Serious question. What will you do with your lives if you don't find anyone?

wtknight · 2023-10-08T14:07:13+00:00

Flaired Question to Men

ImaginaryDimension74 · 2023-10-08T14:19:20+00:00

I’ve never married, but I date in and off.

Even when I’m dating, it doesn’t define my life. I travel, go hiking, biking, work out, read a book by the pool, watch tv, socialize with friends, etc.

I like women, but they don’t define me.

Anxious_Adult123 · 2023-10-08T12:38:07+00:00

For all my life I wanted to get my career sorted out, find a mate, fall in love and lead a simple family life. I got the career part more or less on track. But rest, total failure. After 2 brutal rejections, mutiple failed attempts at OLD and couple of woman who cared about me honestly opening up that no woman will find me physically attractive, I totally gave up on dating life. Being from South Asia, I do have the option of arranged marraige left but the total idea itself gross me out. So here I am at 24 years, without any expectations or hopes about dating, love and raising family.

Here are a couple of things that, imo, keeping my life relevant: * Job in health care- never let my personal life interfere with my professional. It kinda is fullfilling helping people at their worst. * My career- I am preparing for 2 different exams at moment thats going to be crucial in my career development. Wish me luck peeps. * Self care- I used to be that guy who said (jokingly, obviously) self care is for women and gays. But since I got my financial stuff more or less on track, I began investing in skin and hair care routine and gym supplements. Never felt more confident physically. Not that I walk pretending to be a chick magnet, but I kinda have the confidence to walk with my head held high. * My parents- I am able to make their life a teeny tiny bit better. They don't have to support me monthly as they used to. And they are overall happy about how I am doing in life.

So I will continue this more and more. I have few things im my bucket list. Will work on that as I progress more in my professional life. I do want to be father. Idk how the laws are for guys adopting children but I do think, I won't suck at it. Yes there is a hole in my heart about being a lonely loser but I hope to fill it with other things!

Electronic_West_1831 · 2023-10-08T13:06:59+00:00

Personally, I think about death and suicide a lot

Balochim · 2023-10-08T13:22:15+00:00

Just waiting for one more parent to go, otherwise id be long gone

throaway2s1fsfsf4 · 2023-10-08T13:37:43+00:00

Honestly? Probably kms. I wouldn't really see the point of living if I knew for sure I'd stay alone for the rest of my life. But copium would keep me going for a long while so I really would need to be 100% certain.

Iakobos_Mathematikos · 2023-10-08T14:46:08+00:00

If I haven’t ever been kissed by the time my parents die, I’ll probably kill myself. The only reason I haven’t already is that it would devastate my parents, so once they’re gone, I’ll finally be free. I don’t find life worth living if you’re unwanted and alone.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-10-08T14:12:41+00:00

I am a 33 year old man who never had a gf and I accepted the fact that I might never have one. So , I am focusing on myself, trying to make myself happy by going to the gym, learning new things, improving my career, saving money, playing video games and buying more things for my gaming collection. Yes, I have moments when I feel lonely, but I either join one of the two discord servers I have or just distract myself with something else. Loneliness can be really painful but when presented with no choice or option, we have to adapt otherwise our mental health can decline as it did mine. My mental health was really bad at one point when I was utterly alone. Had panic attacks, depression, suicidal thoughts and even attempted suicide once. I learned that this is how things are in the life of a man and learned that sometimes, we have to adapt to terrible things like loneliness in order to find some enjoyment in life.

nofapbbby · 2023-10-08T13:49:31+00:00

Travel probably.

_Ad_Astra_Abyssosque · 2023-10-08T15:18:08+00:00

Escorts and friends.

nonplussedminus · 2023-10-08T14:02:17+00:00

Enjoy life

princedune · 2023-10-08T14:16:07+00:00

take a nap on the train tracks. Giving myself a couple more years so that I can die knowing I tried everything I could

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2023-10-08T14:05:22+00:00

Just survive, sitting at home alone every day... Boring life of loneliness... I'm a woman.

I'm not happy alone. Friends and family are just not the same, you can't reach that level of closeness. Friends won't live you you, there are not there everyday so you have someone to look forward when you come back home from work. You can live with family, but they won't sleep in bed with you.

