Daily Community Chat Megathread

CalmNeedleworker3100 · 2024-01-04T06:34:11+00:00

What's the difference between having a fetish and having a type?

chilikettlechips · 2024-01-04T06:22:46+00:00

Man posts about wife being sick/fat/depressed and won't change:

I'm literally shaking now, why take a vow? Why marry if she'll change? You didn't truly love her. Let's all discuss in 1000+ comments about the debunked study that men leave sick wives.

Woman posts about husband being fat/sick/depressed and won't change link

Yes queen you have to leave and take care of yourself, what about your safety?

ratboi34 · 2024-01-04T06:13:37+00:00

I wanted to try a self experiment of being drunk for a week straight, even during the day, but Imma need to stop it now already on day 4, because it just feels so disgusting. This shit looked much more fun in the movie 'Another round' and I think I already got from it what I wanted, which is to give up some control. But I made dumb decisions, I ordered a fucking airfryer and a hat yesterday and I texted someone I probably shouldn't last night.

8mm_Magnum_Cumshot · 2024-01-04T06:03:05+00:00

There is nothing wrong with "McMansions" and I will die on this hill.

MC/UMC families value big, nice-looking, homes with a lot of outdoor space for the kids and don't care about arcane architectural principles/styles, "McMansions" are simply meeting that demand.

Urbanist redditards can take their elitism and shove it in their wardrobe(because their apartment is tiny and they even don't have a closet lol)

scwizard · 2024-01-04T05:59:30+00:00

How much do you think the government would need to bribe women to have kids in order to get the birth rate above replacement level?

y2kjanelle · 2024-01-04T05:46:01+00:00

It’s really odd to me that being a promiscuous woman rooted out the worst potential partners I could have had. Never really met a man that made me feel like I missed out on something good because I slept around.

If it’s such an unattractive trait, why did it not matter to the better guys I met and did matter to the worse guys I met??

scwizard · 2024-01-04T05:44:15+00:00

There's been a number of matriarchal or egalitarian societies throughout the ages. But they've been destroyed or taken over by patriarchal societies.

Is this a sign that God hates women?

8mm_Magnum_Cumshot · 2024-01-04T05:38:32+00:00

Are single-income households actually unviable now or have people's lifestyle expectations gone up substantially since the mid-late 20th century?

I know this is fictional but I was rewatching young sheldon and the family of five(two parents and three kids) was living in a tiny single floor ranch house with 3 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. The twins had to share a bedroom. The show takes place in the late 80s and I think that this is a good example of an acceptable "middle class" lifestyle then. Would it be now? I don't think so.

scwizard · 2024-01-04T05:36:14+00:00

Women continue to become more evolved every single day. Even young girls are more determined than a few years ago. Most men, however, have been the same since the 1400s and expect the world to stay that way too. Why evolve when everything is already catered to your needs without you trying?

Are women more evolved than men?

scwizard · 2024-01-04T05:18:24+00:00

"enjoy the decline"

What's to enjoy? It's not like casual sex has gotten easier to come by even though WAP is one of the top songs.

odd_cloud · 2024-01-04T04:52:34+00:00

Found an interesting article that discusses that there is little mainstream writing by straight men about dating. Never noticed it, but it’s true.

I think it tells some interesting things. First, it’s shameful for men to have some problem with attracting women. I guess it stems from the commonly accepted narrative that a “normal” man has it perfect with women and only male abominations may experience any problems.

Second, a there is in fact information about dating for men in manosphere. Interestingly, their message is “better yourself” rather than discussing people you’ve had a date with (as it is for women). It shows the attitude that a man must pull himself by the bootstraps.

EulenWatcher · 2024-01-04T04:38:31+00:00

The OP of "maybe women just like doing chores more" reminds me of a joke "oh, I don't do the dishes or the floors because my wife must really like doing these things after a long tiring working day".

TraditionSuspicious7 · 2024-01-04T04:18:29+00:00

Hello everyone and thank you to the moderators for allowing me to post this post. My name is Daniel Tyler an honours student from the University of the Sunshine Coast Australia and I’m currently researching motivations to use online dating and the differences found between masculinity and femininity, sexual orientations and marginalised groups as such data would help in illustrating (any) significant differences between the sexes, genders and dating motivations. That being said, however, we require at least 150 individuals from each category to participate as that is the needed amount to help us ascertain if there are any significant differences between masculine and feminine individuals. I feel this community is a valuable resource that could contribute great insight into our research and add robust data to our findings that will eventually lead to overall understanding and better quality in matching potential partners.

So please if you have any online dating experience regardless if you're in a committed relationship now or not, and are over the age of 18 or know someone who does, I implore you to please fill out our completely anonymous survey and share it with your friends and family.

Kind regards Daniel (please email me with any questions) [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])

https://uniofsunshinecoast.syd1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8Iavzf2g3xklNX0

meteorness123 · 2024-01-04T04:15:24+00:00

Cmv : Not being succesful with women (or at least at some point experiencing that) and then having sucess is more satisfying than never having struggled like ever.

hannahg000 · 2024-01-04T03:48:17+00:00

do people ever get bored of having sex? some people want to have sex everyday. does it not get boring? especially if you are having vanilla sex. does the pleasure just make it seem more interesting than it is?

these are my sleepy thoughts

iliyb · 2024-01-04T03:40:32+00:00

Everyone here in few decades:

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odd_cloud · 2024-01-04T03:39:41+00:00

The idea that a normal man can’t have any struggles with attracting women must be gone. I think the default image is that a “normal” man has no problems with casual sex and dating. According to this image, if a man cannot get a date, he must have an awful flaw. It may be his hygiene or total lack of social skills or misogyny.

