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InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T21:04:49+00:00

Looks like I have a real chance at getting a job as a journalist. Just like Hunter S Thompson or that guy from nightcrawler. I'll probably get to cover murders and stuff IT SOUNDS HYPE

potoricco · 2023-09-07T21:04:32+00:00

Q4 People who have been in a relationship

At what point does someone stop being your ex? Like I can’t imagine being like 40 and referring to someone you dated briefly say in high school as your ex. Because you’d look fucking stupid

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DrCornSyrup · 2023-09-06T20:13:27+00:00

My BF (26M) won't open up to me (27F)

He is always kind and loving to me. He always treats me right and remembers my favorite candy and he is always remembering things I mentioned so he can buy me gifts. Not big expensive things, but he remembers my favorite animals and gets me stuffed toys of those and I love it so much. He is always there for me to vent or talk to and I love him so much

I was thinking about it the other day and I realized that it is almost always me talking and him listening. This is partially my fault because I talk about myself so much. He doesn't have a problem with this and is usually very willing to talk to me. We have super deep and lengthy conversations and he is a great listener and always knows just what to say

But while I am always telling him about my mental state and mental health, he never talks about his to me. When he is upset usually he just looks off into the distance or takes a walk by himself. He is definitely an introvert while I am a big extrovert but I do not think that is the real cause

I try to ask him about himself but he always gives a very brief answer and then switches the conversation to me. Like he will say "I guess I get a little sad sometimes. What about you? How are you feeling?". It is like he is allergic to talking about himself. I can get him to talk about the things he likes such as cars or sports or chess or lifting weights. He will talk about these but ONLY when I bring them up first. When I ask questions about his emotional or mental state he becomes reticent. The most he has ever revealed about his inner thoughts is that he was afraid to ask me out and was very nervous to talk to me. But I never saw that on his face, he seemed very sure of himself as he always does

The more I think about it the more I realize I do not actually know much about him despite spending so much time around him. It kind of hurts me that he doesn't open up to me. Is there any way to encourage this? I just want to understand him and give him the same kind of love he gives me

tl;dr my BF is very sweet and I love him but he never opens up about his thoughts or emotional state

badgersonice · 2023-09-06T20:15:03+00:00

You know a guy has really lost an argument in this sub when, instead of responding to your arguments, he tells you that men could easily beat and murder women into submission if they wanted.

Making threats of putting women back in the kitchen is an admission he both couldn’t make a decent argument and is really hopping mad he couldn’t punch you through the screen.

badgersonice · 2023-09-06T20:15:03+00:00

You know a guy has really lost an argument in this sub when, instead of responding to your arguments, he tells you that men could easily beat and murder women into submission if they wanted.

Making threats of putting women back in the kitchen is an admission he both couldn’t make a decent argument and is really hopping mad he couldn’t punch you through the screen.

badgersonice · 2023-09-06T20:15:16+00:00

You know a guy has really lost an argument in this sub when, instead of responding to your arguments, he tells you that men could easily beat and murder women into submission if they wanted.

Making threats of putting women back in the kitchen is an admission he both couldn’t make a decent argument and is really hopping mad he couldn’t punch you through the screen.

Adding00 · 2023-09-06T20:17:11+00:00

A nontraditional woman wants a traditional man to romance that will have no commitments, obligations, or responsibilities to. Ok, then what? Then she wants more of something else. A toy to pull out of the chest. Play with it. And put it back whenever she wants. Then demand no one else touch they toy, as it waits in the chest ( even if she's already playing with another toy or not ) . Any the problems the toy has, must stay with the toy, until she's ready to deal with it. The point is not to settle, even when she gets what she wants ( or if she loves him or not ) . There's always another life aspiration that must be explored.

Women romanticize that kind of reassurance, safety, and support ( it's the support that attracts them ) . But they also want to either throw it away on a whim to avoid dependency, or hurtle challenges at it based on expectations. Want the experience of being in love for the first time, all the time. It's a long distance open relationship, but close up. A best friend that acts as a reoccurring guest star. Expecting a safe space to always be available for her, with no downvotes or disagreements. Looking to be enabled, keep at arms length from the bad stuff, and stay a priority. Anyone whom endures the gauntlet, must be ' the one ' ( if she so chooses ) .

If there was a popular character to visualize what nontraditional women want in connecting with men, it would be the Elaine and Jerry dynamic from Seinfeld ( if you delete George and Kramer ) . Elaine has no kids, lives alone, has her own career and money, dates whoever she wants, and goes on misadventures with Jerry ( occasionally hook up ) . And Jerry is just as independent from Elaine. But what if they've been in a relationship the entire series?

Women like emotional conflict and activity, but only as long as it's comfortable. Gives a sense of fulfillment. The pursuit makes sense, but it's still a fantasy built at the mans expense, while he gets what she's only willing to give ( he's not supposed to ask for anything in return ) . Women want to be chased, but dictate the terms on how the chase progresses. Even then, there's no way of telling what will affect it will have on men or society ( written or unwritten rules or roles ) . Can't demand someone to be reserved, while you get to be unhinged. But that doesn't stop a woman from desiring it. No matter how much power you have, communication and compromise is still key. Women have to love men as unconditionally as they expect men to do for women.

biscuitcatapult · 2023-09-06T20:18:38+00:00

It seems a lot of people in PPD are all about the PP but constantly forget to bring the D.

ashpr0ulx · 2023-09-06T20:22:35+00:00

i have something at the end of the month that i would like to feel extra confident for so i’ve ramped up my workouts recently

on one hand i feel really good and on the other hand every time i sit down on the toilet i fear i may never stand back up

brilliant22 · 2023-09-06T20:30:45+00:00

This sub is a reminder that heterosexual relationships are at least somewhat worse than homosexual relationships. Both have their own problems but it's obvious which one is inferior.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-09-06T20:46:20+00:00

Taylor Swift is such an icon.

