immature idiot 🙄
I don’t get it. If you can’t afford it/refuse to afford it, don’t date!!! You crusty men out there need to fuck off with your unkempt body and black-goopy fingernails!
It’s worse that your idiot was controlling too, op. Where is the delusional confidence coming from?
[–]CandidKickFDS Newbie 87 points88 points89 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Girl, there are so many other options out there. Why settle for a guy like this. He wants to split cost but still expect you to make dinner? Makes no sense. Life is too short to deal with a guy who takes takes takes.
[–]randowordgeneratorFDS Newbie 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
totes red pill shit
[–]Little-bit_FDS Newbie 80 points81 points82 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Poor woman. How ever did she find this guy appealing for so long?
[–]RabidWenchFDS Disciple 118 points119 points120 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
How did she get that first Venmo request for 4 fucking dollars and think to herself "this is okay..."???? I would text him to go fuck himself, it's free.
[–]Little-bit_FDS Newbie 30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Well yeah... and that! Haha! I mean I would have barfed the first sign of this type of behaviour. Most of our sisters just don’t have the right type of influences unfortunately. She sounds desperate to have a boyfriend.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Honestly it's worth the $4 to know he's not worth wasting time and effort on, but then she KEPT GOING
[–]Little-bit_FDS Newbie 31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Agreed. The worst part for me is she is asking for advice on WHETHER to keep going: she is that clueless. What kind of an environment does she come from? How do we get our people out of that and to stop thinking like this?
[–]Kasdeyalupa 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Financial abuse needs awareness and education
[–]RabidWenchFDS Disciple 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This stuff blows my mind. Every. Time.
If someone is asking strangers for life advice, they know the answer and don't want to face it.
[–]randowordgeneratorFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She is not clueless. She grew up in the same environment we all did. I think it's a little unfair to dump on her. We have all been taught not to put ourselves first. It's a good thing to get some affirmation that she's not crazy.
[–]Little-bit_FDS Newbie 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wasn’t dumping on her. That’s what I mean, our surroundings teach us. It’s a sad situation because most sisters think like this. This is what she has been taught. I’m glad she is able to see something is around but I do think it’s desperately sad at the same time that she needs to check.
[–]HappyNovelFDS Newbie 77 points78 points79 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I buy homeless strangers food and this guy can’t even get her a slice of pizza.
Holy shit.
[–]instantsilverFDS Newbie 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I dated a broker loser like this a long time ago. He'd spend all his money on skateboard shit and alcohol, never wanted to go out to eat because it was too expensive, and even when he did take me out there was a spending limit. I once ordered a beer and he flipped out saying he didn't have enough money and to just share his. But of course he had no problem tagging along when I went out to eat and ate 3/4 of the food I paid for!
[–]BananaSlugGhostFDS Newbie 30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Being this “frugal” is a hyper defensive overreaction from a man who isn’t tending to his past wounds. He expects the worst of everyone so he plans ahead for it. This shows he won’t be able to give the full faith and effort needed to sustain a relationship, where partners have to take turns giving their all to each other. Pass.
[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Can you make this into its own post? This is a really perceptive observation and warrants further discussion.
[–]BananaSlugGhostFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Done
[–]shmarharFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even pre FDS I always got a weird vibe from men that didn't pay or made an issue of it. Like I could sense the resentment simmering underneath. Surprise surprise, they never made it past date 1 or 2 with me, even with some of the Pickmeisha-esque tendencies I hadn't gotten rid of yet
[–]greeneyesrosylipsFDS Newbie 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"We haven't made things official" "My partner" Uh... 😐
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[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 67 points68 points69 points 5 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
I thought you were gonna say "this was the only incident I witnessed because she dumped his ass" but still very satisfying! So has your friend talked to you about this before?
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[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So it wasn't even related to the cheapness! Goes to show if there's one bright red flag there are bound to be more.
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[–]BlindtothesidedFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The mental gymnastics of both sets of parents blaming YOU for this dude's shitty behavior 🤯
[–]XRozeFDS Newbie 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
wow this is a brilliant trick and makes me wonder about some jealous exes i've had. i only had 1 that admitted to logging into my FB and getting upset by a convo i had w/ a male friend many years ago.
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[–]XRozeFDS Newbie 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Wow this is suuuuuuch a good trick and honestly deserves its own post! More women need to know. I’m sure women have been beaten or killed bc of their garbage men creeping onto their socials and reading their private messages.
[–]BlindtothesidedFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Right?? I want to know everything about how to check this bc I've had some suspicions of my own about my ex logging into my account.