And generaly both friends and family have also other friends, other family, they have partners that are their number one, you will never be their number one. They can have ten more friends like you, it's not exclusive. With friends nor family you will never come even close to the level of closeness as with a romantic partner. You can't really share life with them everyday, they have other friends, other family, a partner, you are not their number one.

AFuzzyMuffin · 2023-10-08T15:02:07+00:00

Prob be miserable eventually or replace it with prostitutes at a breaking point once i have maximized every flaw out

social_mules_alt · 2023-10-08T15:46:41+00:00

I'm an introvert as well with no intention of ever being in a LTR. Not certain if your question is directed specifically toward people like me but since it is a question for men and I'm a man I'm gonna answer it anyway.

My long term life plan is to continue to travel and work, retire within the next ten years (I'm currently 51) then spend my golden years traveling, volunteering and spending long stretches of time overseas doing old people shit like going to the grand canyon and hiking through the Andes mountains.

I would like to touch on a particular narrative that I've noticed. You didn't specifically say it but lots of people often do. It's the idea of loneliness, being alone, living alone, dying alone etc. Have people never heard of extended families? I see my nieces, nephew, aunts, uncles and cousins all the time. Are these people just supposed to disappear because I don't have a lawfully wedded wife? The point is lots of people overplay the being alone angle.

Most people have an extensive network of friends and almost everyone has an extended family. I've had more than a few aunts and uncles who never got married. They didn't die alone under a bridge in abject poverty. They died at the end of long, fulfilling lives as old men and women surrounded by their extended family of nieces, nephews, god children and cousins not to mention lifelong friends.

Stacie_Sophia199 · 2023-10-08T12:31:34+00:00

Then I will be a loving and devoted woman to my friends and family. And all my assets and belongings will go to my niece and two nephews. But before that I will spend it to live a comfortable life and take care of my parents when they are old and in need of care.

monicalewsn · 2023-10-08T12:25:54+00:00

become extremely wealthy

IllustriousDinner130 · 2023-10-08T14:44:55+00:00

I’ll end it at some point if I don’t find someone. Won’t be for a while but I’ve always wanted to go out on my own terms anyway

RonMexico432 · 2023-10-08T15:03:25+00:00

I spent too many years partying hard and drinking, on top of having MS. I don't expect to live past 55 anyways. I've had my fun and sexy time.

Content_Imagination · 2023-10-08T21:25:30+00:00

Spend time with friends. Get involved in the community. Visit family. Choose my reality and do things that make me happy like travel, use my creativity, spend time doing hobbies. Just bc you don’t have a partner doesn’t mean you are alone or unfulfilled.

Caze588 · 2023-10-09T03:52:15+00:00

Travel the world and experience other pleasures of life. Also volunteer my time and give my money for certain causes

That_guy_who_lifts · 2023-10-09T23:26:55+00:00

Enjoy my life until I'm old enough that I'm ready to go out in a blaze of glory killing pedos. Not joking. If I never have a family to raise and nurture, then that means my bloodline ends with me, and I'll do my damnedest to leave this world in a better place. I'm going to write a manifesto on why those putrid fucks should have never been left alive and then do my best at pulling a Thanos on them. Assuming that by that age they haven't already been given automatic death sentences, which they should. It'll be glorious. Hate on me if you want, but the idea of sharing the earth with them makes me feel sickly violent.

BatemaninAccounting · 2023-10-08T20:48:13+00:00

This thread got dark fast. Lot of suicidal idoltry.

giveuporfindaway · 2023-10-08T22:19:20+00:00

I'm in my late 30's. Around 40 I plan to exit my six figure corporate job with a combination of savings and equity windfall. At this point I can try to find a third world shithole where I can have a retired age gapped relationship. This isn't something most people can do unless they're in a very good financial position. So I really don't know what poor men in my situation would do.

The thing is by the time I reached 40 I can't really go back and compensate for 20 years of pure loneliness. I'll never be able to experience love the way the way I was supposed to in my teens, 20's or 30's. My dick won't work as well either. Kind of like being given a free pass to eat chocolate after you've lost your taste buds. The boat for having kids will have also likely sailed at that point. No legacy for me even though I outperformed my father in every metric 10x. He was just born in a lucky time where you can get a house and land a wife with little to no effort.