33, never married, no children, lots of love, great friends, a thriving career.

Like her, I've had 12 relationships.

Maybe number 13 will be our end game.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-06T20:54:07+00:00

Face >>> body. I'm not gonna lie at all about what I think is important

Professional_Bad_282 · 2023-09-06T21:00:19+00:00

Q4A : Do you think they are looksmatched

https://imgur.com/a/F0vYl6J

Odd-Diet6704 · 2023-09-06T21:01:31+00:00

Why do women advise men to see prostitutes when it's illegal and most women would disqualify him for it. I know women are going to say go where its legal but there is a big difference in the money spent traveling and paying for sex than staying home and paying for it.

G0dZylla · 2023-09-06T21:02:32+00:00

Looksmaxxing question

Do you know of any product that it's good For the skin of the nose, i have a lot of pores and the skin there it's oily?

meteorness123 · 2023-09-06T21:02:48+00:00

Insane, ancient psychological mayan wisdom coming in, you need to listen to this :

Is it possible that most people who think they're ugly aren't ugly in reality but they interpret a traumatic event in childhood as being unlovable or 'ugly' ? The result will be an avoidant attachment style that purposefully behaves in a self-sabotage way, the result being continous rejection. The conclusion : "I'm ugly". The benefit of all this : Protection. By self-sabotaging and limitimg belief-sets, the chilhood-trauma (i.e. being abandoned by a parent) cannot be repeated. I believe it is.

potoricco · 2023-09-06T21:05:39+00:00

Anyone else remember when slime was a thing

WhiskeyOnASunday93 · 2023-09-06T21:09:32+00:00

Are exceptionally attractive men just rarer than exceptionally attractive women?

I see guys talking here about occasionally encountering cashiers or something that are movie star pretty. I feel the same way. Margot Robbie wouldn’t stand out much in college bar.

But I basically never see guys that look like Don Draper or Henry Cavil in daily life.

Only time I’ve ever been in a space where it seemed like there were as many handsome men as beautiful women was the beach in rio de janario

anonymous375555 · 2023-09-06T21:15:16+00:00

You never see fire fighters stand on front of fire blaming society.

You never see a doctor on front of a dying patient blaming society.

You never see a police officer on front of a burglary blaming society.

You never see banks in a recession blam…, actually they do blame people but that is a different story.

Why then men blame society for depressed and suicidal men, you are part of the this society.

You are angry about men loneliness then let me ask you how many you tried to engage with today.

You are angry about sexless men then let ma ask you how many have you blown today.

baiser_vole · 2023-09-06T21:21:27+00:00

My boyfriend and I both took the body composition test today, and we are at exact same body fat %. He told his trainer he wants to beat me in abs, when he was asked why he is working out. Ha.

I think I could reach my goal body fat percentage by the end of this year if I improve my lifestyle a bit. I have to do it through muscle gain though.

janedoebreakin · 2023-09-06T21:45:25+00:00

We’re about to start trying for a baby and I’m doing my best to set expectations low. I know I’ll still be disappointed when I’m not pregnant within the first month. I know there’s going to be a lot of crying and wondering what is wrong with my body. I’m not excited at all.

13choppedup2chopped · 2023-09-06T22:11:37+00:00

I have seen so much birth rates discourse recently. More than typical. On one hand, I think it’s just the algorithms doing something weird. On the other, I think many millennials are staring into the abyss and realizing that the kids thing is probably not going to happen. It’s one thing to have that choice, it’s another to confront not having it anymore.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2023-09-06T22:17:46+00:00

Wow I just wasted a day of work. I was supposed to be doing my month end reports, instead I spent the day arguing on reddit.

I totally deserve the inflated salary they give me.

Sillysheila · 2023-09-06T22:24:19+00:00

I have question for people that are young (perhaps under 22-23) because I know a lot of you lurk this subreddit. Explain to an old timer: do you mostly hang out with friends on social media or do you hang out in person?

When I was a teen (late 2000s early 2010s), social media was really new. I started using it but this was also a time where alternative movies were taking off again. So I basically saw a new movie with my small friends group every Saturday. That was what I did.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-09-06T22:52:08+00:00

I'm starting to do a rewatch of the old Disney show, Once Upon a Time since it's on Hulu now. Anyone who knows me even the slightest bit can tell you I'm not a fan of Disney and absolutely loath "Disney adults". But goddamn if this show isn't great. I'm not going to say it's for everyone, it's no Game of Thrones. But it's really good at what it does. Taking classic characters, and remixing them into modern situations while still applying the original themes. Why did they need to update the live action movies for "modern audiences" when they could have just pointed to this! Okay, the show could probably have used more representation for POCs, or LGBT or whatever, but the stories were already there. The characters already had updated attitudes...

potoricco · 2023-09-06T22:53:32+00:00

Fuck Joe Biden Ya I’m voting for Trump

I love twitter

potoricco · 2023-09-06T23:19:11+00:00

So pissed offf 😤😡 my grandma asked me to buy her depends at rite aid and the cashier here is a beautiful man

CringeButCorrect · 2023-09-06T23:25:35+00:00

from asia import girlfriend

happy_discus · 2023-09-06T23:31:01+00:00

I am the ugliest man to ever ugly on this ugly planet of ugly people. I AM THE KING OF UGLINESS. BOW TO YOUR KING.

gabejohn · 2023-09-06T23:35:14+00:00

The advice I hate the most is people telling you to "just" not be insecure about something when you're being realistic.

