Daily Community Chat Megathread

River_Archer_32 · 2023-08-07T01:01:08+00:00

https://www.ctvnews.ca/sci-tech/boys-don-t-cry-study-suggests-mothers-not-fathers-show-gender-bias-towards-sons-1.4693208

not really surprising. women hate male emotions. didn't think it extended to their sons but guess its not that surprising.

potoricco · 2023-08-07T00:59:47+00:00

I’m actually a really nice person in real life

UninterestingFork · 2023-08-07T00:56:26+00:00

Without reading anything I already know redpillers are against women having tattoos because women having choices is baaaad

FourthHarbinger · 2023-08-07T00:46:00+00:00

Most of the women my age I've seen on this vacation are my height or taller

Pain

SianOiseau · 2023-08-07T00:42:10+00:00

u/CryEquivalent6748,

It clearly depends on a woman.

Most women have a job, provide for themselves financially, cook, clean, maintain familial and platonic connections. Most women also date and have sex. Statistically women work less hours, but spend more time on chores and childcare. Women are usually the ones who manage the household and take care of the ill, young and elderly.

A more detailed answer would describe my social circle which, of course, suffers from a sample bias. I can also describe what I provide in relationship, but that's purely anecdotal data. Anyway, most women I know closely are egalitarian-ish, they have their own income, they cook, clean, take care of their partner and kids, often they take care of their own and their partner's parents as well. They're generally supportive and caring - I know multiple couples who have gone through a man's illness and/or long unemployment. It's true for me as well. I provide pretty much the same things that my husband does - partnership, companionship and love. For a few months I was the one supporting us financially and I used to do it for more than a year in the past as well. I do the chores, although for some time he was doing the majority of it as he had more free time, I cater to his needs. I provide emotional support and care, I take care of his health as well.

Btw, yes, we don't have sex "on demand" - husband doesn't enjoy having sex if I'm not in the mood either. We see sex as something mutually pleasant, not a chore or duty, so it makes sense to have it when we both want it. I don't mind starting intimacy when I'm neutral - I know I get into the mood, but if I don't want to, I don't want to. I can give him a head if I have time/energy for it, but it isn't compulsory either. Just as it isn't compulsory for him to give me a head or have sex with me whenever I want.

potoricco · 2023-08-07T00:23:58+00:00

Your Bianual reminder that bitch is a slur and men shouldn’t say it

I have literally lost attraction after seeing a guy say bitch casually

potoricco · 2023-08-07T00:16:30+00:00

So I know you guys don’t like tattoos on women but do you like henna? I get that done a lot

potoricco · 2023-08-07T00:15:20+00:00

Unpopular opinion

Men shouldn’t have opinions on child rearing and reproduction. They shouldn’t be pro life, pro choice, antinatalist, pro surrogacy, anti surrogacy

Only women are at stake, Only women get to comment. Men may know but they will never truly understand

1Here4Bach · 2023-08-07T00:15:18+00:00

It’s funny how males finally know what consent, sexual assault and power dynamic abuse is when Lizzo (a woman they hate) is getting accused and canceled for it.

So strange, right?

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-08-07T00:11:13+00:00

I finally learned how to properly dice carrots after years of using canned/frozen.

Excellent_Badger123 · 2023-08-07T00:05:09+00:00

Boomers agitating and “gray divorcing”…it seems it never gets any easier.

Specialist_Cod1841 · 2023-08-07T00:01:13+00:00

i don't care about your preference but viscerally hating tattoos is just a roundabout way of saying you have a stick up your ass.

potoricco · 2023-08-06T23:55:51+00:00

So about the maggot situation nothing came of it because my mom never took a picture

You know how large immigrant WhatsApp network groups are, one text message and the caterers life would be destroyed. As it should because how fucking nasty do you have to be to have maggots in your food

Also who knows what infant maggots look like? They weren’t thick and yellow with red eyes they were grey and tiny. I’m not gonna search it up so tell me

Pizzashillsmom · 2023-08-06T23:28:01+00:00

men prefer debt-free virgins without tattoos

This caused some ruckus when it was first posted, but why should they not? I mean they’re not necessarily realistic (depending on where you are and how old you are) and can have good reasons (e.g. some college debt for a good paying degree), but all else being equal I don’t know why I should not prefer a debt-free virgin that doesn’t have tattoos?

Ylduts · 2023-08-06T23:15:34+00:00

Has the pendulum swung too far? ~60% of college graduates are women. Men are currently being left behind and yet no one seems to care. I’m for equality but at this point it’s looking a lot like misandry🤷‍♂️

Anyone else noticing this?

Fun fact: Women have accounted for over 50% of bachelor degrees for 20 years now…..

Society has been demeaning men for awhile now and people wonder why Andrew Tate is so popular with young men, well you have your answer.

meteorness123 · 2023-08-06T23:07:30+00:00

I kind of admire scientists. Many of them don't care about this dating shit.