So I'll commit the rest of my life to a combination of hedonism and meaningless personal projects like learning how to cook or paint. Hedonism has a low ceiling. If none of this is a powerful enough distraction then I can always pull a Hemingway. The nice thing is that over the next 20 years the current system is guaranteed to come to an end and women will be worse off for this. I look forward this schadenfreude while I drink a beer.

Anxious_Adult123 · 2023-10-08T12:36:01+00:00

For all my life I wanted to get my career sorted out, find a mate, fall in love and lead a simple family life. I got the career part more or less on track. But rest, total failure. After 2 brutal rejections, mutiple failed attempts at OLD and couple of woman who cared about me honestly opening up that no woman will find me physically attractive, I totally gave up on dating life. Being from South Asia, I do have the option of arranged marraige left but the total idea itself gross me out. So here I am at 24 years, without any expectations or hopes about dating, love and raising family.

Here are a couple of things that, imo, keeping my life relevant: * Job in health care- never let my personal life interfere with my professional. It kinda is fullfilling helping people at their worst. * My career- I am preparing for 2 different exams at moment thats going to be crucial in my career development. Wish me luck peeps. * Self care- I used to be that guy who said (jokingly, obviously) self care is for women and gays. But since I got my financial stuff more or less on track, I began investing in skin and hair care routine and gym supplements. Never felt more confident physically. Not that I walk pretending to be a chick magnet, but I kinda have the confidence to walk with my head held high. * My parents- I am able to make their life a teeny tiny bit better. They don't have to support me monthly as they used to. And they are overall happy about how I am doing in life.

So I will continue this more and more. I have few things im my bucket list. Will work on that as I progress more in my professional life. I do want to be father. Idk how the laws are for guys adopting children but I do think, I won't suck at it. Yes there is a hole in my heart about being a lonely loser but I hope to fill it with other things!

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2023-10-08T14:27:12+00:00

Enjoy it. I already accomplished the purpose I wanted a relationship for. That being having children. I have two wonderful children, my ex-wife and I are still friends, and I have friends in and outside of work for a social outlet. I have my books and video games for entertainment. I enjoy being alone. The main reason I don't want to get married again is because of my stuff. I have too many expensive things to have them be taken in a divorce.

Barely-moral · 2023-10-08T14:56:28+00:00

I already have a partner.

For the sake of argument lets say I become for some reason single and know for sure that I will never be in a relationship again.

I die. By my hand. End of story.

yvaN_ehT_nioJ · 2023-10-08T15:27:23+00:00

Assuming I don't happen to find anyone, I'd imagine I'd keep pursuing my career and getting involved more with whatever church I'm in. More big picture I'd love to get involved in something that'd help lower the number of broken homes, as I think so many of the problems men and women are having with their relationships and mental health stem in large part from that.

Suspicious-Bed-2717 · 2023-10-08T15:27:45+00:00

Work on my farm and die in my bed and let the bankers find my rotten corpse 🤣

buntyisbest · 2023-10-08T16:43:39+00:00

Make as much money as I possibly can without losing my sanity and spend some of it on sugar babies.

Environmental_Day558 · 2023-10-08T16:52:17+00:00

The same thing we do everyday pinky

tired_hillbilly · 2023-10-08T18:06:04+00:00

I'll just be unhappy till I die. Which probably will not be all that long since loneliness correlates pretty strongly with reduced lifespan.

IndifferentImp · 2023-10-08T21:08:20+00:00

Life will continue regardless, I'll try to find whatever form of entertainment to keep me going. Maybe once I'm desperate enough I'll go to escorts and if ai and be get there maybe I'll try that too

444oo · 2023-10-09T05:03:25+00:00

OP, you need to do this same question but for women. It seems most man would delete themselves if they can’t get a partner, but what about women?? Would they want to delete themselves too or are they okay with singleness?

Mr_Vaynewoode · 2023-10-09T09:31:22+00:00

Art. Work. Exercise. Try to help those who need it.

WingOutrageous9987 · 2023-10-10T02:00:16+00:00

Im about 40 and have been single all my life.

I have experimented with sex dolls and ai girlfriends as a substitute. I have a well paying job so I have some alternatives.