[–]XRozeFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
It’s usually under the security feature. You can check Gmail, Twitter, Hulu, Amazon and a lot of other stuff the same way! My fave part of dumping my last ex was changing my pass to everything and kicking his computer/TV off all my paid services 😂
[–]BlindtothesidedFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Very nice! Thank you!! I was wondering how to kick him off my Amazon account! 😂
[–]XRozeFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
np!! the joy i got from removing his tv from my prime video exceeded any joy he gave me during our relationship lolz
[–]stankleykongFDS Newbie 37 points38 points39 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
These types of people need to be embarrassed lol you did the right thing
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie 26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Omg what did u say to him sis, story time!
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie 22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ah just reminds us we know nothing abt most relationships, and that was disgusting indeed. who tf WHO TF Asks for 2 euros back for soda
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
On the original thread found this gem in the downvotes.
Ladies, please roast the scrote for my joy: I didn't get into it on the post because no use arguing with a lost cause. For your righteous feminist anger:
"Funny how everyone is calling him cheap, broke etc. always the guys fault right? Sounds like toxic femininity, but unless it’s toxic masculinity. No one will call you out on it. Ya want equality etc, but yet the guy still has to pay. But ya always want same working position at jobs, but guy still pay right? Hey you do you. If he’s not the one move on, but next time ya get drafted for war don’t cry about inequality or expect a man to get into physical altercations to “protect” you. Ya ladies seem to have this whole society thing figured out. And people wonder why men aren’t dating anymore. Ya ask for the world and expect more while the guys just get kicked around called a bum, cheap, broke. But if we call ya fat it’s game over for us. ✌️"
Begin!
[–]Geocities_SEO_ExpertFDS STRATEGY COACH 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men under age 63 still want credit for the Vietnam war-era draft.
There is no sacrifice or good deed one man can do that a greedy, lazy scrote won't steal as a justification to be a leach on society.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Excellent point. I wanted to ask him how the dude only paying 50/50 and expecting free labor and meals and timr spent is toxic femininity and not masculinity, and if he would call it toxic masculinity if she did that to him XD
[–]BlindtothesidedFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ya ladies
The new milady
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But somehow stupider
I'll do one:
That's an awful lot of words for "no one will touch my peepee but me :("
[–]burritogirl101FDS Newbie 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'd laugh my fucking ass off if a guy tried to charge me 1.50 for a coffee date. This busted ass scrote really thinks he did something 😂
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Reverse uno him and send him a venmo for (current salary rate x hours spent being his emotional labor, cleaning, cooking, favors that went unreturned, unrequited foreplay or sexual acts). Then block and delete.
[–]SnooPickles4103FDS Newbie 15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Please send this thread to her
[–]Cel_GabeFDS Newbie 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trust me, she's seeing it.
[–]lolmemberberriesFDS Newbie 15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He's not frugal. He's a score keeping leach.
[–]YellowsunflowerloverFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ewww this scrote has become her child, honestly. He's complete dead weight. Does he even have a home/job? She needs to block and delete.
[–]Cel_GabeFDS Newbie 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why is she calling him her partner, but they haven't made things official?
[–]RadenoughyetFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is what I don’t understand about men- particularly men on OLD and dating threads in Reddit. Most women have choices when it comes to OLD. They have men saying “I want to take you to this great restaurant”. They only have time to say yes to maybe few a week at the most, probably fewer. So why would they say yes to someone texting them saying “you plan the date, but we have to split the bill”? Men on Reddit get so salty when you explain why they should foot the bill. But then they don’t understand why they’re not getting dates. They truly believe they don’t need to bring anything to the table other than just being men.
[–]freelancepsychicFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was a pick me when I was insecure and unhappy with myself, and was also very vulnerable and naive. When you don't respect yourself, you place value on other people. It's just complete self-sabotage. I can empathize with her because I can relate in some ways, but even then, she should know it's bad. The fact that she's asking for confirmation just means she's full of self-doubt and lacks confidence. She may be brainwashed at this point. I've been manipulated and abused in the past and before I started working through that, I was really susceptible to being manipulated. To me it sounds like she's being manipulated because a mentally well person would be able to see how bad it is.
[–]RadenoughyetFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly. Someone needs to tell her about FDS
[–]freelancepsychicFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's really sad because abuse really changes the way your brain behaves. It messes with your short term memory, which just makes it easier for someone to be manipulated.