Pizzashillsmom · 2023-08-06T22:55:16+00:00

Tattoos are a form of self harm

Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T22:54:46+00:00

HOEflation is through the roof

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-06T22:44:21+00:00

Barbie movie surpasses $1 billion!

potoricco · 2023-08-06T22:03:21+00:00

I fucking hate when “radfem” girls get a boyfriend and then suddenly start NAMALTING like it’s so annoying they were never on our side in the first place ☹️

baresquad · 2023-08-06T21:57:05+00:00

This thread is crazy but my takeaway is that you can’t blame women for sex being inaccessible to a lot of men.

If sexlessness is truly that rampant, clearly what’s been identified as the problem, is not the problem.

Katatonicsnake · 2023-08-06T21:55:01+00:00

Husband’s friend thinks I hate him. He has apparently brought it up several times now. It’s odd, I haven’t even met him that many times.

NothingOrAllLife · 2023-08-06T21:53:46+00:00

Weird question that requires an honest answer. Would you unmatch a woman that refused to do dinner as a first date? Or rather said she would prefer to do something a bit more low-key?

EDIT: currently getting dragged in a group text by two random women for not going on the expensive dinner.

Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T21:36:32+00:00

What did I miss

Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T21:36:27+00:00

I want püssy now

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-08-06T21:35:05+00:00

Black women have the literal worst relationship track records. Doing the opposite of what most black women say would probably leave you in a better situation.

Oh boy! Another sheltered suburban child making racist remarks based on 2 seconds of “research” thinking that makes them intellegent.

I can't say I'm surprised. Dumbasses that think men and women are a monolith would also think races are a monolith too. Don't bother explaining to dumbasses nunace and the complexities of life. They don't have the IQ to comprehend it.

meteorness123 · 2023-08-06T21:11:57+00:00

Would you date someone whose name was "Poopraaht" ?

SorryEm · 2023-08-06T20:34:59+00:00

It's weird how common these smarter malcontent black women come to this sub to argue. Lillth and poppyblu(suspended) are a good example of this. Something tells me Icy_ordinary is a black woman too.

I don't know why this is so common, but it just is.

SorryEm · 2023-08-06T20:29:20+00:00

It's weird how men will systematize and optimize nearly everything. Engineering, sports, video games. Take any multiplayer game, whether videogame or sport and you will see that men have gotten better at it over time, but somehow that isn't the case with getting women.

PBtoast707 · 2023-08-06T20:20:33+00:00

Everyone thought I was crazy when before it even started, I said the US will not make it to the World Cup final. And then they choked and lost to my home nation of Sweden. It feels so good to be right.

SorryEm · 2023-08-06T20:19:35+00:00

Icy ordinary makes Lillth seem like a sensible person.

Pizzashillsmom · 2023-08-06T20:15:46+00:00

If a girl likes you enough she will be exclusive without it needing to be discussed.

Pizzashillsmom · 2023-08-06T20:04:17+00:00

Non exclusive relationships leads to hurt feelings, who could’ve predicted this?

meteorness123 · 2023-08-06T19:59:46+00:00

A friend of a friend of mine had a kid with a woman last year. He said if it it weren't for the kid, he would have left her as she doesn't seem to be the most enjoyable person to be with. He doesn't leave her because apparently she would hate him for that and could "make his life really hard" and make it hard for him to see the kid. Looks like, she's kind of crazy.

Q: How would she be able to do that and what is the likelihood of her achieving that and what is the likelihood of the guy getting fair custody rights? The guy is a well-put together guy, no history of drugs and earns good money so the argument that he would be a bad influence wouldn't really fly.

DerayRevan · 2023-08-06T19:50:44+00:00

"Men don't want to reproduce with low quality women"

What is even a "quality" women to begin with

Because l've noticed everyone will use their own definitions again when describing this

A guy will say a quality woman is someone with feminine traits or good personality but in the same breath another guy will say a quality women is someone with lots of sexual experience or a single mom because she is hot

So again we can never this conversations if things are going to be subjective with this terms

meteorness123 · 2023-08-06T19:45:49+00:00

What does coffee do for you/how does it help you/what does it help you with and what do you think of thr benefits or alleged disadvantages ?

Ylduts · 2023-08-06T19:31:21+00:00

As a high earner I will never marry. I’ve seen too many successful men absolutely wrecked in divorce. Why do so many intelligent and successful men continue to marry? It’s mind boggling. Have you not done a proper risk assessment?

purplish_possum · 2023-08-06T19:29:15+00:00

Sometimes I really hate old hippies. People on Social Security should not be shooting each other over cocaine. Guess this means I'm going to the office on a Sunday.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-06T19:25:09+00:00

It's really weird how men admire other men for having sex with lots of women.

So many posts here read like men want sex with women so that they'll be admired by other men. It's not even the sex they actually want, it's the admiration from other men for being able to "pull women".

Specific-Tell6949 · 2023-08-06T19:03:19+00:00

How can men with a low sexual drive even date when most women think sex is one of the most important things in a relationship? Seems like it's not really socially accepted for men to wait for sex. I (M26) messed up another chance to get an amazing girlfriend and lose my virginity.

You can only read part 5, part 6 and part 13 if you want to skip a bit of text. I think this is the perfect sub to discuss this subject, as it is so unusual and so many different philosophies are present here.