I don’t know to be honest. I think a lot about suicide as there is not much of a point in keeping on going. It’s mostly about starting a family. If I’m not good enough for being a father and have some offspring I don’t see any reason to invest into the future. I have a lot of pointless ways of wasting time like playing computer games.

It’s just a long wait until I die pretty much.

Razieloo · 2023-10-10T08:07:22+00:00

This subs answers:

Women: focus on my career, hobbies, traveling etc

Men: kill myself or cope

Workaholiconew · 2023-10-10T15:55:41+00:00

An social extroverted man will probably become an incel and be unable to obtain sexual release, they either will join the increasing number of suicides.

You need to have a thick skin and take rejection easily if you are willing to learn and be better... and well, ACTUAL social people cant take rejection very well... fake social/extroverted people like me can however. I never cares about being liked in the first place.

What do you think will become of yourselves if you never manage to find a relationship at all?

I will just retire and live life... the aging process is technically a blessing, taking away part of our sex drive as we age past 18, and taking a nose dive at 45...

ratboi34 · 2023-10-08T12:23:16+00:00

Nothing much. When I'm like 39 and still unpartnered I would probably stop actively trying to date. I would try to visit a foreign country for like 4 weeks per year and hook up a lot, then return and be alone again.

Swedenbad_DkBASED · 2023-10-08T12:24:18+00:00

Does not really matter. I can have intimacy and sex without a wife.

Friedrich_Friedson · 2023-10-08T14:22:59+00:00

Exactly the same thing im planning to do anyway?

Having a relationship will not affect my life goals in any way. Funnily enough,the only way it has affected it is negatively lmao

KlingKlangKing · 2023-10-09T11:56:03+00:00

There's no point in living if you can't be with a woman

OmoshiroiKudamono · 2023-10-08T14:25:44+00:00

Doing what I do now.

Marriage (ESPECIALLY for MEN) is a relic of the past. It is TOO RISKY for the investment. Even withOUT the 304flation epidemic (man has to put in 10x effort for 1/10 LTR quality partner), its NOT worth it. 50% divorce rate, and if not divorced, 50% unhappy marriage.

I know that the "one" is a hay in the needle-stack. I would be happy with the "ones for NOW."

DumbWordsmith · 2023-10-08T12:34:48+00:00

These days, especially, "partners" come and go. I'll be doing the same shit: taking care of business (and my health), expanding my perspective, and enjoying my free time.

Independent_Score217 · 2023-10-08T16:19:35+00:00

As a man whose been single, married and divorced... What do you think finding someone actually changes? Other than not having to work more to pay other people's way, and not having to establish a legacy for one's children... What does a lack of a partner change?

For me, I just retired early. 7.2 million working age men left the workforce last year, so clearly I'm not alone in this. Everything single men like is cheap or free.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-08T13:02:54+00:00

I’ve had kids. I’m shelved apparently according to some and I really couldn’t care less. In those eyes I’ve done my duty to humanity by reproducing and now my goal is to raise my kids properly, which is exactly what I’m doing without a worry. Except, they still try and weaponise this out of spite, because they are hurting that I’m getting on with life.

I’m secure and I don’t need to worry about sexual or romantic relationships because it doesn’t benefit my children or me to waste time and energy over.

I have a very good co-parenting relationship with the kids dad. We are focused on our responsibilities as parents; our kids childhood is a priority - their learning, their experiences and their memories.

I’m not even massively maternal, I just accept the responsibility of what I’ve created. I don’t drink, smoke, don’t do drugs, don’t do OF, don’t have subscriptions, don’t have pets, don’t have tattooes, don’t have piercings, don’t dye my hair, don’t go out (all stereotypes). I just like working, socialising at work and then coming home to be with the kids.

When they’ve left home it will still be the same, sounds boring and repetitive but it’s not your life - and you certainly don’t know what we get up to on a daily basis to judge if it’s stagnant. I’m content.

Dstar538888 · 2023-10-08T19:29:28+00:00

I’m just laughing out loud at the amount of men saying they’re gonna delete themselves from earth if they can’t find a woman 🤣 why are you guys so dramatic and why do you place women on such a high ass pedestal?? that’s a very disordered way of thinking…

Cat_Lover259 · 2023-10-08T18:28:38+00:00

I cannot believe how many comments I’m reading about men just offing themselves if they can’t find a partner. Seriously??? You’d throw your life away just because you’re not in a relationship?