I know some normal men who have difficulties with women. They have a job, they don’t stink, they aren’t jerks.

Guys, who have success, are higher than normal in looks, game and/or charisma.

Discussions about dating would be more reasonable if people assumed that most guys who have troubles are not some disgusting monsters.

GridReXX · 2024-01-04T03:36:38+00:00

My gay male friend just realized that what straight people and gay women mean by promiscuous isn’t what gay men mean by it. He really assumed straights and lesbians were having 10+ new partners a week and regular orgies.

I had to tell him “nah bruh gay men are the outliers here, but tbf I think straight men would behave the same if women weren’t the blocker” lol

meteorness123 · 2024-01-04T03:22:50+00:00

You know when you're in the dilemma of feeling anti-social but still having that natural urge to socialize ?

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2024-01-04T03:20:47+00:00

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what would happen if I ate this

Steakman1 · 2024-01-04T03:10:36+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/18xkhz1/i_will_never_forgive_myself/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1

If this is legit, then what a barbaric place some areas of the world are.

hannahg000 · 2024-01-04T02:59:03+00:00

i never understood why people continue to talk and hangout with people they don’t like very much. if i don’t like someone i just never talk to them again unless there is a work/school thing that requires it

Pizzashillsmom · 2024-01-04T02:56:26+00:00

You want to reduce male birth rates cause you hate men, I want to so every man gets a harem, we are not the same.

Pizzashillsmom · 2024-01-04T02:55:29+00:00

The smartphone is one of humanities worst inventions.

Infammo · 2024-01-04T02:46:47+00:00

Just argued so hard with a dumbass about Harry Potter that they deleted their account rather than admit that they were wrong. I wish that happened more often here.

blebbyroo · 2024-01-04T02:42:08+00:00

So excited for this year, I’ve created a financial plan for us and am thankful my partner is on board and giving me control of our budget!

So over wasteful spending!

iliyb · 2024-01-04T02:09:43+00:00

Q4all: a government funded gf or a government funded beyta male who pays for everything?

8mm_Magnum_Cumshot · 2024-01-04T01:57:12+00:00

How do you guys think political beliefs correlates with masculinity/femineity in women?

A lot of rightoids like to characterize left-wing women as more masculine and right-wing women as more feminine but I think this kinda misses the mark. Arguably many feminine cognitive/behavioral traits likely also contribute to left-leaning political beliefs and explain why women are more politically left-leaning than men.

Moreover, some of the most "behaviorally masculine" women, particularly gym bunnies and high-achieving career women, tend to be less politically leftist than other women IME.

monster_lily · 2024-01-04T01:44:50+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRcuFFFX/

Me if you even care

iliyb · 2024-01-04T01:13:31+00:00

Men after complaining about womens unrealistic standards:

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GreatSmashPlayer · 2024-01-04T01:13:04+00:00

A lot of men fall into the trap of "nice guy game" whereas they think that just by looking good, having a good job, and being polite and cordial to women they'll be able to get the girl. But this is actually a quick trip to failure town, or betabuxxville at best.

I gave up on trying to be "hot". I'm a 6/10 at best and I barely get matches on dating apps, so hotness just isn't my lane. But I'm able to bring hot chicks home with me because I approach them authentically with genuinely high self-esteem and women can sense this and respond well to it. I have an interesting unique sort of nerdy energy and I'm willing to disagree with women and make fun of them a little bit (but only from a place of honesty). So unless you look like Timothy Chalamet you should probably work on being a high-vibrational person rather than looksmaxxing. There'll always be a hotter guy, but there will never be another "me".

monster_lily · 2024-01-04T00:54:31+00:00

I didnt get home until SEVEN pm

Pizzashillsmom · 2024-01-04T00:33:47+00:00

It’s funny how sex is considered an adult only topic, but among certain people you’re a loser if you haven’t had sex before becoming one.

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-01-04T00:32:24+00:00

What food has a really low failure rate? Like it’s really hard to fuck up(insert here)

Pizzashillsmom · 2024-01-04T00:24:52+00:00

If the media, education system, entertainment just pushed conservatism down everybody’s throat 24/7 women would be conservatives. Most women are extremely conformist.

Sudden_Substance7914 · 2024-01-04T00:12:00+00:00

If I have a son I’ll tell him every day that life isn’t fair and that no one deserves anything in this world. You have to earn everything. I feel like a lot of us grew up with the belief that we deserve love.

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2024-01-04T00:03:56+00:00

why is woman focusing/prioritizing looks a bad thing when men do the same thing to probably an even higher degree? men just have lower standards but I'm willing to bet looks is like 80% why a guy gets a girl anyway

danielwastaken · 2024-01-03T23:47:30+00:00

Too many guys are settling for absolute garbage these days when they could be doing so much better.

butagoodpersonality · 2024-01-03T23:39:52+00:00

Well I broke up with the guy I’ve been dating for good. Even tho I told him I was still healing from a breakup and he said he was fine to take it slow I just wasn’t feeling good about it.

He was okay. He’s attractive and an athlete so he will be fine. I know everyone says this but I truly want to focus on myself for a while.

I did feel bad cause he asked if we could still hang out as friends and I was like idk if that’s really a good idea

Nate_Reborn · 2024-01-03T23:32:24+00:00

I saw the thread about if any of our beliefs have changed/been affirmed since being here. I'd say I can acknowledge a few things. To balance this out, I'll weigh things evenly for both genders:

Observations towards women:

- A lot of average women do get looked over/ignored in favor of the hot ones.

- If 'Alpha Widow' is a thing, then so is 'Stacy Widow'. I know several 20's/30's+ dudes who have success with one hot chick and now simply can't see themselves with anything lesser than.