So I guess my world shattered a bit over 6 months ago, when a turkish girl (F25) I was dating and I was already in a relationship with suddenly changed her mind and told me "she doesn't want a boyfriend right now", which obviously meant she did not want me as a boyfriend anymore. I think it was because of me waiting too long for sex, which she might have perceived as a rejection.
We met online (not Tinder, but Facebook/Instagram since we had several common acquaintances and are part of the same international student organisation) 2.5 months before we met in person and before I came to her country for an exchange semester (To clear things up: I was going there anyways, it was planned before I knew her). Actually it felt like most of the activeness came from her part, I would have been way more reserved and passive otherwise. So we were super in love with each other even before we met, she also picked me up with her car at the airport in Istanbul and started initiating kisses. So first day we were spending in her best friends appartment having some drinks and food.
Two days later, the second time we met in person, there was again a party at the same best friends house. I offered her to stay over night at my flat, since I was basically a neighbor to her best friend where the party was and the city of Istanbul is absolutely huge (one of the biggest cities in the world). She agreed. I offered it because I was legitimately worried for her to go home alone, so basically my protector instincts kicked in. I did not think anything would happen that night apart from cuddles. Yes, now in hindsight I know this is extremely naive, especially at our age. But since I am basically demi-sexual, have a lower sex drive and want to get to know the person better before having sex, I did not think deeper about it.
Anyways, she probably thought different and that this was an implicit request/or offer for sex. So after the party and when we reached our bedroom we were both light drunkenly standing in front of the bed. I was chattering about whatever for a few seconds when she suddenly opened her hair, started to grab and kiss me and throwing me into bed. Wow, just wow, I thought like a Lioness was conquering me. That was as extremely sexy to me, and let me tell you, that woman was incredibly attractive , beautiful, cute and sexy.
At one point that night when we were kissing and making out in bed I had to tell her that I am still virgin, that she is my first girlfriend and that I'd rather wait a bit for sex. She seemed flattered about it and to receive it very well. We were still making out, cuddling and hugging. I tried to rub her vagina and later went down on her and fingered her until orgasm. She also wanted my fingers in her mouth.Over the night she was rather verbal (and probably since she was drunk a bit) she said several things like "My body is all yours/I am all yours", "I want you inside me" (even though I said I want to wait for sex, but maybe she meant the fingers)." "Wow that was sexy" when I put off my shirt; "I love how gentle you are" (when he first gently put my hands down to her crotch area). She also several times said that she loves me. I did not have an orgasm myself since I did not even care about it, I just wanted to pleasure her.
So this night went well. I should have been more verbal probably and give her more compliments, I was just too focused on pleasuring her, but overall I think it all went well. We went to her appartment in another part of the city the next day and stayed there for another night. I think this is where I messed up. Again we did not have sex, but just kissed and cuddled all day, all night. She told me she loves me several times again. Next morning I had my fingers on her vagina when I was lying in bed and she told me she was getting horny. I also told her I liked her vagina, to which she a bit madly replied "Oh come on, you have not seen anything yet!" (alluding to what I could have seen if we actually had sex probably). Anyways, we parted our ways that day but she still kissed me and seemed in a good mood.
The next day a horrible earthquake in the country happened, in another part. This changed a lot. She was super focused on it and it was also a big political subject (unstable democracy in Turkey and around that time the presidential elections came up). She a is a lawyer and a very dedicated person. politically dedicated too. She posted a lot in her insta stories about it. In general she has a very high social media presence. Also, one of her friends in one of the affected cities died (which was not sure at that time yet). Anyways, 3 days later we met up in person in a coffee shop with her best friend again. I could feel a different climate already. But since the whole country was under suspension and shock, I did not take it personally. We once again went to her best friends appartment, where i kissed and made out with my ex at the couch, while her best friend was in her bedroom because of a headache.
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Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T14:05:44+00:00

First!!

Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T14:05:59+00:00

Saw the ninja turtles movie last night. Shit was dope as fuck!!!!

Excellent_Badger123 · 2023-08-06T14:10:12+00:00

Watched the 2022 Babylon movie with my husband this evening. Pretty wild men & women angst and turmoil. Anyone else seen it?

MboloYaBaKali · 2023-08-06T14:11:46+00:00

CMV: Men's fear of approaching women largely comes from porn and not feminism.

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2023-08-06T14:20:58+00:00

Become a male feminist, dye your hair any colour of the rainbow, depolarise your relationships with women, watch them say you are not like other guys however suffer the pain of watching them always go after those other guys and leave you firmly friendzoned.

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-08-06T14:24:06+00:00

So someone brought this to my attention because I walked out the theater when this scene came on: The Barbie movie compares the Barbies WILLINGLY giving up their power to the Kens to the colonization of the Americas. Choosing to be a housewife is NOT the same thing as Trail Of Tears and a plague of Smallpox. The near extinction of a whole race is being compared to bimbos being outsmarted by Himbos. I feel like this point needed to be repeated in multiple ways because that's extremely disrespectful.