That’s wrong. Life is so much more than relationships and sex. What about your friends and family? You’d really kill yourselves over not getting a dumb girl? Yes I’m a woman myself and I think most women are dumb and not worth your time. You’re really out here saying life isn’t worth it if you don’t have someone. Honestly that’s heartbreaking.

ExistingDebt7497 · 2023-10-08T15:29:48+00:00

-try to get enought money for be in the 10% or 5%

-try to avoid legally all the taxes that i can and use public services much bc if you dont have kids you tecnically dont use much of the tax money here bc.

-get a appartament in the city, one in the beach and other in a mountain place before 50

-get my moral low ennought to use scorts bc here is legal

-expent my time do what i want and get more hobbies and go out much more than now in parties

Aafan_Barbarro · 2023-10-08T13:08:13+00:00

I have no interest in dating

So you are a virgin? Or simply had bad experiences?

happy alone

What makes you happy alone? Don't you want someone to love, to be loved back, to build something meaningful together? How can you just not desire that?

introvert

That is just a preference, not a hard requirement. I am introvert too, but I can still enjoy being with people I am close with as much, if not more, than being by myself.

A person who wants it but cannot ever get it will suffer in mental health and physical health. Will be depressed at the least, suicidal at worst. Maybe even unmotivated or hateful. Might fall to addictions to compensate. It's just negative overall.

I don't know what will happen to me, I am kinda lucky my life is not that bad outside relationships with women. But if I was truly and fully alone, no family nor friends, it would be very tough.

gopher_glitz · 2023-10-08T16:20:25+00:00

Meeting someone and getting married is not a box you check off for happiness.

Being a husband is a job. It's something you have to work on everyday and you can love it, hate it or lose it.

Tons of guys checked the love -> marriage box only to get put through the ringer and get divorced and now they're alone, bitter AND broke.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-10-08T14:29:55+00:00

Unalive myself......

volster · 2023-10-08T20:59:15+00:00

I won't lie, I'll be disappointed as i really really would have liked to be a kids.

That said, I've faced up to the fact that at 35 it might just not end up being on the cards for me.

I don't dislike my life as it is. I have friends, family, my works, pets, hobbies etc.

Sure, I've been single for long enough now that another relationship might be nice but....

TBH asides from being well aware of my own dubious appeal (i am many things but sadly "smooth" isn't exactly one of them) - Part of the problem is I'm just not all that interested in casual

I'm religious enough for faith to be a hard dealbreaker.
I know damn well that I'll end up catching feelings for someone blatantly wrong for me if i allow myself to mess around with them
Sure, it's a bit of a fallacy when in reality the alternative is nothing at all but.... It feels like you're just wasting your time if you know it's not gonna go the distance from the outset.

Sadly, it seems that attraction and compatibility are almost mutually exclusive - I've lost count of the number of times someone seems great on paper but there's just nothing there... Or the opposite.

I won't pretend i don't desire companionship, intimacy, and most of all TBH, a sense of genuine connection with someone but... I'd also genuinely rather be alone than settle for less than the real-deal.

IMO being forever-single is preferable to allowing someone who views themselves as having been forced to "settle" for you into your life - They will inevitably resent you for it and bring you nothing but misery.

I've made my peace that i might well end up being nobody's first choice - However, my choice in response is just to get over it and make the most of life such as it is; Rather than crying over spilt milk and what might have been "if only".

As such, if the right person comes along - I won't pretend it wouldn't be a dream come true but... It could equally ultimately prove to be just that, a dream. 🤷‍♂️

ladyindev · 2023-10-08T21:24:52+00:00

I have a partner and I don’t think most people need to end up in this situation, but I digress

I’m the opposite personality and I honestly think that makes it easier in some ways. Introverts don’t all lack a desire for partners. Some of my introvert friends have felt a strong need for relationships more than I have over the years.