- When women say their DM's are filled with junk, I think it's true.

- I think the 80/20% is a completely unfair mischaracterization of how women choose their mates.

- The way & speed at which women's opinions are dismissed on here is pretty bad. Immediately dismissing their opinion creates no room for productive conversation.

- The makeup/plastic surgey industry is huge for a reason. Men can talk about who they're attracted to all day, but women notice how men act on that attraction, and that often tells a different story.

Observations towards men:

- I agree that looks matter a lot. 100%. A lady friend of mine recently got a new boyfriend. Out of curiousity, I asked her how much did looks play a part in your choice, and she said "close to 50%". Obviously everyone has different thresholds, but please be mindful of your presentation.

- In dating, you stand to suffer more from a lack of social graces than a woman on average simply because you're socially expected to initiate. One lady friend of mine suffers from extreme social anxiety, doesn't go out much, and yet has boyfriends lined up one after another.

- I agree that dismissing the lack of attraction towards short men under the fact that "the average man is taller than the average woman, so it's a non issue" is an incredibly weak rebuttal. The fact is, most women like men taller than them. If you're a short man, and you're doing what you can to succeed, don't get disheartened. Keep going.

- Diagnosing all of your problems as a lack of social savvy can also be short sighted in many cases. There are a lot of sociable men who struggle with singledom for a variety of issues. I think these threads would be better served by asking about the entire man (fitness routine, diet, fashion, etc) to more accurately diagnose issues.

- The pressure is on you to initiate, and this comes with a price. Move too fast, and she may think you're coming on too strong. Move too slow, and she may think you don't find her attractive. I've dealt with both myself before, so I get it. It's not easy.

- Being nice doesn't directly translate to dating success. There are a lot of bad men who do indredibly well with women when it comes to both sex & relationships. You need more than niceness to create sexual attraction.

Overall, I don't think anyone has it easy in the dating landscape. However, I think these threads would be much more productive if they moved beyond hurling insults, and focused more on productive dialogue.

hungrychick404 · 2024-01-03T23:30:51+00:00

My coworker doesn’t believe in dinosaurs. He believes in mermaids, though

Infinite_Signal90 · 2024-01-03T22:54:05+00:00

Luke Littler the 16 year old darts player I was talking about earlier came runner up in the tournament. £200,000 at aged 16 is impressive and there will be more to come in the future. Best of luck to the dude.

dishonouronmycow · 2024-01-03T22:47:38+00:00

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This could be partly yours

ratboi34 · 2024-01-03T22:45:55+00:00

Being more loyal to your barber than your girl is part of male nature.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2024-01-03T22:40:57+00:00

Which chain pizza is better, Pizza Hut or Dominos?

Pizza Hut is opening in my neighbourhood, and Dominos has existed in my country for the last few years. How similar are they?

I honestly can't say I like Dominos, I very much prefer our local, non-chain pizzerias.

DarayRaven · 2024-01-03T22:34:20+00:00

At this point redpill is just a placeholder, that's why the definition is useless

Gladboys · 2024-01-03T22:32:51+00:00

lol my mom blocked my number

RevolutionaryFig929 · 2024-01-03T22:21:18+00:00

Random thought because I read some comments on Instagram about "why there are not more men like this"

And disclaimer, I grew up in germany so this might be different in the US.

Now that I think of it, from a very young age, our school teachers and everyone always told us that it's backwards and not normal that only the man works and the women doesn't. It was told again and again that it's unfair, that when a man makes more money than the woman, she will likely have to stay at home with the small kids for economic reasons. The idea that a woman is mainly with a man for what he can provide materialistic, was pictured as something negative.

Its was kind of always suggested that both have to work and do household chores as equally as possible.

So when women today complain, your mother's raised a whole generation with these ideas.

You just got what the generation of women before you asked for.

CalmNeedleworker3100 · 2024-01-03T22:19:13+00:00

Q4W: Do your boyfriends use this sub?

GreatSmashPlayer · 2024-01-03T22:10:46+00:00

Here's a tip on dealing with a cute girl's jealous unattractive cockblocking friend in a bar: Ignore the cockblocking female, and just directly ask the cute girl if she wants to continue chatting, but also give her a reasonable "out" (like saying "it's cool if you've got somewhere to be, maybe we'll meet another time") so that she can answer honestly and doesn't feel pressured into giving some fake ass womanese response. If she genuinely wants to continue the interaction, then at that point her cockblocking friend becomes the "harasser" and should start feeling awkward, and hopefully she'll leave you guys alone.

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2024-01-03T22:08:33+00:00

Sex "positivity" be like

There's nothing wrong with a woman doing BDSM gang bang porn. You misogynistic pig for not liking a woman who has been gang banged
Man watches porn? You disgusting pig seeing women as sex objects for your sadistic personal gratification

monster_lily · 2024-01-03T22:04:05+00:00

I hate when i make friends Then like i dont know if im friends w them enough to say hi to them

Anti_Thing · 2024-01-03T21:54:24+00:00

We know that, generally speaking, lack of experience is unattractive in a man.

But how is this affected by religion?

I have almost no relationship experience at 26. I had opportunities to date but in the past I always refused to date unbelievers. Due to attending small churches for most of my life & living in a deeply secular area, I've had very few chances to date women who share my values. I don't believe in sex outside of marriage & I'm only really interested in women who think the same way.

Do you think that such anti-fornication women tend to look down on my lack of experience like secular women do, or are they more likely to appreciate that fact that I've been careful to keep myself pure & stay away from women I don't see long term opportunity with?