It’s like seeing dumb men compare their blue balls to child neglect and loneliness. All of this might as well be code for “I lived such a privileged spoiled life that even minor inconveniences feel like a bugger deal than they are. And Im too big of a narcissist to comprehend the concept of ‘gratefulness’”.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-08-06T14:27:49+00:00

Honestly my sister has an espresso machine and I could not be happier. Thinking I might need one of these things. But they're expensive

Justwannaread3 · 2023-08-06T14:32:03+00:00

Had a guy tell me that it’s “almost biologically impossible” that I truly love my boyfriend because we split bills and he’s not your stereotypical “simp.”

Men: Please stop telling women how we feel about our own lives and relationships. We know ourselves better than you do.

diaryofalostgirl · 2023-08-06T14:43:57+00:00

Before actually getting back into OLD, I would not have said I multidate. But... [shrugs] Lots of guys want to be friends first. So I multidate, apparently.

Preme2 · 2023-08-06T14:44:41+00:00

I don’t care about soccer, let alone women’s soccer but I’m always up for putting women down. What an embarrassing performance by the women’s national team. Too worried about equal pay and “man bad”. All that to get put out by Sweden of all countries.

A national display of why women deserve less.

scwizard · 2023-08-06T14:44:51+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/15j1nzr/men_say_that_the_only_reason_why_there_are_more/

This isn't a contradiction.

Homeownership can be the express lane to poverty if you go about it wrong.

scwizard · 2023-08-06T14:51:54+00:00

We are very different personalities - he’s an introvert, career driven, sensible, very concerned about money etc. I’m a huge fan of travelling, being active, a little woo/hippy. Despite this, we do get along very well and generally have a good time together.

Ahh yes the classic "he's very concerned with making money, I'm very concerned with spending money, somehow we get along even though we don't always see eye to eye."

potoricco · 2023-08-06T14:52:49+00:00

Ai porn will save women actually

It’s created by men, for men. Ai p*rn is just men exploiting other men and no real women are harmed in the process. The demand for sex workers will decrease, leading to women getting better jobs.

lolmastr13 · 2023-08-06T15:09:33+00:00

What’s the consensus advice women give that men are supposedly ignoring

DerayRevan · 2023-08-06T15:11:37+00:00

I've always said autistic men still struggle and have it way worse than their fellow autistic women

Because autistic women are still women, so they still have the same attractions as neurotypical women do which very confident,assertive guys

And let me tell it takes a lot for autistic guy especially when his young to overcome his social/neuro disorder and become confident specifically when he has to approach

And many autistic guys fail because they come off very awkward or somewhat "creepy" at first

But autistic women don't have to deal with that since men neurotypical or autistic still want them because they of their looks

Ill_Inspection5225 · 2023-08-06T15:35:59+00:00

Q4M: how would you react to your gf telling you she’s been invited to a trip to Ibiza with a group of girls?

AstronautLoveShack · 2023-08-06T15:58:11+00:00

This whole sub can be defined as men saying “girls have cooties!” and women saying “no we don’t!”

Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T16:02:54+00:00

Give me Liberty, give me Seggs or give me Death

Peacesquad · 2023-08-06T16:02:59+00:00

What did I miss

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-06T16:11:28+00:00

Once upon a time, I danced at nightclubs and drank buttery nipple shots. Now, no man wants me because I shook my ass to a Jason Derulo song, and now I'm tainted for other men. Pray for the poor club girls.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2023-08-06T16:35:47+00:00

I know there are plenty of stats out there on infidelity, but I wonder what the stats would look like if you restricted it to conventionally attractive people. Do super hot people cheat more, because they likely get more offers? Do they cheat less, because they're secure in their value and likely already have a great looking partner? Food for thought.

DerayRevan · 2023-08-06T16:40:39+00:00

A lot of attractive guys just don't know their value towards the female population when coming dating

I knew many guys who were

Tall,rich,muscular/good looking

This are the guys many women wanna have sex with but because of their Bluepill conditioning they simply don't know

Even my friend, guy has a sixpack and and a great haircut that alone would arsouse many women but he just doesn't know it because his been convinced somehow that isn't enough or he needs to bring in order to even get a girlfriend

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-08-06T16:50:18+00:00

So, my hairstylist also went to see the Barbie movie and she also found it to be extremely insulting.

So don't think Im taking it lightly when I say that the movie was a power fantasy for weak women. The reason I'm going so hard on this movie is that I’m tired of Hollywood pushing this narrative that women are so weak and thin skinned. Not every woman feels like a victim and some women have actual problems that are bigger than guys saying mean things to them.

Part of a transcript of the “WOMEN HAVE IT SO HARD” rant:

You have to have money, but you can’t ask for money because that’s crass. You have to be a boss, but you can’t be mean. You have to lead, but you can’t squash other people’s ideas. You’re supposed to love being a mother, but don’t talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman, but also always be looking out for other people.

This was presented as contradictions, but I’m not seeing the contradictions:

It is possible to be a boss thats not an asshole. It is possible to have money and not ask for money. It is possible to lead and listen to people’s opinions. Mothers have lives beyond their children. The fuck is this rant?! Also, why is it implying career women are selfish cunts?