If you don't learn for a test and think "Awh shucks I'm probably gonna fail", you're not insecure, you're realistic. No amount of thinking "I'm gonna ace this test" will let you pass that test (unless it was an easy test).

If you're a virgin at age thirty and realize how you missed out on one of the most crucial human experiences in life during your peak years (romantic love, not sex), you're not insecure, you're reflecting realistically on your life.

No amount of manifesting shit in your mind will get you that thing. No amount of manifesting your succes will get you any succes. Life isn't a game where you can just ignore your problems by thinking positively and lying to yourself.

If a 5"4 incel with a recessed chin asks for advice, telling him that he should be positive and not think so much about his height will not help him. Instead, be realistic and tell him that 99% of women will reject him but it's still worth to try just for that 1%.

The whole world would fare much better if people were just honest, direct and as realistic as possible. Instead we love to sugarcoat things and give people false hope. False hope that'll only disappoint them further down the road. Even more than if they were told realistic obsrrvations.

HungerISanEmotion · 2023-09-06T23:39:54+00:00

Just be yourself bro.

But first, start earning 6 figures, hit the gym, and become a charming bad boy... and then just be yourself bro.

meteorness123 · 2023-09-06T23:42:23+00:00

Andrew Tate is kind of decent-looking when he's not raging at something

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/FlRkaIrX0AAwHmc.jpg:large

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-09-06T23:42:28+00:00

An old head in my barbershop a while back bragged on his “pull out” game but his brother who was in the shop was like why you got 3 kids though? And everyone started laughing. But to defend that guy, he claims to be married for 22 years with 3 kids. Let’s say 2 were planned andone was an accident, one slip up in 22 years is not a bad record tbh

Mobrowncheeks · 2023-09-06T23:42:58+00:00

Question for men who claim redpill.

Why do you guys want to be needed?

I have no problem with a woman just wanting me, it actually gives you more leverage. You are obligated to do less for her affections then our grandparents were. If you become wanted by multiple, then you really aren’t obligated to anything at all

potoricco · 2023-09-06T23:53:50+00:00

RONALDO NAMEDROP MESSI😱 (I don’t watch soccer)

meteorness123 · 2023-09-06T23:58:23+00:00

6'5 Chad Streamer Jon Zherka was a virgin until he was 21. Take that in. As always personality pill confirmed. This is the guy in question :

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/UhpcH4IkvaE/maxresdefault.jpg

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T00:15:19+00:00

Men who have that smelly smell that smells smelli >>>>>>>>>>

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T00:27:44+00:00

My digestion is still excruciatingly painful. At what point do I bite the bullet and go to the doctor about this?

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T00:34:44+00:00

I don't understand the point having a physique level. It's clearly chemically induced but even if it weren't. What is the point having this much muscle mass ?

https://boxlifemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads//2023/07/Snapinsta.app_286384908_1182830978942839_4261661929999112169_n_1080-819x1024.jpg

odd_cloud · 2023-09-07T00:41:37+00:00

How do you think do chads exist or not? I often see an opinion that Chad is a boogeyman who does not really exist. At the same time many women here admit that they are extremely picky and don’t like the majority of men. At the same time many women here say that all normal men are popular among women (men they know constantly have flings and hookups).

Do you notice a contradiction here? Kinda a there are no men who are super popular. But women like only a small proportion of men. “Normal” men are very popular among women, while women like only a small number of men. Yeah, also all women want commitment and not hookups. So it’s unclear who these “normal” men sleep with.

I try to wrap my head around it and cannot figure how it all can happen at the same time.

adelaidemonkie · 2023-09-07T00:46:00+00:00

My high school friends have been away at college for two years, and I don’t know how to explain the heartbreak of them forgetting about me. I make an effort to stay in touch but it seems like they’re having the times of their lives. It’s so hard to make connections here. I really want someone meaningful in my life who isn’t related to me. I just want to know what the touch of a man feels like.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-09-07T00:58:48+00:00

Well today is my birthday. Usually around this time of year I seem to reflect on what I didn't accomplish and what I plan to accomplish before my next bday. I think this year I spent more time not being as social because I worked night shift and nobody works at night except weirdos and crazy people. Now that I am back on day shift, I feel there is more of a chance to be more sociable to others. I know some people have asked where have I been so at least I am not completely invisible to them.

Luciansleep · 2023-09-07T01:08:28+00:00

CMV: Not wanting to date a woman that slept around because she was “in a bad place” or couldn’t say no ( except rape) is perfectly fine.

Women like that should be avoid as they will most likely not have a backbone or communication issues.

potoricco · 2023-09-07T01:48:36+00:00

Ngl if I bad a rich husband I wouldn’t mind being a teacher. But that pay is yikes though

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T01:59:32+00:00

Big mistake I made in my twenties : Care about my looks instead of acquiring as many competency skills as possible. Big mistake.

potoricco · 2023-09-07T02:02:05+00:00

Checkmate Redpillers this guy is Nerdy, smart and very attractive

LillthsCrustyHitachi · 2023-09-07T02:15:45+00:00

With regards to age gaps: let's say someone is early-mid 30s, but looks very young for their age. Should they go for someone younger or their own age?