What I would do is probably similar to what I did before - continuing work that I like or go to grad school for another path, travel, meet new people and make new friends, go to meetup groups, have lovers and continue enjoying uncommitted sex and try even more sexual adventures, work on my relationship with myself until the end, give back to the community, stay involved in political organizing and working for a greater cause, love my family and visit them often, and I might even have a baby on my own (money is important here) if I really want to be a mother

Literally endless things you can do, but also I don’t think this would happen if I’m doing my work on myself and being open, especially with all the apps out there and opportunities to socialize. But it could happen so there’s that.

j3wbacca996 · 2023-10-09T16:51:32+00:00

Lol @ the number of people here who be like “wHy wOuLd u sElF dElEtE iF yOu cAn’T fInD a pArTnEr?!”

Do you life on planet Earth?

BioNipple · 2023-10-08T17:57:48+00:00

Single mom, fatties, or caged ladies. This is ofc if I can't find a third world wife. Which has a lot more benefits than American girls but also has its cons which I don't think a lot of dudes realize.

Ass-a-holic · 2023-10-08T18:36:53+00:00

Everyone saying they’d off themselves, have you actually spent anytime around the modern western female?

rogueman999 · 2023-10-08T16:44:42+00:00

44m here. Not enjoying the situation, but it is what it is. It's not like I have a choice to have a successful family just by snapping my fingers, and going back into serious dating is... not really appealing. I'd have to restructure my life around it (likely move to a bigger city) and gamble for what past experience and looking around taught me are pretty long odds.

AceOfSpadesGymBro · 2023-10-08T13:44:21+00:00

Fortunately, I've never had that problem. Pussy is as abundant as dick. Many lonely women out there waiting for a guy like me or you. Ripe for the picking. I used to believe there were 100 women for every guy like me. Since I joined PPD, I now know there are 1000s of women for a guy like me.

CountMandrake · 2023-10-08T19:36:49+00:00

The amount of dudes saying they would delete themselves if they don't get a girlfriend just baffles me haha.

On one hand, I feel for them honestly, but on the other... Yeah, the world needs less men like you, I swear.

I just imagine these dudes at any time in history, doing nothing other than chasing pussy and simping for women, and it gets on my nerves hahaha.

"Dude we need to fight against the Persian in the Hot Gates"

"Oh no, if persian kill me I won't get any pussy anymore"

"Dude, we have to fight nazis back and repell them from France"

"What for? Nazis are tall and handsome, and treat french women like dirt, that's why they like them. I prefer to kill myself"

Haha come on I swear it's pathetic.

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xTakki27 · 2023-10-08T13:12:33+00:00

Continue to bingen buy Metal Concert Tickets on which I'll start drinking my face off until I hardly don't feel the hematoms from being in the moshpits anymore...

After that?

Probably continue using razorblades more extensively while working myself to death to rise to wealth and Power to satisfy my controlling urges and to somehow get SOME action, so I don't croak a virgin...

Yeah, that's probably it

LoFiPanda14 · 2023-10-08T13:29:31+00:00

Gym, work, passing time like I’ve been doing.

throwaway164_3 · 2023-10-08T13:44:34+00:00

I’m in a LTR now in my mid 30s, but if it ends and I can’t find someone else, then:

Thankfully I have a great career and probably am financially set for life. So the question will become what do I do with disposable income and time.

Explore and travel the world, be curious and learn more about how the universe works and learn more about science and reality. For example, I really want to know if JWST can spot the first star that was formed after the Big Bang!

Then good food and wine, loyal dog, friends, music, hiking and camping in nature, etc. The world is amazing in its natural beauty and we’ll all be dead soon so to live at all is miracle enough

anonymous375555 · 2023-10-08T13:52:40+00:00

Money

Substantial_Video560 · 2023-10-08T13:55:43+00:00

Work, hobbies and interests. Go on lots of day's out and holidays. Continue to live as active a life as I can! 😎

Earth-lover93 · 2023-10-08T14:23:15+00:00

Just keep on doing what I’m doing, recently I just started my own company so there’s benefits of not having someone.

LoopyPro · 2023-10-08T14:24:50+00:00

Spoil my nieces/nephews, buy a plot of land, build a cabin, go hunting/fishing, motorcycle riding, travelling, play poker, smoke cigars.

Tl;dr - Doing whatever I want until I've seen it all.

TonytheNetworker · 2023-10-08T15:14:31+00:00

I've been traveling a lot this year. All the money that would've went to dating and finding a partner will be going towards more international traveling and saving quicker for retirement. Also, I have a FWB arrangement to handle my sexual needs. I think I'll be ok overall.