SianOiseau · 2023-08-06T16:56:35+00:00

So we live with another couple and we cook in turns. The other guy has cooked very occasionally and even when he comes home earlier than his wife, he'd sit and wait for her to come and cook.

When we discusses meal prep, I slightly pushed him to cook more and participate in turns like everyone else...and his wife pushed him more. So now he cooks too. He might be not a very proficient cook, but it's still a good change. She also used my husband as an example "he's improved a lot, so you can do it too" lol.

purplish_possum · 2023-08-06T16:57:02+00:00

Installment #3 in my Rock&Roll explains it all series. 70's Brit Rock Classic (Scottish actually) -- Nazarath's Love Hurts. A song that exposes the the happy ever after lie. Also the song that was playing the first time I slow danced with a girl at a jr. high dance (that foreshadowed a lot).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6pHNkOQCIzk

Love hurts, love scars
Love wounds and marks
Any heart
Not tough or strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud
Holds a lot of rain
Love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
I'm young, I know, but even so
I know a thing or two
I learned from you
I really learned a lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a flame
It burns you when it's hot
Love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
Some fools think of happiness
Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves, I guess
They're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true
I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie
Made to make you blue
Love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
I know it isn't true
I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie
Made to make you blue
Love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
Ooh, ooh...

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-06T16:58:35+00:00

Based on that thread about women and love....

I've come to the conclusion that most men here have mommy issues and thus hate all women.

purplish_possum · 2023-08-06T17:05:31+00:00

Did someone kidnap our Lilith and replace her with an impostor? She's making some good points today.

SorryEm · 2023-08-06T17:16:39+00:00

I kinda wish there could be a male shortage for a few decades. The amount of men being born sharply decreases so society learns to appreciate men more and to punish society for treating men like they're expendable.

potoricco · 2023-08-06T17:21:54+00:00

Many straight men aren’t actually attracted to women they are attracted to objects that perform femininity

HazyMemory7 · 2023-08-06T17:22:22+00:00

Appreciate all the cool people I met here but i've lost interest in talking about dating and by extension moderating here, it was fun for a while

Waschbar-krahe · 2023-08-06T17:30:08+00:00

Why do so many guys think it's some kind of punishment to be friends with a woman? I mention a platonic relationship with a woman and some guys act like I've just told them to castrate themselves with a chip clip. I just don't get it

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-08-06T17:36:01+00:00

Women pretend like they don't enjoy male attention but if you eavesdrop on their conversations, they talk about the men they're dating or meet a solid 25-50% of the time.

It's especially true at the clubs and bars. Yeah right, you spend 2 hours preparing, wear a slutty crop top that looks like a sports bra, and spend all the time gossiping with your friends about the guys you met or are dating, and you're saying you didn't come out to meet men or didn't enjoy male attention?

WestCombSplit · 2023-08-06T17:47:58+00:00

As much as I loved to watch the USA lose to Sweden, these people using it as an excuse to trash "wokeness" or whatever else Rapinoe advocates for, are losers. They won it the last two times, of course they were gonna lose at some point

The people that call themselves fans who are trashing them are even worse. They're just a spoiled group of people. Reminds me of Real Madrid fans. Just because you've won it before doesn't make you entitled to win it again

SorryEm · 2023-08-06T17:52:52+00:00

If the "average man" is extremely capable of attaining a happy relationship and there aren't very many complex issues regarding modern courtship why do bluepillers even bother with this subreddit? This stuff should be apparent.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-06T17:53:44+00:00

This sub is like a creative writing class. People share their little stories and get feedback from the class.

Ylduts · 2023-08-06T18:04:03+00:00

I’ve been dating 25 year old women for 20 years. As time goes by less and less of them know basic ‘wifely’ duties. Cooking and cleaning is something everyone should know how to do.

iliyb · 2023-08-06T18:11:03+00:00

This thread proves just how despicable male sexuality is https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/15jrfts/when_rhode_island_accidentally_legalized/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2

potoricco · 2023-08-06T18:22:45+00:00

Idiotic Trad Men: Women don’t need to work. Men aren’t attracted to a woman’s career.

Also Idiotic Trad Men: how DARE women demand that their husbands make above a certain amount? What happened to women being humble?

Remote_Indication668 · 2023-08-06T18:24:23+00:00

I still genuinely don't understand where women exist in the world outside of their house.

Last night me and da bois ended up at an afterparty after bar hopping all night and it was literally all dudes + some people who brought their girlfriends. It's just been consistently my experience hanging out with people that it's almost always entirely guys and the only way women enter the group is if one of the guys (the attractive one) goes up and just blatantly hits on a woman and manages to bring her over to where we're going.

Twinseo09 · 2023-08-06T18:33:50+00:00

So when are ppl going to start calling out the pickme behavior of some of these men here?? Some of you guys will sit here and claim attractive men have horrible personality off the basis they simply are attractive and have options. You’re obviously trying to get PICKED by framing your rivals as negative to make women stay away from them so you would have a chance. It’s pure pickme behavior directed at men the same way women talk shit about women they are threatened by. 😂

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-08-06T18:34:49+00:00

It's honestly depressing as a man to completely looksmax and still get barely any attention. Although it was a lot quicker and lower effort to get to the max as a man, you also get rewarded so much less compared to women. The same woman who put in the same low effort would get a lot more attention and jump up many more points on the looks scale and she still has a lot more room for improvement if she wanted to put in more effort.