ModernCoquette · 2023-09-07T02:32:04+00:00

Approaching is difficult, approaching in the gym is even more difficult. But what exact is happening in a guys brain when instead of saying hello at the water fountain or something, he decides it is a better option to follow me out to my car in the dark to ask me out? Is not being creepy that complicated?

Excellent_Badger123 · 2023-09-07T02:53:48+00:00

I think I’m going to have to find an HRT Dr. here. I don’t know if that’s my problem but I’m sort of turning into a shrew 😬

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-09-07T03:19:11+00:00

I got my eye brows threaded, it was a lil expensive but it was fire.

SianOiseau · 2023-09-07T03:26:07+00:00

It's a bit surreal to read that women don't bring anything of value besides sex after a day of nerve-wrecking job and chores.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T03:37:57+00:00

You know things are getting fucked when a 6'2" handsome guy messages you about being an incel. What happened???

purplish_possum · 2023-09-07T03:40:12+00:00

The red eye flight to Newark NJ is full of unattractive people. On this flight I'm Chad.

potoricco · 2023-09-07T03:54:47+00:00

New strategy for waking up on time

I like pressing snooze even when I’m not sleepy anymore

I have now set my timer 1 hour early and added 4 15 minute snoozing periods. That way I’m sleeping the same amount of time, but feeling more fulfilled when I wake up.

I’m a genius

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T04:08:53+00:00

Woman really dislikes being the center of man's universe.

hannahg000 · 2023-09-07T04:28:22+00:00

have you ever met a man named chad who wasn’t a chad??

katyushas_boyfriend · 2023-09-07T04:55:20+00:00

Seems pretty obvious to me that the only reason women make a stink about men checking them out in public is that they are disgusted by interest from men they don't find attractive.

People look at other people in public all the time, for numerous reasons.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-09-07T05:14:54+00:00

Ngl a woman with a nice pedicure can make a 4 rise to a 6 just as much as a Stacy with ugly feet can make her go from an 8 to a 5. Some women forget men are more visual and can get attracted to the slightest quality a woman has visually.

tbmnitz · 2023-09-07T05:45:31+00:00

The quality of this sub is in the gutter. I don't remember it being this bad when i used to browse a year or two ago.

There are far too many low quality, low effort, low IQ commenters that do nothing but clutter up the place. The threads themselves are usually interesting topics to discuss, but once you get into the comments section it's filled witless, shallow, useless comments.

I think the mods should start being heavy handed to improve the quality of discussion.

KevinDurantsDurag · 2023-09-07T07:40:13+00:00

The group of men I’ve seen struggled the most has easily been the shy loners. I’ve seen genuinely above average (look,height,style,body, passions) guys struggle because they barely went out their way to interact with people outside maybe a sausagefest friend group. A decent amount have been neurodivergent as well. I’ve seen “not as good” men do much better just because they were more extroverted. Doesn’t help that a lot of them amens bad first impression because of their social anxiety.

Serene_Trine · 2023-09-07T09:09:10+00:00

So many men here suggest that they lie on dating apps about height, salary etc.. If you're a confident man just own it; any woman who is shallow enough to judge on this nonsense isn't worth the time. Though I'd also have no problem recommending men lie, only if that's what they're comfortable doing.

Notanothrshitthrow · 2023-09-07T09:21:15+00:00

The CMVs here are utter trash.

Post a ridiculous belief that can't be proven or disproven, then when people respond with good faith challenges to the belief (which are often far better written than the post itself) just write a one sentence reply that equates to "lol nah".

I've never seen anyone's view actually be changed, the most I've seen is a polite "I don't agree but you make a good point".

What is the point in CMVs if no one's view actually gets changed? They're almost always a waste of time.

Excellent_Badger123 · 2023-09-07T09:30:02+00:00

I wished for social interaction and today I got my fill. It hasn’t changed my heartfelt view that nothing changes anything and that men and women are (mostly)estranged but it was - so - much - fun.

Notanothrshitthrow · 2023-09-07T09:56:19+00:00

It's always so disingenuous to me when a girl gets fat and all of a sudden they become some big body positivity advocate. Just gives the game away that for them it's not about being an advocate for other people, it's just a c*ping mechanism to make themselves feel better about their situation.

On a side note, it's sad watching someone gain a lot of weight over time. I knew a girl who had an amazing body, but has gotten big over the past few years. Every 6 months or so she'll post about getting back into the gym and her diet plan etc, post a few pics of her in gym gear, then nothing will actually change and she goes back to the body positivity/fat acceptance content.

Body positivity is not about (or at least wasn't originally intended to be about) making yourself feel better that you're doing nothing to improve your health.

WestCombSplit · 2023-09-07T10:14:01+00:00

'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't. You can't make your heart feel something it won't. Here in the dark, in these final hours. I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power. But you won't, no you won't. 'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't

I'll close my eyes, then I won't see. The love you don't feel when you're holding me. Morning will come and I'll do what's right. Just give me till then to give up this fight. And I will give up this fight

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T10:18:41+00:00

Ketamine after that shroom trip a couple days ago, everything feels so much clearer. My life actually makes sense again

Maffioze · 2023-09-07T10:34:14+00:00

Neurodivergent guys should just say "fuck it" towards society and listen to this song.

https://youtu.be/hTDb0ebFh8E?si=OPzb431drevUzst2

PH-Expat · 2023-09-07T10:45:52+00:00

Why do Redditors keep falling for obvious trolls? As seen here:

https://i.imgur.com/O9faRln.png

I am not for age gaps. But a certain subreddit hates age gaps A LOT. I called out an obvious troll and got my comment locked/removed. I am not defending the OPs husband or anything. Just pointing out that you have to be really naïve to believe that the OP is real and not just wanting reactions.