Fearless_Method_1682 · 2024-01-03T21:52:01+00:00

Can't wait to get married so I can enjoy the average husband life where my wife works 80 hour weeks being CFO of BusinessCorp, does all the cooking, all the cleaning and I just sit in my gaming chair enjoying snacks she prepped for me in between my shifts at my part time job at the comic book store.

ThatLeval · 2024-01-03T20:07:59+00:00

The idea that we suddenly live in a cancel culture is hilariously stupid. People really like to forget that people got cancelled for being the wrong skin colour, dating the wrong skin colour or dating the wrong sex. People just get cancelled for different things now

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-03T16:46:54+00:00

There are some who advise women to wait until they are officially in a relationship with a man to have sex with him, to ensure he’s not just trying to hook up and then ditch her. I say we take it a step further— don’t have sex with them until you’ve met each other’s extended families.

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2024-01-03T16:48:25+00:00

Every female /r/glowups post be like: I stopped being a fattie woman and got to a healthy (19-21) BMI

That is all you need women

dbz__f · 2024-01-04T09:56:12+00:00

How the fuck do people break up after YEARS together? I know its a stupid question because it happens literally all the time but I think it baffles me, even though I've experienced it myself long ago. Like how do you go from loving someone deeply to the point you want to spend your life with them, to just, not that? You'd have to change into a human being.

I genuinely hope it never happens to me.

YuYuHakusho23 · 2024-01-03T15:55:09+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/s/ccCcBBrpmL

Female women talking about how female women are terrible friends. I already knew this of course this is why I always bat a side eye to dudes who are obsessed with being friends with female women because they don’t necessarily make the best of friends but this confirms it for me.

danielwastaken · 2024-01-03T18:25:35+00:00

The key to men's happiness is to not take anger/hate from women seriously. They're lashing out and it probably has nothing to do with you

Consistent-Gur6932 · 2024-01-03T18:59:08+00:00

It's so annoying when women say "Women are good at being nurturers, they are more emotionally intelligent, caring etc

Like bruh, speak for yourself. I'm a man and I'm probably more emotionally intelligent than you

dishonouronmycow · 2024-01-04T11:59:29+00:00

Leaving a cheating partner is holding them accountable & never the wrong thing to do

danielwastaken · 2024-01-03T15:12:23+00:00

The inexperience discourse is getting out of hand

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2024-01-03T19:51:45+00:00

Q4A regarding a potential situation: My girlfriend needs to get a new roommate ASAP (long, not very interesting story), and a male friend of a friend of hers offered to take over the vacant lease.

I haven’t spoken to my gf about this, (because there are other women who could potentially take over the lease and it’s possible that this guy is gay), but I don’t feel comfortable with the idea of my gf living with a straight dude that isn’t me. I don’t mind her having/hanging out with male friends, but I feel like living together is pushing things too far- I definitely wouldn’t move in with a straight girl if our situations were reversed.

At the same time, she really does need to get another roommate quickly for financial reasons, and if this guy turns out to be the only option available on short notice, me putting my foot down would put her in a bad spot.

What would you do if you were me?

Gladboys · 2024-01-04T12:33:17+00:00

Introversion is such an annoyance. You can look someone dead in the eyes and know you would be perfect for each other and still say nothing for lack of motivation. Then you play this memory on repeat, and curse your stupidity. And they never even knew, because you said nothing.

Gladboys · 2024-01-03T15:44:20+00:00

Waiting for the inevitable counter thread lamenting the idea of inexperienced men using experienced women as practice girlfriends lol

Peacesquad · 2024-01-03T16:27:01+00:00

I’m going to armpitmaxxxx. Purchase the best cologne and deodorant throughout Europe and asia until I get my Johnson sucked like a hurricane

Katatonicsnake · 2024-01-03T16:45:05+00:00

Sometimes I watch movies and series or read books because a character or a relationship between characters reminds me of someone in my life. It’s a trippy experience because sometimes they say stuff or have a similar body language as the person they remind me of.

shmupsy · 2024-01-03T17:24:14+00:00

I think the Barbie movie was effective at telling men a message. You can be in charge again when you figure out who you are. The Kens found themselves much where we are now. In a society without much of a role for them, or respect. The had an uprising, but what ultimately beat them was their own lack of virtue. The Barbies took control again, but not of the real world, just Barbieland, which is their natural territory. The Kens need to scrape together the agency to at least build Kenland. After that, the world is up for grabs.

Men are in a crisis. They need a mass self-actualization; self-determination. Men have lost institutional support, and that's the sting we are feeling these days. We desperately claw for it back, but it's not coming.

We need to start forming networks with other men, start reading, eating right, working out, and making money; quit vices like weed and video games.

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T17:48:14+00:00

where do I find a chick like this

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2024-01-03T18:02:48+00:00

Women don't like losers who watch anime or read comic books

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/18wtqo8/should_i_just_give_up_my_nerdy_side_for_love/?sort=confidence

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T19:31:58+00:00

All i want is a big titty gf this year. Manifesting like some say 🤞

Gladboys · 2024-01-04T14:11:34+00:00

the stigma around mental health medication is so damaging. without Adderall my mind is dominated by intrusive thoughts, with Adderall I am able to focus my energy into productive things and actually inch towards my long term goals. meanwhile there are people who need medicine who will never get it and blame every wrong factor for self-destruction. though there is a fine balance between over and under prescribing. the brain is so fucking complex, isn't it?

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2024-01-04T14:52:27+00:00

Bro, life on easy mode, even for the fat ones

https://www.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/18xvtcr/broke_my_two_year_unwilling_celibacy/

Nate_Reborn · 2024-01-03T16:02:46+00:00

Routine reminder that no one is forcing you to be in a relationship with a woman who isn’t hot for you. Also, you’re worth a damn, so be kind to yourself.