It's like, this is it. This is the peak you'll get lookswise and you're barely getting any attention.

-snickerss- · 2023-08-06T18:49:13+00:00

Most men will never get to experience what being very attractive is like, and it's pretty sad tbh.

WestCombSplit · 2023-08-06T18:55:32+00:00

What is with all these guys being sad about not getting a bunch of random free attention. These guys seem like they'd love to be Marilyn Monroe

DerayRevan · 2023-08-06T18:59:43+00:00

Ok l've had enough of all this subjectism of what HVM is

So here's the objective we need to use

A HVM is a man who brings more value to the world than most average men, that's it plain and simple

The result of this is many men respect him or admire to be like him and many women are attracted to him because of his influence/status

A perfect example would be Kobe Bryant,steph curry,Elon musk,Messi/ronaldo,Drake etc

potoricco · 2023-08-07T00:04:45+00:00

If I had it my way

-Prostitution, OF, sex work banned

-Sex doesn’t exist

-Women rule

-Men retain their physical advantages but they are physically smaller

potoricco · 2023-08-07T01:04:27+00:00

What is the worst subject and why is it English

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-07T01:13:35+00:00

Why do the boys here think that every 35 year old man in existence thinks the same as them?

potoricco · 2023-08-07T01:15:50+00:00

Imagine if women told me I just need to wait until 35 and then I’d have a line up of 6 foot tall millionaires

Now reverse the sexes and make the prize 20 year old virgin baddies

Now you see how rarted it sounds?? Men are being sabotaged and they don’t even realize

Several_Pressure7765 · 2023-08-07T01:22:17+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/reels/CvhUoGGgiRw/

I think yall would enjoy this 🤣

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-08-07T01:32:12+00:00

I think I just realized why many men can't see that Barbie is actually critical of feminism, it's because they are expecting to see a critique of the way feminism sees men. However, the movie does not really touch that topic. Instead it critiques feminism's pressure on women to be idealized ambassadors of women, and to "have it all".

NothingOrAllLife · 2023-08-07T01:36:27+00:00

Let’s talk vetting: what do you vet for? How do you vet? How much do you think can reasonably learned via vetting?

Some context: I told my extended friend group about the guy that reacted poorly be declining his his ultra expensive first date idea and suggesting something a bit more low key.

A friend of a friend said “sounds like you need to vet better. That’s not what the first date is for”.

Any thoughts?

FunEducation1434 · 2023-08-07T01:39:44+00:00

I’ve never done Online Dating. Can an average looking dude who actually puts effort in his online dating profile expect to get at least 2-5 matches a week, Or is it still gonna be a desert? I would obviously play in my league and wouldn’t shoot for the stars lol

social_mules_alt · 2023-08-07T01:53:09+00:00

So, what's the story about that fat bitch Lizzo? I heard she got a deal with Chiquita

UninterestingFork · 2023-08-07T01:53:39+00:00

I identify as Female Woman from now on

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-08-07T02:05:54+00:00

So, I went to a software engineer meet-up. For software engineer there were alot of out going people, pleasantly surprised. But I met a tinder software engineer. I was just asking him questions about his job. I asked him about the tinder algorithm, he couldn't get into any details becuase he'd get into trouble, but the algorithm is a model for maximizing profit where the end goal is the user to want to pay for tinder premium, becuase thats where all their money comes from.
Their algorithm is trained to incentize paying for premium features. Agian, he didn't dive too deep into it. Tinder secrets

Just to shed some light on why tinder is probably a bad place for you guys to be citing for evidence. By the way he was trying to avoid answering my question properly is probably becuase the algorithm is predatory.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

If you really wanna prove the 80/20 rule, maybe you guys should have a regular guy, go up to a 100 women and ask them if they find him attractive or something like that. But tinder isn't made for you to find love, they want u to pay your money.

Business-Ad-5344 · 2023-08-07T02:08:57+00:00

any tat preference is fine:

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/body-modification-fan-covers-himself-27900133

no guy is going to base the decision on a single little butterfly tattoo. but it is perfectly reasonable to think that the more area that is covered, the more it might matter to an individual. when you look at extremes, it should be obvious.

it's exactly why men understand why 5'0" men are in general less preferred than 5'8" men.