I've learned all I can and have had a lot of therapy but I'm still very overly trusting and naive at times. That's actually one of the reasons I quit drinking! The more in control I am, the less I find myself in "unsavory" situations
[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some scrote is getting super triggered in this post and frantically downvoting all the comments, lmaooo.
[–]Middle_Finger_6772Throwaway Account 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I truly don't understand this! Why is it so hard for some men to spend a couple of bucks on the person they're dating (let alone their partner). They have literally nothing else going on in their lives that would need that kind of money. There's dudes out there who don't have anything saved up and don't plan on saving up anytime soon so the most they're spending is on video games and maybe some other toys because let's be real - these are not men who have other hobbies or are used to going out with their friends and spending some money. They obviously don't spend it on clothing or grooming, and they most likely are not making lavish meals every night which would request a lot of money. Where does the money go?
If they were saving up to buy something major like a car or a property, then I'd suggest not dating for a while or cutting back on the saving so you can treat your girlfriend properly. Simple as that!
Do they not care about their girlfriends? I can't fathom a relationship where I didn't want to make my partner they happiest they could possibly be. I can't imagine being a man who wouldn't want to go out with their girlfriend, take her to nice restaurants, go to events and give her nice gifts. I can't wrap my brain around it.
I literally can't fathom not taking pride in treating my girlfriend like she's precious. All of this boils down to hatred of women and not seeing them as human beings.
[–]Charming-Bee-2337 22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do they not care about their girlfriends?
No, they dont. Thats why FDS doesnt do 50/50 or anything like this. It shows the guy doesnt really care about you.
[–]mostlymayaFDS Newbie 16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most of these guys have already borrowed money for stuff they can't afford and have loans to pay.
They want to look like they have status before they actually do.
As a mid-40s woman, I'm not thinking about the $4 for long. I'm looking at the bigger picture. How much debt does he have. How long does he expect me to stay on the hamster wheel of work/save to pay off his debt? Does he plan to work into his late 70s to pay it all off? What kind of guy keeps borrowing money for things he obviously can't afford?
[–]burpleseaurchinPickmeisha™️ 43 points44 points45 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Their money goes to laziness and vices. Lots of food delivery, porn/onlyfans, etc. 🤮
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And vidja games
[–]Kasdeyalupa 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Crystal meth
[–]R_U_PennybagsFDS Newbie 27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How sad that she had to end a valid statement of “Like the fact that we can’t go out and have a nice meal makes me feel like I’m not even worth that“ with a “haha” says everything. Sis, don’t add the “haha” it’s not funny and you already know he doesn’t value you when you are now his personal chef... otherwise he will “charge you” for a damn pizza... A PIZZA!!
There’s a big thread on dating over 40 where they are talking about who pays on a first date. Literally every woman on there is talking about how they pay or split it. I date older men because by that point in life they should be established enough to cover a meal and I’m also hoping for old school manner and values. These “liberated” pick me’s are literally setting themselves up for relationships (I use that term loosely) like this and then get on these forums asking for advice. Sis he showed you who he was out of the gate! You ignored it!
[–]womandatory 22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This woman is legit dating my ex.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And mine. We must have the same one
[–]womandatory 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So much antimatter. I look forward to an evacuate button.
[–]_moonessFDS Newbie 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I don’t even wanna know what the comments were saying
[–]BbqchilifriesFDS Newbie 50 points51 points52 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Most were telling her to leave him, even the guys.. Frugal people were calling him cheap.
There was one dude that was like well are you willing to pay for him? It has to go both ways, but I think he was like 12.
One claimed this was toxic feminity but it's because he's very broke and salty he can't afford to get a bangmaid.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sure, and it's toxic masculinity to expect the woman buys and makes you food for free.
Almost like they're ignoring the entire point of the post because it hurts their fee-fees when women call them out on their bullshit
[–]_moonessFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh jeeeez hahah, thanks for the play by play lol
[–]BbqchilifriesFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
/u/kasdeyalupa
"I don't even want to know" can be colloquial for 'I can only Imagine how bad the commentary is'. It's a very nuanced turn of phrase. It can also mean that 'I don't want to even look because it must be so cringy.'
So I responded with a summary version lite, something that I would appreciate myself if someone had done for me. If i was mistaken and that was disrespecting their boundaries, then I expect the person would have let me know. Sometimes people aren't being literal, just very expressive, but understandably that it's hard to distinguish it through text. That's why people often give each other more leniency in terms of things like that online.
Boundaries are my life's passion. Teaching people about boundaries as well. I've given entire presentations on it.