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2024-01-03T16:26:54+00:00

q4m is it a massive plus if you get a gf who's a cuck as in she likes to see you fuck other women? why or why not

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T16:51:29+00:00

The most interesting thing I've learned from this sub is the word buttergolem

Steakman1 · 2024-01-03T17:37:55+00:00

Why can’t I have a gf that just looks at me flacid like this?

Consistent-Gur6932 · 2024-01-03T18:35:12+00:00

Why do North American women have the desire to always argue for the sake of it?

Me and a girl were having a debate about our favourite cars.

I named some cool looking rugged cars. She named a few "feminine" looking one.

She said she wanted her's pink etc

I just told her what I don't like about her car, and she got pissed off and said some random stuff about me appealing to the male gaze and not appreciating a less rugged form of beauty and told me I have these ideas from modern day sexism. She was visibly annoyed. I asked her if she was offended, and she said yeah

I stopped talking to her after that. It made me cringe so hard at her. Why are some North American women always looks to fight the patriarchy in every sentence. It's like they want to paint the world pink

I don't talk to her anymore, and she's HOT too, but even then I didn't fall into lust. I actually never want to speak to her again cause she's cringe asf 😂

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-03T19:42:54+00:00

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but not every celebrity and public figure you dislike will be on the Epstein list and it’s weird if you hope they are.

huhwhatokok · 2024-01-03T20:39:51+00:00

Would you feel turned off if the girl you were going on dates with was actively fucking someone else? I was visiting my Chad friend and he was the person fucking this girl while she was going on dates with this guy. I just put myself in the other dudes shoes and if I found out I would feel like such a loser taking this girl out on dates while she’s getting fucked by another dude lmao.

YuYuHakusho23 · 2024-01-04T07:59:23+00:00

One thing I hope modern men ™️ that are maidenless leave behind in 2023 is watching corn featuring a man and a women having sex. At a certain point one must understand that watching another man have sex with a women, even if through a screen , is basically cucking yourself not only in a “can’t get maidens” way but also cucking your brain for cheap hits of dopamine and oxytocin that would be much better if you saved them for a sexual encounter with a maiden.

There are def healthy alternatives. I find solo nudes of female women to be a really sustainable meal even though I think women’s vaginas are weird looking meat pockets I usually just look at everything else and try not to look at it. Recalling past sexual encounters with maidens is also up there but if you aren’t that lucky then making up scenarios in your head can be pretty fulfilling.

Overall I hope I brought some awareness to this men’s sexual health issue.

FuuraKafu · 2024-01-04T12:20:15+00:00

There are so many human flaws other than shyness/social anxiety, so many ways people can have hangups. One that's even exhausting to witness is those people who genuinely can't just chill, who always have to chase "new experiences", always have to hang out with others - it's like the opposite of the stereotypical loner loser, but honestly it can be just as bad imo. The point is, nobody is simply "just normal", not even social charmers. It's a good thing to remember amongst all this talk about loser men who "failed to socialize" - mental health is not this black and white, zero sum game, we just focus a lot on the charmer-hermit spectrum here cause it's a dating related sub. And also, it's kind of the theme of the era of the internet I guess. But still, it's not the sole factor in one's "normalcy", just keep that in mind.

WilliamWyattD · 2024-01-04T13:44:54+00:00

Found online an old college friend I hadn't been in touch with for 30 years.
She has pics from my lost 'long hair era' lol
Had no other pics from that time. Showed them to students. They couldn't believe the hair.

Infinite_Signal90 · 2024-01-03T15:08:03+00:00

lots of age gap discourse happening on twitter about this link. Thoughts PPD?

OtPayOkerSmay · 2024-01-03T16:45:04+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/18xg0mu/my_son_15m_is_becoming_an_incel_because_of_his/?sort=controversial

Courts tend to rule on two sides when it comes to families: in the favor of children, and in the favor of women. In this woman's story, the courts said the dad isn't at fault; which really doesn't make a lot of sense if what the woman is saying is true. This begs the questions: Is this story made up? and if it's real, just how much is the woman leaving out to seem like she isn't partially at fault?

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-03T17:15:15+00:00

In some ways I am very high maintenance and in others I am very low maintenance. I contain multitudes.

TigerRude4 · 2024-01-03T19:04:07+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/heyOQsm1UC

Have you done your daily dose of respecting women?

Particular_Trade6308 · 2024-01-03T19:07:41+00:00

I have a bunch of money from my tech bro job. Should I spend it on being a provider/simp, or should I spend it on gym, personal training, fashion, skincare, etc? I’ve got about $20k/yr in the dating budget.

monster_lily · 2024-01-03T20:11:16+00:00

I am the evil misandrymonster👺

Ohmaygahh · 2024-01-03T20:56:44+00:00

I just finished the book "The Psychology of Money" and I can't recommend it enough. I am amazed at how much of the book can be directly applied to the dating market, it's not even funny.

I will try to post daily excerpts and more detailed thoughts about it, but guys, especially guys who are unsuccessful with women. Drop whatever it is you're doing and read it.

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-03T21:50:55+00:00

I’ve never cared about magazines like Playboy and the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue but now I say they need to make a comeback. Young men are better off getting off to a picture of some random model in a thong than the nasty hardcore porn on the internet. Bring back the wholesome bunnies and bikini photo shoots!

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-04T09:22:23+00:00

I wonder if I’d have a chance with Bill Clinton if Hillary died and I somehow entered his orbit. A girl can dream.

8mm_Magnum_Cumshot · 2024-01-04T09:49:26+00:00

Daily reminder that "three meals a day" is a cultural rule and there is no physiological reason that humans need to eat three(or more) times a day.