Why do Redditors fall for these things? It is so obvious?

dbz__f · 2023-09-07T11:01:02+00:00

Do you guys ever look at your partner and just feel they are so infinitely more beautiful than you looks wise and think the universe must have glitched for you to end up with them?

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-09-07T11:04:17+00:00

This notion that it’s “societies” job to get you laid is crazy

“We need to do something about this”

Nah we don’t

Maffioze · 2023-09-07T11:07:28+00:00

https://youtu.be/BM1qjFAnLMY?si=-HfEYe_FqEli4n8t

Anyone in the mood for a weed smoking kind of music thread? I'm preparing my thesis presentation, and listening to songs like this to easy my anxiety.

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-09-07T11:13:51+00:00

I don’t think there was ever a time in history where most or even half the population had what we consider to be “great” jobs

“I wanna go back to the golden era where everyone had a good job” what era was that lol

ioniqc · 2023-09-07T11:27:21+00:00

Sucking dick is so funnnn, unironically one of the best things in life

HungerISanEmotion · 2023-09-07T12:47:04+00:00

Society is not collapsing because our dicks are not getting sucked.

Our dicks are not getting sucked because society is collapsing.

And this is the main reason for societal collapse.

Globalization has generated more wealth for the entire world, but biggest winners are the rich elites of developed countries. Middle/working class of the developed world is the biggest loser of globalization.

I could write for hours on how and why this is pushing more and more of the middle class into low class... but I won't, just trust me bro.

Low socio-economic class is expanding => more hypergamy, more high N women, more single moms, more serial monogamy, more drug abuse, more crime.... more single men which after some time just give the fuck up.

To be a part of the middle class, which at this point is actually more like a upper low class, people have to get a student loan and finish college => having children at a latter date, and having less children.

scwizard · 2023-09-07T12:59:00+00:00

For the longest time, the people having big, grand weddings were the people wealthy enough to host multiple parties of that scale a year all their life. They knew how to do it bc they did it all the time for a variety of reasons and occasions. Including “just because it’s the social season.” If you were middle class or working class or very poor, you got married at the church and maybe served coffee and cookies afterwards in a relative’s living room or just on the lawn outside the church. The whole thing took 2 hours.

But now, “the big, dream wedding” is a thing that everyone is supposed to want and try to make happen (to the point where people are putting off getting married until they can “afford the wedding,” or legit taking loans out for their wedding.) Being allowed to live together, buy a home together, and have kids with a partner without being married definitely helped. There’s no shame in not being married.

The wedding itself is almost seen as a luxury that the majority of couples “save up” for, sometimes for years or even a decade. They won’t even get engaged until they think they’re in a place to afford the big dress, the 8 bridesmaids, the 8 groomsmen, 200 guests, a multi tiered cake, photographer and videographer, a huge floral bill, a separate ceremony and reception venue, a honey moon, a sit down meal for all the guest, party favors, etc.

So people who 50 years ago would’ve just gotten married at the church they were already a member of and then had maybe a small lemonade and cake party in the church basement—people who had no fancy, elaborate, social gathering planning skills—are now basically expected to plan the equivalent of an elite, high class, Victorian ball for the first and only time for the “most important day of their life.” This is probably why “wedding planners” are such a big thing now.

Women getting married at church and not really having a wedding party, was because they had to not cause they wanted to.

AspiringMogger · 2023-09-07T12:59:08+00:00

I was a girls first ever tinder date yesterday and I ended up sleeping with her. I feel as though either she liked the experience so much she is gonna be a major dater now and meeting up with all sorts of guys or she is gonna call it quits and try and date me. I’m waging my bet at 50/50

demedermidimi · 2023-09-07T13:00:15+00:00

did you know that calling someone gay when they show signs of being attracted to the same sex isn't homophobia

potoricco · 2023-09-07T13:14:22+00:00

WHY DOES EVERY MALE TEACHER DRINK COFFEE INSTEAD OF WATER

Expert-Judge9762 · 2023-09-07T13:15:13+00:00

Women's dopamine receptors at this point are just so fucking broken. It's funny how porn (which is a problem) gets thrown out more as why less dating happens.

When women see more broken where they can't even get excited unless they are being fed constant entertainment and fun when dating.

Don't provide the best 3 seconds, boom. It's dead, she's moved on, there's 5 other guys to see if she can get those constant tingles

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-09-07T13:16:37+00:00

Being shallow!= bad person

We are all shallow at the end if the day.

BLKSKNHED · 2023-09-07T13:19:26+00:00

So i guess sophie turner is doing the opposite of redpillers hatred observation. Reproducing when young and wanting to party when older and wiser.

I wanna say based but feel for joe jonas. everyone probably think he's an abuser.

hannahg000 · 2023-09-07T13:53:36+00:00

i want a boyfriend so bad 😭 (maybe i’m ovulating)

StrikingAd8556 · 2023-09-07T14:05:16+00:00

How can we orchestrate a selfie thread? I want to see what you all look like and I want to know where I fit in the looks hierarchy

StrikingAd8556 · 2023-09-07T14:35:31+00:00

This album is very red pilled, but not many people know about it. It was written around the 2000s and the sound bites sound like something from a TikTok street interview or Jubilee video 20 years later.