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-08-07T02:19:41+00:00

Also, I just wanted to say that if someone is shallow, it doesn't make them a bad person. Just means they have preferences. If women want to date attractive men, that doesn't make them bad people. Theres alot of great shallow human beings

Justwannaread3 · 2023-08-07T02:19:42+00:00

Q4W: Anyone else have a partner who had other dating options but ended up with you even though he knew you’d had casual sex before?

social_mules_alt · 2023-08-07T03:04:44+00:00

Are tattoos the topic of the day? Okay, I'll add my two cents. I'm torn. I find lots of tattoos unattractive but for some reason those big ass body murals always seem interesting. I met a girl in college (I was in college, she was not but she was a regular at one of the local college bars) who had a big ass dragon tattoo that covered the entire side of her torso. She looked so professional when she came in wearing her work clothes but on a Friday night she'd wear one of those dresses with the slits in the side and you could see the entire tattoo. God damn she was sexy and it wasn't just because of the tattoo. She had other qualities that made her sexy.

But yeah, I typically don't like tattoos.

I also know one girl who has her knuckles tattooed like Jake and Elwood of the Blues Brothers. I'm like really? Tattoos are generally masculine but there's a spectrum. A rose on the ankle isn't quite as masculine as an anchor on the bicep. But without a doubt the most masculine tattoo there is would be tattoos on your goddamn knuckles spelling out four letter words. Jesus H Christ.

I do not have any tattoos myself.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2023-08-07T03:31:05+00:00

I thought this girl was using me so I told her it wasn't working out and she blocked me ☠️ damn maybe she really felt like we had something, too bad she never showed it 😂

Remote_Indication668 · 2023-08-07T03:51:03+00:00

There is nothing to me more disgusting than a tall man who is skinny.

It is an abomination. It's actually a crime against God and should be illegal. As in people who are 6'3+ and can't bench at least 2 plates should go to jail and only let out when they can bench at least 3 plates.

It is disgusting that someone who is that tall is not willing to actually use their body for what it is made for. The universe has gifted you the absolute greatest thing in the world, the ability to be fucking MASSIVE and you squander it by being skinny? It's so disgusting.

UninterestingFork · 2023-08-07T03:59:09+00:00

casually watching to catch a predator while I do something else

whenever I look at the screen to see how the pedo looks like I react the same

of course, he looks like a pedophile

meteorness123 · 2023-08-07T04:41:24+00:00

Bruh. Gratitude and negative visualisation really helps.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-08-07T04:47:24+00:00

Booked a tattoo session because of all the talk here. I'm excited to get another one that will help ward off men.

Ylduts · 2023-08-07T04:51:05+00:00

Q4 US Citizens

What are we doing? Lowering test scores so more students will pass. Getting rid of AP classes because they aren’t diversified enough…. Have you lost your mind? How will we complete on a global stage with this strategy? I can’t be the only one who sees this?

I labeled this as US only but feel free to chime in if not free the US.. I’m interested in hearing your perspective of the situation.

GrassToucher29 · 2023-08-07T05:08:35+00:00

Some gossip that I thought I’d share with y’all:

My husband recently took his 16 yo daughter’s car to the shop for a minor repair, and it ended up needing ~$4k in additional work done to it. He decided to politely ask his ex wife (the teen’s mum) to cover half of the unexpected expense, given that she’s the child of both of them and has no money of her own yet.

This woman says no, she’s not willing to cover any of the cost of the repairs, on the basis that she’s spent $4k on the car itself and the auto insurance so far this year, and that she’d “appreciate it” if he could “even out the expense.” (Which I’m not even sure is true; I could have sworn she was on our auto insurance because it would have been more cost effective, but anyway)

He replied that he’s spent $20k on therapy for the daughter this year (out of network provider chosen by the ex wife, of course) and reminded her that he’s given her $4k a month for the past 3 years, (2k in child support, 2k in alimony) to which she wouldn’t even legally be entitled anymore, given that she makes more than he does now, and retained greater than her fair share of the marital assets, which he thought served the best interest of the kids.

This woman replied that he’s a very “smart, intelligent man,” that he could be earning a lot more than he is, and that she feels “very badly for [him] and all the potential [he’s] squandered.”

I just about lost my shit reading that. The sheer narcissism is astounding. I’m trying to figure out if she’s expecting him to work every hour that he’s not sleeping or something, just so he can fork over more cash for their expenses, while she abandons their kids for the beach every other weekend and goes on cruises to Turks and Caicos… Like I can’t even wrap my head around the absolute greed.

Anyway, Hubby’s figured out that the car is titled to the ex wife and not to their daughter, and will be reducing next months payment to her by the full amount of the repairs, given that he has no legal obligation to improve her personal property.

Shit’s about to get spicy. I’m half hoping they go to court over it and she gets a reality check, but on the other hand, I don’t want that kind of stress for Hubby, nor do I want any sort of emotional blowback for his daughters while they’re living with that psycho. So, we’ll see.

Ill_Inspection5225 · 2023-08-07T09:27:34+00:00

In lieu of recent online discourse - how many men here are actually against women having the right to vote and why?

Furthermore if you did want to see a world where woman can’t vote, it’s only fair women are exempt from paying taxes if they don’t get any say in how the taxes are used, which would have a severe impact on the economy.

According_Listen_897 · 2023-08-07T10:28:04+00:00

Would you say that in a straight relationship the female partner has the liberty to both share individual problems about her life but also group problems (gender specific issues) whereas the male partner has very little room to share individual problems and absolutely no room whatsoever for group problems (As it's portrayed as misogynistic.). Then, given that mutual emotional support is a cornerstone of every relationship and for it to be genuinely strong and has impact both parties need to listen and understand one another, so do women even see and understand men in this context? And do men even love these women that can't even see them or are they just addicted to the sex?