MyHouseOnMars- · 2024-01-04T14:18:57+00:00

At this point I'm pretty sure some men here jerk off to the idea of handmaid's tale fantasies

They think they are so cool writing about their abuse revenge fantasy but it's actually creepy and repulsive

Klnderbuen0 · 2024-01-04T14:30:05+00:00

People that make piss or shit jokes really repulse me. 1. It’s not even funny and 2. It’s just fucking disgusting.

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-04T14:59:23+00:00

I really think Gen Z has regressed to the point where there is no hope for humanity. I see them talking about how Gen Alpha is bad, so it's clear it's only getting worse. I've seen people saying that things have changed and that if someone is older they don't know what the dating landscape is like nowadays and I always dismissed that idea because dating has always been difficult, but online dating is like an endless buffet of handsome men and along with social media, the idea of what a partner should be is getting incredibly skewed. Women don't need a man for security anymore, so they look for other things. Unfortunately this new standard is unobtainable for 85% of men. Even if a man is able to appeal to women, unless he is in that upper echelon, the woman will inherently have more power in the relationship because the man will always be replaceable and the man will struggle to find a new relationship in a way the woman will never understand.

I've seen several posts where women are mourning over some video of a 10 year old girl spending her christmas money at Sephora. Young girls wanting to wear make up has always been a thing. I remember in elementary school in the 90s some girls starting to wear make up and others not being allowed to. But the thing is, what do women want freedom from? If anything make up is liberating. There is no make up equivalent for men.

There was a clip from a movie where this powerful feminist figure is talking down to a lowly man and says "you want freedom without responsibility, but only babies get that."

The truth is women are the ones who want freedom without responsibility. They're inherently entitled but have no sense of accountability.

I'm so happy I'm not single, seeing the state of women nowadays makes me cherish my partner so much more. I think that is the thing that made me stop being habitually unfaithful. If you find a good thing, don't risk losing it, but until then women aren't worth taking seriously because so few of them are capable of actually connecting to you. The safest course of action as a man is to assume AWALT until proven other wise.

GoldenHornyChicken · 2024-01-04T15:01:47+00:00

I just got the papers for my new old tiny car. From 2000. Purple. Manual (of course). French brand. I can park wherever I want. It's cute.

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2024-01-04T15:10:24+00:00

A feminist's commentary on men's loneliness

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/18xodu8/mens_loneliness_is_not_our_faults_its_generally/?sort=confidence

"...what they need to do instead is get over their homophobia and go ask a male friend for a hug"

Iakobos_Mathematikos · 2024-01-04T15:38:04+00:00

I’ve been seeing a lot of virgin shaming on this sub again lately. I wonder if it’s in response to slt shaming. If it is, then it’s a terrible strategy though, because it just makes me want to slt shame in retaliation. It’s a vicious cycle.!’

It’s also funny how “blckpill” content is not allowed”, but there are loads of comments and posts about how a 30 year old virgin is hopeless or whatever. I guess it’s only an issue I* make these kinds of hopeless statements.

justathrowawaym8y · 2024-01-03T15:02:45+00:00

sigh.... First.

grillopie · 2024-01-03T16:03:59+00:00

Inexperienced men dating an experienced woman for a while then dumping her might sound logical, but I think some deeply fear falling in love with that woman and simping for her, becoming a “cuck” in the process.

YuYuHakusho23 · 2024-01-03T16:12:44+00:00

Inexperienced men (24-30) dating inexperienced women (18-21) is actually a great arrangement that benefits both sides.

Men get a women who will actually like him and hopefully if she isn’t indoctrinated by the feminist hive mind she will actually appreciate him as well.

Women in turn get a man who has suffered so long for maidenless-ness that he is going to do every thing he can to be a good boyfriend cause he knows she will have so many options if they break up.

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T17:45:37+00:00

Why do i totally blank out when talking to someone or in a group, my brains legit empty

Katatonicsnake · 2024-01-03T19:52:29+00:00

What if one is sexually liberated but still doesn’t want to have hookups or sex with many men?

PBtoast707 · 2024-01-03T20:43:57+00:00

The Stanley tumbler trend is so insane to me. I’ve seen videos of people scrambling through a Target when doors open to get some exclusive release. It’s not even an understandable trend like a clothing item. My in-laws got me a similar style cup made by Pelican for Christmas, but I’m too embarrassed to take it anywhere. It’s very nice, though.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2024-01-03T21:17:45+00:00

For real though, how do people get so fucking fat? Like can't wipe their ass fat? This is partially rhetorical as I know about emotional eating, addiction, mental illness, binging, hunger hormones, etc. But like, how does one go from relatively human shaped to gelatinous blob?

I eat at most, 2 meals a day; small breakfast, and then dinner. Or sometimes I'll have a series of snacks through out the day that tallies up to my typical TDEE. My husband is the same way, and its a struggle getting boychild to eat at all (he usually just forgets to eat). Anymore than that and I feel uncomfortable, bloated, racked with indigestion, and more or less miserable. Intuitively, I compensate the follow days by just eating less until my appetite resets to its baseline.

So assuming most people start off normalish, and feel discomfort from overeating...how and why do they continue? What mechanism is triggered for them to continue overeating, whereas for people like myself or my family we feel that bloated discomfort and then naturally scale back until we reset.

Even when I've binged, that bloated discomfort is always triggered and I just intrinsically want to eat less afterwards.

This thought was inspired by a fat activist who posted a blog about how she's ok with the fact that she can't wipe her ass anymore.

I'm just gobsmacked by that rationalization.