Enflamed-Pancake · 2023-10-08T15:18:32+00:00

Basically the same thing I do right now. Work and spend my disposable income on hobbies and good food.

GrandRub · 2023-10-08T15:29:29+00:00

The same i do now - enjoy my life. spend time with friends. spend time doing things i like and deem valuable.

synaps-bro · 2023-10-08T15:33:53+00:00

I think I would just continue to work on my hobbies and hangout with my friends. I would accept I would feel lonely and sad sometimes but that's ok I welcome those emotions instead of pushing them aside

KeepCopingBuddy · 2023-10-08T15:35:32+00:00

Probably just live life. Eat, sleep, and die eventually.

night-time_coffee · 2023-10-08T15:49:39+00:00

It’s going to be fine i have a lot of interests and plans for the future aside from dating , I’ll have my low moments for sure, but eventually I’ll keep developing myself and keep trying , it’s big motivator for me to stand up and seek success

DaddysPrincesss26 · 2023-10-08T16:06:25+00:00

Live it to the Fullest, My way

KingOfTheIncels_ · 2023-10-08T16:10:24+00:00

I'm building a career in film, I really love what I do and I want to climb that ladder to create things people love. I found alot of my fomo around sex died when I started getting interested in it. I'd like to be a director some day.

Hot-Law2682 · 2023-10-08T16:16:17+00:00

I'm in a relationship right now and will probably be in one again but the chance I actually find "the one" who I stay with for 10+ years is very rare.

If that doesn't happen, I'll focus on work (I am very intent on going into a very specific career that requires lots of time) and hobbies. Also would spend time with family, seeing my parents and my inevitable nephews/nieces.

I'd still date up into my 40s but my expectations would be very low.

Bro_with_passport · 2023-10-08T17:21:56+00:00

This seems more like an issue for incel type men, than men broadly.

thedarkracer · 2023-10-08T17:25:28+00:00

When I reach of 50, I know I will be a burden to society as I will not be able to contribute anymore. I know that I am undesirable to women and always have been (known that since before I was 10yrs old so I never tried). I am gonna take a cyanide pill when I know I will be useless.

Laurely4u · 2023-10-08T17:33:39+00:00

Porn

Curious_Attention719 · 2023-10-08T17:34:27+00:00

Take care of my other parent as i have been doing, and then I have no clue. Most of my family has been gone for a while now, and I'm an only child. I'm lonely even with male friends, as they have their own lives and kids, and have honestly been treated pretty poorly overall in life by women, including my own mother when she was alive.

place_of_desolation · 2023-10-08T17:48:37+00:00

I decided a long time ago that growing old alone is not something I can deal with. I am 45, and for one reason or another, I've not been able to find my person despite my best efforts and dating options only diminish the older we get. There will come a time when, if I'm still single, I can realistically see checking out as a viable option.

CryptoThroway8205 · 2023-10-08T18:11:25+00:00

I feel like this question was asked around a month ago but I can't find it.

I don't think it's really possible that I never find someone. If somehow I haven't found someone in 8 years I probably travel abroad where my wealth is more attractive.

reforged-demon-blade · 2023-10-08T18:15:07+00:00

I'm 33, never found anyone and becoming less and less interested in it. I've lived my life just fine so far.

GlasgaAccentfurYanks · 2023-10-08T18:33:31+00:00

"I can't expect someone to carry me, when I can barely carry myself. Although, I trick them all when I smile, laugh and induce hilarity in my fellow man and woman.

Self pity is the worst of sins, O' let me fall in love with life in all its ruthless ravages and momentary splendour, if one can vanquish doubt, dread and fear all you have then is the will to live. Life is about loss, you are worthwhile. It could all be gone tomorrow, forget about false speaking, unease, cringe, discomfort, throw all you have at whatever sparks heaven in you, real tangible aspects of life that you can unashamedly adore, be kind to, content with, sacrifice the fool, the coward you hold within or take him by the hand and go happily wandering."

Guy reads Nietzsche a few times. But seriously. Yer alright. No one here gets out alive, fuck it, go, all, the, way.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2023-10-08T18:36:20+00:00

Simple, get my masters, work OT, save. Invest, move to Philippines and find someone there.