Peacesquad · 2023-09-07T14:37:48+00:00

What did I miss.

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2023-09-07T14:42:20+00:00

Red Pill Rule Zero.

Adapt and keep morality out of it.

potoricco · 2023-09-07T14:55:49+00:00

Is it bad that I lost respect for several people after I witnessed them cutting lunch lines? It’s several people on several different occasions and one of my friends came up to me and said hi and used it as an opportunity to jump the line. It put a really bitter taste in my mouth

StrikingAd8556 · 2023-09-07T15:11:50+00:00

Red pill is so cringe lol

"She was by herself so I knew she was DTF"

"Yeah bro that's a good mindset, you just gotta invite her to her place and not do anything weird like have a seizure or some shit"

princedune · 2023-09-07T15:15:29+00:00

The bar is so low

https://preview.redd.it/5e48s523oumb1.png?width=457&format=png&auto=webp&s=1d14e80503b54457a6bc1e6ce482df4459fb2bca

Workaholiconew · 2023-09-07T15:33:10+00:00

An autistic guy I know made a comment I have to agree...

There seems to be a connection between autism in men and BPD women, as in, families which have one, tend to have the other and vice versa... both are also on the rise together and that there are some small similarities between both like being stuck in certain badd mental patterns

I wonder if there is a connection underlying both mental illnesses...

HungerISanEmotion · 2023-09-07T15:39:23+00:00

hoe_math I recently found this channel and I FUCKING LOVE IT.

Guy is preaching some red pilled truths... without toxicity, misogyny, no rage baits, no "muh alpha fucker", no "subscribe to my paid program to become a Chad today"...

Just explaining how things work, and being funny while at it.

He also has a Tik Tok channel with much more videos, but I can't go there because Tik Tok is cancer.

Environmental_Day558 · 2023-09-07T15:42:46+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/cursedcomments/comments/16cdohn/cursed_breakup/

lol

Ohmaygahh · 2023-09-07T15:52:09+00:00

I've been seeing a lot of posts on here and another women dominated sub go on and on about men being so "porn" addicted brains, talked about as if it's some mental or virtue failing of a man.

Maybe seeing sex scenes is fun and titillating? Maybe it's being sex positive? At least I'm not the one double ordering hitachi wands and numbing my clit that I can't feel anything without it.

StrikingAd8556 · 2023-09-07T15:54:27+00:00

Q4GenZ: Is there still such a thing as mall culture? When I was a teenager in the mid 2000s, my friends and I would go to the mall and just walk around. It was a nice air conditioned refuge from the brutal urban heat, and was a great way to run into other people you might know from school. The shopping mall was a great hub of networking. I lost my virginity at the mall. Met my best friend for a time at the mall. Even had a job at the mall at one point. The mall, in my opinion, was the agora of modern society, the culmination of all great things that the west has to offer.

figuringLifeIsGood · 2023-09-07T15:59:04+00:00

i’ve been going on multiple dates every week. it’s exhausting. flirting with men nonstop. it does reinforce the ppd narrative that men don’t get compliments very often - even the married ones are so excited for my attention. but it also just reminds me that a good portion of men are just boringly horny and don’t appreciate the love women give them.

anyways guys, my gold digging journey is not yielding results yet. it’s been a slow confidence building journey.

i’m dressing so sexy that i do get hit on multiple times a day when i go outside now. men are bowing to me in public, going out of their way to open doors for me, staring at me basically drooling, and even the shy ones are doing double takes. i’m meeting either younger men making 6 figures, or older men with low millions. neither are typically good matches unfortunately so my vetting needs obvious work. i am more and more disgusted by older men, i do feel bad about it. i can tell they just want my affection but something inside me is just so disgusted by their attempts to take advantage of my naivety.

most men are kinda boring, but sweet - mostly because they’re horny and affection starved unfortunately though. i’m pausing my adventures for now since i’ll be traveling but i’ll keep flirting until i can shamelessly flirt with every single man in my vicinity. feel free to give me tips. 😊

demedermidimi · 2023-09-07T16:06:28+00:00

don't remember the last time i had a beautiful, aromatic, tasty, ripe tomato. fuck this delicious tomato less life

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-09-07T16:14:11+00:00

Some men are big mad that women have confidence.

It's like they hate themselves so much that they want everyone to feel that way too. And when a woman has confidence in herself, it angers them.

Ohmaygahh · 2023-09-07T16:34:04+00:00

Just saw the hoe math video on youtube. Big props to the person here who suggested it.

I believe 99% of the back and forth here is men expressing their ever evolving take on the elements women are attracted to in men, and women denying, downplaying the badboy/masculinity elements and how that translates to real life relationship types with men. (in the video, specifically the 4 parts of the "situationships" portion).

Men are all to familiar with them, and yet women who actively have engaged with it their whole lives seem incredibly naïve about it or deliberately deny it knowing full well it's accurate.

StrikingAd8556 · 2023-09-07T16:34:18+00:00

Is texting a lot before you meet someone bad? Curious to know others opinions.

Blocksplain · 2023-09-07T20:54:49+00:00

Saw a poster for a stage show about three lesbians with a blurb along the lines of “The incel lesbian comedy we’ve been waiting for!”