Life-Illustrator-217 · 2024-01-03T21:25:06+00:00

I found the redpill when I was a virgin and this was my first big confirmation of it.

My gf started raising her voice at me one day for no good reason and I told her that she can't just yell at me, and if she wants to have an actual conversation she needs to leave my place and spend an hour or two calming down and THEN we can talk about what's bothering her.

She left my house, slammed the door on her way out, then came back an hour later, apologized for slamming the door, and wanted to have sex. Never brought up the thing she was pissed about again.

Gladboys · 2024-01-03T21:45:12+00:00

I think I am goal oriented. Every time I finish any goal I go stir crazy or worse until I decide on a new one. Lame

Professional_Bad_282 · 2024-01-04T03:09:24+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/s/lZIyylrMk9

Foreververalone introverted women fall for a bad boy. 😂

Katatonicsnake · 2024-01-04T14:03:05+00:00

I finally watched the Sopranos. Well, my husband watched the entire series and I watched when I had the energy to put up with those characters. I know it was kind of the point of the series but it’s almost fascinating how it had only two characters that didn’t make me feel annoyed or disgusted.

RicePresident_ · 2024-01-04T14:16:43+00:00

Got covid on new years but hooked up with a girl

Thats a dub

JDWhiz96 · 2024-01-04T14:41:47+00:00

I didn't realize Google Earth Pro updated the satellite imagery and I had a massive nerd-gasm. Hell yeah!

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-04T16:10:45+00:00

A good analogy for male and female dating dynamics is thinking of it in terms of a casino and gamblers. Women are the house and men are the gamblers. Women exist and men come to them. The men will most likely lose, and the women often win. Once in a while you might win, but the odds are stacked against you.

Lift and Lurk is trying to tell me that the benefit of being a man is that you can approach women. That isn't a benefit at all.

Klnderbuen0 · 2024-01-04T16:28:03+00:00

Does anyone here actually study/ work in gender sciences and or psychology, or is this just all mostly pulled out my ass theories?

Willow-girl · 2024-01-04T16:31:02+00:00

It's Jan. 4 ... taking bets as to whether the admin staff will have managed to take their office and lobby Christmas decorations down today!

Of course we still have a showcase with a pumpkin-themed fall display, but that will probably stay up for the rest of the year as the teacher in that section is leaving at the end of the semester and is evidently phoning it in, and no one else cares enough to do something about it.

It's probably a good thing I'm just the janitor and not the superintendent. I'm pretty sure the teachers would hang me from the flagpole by the end of my first day, lol/

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MasterTeacher123 · 2024-01-03T15:06:51+00:00

Casamigos Trash too

Electrical_Coat_8714 · 2024-01-03T15:47:49+00:00

This place is shit why can’t we be like Twox and limit women from participating, an echo chamber of wannabe players and incels actually seems interesting, this back and forth of girls arguing against shit they obviously do is getting nauseating

Infinite_Signal90 · 2024-01-03T16:22:42+00:00

I always find the “you can’t date a feminist” stuff funny. As someone who would call herself a feminist, I don’t think I could be more obsessed with my husband and his happiness if I tried.

Peacesquad · 2024-01-03T16:26:06+00:00

What’s new?

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T16:34:35+00:00

Can gym and any specific exercises help me get thicker wrists or are they something that can't be changed? I know getting bigger arms is possible idk about wrists

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T17:19:27+00:00

If you use Goodreads i just assume you're insufferable

Nate_Reborn · 2024-01-03T17:28:42+00:00

What’s with the spike in threads about inexperience?

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T17:31:01+00:00

Do any of you listen to Future?

GltyUntlPrvnInncnt · 2024-01-03T17:36:02+00:00

So which one the biggest threat to World peace, Putin or Trump?

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2024-01-03T17:41:36+00:00

What does the world need more of?

Strong masculine men

or

Strong masculine women

AnalSexIsTheBest34 · 2024-01-03T18:37:06+00:00

I defo want to try out groupsex and partner swapping one day.

hannahg000 · 2024-01-03T18:39:48+00:00

i have no cavities and the dentist said my teeth are in good shape

throwawayeyeglasses · 2024-01-03T18:56:36+00:00

What's the best time to make a post on this sub so that it gets the most replies

Nate_Reborn · 2024-01-03T19:19:38+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cy8vBOcBYe4/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2024-01-03T19:21:36+00:00

Which one is more harmful?

Misogyny
Misandry

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-01-03T19:31:11+00:00

I touched on this briefly last year but do you think when talking to a new partner should you reveal you have a crazy ex? I only ask because we see so many cases of people who get seriously hurt or killed by a scorned ex lover of the person they were dating that if they victim knew about that person they would’ve never pursued things.

Heck it doesnt even have to be an actual ex, it could be a crazy person who just stalks you.

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-01-03T19:33:45+00:00

I saw a tik tok where a girl and her mom are pregnant at the same time. She’s 20 and her mom is 43.

monster_lily · 2024-01-03T19:38:09+00:00

Anyone else go thru cycles like i LOVE my face smmmm rn but then in 2 weeks I get self conscious for like a week then im back to normal

monster_lily · 2024-01-03T19:39:45+00:00

Im gonna be the kind of parent thats constantly spoiling their kid and giving them whatever they want cuz im kind of spoiled tbh and i love it

slickle_1366 · 2024-01-03T19:55:33+00:00

Would you strike and kill a strangers dog if it attacked your kid or woman? What if it only made an extremely threatening move? In both cases the dog owners are like 25 ft away and probably high/drunk

DarayRaven · 2024-01-03T20:05:06+00:00

Does anyone remember the 2015-17 Atlanta hawks ?