Have a nice day.
[–]1Here4BachFDS STRATEGY COACH 19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
The odds of him having a wife who shares his bank account are high. He doesn't want to make big purchases or be seen with her in restaurants because he doesn't want to make his wife suspicious makes excuses as to why they should eat at her house or go play a very platonic, non-romantic sport like tennis just in case someone catches him he could say he just playing a friendly game of tennis with a friend.
That is the only logical explanation for this level of frugality.
[–]shmarharFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
shooot I didn't even think of that 👀
why are all these games and deception what they decide to put effort into???
[–]aliceinlondonFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
What do some of the comments say?
[–]HappyNovelFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Search “frugal as f” in the Reddit search bar. It’s on a dating advice sub.
[–]aliceinlondonFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
thanks :) most of the comments aren't too bad! Although one guy reckons that the check should always be split because "nice suits cost 1500 dollars, and nice shoes cost 300 dollars".
[–]HappyNovelFDS Newbie 31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
99% of men don’t dress like that. Also, he doesn’t know shit about suits if he thinks a decent one costs that much. Told on himself. 🤷🏻♀️
[–]aliceinlondonFDS Newbie 18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've asked him if he owns a lot of those suits then. No response yet.
[–]HappyNovelFDS Newbie 20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We both know he only has one suit. And it’s a sad, JC Penny, ill-fitting suit he got for a funeral years ago. And he wears it over and over again to job interviews and weddings.
[–]shelballamaFDS Newbie 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OK but what about my nice dress? My nice shoes? The weeks of my life spent learning makeup, growing out and taking care of my hair with special, expensive product, my skin, learning to be emotionally competent? That is more than 1800 dollars.
Also fuck that guy, show me the man who comes fully suited up for a date and doesn't just try to shoot for cOfFeE MaYbE
[–]WestAtmosphereFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yikes, if a guy asked me out and asked me to split the bill he'd definitely never be seeing me again. You know it's real bad out here if he's asking to split on a coffee date, and just a peak into your future with him. Probably the same guy who doesn't believe in engagement rings or having a wedding.
[–]ijustcantwithitFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girl... I’m a princess... I don’t offer to pay for dates. Not until the second one or unless we decide to do something lavish and I helped pick it out. After a time it’s my belief that the person who picks the dates should pay but I’ve not had many dates that would let me. In fact my ex (he’s sharing custody of my dog right now) still pays for her day care and takes her places and buys her things even though he knows it’s temporary. I am and will always be spoiled. Trying to force things to be split like groceries before a meal when you don’t even live together is not good and a red flag. I don’t like it.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would like to go out for coffee with the guy I like and not be Venmo'ed $1.50. Is that too much to ask?
Is this what modern dating has come to be?? WHAT. THE. ABSOLUTE. F**K.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not only is this guy cheap as fuck, he's exploitative, too, expecting to stay at her place and have her cook for him.
He wants to split everything 50-50? OK then. She needs to pro-rate the rent/mortgage and charge him his share when he stays at her place. Is this dude using her utilities/ taking a shower when he stays over? Again, another pro-rated water and electric charge.
She needs to charge him for her services cooking the meal as well as gas and electric costs used it its preparation.
I can be as petty as hell with men like this.
[–]ComputerCat86 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why is this guy even dating if he clearly can’t afford to? She needs to get rid of him yesterday
[–]MsXxSelfDestructxXFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How did he even get past the first date and they are considered to be dating "months later?" The behavior bothered her from the first date and now it is escalating. Is this what happens when women don't set firm boundaries on the first date? I have so many questions for the OP.
Only because this gives me flashbacks to a lot of the BS my family has tried to instill in me about dating as a single woman. My mom is a life long pick me and would often say how "if she wants a boyfriend she better learn to cook, clean, etc". Coming from a hispanic family, a woman dating or having a boyfriend is always a matter of "how much BS I will have to put up with" to keep a boyfriend.
[–]ekkokekekkoFDS Newbie 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
...I briefly dated a guy like this and because a couple of my pickme friends thought he was a good guy, I put up with his chronic cheapness. I am objectively 10000% hotter than him (and fell for the "nice guys will treat you better" bullshit). When I broke up with him I was side eyeing my friends like, "You guys actually thought this cheap fat sad sack loser was good enough for me?"
Funny enough one of our mutual acquaintances who is NOT a pickme looked at me like I'd lost my mind when she found out we were dating. We were on a group outing (pre COVID) and I heard her whisper to someone, "She's still seeing him??" It hurt at the time, but looking back, she's a genuine friend.