Don’t worry it’s okay for WOMEN to be incels we can use the label without vitriol for some fucking reason oh look women receive empathy and attention again and again and again what a fucking patriarchy. Absolutely, Susan, men hate feminine-acting men because they HATE women, not because they hate feminine-acting men, of course Susan how could I not have realized Susan

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T20:54:26+00:00

I swear, all the couples with stable relationships almost never post their pictures on social media. My brother has been in a relationship for ten years and there's not a single picture of them on social media. I guess there's no need to advertize how happy you both are if you are already know you're happy. All the couples that regularly post pictures with lengthy love letters as captions seem to have a pretty short expiration date. This has been my observation so far.

DreaminInChocolate · 2023-09-07T20:48:57+00:00

How long have you been with your partner? If currently single how long has it been since your last relationship?

I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years.

Maffioze · 2023-09-07T20:31:33+00:00

It's kinda insane how much my gf gets turned on by hearing my voice.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2023-09-07T03:40:59+00:00

Taking away women's rights won't exactly up your dating game, you know? In fact, it's more likely to lead down a slippery slope towards authoritarianism and all sorts of human rights problems. Just think about it: if the government can mess with people's basic rights, who's to say they won't do the same to yours?

HungerISanEmotion · 2023-09-07T20:30:09+00:00

My country: Has a maximum prison sentence of 40 years, and if one does a whole bunch of crimes then get's caught, they can only get 40 years of prison.

US: Terry Nichols got 161 consecutive life sentences plus 9,300 years without parole...

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T20:27:57+00:00

Some women on reddit seem to be really raging at age gap couples. That competition anxiety is brooootal

4PointTakedown · 2023-09-07T20:17:58+00:00

Be me, American MAGA Nationalist who loves America

Hate American legal system

Hate America's civil rights system

Hate America's LGBT friendly culture (degenerate)

Hate American consumerist culture (degenerate)

Hate American military (woke)

Hate American corporations (whoke)

Hate American immigration law and history (too many brown people)

Hate the federal government (evil baby eaters)

Hate law enforcement (they support the evil federal government)

Hate American respect for women's rights

Luv me China (anti woke)

Love me Saudi Arabia (anti woke)

simple as

DreaminInChocolate · 2023-09-07T20:09:29+00:00

Danny Masterson, from that 70's show, got 30 years to life for raping 2 women.

Adept-Emphasis4104 · 2023-09-07T20:05:27+00:00

This effectively summarizes modern women’s dating problems all in one go.

https://reddit.com/r/shitposting/s/u59MTvCjwP

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T19:49:02+00:00

I just saw a guy with one leg, walking with crutches. That is a problem, not the bs here

DreaminInChocolate · 2023-09-07T19:46:43+00:00

It's storming so hard at my house.

derektheaccountant · 2023-09-07T19:45:13+00:00

Icyordinary is a troll

old_new_age · 2023-09-07T19:41:42+00:00

I think my biggest problem for dating is I don't belong to any specific niche. I look like I should be a low inhib athlete but I'm actually pretty high in neuroticism. I have a corporate job that only squares usually have but I like going to raves. I'm a programmer but I really prefer artsy-type stuff and don't even like talking about programming. I'm black but I use words like "unbeknownst" in everyday conversation instead of "finna." None of this stuff is inherently contradictory but I think it puts me in a position where I end up appealing to nobody

4PointTakedown · 2023-09-07T19:36:49+00:00

my dog is currently lying on my thigh and it hurts and I can't get him off of me

luliloo · 2023-09-07T19:22:38+00:00

I just joined telegram. Any interesting groups to join?

How are you supposed to find groups? Is it only by WOM?

potoricco · 2023-09-07T19:20:19+00:00

I missed everyone so much

baiser_vole · 2023-09-07T19:07:39+00:00

I told my boyfriend yesterday that I settled for him.

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Katatonicsnake · 2023-09-07T19:05:22+00:00

Do you have physical features that you know are attractive (or neutral), but you just can’t bring yourself to like? I have several, but my chin and jawline are on top of that list. I’ve been desensitizing myself by looking at pictures and videos of women who have similar features, perhaps it will help.

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T19:05:05+00:00

Topic of the day : validation. Is it good to seek validation ? Is validation necessary ? If so, how much ? Or will you end up like a hamster in a wheel ?

Falling_fruit_234 · 2023-09-07T18:59:48+00:00

Do you know any real red pill relationships?

The closest I can think is my sister in law (she married her hs boyfriend who cheated and left her. Then she married a single dad with a kid who is a decade older because 'high quality men' don't date divorcees). He treats her pretty badly (makes a lot of comments on how she looks/if she eats junk food he calls her fat even though she is underweight and he's a XXL), doesn't do any parenting of his previous kid or the kid they have together ('real men' don't take care of their kids), does no housework or cooking (men who cook are gay.. literally words out of his mouth), and spends most of his free time on vacations with friends (she isn't allowed to spend herself even though they make the same...he gives her one nice gift on Christmas and that is all she can have). Her money goes him first (she works full time and makes the same, but he drives a luxury car, she drives a beater, he's always going to sporting events and mini vacation, but she wasn't allowed to go to our wedding because only whores party, etc).

Personally, I think it's abuse, but it's her life.

Waschbar-krahe · 2023-09-07T18:51:44+00:00

I put a dollar tree berry energy shot into my diet 7up and I think I'm feeling joy again for the first time in years

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T18:45:29+00:00

I really love degenerate guys. I want to roll around in the trash with them forever.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-09-07T18:43:04+00:00

Lol. Men need new material beside calling me insecure for not taking their comments seriously.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2023-09-07T18:28:04+00:00

I took a Dexa scan today, and my body fat percentage was unfortunately higher than I thought. This is particularly annoying because I was really hoping I could finally stop cutting at the end of September.