I've yet to see a older white successful wealthy man not find a partner in Philippines.

If that fails, I guess escorts?

gntlbastard · 2023-10-08T18:49:00+00:00

I live my life to maximize my happiness. I travel, have my hobbies, friends etc. What I don't have, is compromise on what I do and the incessant nagging because I didn't do something using the instructions that were to be found inside her head.

justforlulz12345 · 2023-10-08T19:41:05+00:00

Continue smoking weed drinking and doing psychedelics until i ascend into the 5th dimension

You are flesh automatons piloted by neurotransmitters on a rock in space. I never truly belonged here, I was the Interdimensional Arbiter. Then I got fired after I mistakenly approved Penny and Gumball's relationship. My life on this prison planet is mapped to Cartoon Network shows, representations of various epochs and planes of existence.

Humans are certainly a fickle kind. No wonder my punishment was here, no matter though, soon I will escape the dimension. Find Allah (my boss who fired me from Interdimensional ARBITER ) and BEAT HIS ASS FOR SENDING ME HERE

NoirPill · 2023-10-08T20:09:24+00:00

Go ER mode. Already doing it as an oil lobbyist

AhoBaka1990 · 2023-10-08T21:39:25+00:00

Whatever I've been doing so far

Spyro7x3 · 2023-10-08T22:00:00+00:00

It's over for me burned to many times and likely nothing will become of my life now the family and wife ship sailed after several attempts.

RedditBellend · 2023-10-08T22:14:28+00:00

Keep on keeping on. By which I mean being chronically bored, depressed, anxious, ashamed, feel like I'm going insane etc.

allnamesweretaken5 · 2023-10-08T23:01:18+00:00

operatowers · 2023-10-09T02:14:34+00:00

Sleep, eat, work and consume media like I already do. Only difference is I'll be more lonely and I'll die at a younger age than I otherwise would - possibly of a heart attack or stroke or maybe even a suicide if it gets too dark.

Bubbly_Ear_7819 · 2023-10-09T03:13:49+00:00

Porn

SDW137 · 2023-10-09T05:22:00+00:00

I would advance my career, spend time with my family and friends, travel the world, and enjoy my hobbies. So nothing too different, except for not having kids. But even if I did end up getting married eventually, maybe I wouldn't have had kids anyway.

Mitago1 · 2023-10-09T05:52:15+00:00

Probably continue living, although a fruitful, long term relationship can be deeply meaningful and can enrich your life, there are still other ways to attain happiness and meaning in life.

Chocat_X_Stencchi · 2023-10-09T07:17:38+00:00

Tbh at this point I'd rather be alone and content than to try to understand someone who doesn't want to be understood.

lostacoshermanos · 2023-10-09T07:42:35+00:00

I already have but if I was single I’d never give up looking until I died

morbidnihilism · 2023-10-09T10:38:33+00:00

Escorts for once a month, minimum.

ArmDiscombobulated29 · 2023-10-09T10:41:34+00:00

My dad is in his 60s and has been single since his 30s. He basically works almost all the time and though he hides it he is very lonely

dela_man14 · 2023-10-09T12:13:40+00:00

It depends how old we’re talking. I’d work continue to work hard on my purpose, amass wealth, do fun stuff and lead on women who think I’m an eligible bachelor.

Lower-Director1043 · 2023-10-09T17:56:50+00:00

some of us have had relationships and have decided the juice ain't worth the squeeze.

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2023-10-09T23:14:32+00:00

I'll prosper

While I enjoy dating I don't see a reason I need to be stuck with someone for any period of time

Razieloo · 2023-10-10T08:03:52+00:00

Don’t look at the male suicides data

qunamax · 2023-10-10T13:46:51+00:00

You talk like we will be here for eternity, you wander this Earth a bit and then you die like everybody else...

George69143 · 2023-10-12T05:41:17+00:00

Leave

Familiar-Republic-66 · 2023-10-15T00:35:14+00:00

Wait till my mid 30s, then rope

Title	Serious question. What will you do with your lives if you don't find anyone?
Author	Remarkablyfrustrated
Upvotes	49
Comments	524
Date	October 8, 2023 12:15 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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