Every time I think about this guy I first 🤢🤮, then ask myself aloud, "Have you forgiven yourself for all the trash you've dated?"
Feeling nauseated by my past relationships = growth, lol. I'm happily single now and never settling again.
[–]Independent_User 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Get out. He’s trying to impress you at this point. Just think about down the road, when he’s not trying as hard. Just imagine how cheap he will be then!!
[–]throwawayaway388FDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Babe is absolutely swimming in red flags 💀
[–]RadenoughyetFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Does he even have a job?!
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is repulsive. I would have been done with him the first date. My aunt married a guy who made her buy her own toilet paper. He didn’t let her have a car so she bicycled into town for stuff. She divorced his ass and married his best friend who set her up with a great life. Had his kids, got to travel the world with him. She’s a millionaire now and they’ve been married for 40 years, she became a professor in her later years just for fun, she didn’t need the money. Fuck these cheap ass men, why? Why on earth would you accept this treatment??
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[–]WestAtmosphereFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gosh the thought that she slept with him for free w/o any sort of commitment from him. I really hope a member here sent her the link to this sub.
[–]dewiaung01 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The bar for men is on the floor lol
[–]Guuurrrl_okeehayFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Please dont tell me this was on RedPillWoman.
Hahaha if anyone request that I venmo $1.50 I would left that on read.
[–]CroneRaisedMaidenFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d Venmo him the cost of water, percentage of electricity used, amount of natural gas consumed etc. he wants to play cheap? Let’s see how good his math skills are buddy, come to my house and run my bills up, nah. You want cooked for? Lmfao him doing dishes doesn’t make up for that nonsense boy bye 🙋🏻♀️
[–]karabnpFDS Newbie 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hate cheapskates.
Ladies, NEVER date cheapskate, stingy males!!🤢🤮
I watched that show a while ago, Extreme Cheapskates, and never has a show given me such annoyance and anxiety.
[–]randowordgeneratorFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
runs screaming out of the room
If a man isn't adding value to your life, then he is taking yours.
[–]fairywakesFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girl..I just..I am sad for her. She is worth it and it is not too much to ask. Rule 273.) no broke dusties
[–]AdventurousEmu9420 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a boyfriend send me an itemized invoice for every date, literally down to the penny, after 2 months of dating during a fight.
[–]Hoarse_GirlFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Frankly I question whether this man even pays rent somewhere
[–]Davina33FDS Disciple 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He doesn't even deserve a sniff of a woman, let alone a date. Pathetic.
[–]lessadessaFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow, he really won the lottery didn’t he. He’s getting laid, being cooked for and getting paid for it too. Don’t do wifey shit for a fuckboy!!!!
[–]agonyandhopeFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I hate this trend where people say something serious and finish with a haha or a lmao. Just say what you want to say in the clearest way possible. It is better that your point is misunderstood as rude than as not important
[–]BasieSkanksRuthless Strategist 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Women tend to do this a lot. It's called kneecapping your sentences, and it lessens the impact of what you are saying substantially.
[–]agonyandhopeFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I did not know it even had a name.
[–]assdistroyerFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What a stingy cheapstake dusty LVM and what a poor pickmeisha :(
[–]ZurfluFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Is it normal for a guy to not want to put a label on things but comes over all the time for free food and sex?" Yes. Yes that is what they all want. You're not supposed to indulge it 🤯
[–]partypancakesbaconFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People invest when they see potential. They invest time, emotion, money, and hope it builds to lots of returns. If they don’t see potential, they’ll consider every act a loss every time. He’s showing her how much (how little) he values her.
[–]LeyMioFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It is concerning that she even felt the need to ask this question on a forum... That guy literally treated her like a free prostitute who was stupid enough to stay with him for months.
[–]TheboredshrimpFDS Apprentice 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I felt the pain in that "haha"
[–]CloudRosesFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Someone needs to go recruit her.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dating someone who won't even spend 1.50 on her is just not on, especially if she's been cooking him meals. There are two possibilities - either he's that broke, which is a red flag in itself or he's not broke and has no idea of the give-take of a relationship, which is arguably worse.
[–]donttextme_kFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not even my friends will bill me $4 for a pizza we shared ☠️
[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oooh, someone’s getting a bag of popped popcorn that sis snitched from the work break room!!
Him: popcorn again?
Her: it’s free.
Him: I don’t like popcorn.
Her: I don’t like spending money. Isn’t it amazing how much we have in common? Hey, do you want a lemonade cup with your pops? Costco had these little samples...