FuuraKafu · 2023-08-07T10:55:12+00:00

Men "pump and dump".

Women are like "whoops lost the spark, sowwy".

The ONLY way it makes sense to judge these things differently is if you are a gender essentialist and you genuinely don't believe that a man who orgasms from sex with his penis can have similar internal workings to a woman who "loses the spark" after the first, unsatisfactory sex.

I wish people (women) had the balls to own being gender essentialists.

Workaholiconew · 2023-08-07T11:47:28+00:00

I found something interesting maybe lack of msturity is the cause of mamy womens mental health issues, let me explain.

I was trying my luck with a mentally ill woman yesterday. She had anxiety and depression and would describe it to me how her mind works (3rd year of psych).

She would constantly explain how she wanted her future house and wedding to be up to showing me links of furniture and decoration of the church but go back to a saddened state when she noticed her family was poor and how she was single.

Not for a single moment it got into their head that they should not be dreaming about a life they have no way to achieve in a reasonable timeline as of rn nor that there are a million steps she could take in order to reach these goals but never does any. Only relying on her great ass and boobs to take her through life....

simply put... she was acting like a cchild who would be anxious about being an astronaut when they are adults and sad because they are not astronauts yet nor it is likely they will ever be. A bit of maturity here would make her considerably happier and more mentlaly sane.

TigerRude4 · 2023-08-07T12:00:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/15jx8gw/ghosted_after_sex_on_first_date/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2

Is this an example of costly signaling?

potoricco · 2023-08-07T12:33:45+00:00

Good morning 🦄🦄

potoricco · 2023-08-07T12:37:05+00:00

https://preview.redd.it/mc6xsk5rnogb1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=db99b8be236f88b6e75fdc57feadade6a8b8af17

potoricco · 2023-08-07T12:38:43+00:00

Last year my mom got me a perfume for my birthday and she came in today to try it on before work and then she asked me why it was still so full and if I didn’t like it 😢 and then I explained that I did like it

I just genuinely forgot I had it. I get sad over the dumbest things like what if that hurt her feelings

potoricco · 2023-08-07T13:00:48+00:00

I honestly think the US should have South Korean style enlistment for young men. They shouldn’t even go to war, but things like public service are ok. It builds character, discipline, and would solve the supposed loneliness crises. The saying “an idle mind is the devils workshop” is true. This is why it’s not a coincidence that high unemployment means high crime and misogyny.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-08-07T13:38:06+00:00

I think im gonna write my "George Costanza is technically a Chad" post soon. I never wrote a post on here so does anyone have any advice

GrassToucher29 · 2023-08-07T14:12:51+00:00

It’s crazy to me that some people really think that if you get unexpectedly pregnant, you basically just exists exactly as before except with a round belly, and then you just pop the kid out, hand it over to strangers, and then your life and body are exactly the same as before you got pregnant.

(If any of you don’t understand why this is a ridiculous view of the whole experience, I am not explaining it to you. I don’t have time for that.)

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-08-07T14:14:28+00:00

Simping and White Knighting is a losing strategy though. Correct me if I'm wrong but being a "pick-me" should get you a guy.

This is such a stupid belief because plenty of man hating feminists have boyfriends and husbands.

How many guys want to be like Will Smith?

According_Listen_897 · 2023-08-07T14:17:36+00:00

I love this short story very much, I don't know why.

Peacesquad · 2023-08-07T14:40:43+00:00

Give it to me straight. What did I miss?

Peacesquad · 2023-08-07T14:41:24+00:00

Q4M: do you prefer masculine or feminine women?

Peacesquad · 2023-08-07T14:45:39+00:00

Women, do you think you’re capable of leading a relationship with a man? Why or why not?

Infammo · 2023-08-07T14:56:43+00:00

What's a good takeout lunch idea? I forgot to bring mine today and whenever that happens I usually just get a Chipotle burrito bowl. Not really in the mood for one today though.

96tillinfinity_ · 2023-08-07T14:59:37+00:00

I want you guys to go through the replies from the women on this tweet THEN take a look at what the guy looks like. When you look like a guy like him, almost all women will fold for you. Top tier attractive men can do as they wish with committed women and women will excuse it

BackgroundPain6691 · 2023-08-11T02:23:46+00:00

Should I give up? I am a short male.

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-09-07T20:38:35+00:00

Male body expectations be like, you can be at a healthy (19-21) bmi as a man but you'll be a skinny nerd unless you devote 10+ hours a week working out and dieting.

Meanwhile a girl with the same body type, even one who is close to flat, has a good body, basically the optimal body for around the majority of upper middle class men.

I don't see how any woman can complain about female body standards.

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How can men with a low sexual drive even date when most women think sex is one of the most important things in a relationship? Seems like it's not really socially accepted for men to wait for sex. I (M26) messed up another chance to get an amazing girlfriend and lose my virginity.

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