Alas, the grind continues.

ilovesoundtracks1 · 2023-09-07T18:22:43+00:00

Women. ☕️.

https://reddit.com/r/sadposting/s/QbmaSJscyC

baresquad · 2023-09-07T18:17:20+00:00

She Posted About Making Shakshuka on a Lazy Saturday. Then She Got Death Threats

What's up with the obsession that men have with having kids? Are they even ready to be dad's themselves?

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-09-07T18:13:02+00:00

There are so many experts here on health and wellness for the female body.

You'd think with all the expertise on hormones and such that they'd be swimming in pussy. Yet these experts can't find the clit.

Always yammering on about women over 120 lbs being fat and deserving of nothing but boiled chicken and unseasoned broccoli.

They go to the gym and suddenly their exercise science and nutritional experts.

AdventurousAd4101 · 2023-09-07T18:08:14+00:00

incels just don't want to put in the work to improve themselves: https://old.reddit.com/r/OrphanCrushingMachine/comments/16c83l2/apparently_being_unable_to_afford_something_is_a/

AngeCruelle · 2023-09-07T18:07:25+00:00

We had some trouble getting to Reddit

MasterTeacher123 · 2023-09-07T17:42:41+00:00

I’m Greek and I never got the whole my big fat Greek wedding phenomenon

BeReady6129 · 2023-09-07T17:41:54+00:00

I have been here for a few days, i can’t think of anything more useless than spending time on here and discussing gender dynamics with women.

Men for a long time have realized it is useless trying to use reason with women, you may as well talk to a wall.

derektheaccountant · 2023-09-07T17:36:40+00:00

One of the common things we see here and in social media is that most men are undesirable, whether it be because they are out of shape, addicted to porn, lack money, skills, confidence, emotional intelligence. And I agree with that sentiment that men are lacking in many ways.

My issue is that women are excluded from this conversation and there is an undercurrent that women are somehow better than men these days and that is the reason for the issues with male loneliness. But I find many women to be undesirable as well, I find many to out of shape as well, addicted to social media, super insecure, many have lots of mental health issues, baggage from men, lots of issues with communication (even though women are supposed to be these great communicators)

I think it’s gets lost in the convo because men are easier than women so even if men and women are equally undesirable objectively, it will seem as if women are more desired because men are thirstier and will just go after women all the time. Also women have a huge in group bias towards other women and will gas up other women and overrate their desirability, while men don’t do that for other men as much.

FuuraKafu · 2023-09-07T17:35:36+00:00

Found an ecchi manga that's actually not (too) braindead. I'm 20 chapters in, and it's still pretty entertaining, just a nice silly story.

In the near future, some portals open in Japan and monsters start to attack humanity. But humans also venture into this other dimension and they find some fruits there that gives superpowers to women, and women only. So pretty quickly basically all women eat some of this fruit to get a power. Then there is this badass anti-monster squad of sexy women, one of them has the ability to "enslave" living things, "drawing out their potential". Male MC gets attacked, this chick tries to save him, but as a last resort, she has to enslave the guy himself (she never did that with humans before, normally she enslaves monsters to fight for her). Her ability turns the dude into this thing for some reason (only temporarily), and it turns out he is pretty strong, so he gets accepted into the base of these girls, he also becomes their housekeeper. But the twist is, whenever this chick uses her ability on the MC to make him fight, she also has to "reward" him afterwards, to compensate him for his efforts, it's part of the ability. Cultured stuff.

tumblr_throwaway78 · 2023-09-06T20:41:59+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/stories/comments/16bb3ob/update_i32m_am_divorcing_my_wife_33f_after/?sort=top

Oh look, more justification for getting a paternity test! GET THE SWAB FELLAS.

If she dumps you over this, she ain't the one 🙏🙏

meteorness123 · 2023-09-07T17:34:43+00:00

Another day, another pool of really fat, unkempt dudes with their fat girlfriends walking down the street. Matching hypothesis going strong.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-09-07T17:26:29+00:00

The whole concept of "simps" and "betas" just sounds like men insulting other men for getting women.

Oddly, it seems to be women they supposedly don't even want. So why insult the men who are with this women that you supposedly don't want.

Make it make sense.

afk_row · 2023-09-07T17:01:59+00:00

Confidence without competence is delusion. Thoughts?

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-09-07T16:59:05+00:00

Thinking of coming out as pan but i know it won't be accepted bcz im a guy...

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-09-07T16:52:21+00:00

How do I stop myself from buying dumb and useless shit? Rn my method is to just procrastinate on buying it as long as possible.

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2023-09-07T16:44:02+00:00

Ever notice how all people who have a problem with materialism are richer than you?

Don't listen to them, be materialistic , make lots of money, provide for your family and buy cool stuff

Willow-girl · 2023-09-07T16:38:51+00:00

The apples knocked to the ground by last night's rain were so nice that I gathered them up and made a pan of apple cobbler instead of feeding them to the cows like I usually do with the windfalls.

Now I'm sitting here eating some and feeling guilty, like I'm stealing from my cows, lol.

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1 was my first boyfriend, ended due to my own poor decision making and immaturity. Split up with second due to the likelihood of my having to move abroad for work in the future while he can't see himself living so far from his family.

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