[–]localgirlcultFDS Apprentice 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Love the painful "haha" in the post. So awkward. 'He doesn't think I'm worth anything haha!' I hope she runs far.
[–]BoxingChoirgalFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's questions (?!?!) like this that make me weep for the younger generations. If my daughter came to me with this situation I would shake her by her dumbass shoulders. And if that shitheel she had been catering to was anywhere within reach I would slap him silly.
What the hell is going on?
The bar has sunk so low you'd have to go spelunking to find it!!! ... While you're at it how about dredging up your self-esteem from the abyss?
FFS, Men are Dogs. Get it through your head. They must be managed.
In fact they like to be managed. Lots of rewards for good behaviour. Zero tolerance for fuckery.
And if that's too much work (which is understandable), then enjoy your life, friends, family and your own company. The work of being with a man only pays off if he is of high value and you consistently maintain your own sense of high value.
Even a Good dog will develop bad habits if you let it.(not that this guy is anything but a stray mutt)
How about this: Take a look at your own finances and set aside enough to take yourself out to a beautiful dinner or brunch once every few weeks or so. He's not invited.
[–]BlindtothesidedFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even a Good dog will develop bad habits if you let it.
This is so fucking true.
[–]Chemical-Source-9600FDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so sad. I want better for her but she had fleshy it too. That comes with growth so hopefully one day she realizes her worth and cuts this leech off
[–]circescircusRuthless Strategist 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is sooo sad.
[–]GabbaG0ulFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg, I just can’t. They’ve been seeing each other for months?!?!? How?!?!? How was it not over at $4 for pizza? I guarantee she is sleeping with him, too. Girl, why?!?
[–]Eva4ever28FDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OMG 🤮 hahaha
[–]Human_Summer_1709FDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, at least she got picked.
[–]ConnectBlueberry9276FDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He's not frugal. He's cheap. Period. RUN! FAR! BLOCK 🚫
[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I dated a frugal millionaire (I confirmed this many times). He retired in his 30s and lived in such a ridiculously cheap way that was not enjoyable. He was almost 40 but slept in hostels and campgrounds when traveling, lived in a crime ridden neighborhood, drove a shitty loud car, and only liked free dates. I made a dinner reservation for his bday and he refused to go (probably bc he didn’t want to feel bad that I was treating us to a nice meal since he always went the cheap route). But the funny thing is he showed up at my place to head on our date all dressed up..but insisted we to a place on par with Chipotle.
His hobbies were coincidentally all free things. He wouldn’t join me in my hobbies bc they cost money. He once called and asked if I wanted to do “a biking date night” in the dead of winter. LOL I bike to get around, that’s not a date. One night he took me to a park at 10PM on a Friday night after dinner. I remember telling him I think we cannot go into parks after dark and he said “no, they only come and check cars after 11PM.” I responded with “so you’ve taken other women here I see.” Then he called me a negative person! The only shows he took me to were FREE community ones. Once he came over to fix an appliance and said he needed to get a spare part from the store. I offered $ for it and he said “no problem, I got, it’s not going to be more than $50.” I was at Home Depot the other day and saw the exact part he purchased, it was $6. Gosh I’m glad that’s over. What was I thinking? First sign of frugalness..I run.
[–]IkwhatudobooFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nawww she gonna be paying for his bills at this rate if she keeps this up! Time to give him the boot !!! Bye 👋
[–]lizzieg884 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Run! It is not worth it and the longer you are together the worse it will be. Had he ever paid for a meal?
[–]usernametaken_1984 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Throw this guy in the garbage. 🗑
[–]nutterbyeFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't think that flag can get any redder. Run fast and run far.
[–]Achange_isagoodoneFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hmmmmm then you should Venmo him for all the mess you’ve been putting up with.Drop him. Mariah Carey him, sweetie.
[–]IgetUsernameScrapsFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Reading this makes me feel literal pain for this girl. I’ve dated a cheap man before but damn, this is just 😱
[–]throwaway32132134 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He doesn't respect her. Block and delete.
[–]greenetea63FDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ew
[–]macsmomscigaretteFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wait...
This dude CHARGED her $4 DOLLARS for PIZZA on the FIRST date?!?!?!?!?
I’ve given WAY too many chances to way too many scrotes. But that woulda been a wrap for me.
[–]seashellsupplierThrowaway Account 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex was literally like this. Down to the cent 🤡
[–]feistykalorinaFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stoped reading at charged me 4$
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