Best version of the hawks we've ever seen actually made it to the eastern conference final in their 50+ year drought

mummydontknow · 2024-01-03T20:28:35+00:00

This episode of women ranking men's attractiveness is an incel's wet dream for validation.

https://youtu.be/vnUoFCBIj6E

Sudden_Substance7914 · 2024-01-03T20:33:21+00:00

A 3 week break between first and second dates usually means the chemistry fizzles out. Why is this the case in online dating?

hannahg000 · 2024-01-03T20:51:56+00:00

guys! i decided to use a digital planner this year and i wanted to buy some digital stickers for it. i found a set of 2700 stickers on etsy on sale for 8 dollars. i’m so happy!!

GreatSmashPlayer · 2024-01-04T08:23:50+00:00

Saw a tall well-dressed conventionally attractive dude with a full head of flowy hair and well-groomed facial hair get rejected at a concert the other night. I feel like often times girls will reject good looking guys because they're afraid of getting used. Either that, or the dude had zero game. Not sure which.

RicePresident_ · 2024-01-04T13:25:09+00:00

If you sleep with someone in a relationship but you're not in one, did you do anything wrong?

monster_lily · 2024-01-04T14:03:43+00:00

Rice president blocked ne

Critical_Lettuce2899 · 2024-01-04T14:47:05+00:00

When it's beef you just gotta know when to butt in and butt out

If there's a problem we solve it, if we don't resolve it

It usually just evolves into one big brawl and we all get involved in it

We should all get a merit, this much beef we inherit

And wear it like a badge with honour, pass it around and share it

monster_lily · 2024-01-04T15:18:51+00:00

From a c to a b in english guys

Electrical_Coat_8714 · 2024-01-04T15:21:09+00:00

Drunk girls are really funny, my friend up the road wanted me to babysit her friend, because she was being loud af and waking up family.

We all went to Taco Bell and the drivethru lady wasn’t having it

Told us they were ‘out’ of every annoying order and customization, me and the less drunk friend started dying laughing, when the drive thru lady said

“We don’t have nacho cheese”

“Can I get some loaded potatoes”

“We’re out of potatoes”

Made to get cheese from sheetz with my cigarettes, and one comes in an just starts speech to text writing a review about Taco Bell to the cashiers.

I probably coulda got head out of the whole ordeal, the really drunk friend was definitely feeling some type of way, I think she’s self destructing because her boyfriend cheated on her and she can’t cope.

We watched an episode of criminal minds until she was tired and let her go back to friend a’s house.

I have another story from yesterday but imma wait until later today to see if the other shoe drops how I think it will.

I really want to date but I don’t want to subject a good girl to this, but I’m also tired of ‘bad girls’ I can get easily.

My New Year’s resolution is to not distrust women for their gender anymore and see if that leads to positive outcomes this time

monster_lily · 2024-01-04T15:24:01+00:00

Im soooooooooooo excited for February cuz I wont have sports anymore and I can go home when I want

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-04T15:31:53+00:00

Monster_Lily blocked me lol

shmupsy · 2024-01-04T15:33:19+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4aMiAesXjE

What do you think of Hoe Math's chart on attractiveness?

I think it's spot on. One takeaway is there's lots of things you could max out other than looks.

JDWhiz96 · 2024-01-04T15:37:50+00:00

Even Dolly Parton knows about female nature. Jolene could have any dude she wants, but she only wants the protagonist's man because: she can, and to inflate her own ego, and because of preselection.

itzReborn · 2024-01-04T15:45:38+00:00

Why are social skills in men seen as attractive?

SquirrelofLIL · 2024-01-04T16:05:05+00:00

It has occurred to me that there are 3 patterns of sexuality in NYC:

Early Childbearing, Blended Family - Pure R selection. 40% of the population producing 80% of the kids. Most are forced out of NYC eventually unless they land a HDFC or Rent Control unit. The vast majority of autistics I know come from this kind of family background, NOT Nerdy Category 2's.

One of my friends, fits this example. A 38/M, he originally only had 2 kids because he and his girlfriend were bored during the pandemic.

He tried to unalive himself by taking fentanyl and then escaped to Rockland County to flee his reputation and married a local with 4 kids from 3 ex husbands. #7 is now on the way. Despite where they live they are atheist and not Jewish. His wife does Wicca. They make 30K total compensation.

Average age childbearing, Nuclear Family - K Selection, 40% of the population, 20% of the kids. This is the main family type for immigrants, religious people, and grad school types. They get married between the ages of 23 and 32 like you're supposed to and don't really get divorced. They make $100,000 a year.

The reason you and I can't meet doctors and lawyers on Bumble is because they have all been married off to their peers. Although some Average Age folk have a lot of kids like if they're staunch Trad Caths or whatever most of them have "2.5". All Trads aspire to be like this.

Now that I'm 40 I don't know anyone like this anymore. They've disappeared from my world.

The others - We 20% of the population don't get settled down until over age 35 meaning that we don't have any sperm or eggs. The thing is, it seems that 90% of NYC is like this. But we're only 20% of those born here.

Moreover, without the reproductive incentive, no one wants to settle down. As my guy friend said "Im 38, I'm in my prime. I would never date a woman over 30. These bitches rejected me in my 20s. I'm gonna go DiCaprio."

Category 3 also contains a mass influx of Category 1s who have become divorced or widowed, or who simply continue to date despite their situation.

What are your thoughts? Do you think this is an accurate portrayal of how sex works in first line American cities such as NYC, Stamford and Philly?

YuYuHakusho23 · 2024-01-04T16:36:05+00:00

Q4All: out of all the laker dancers which one is the hottest that’s shown in the video?

https://youtube.com/shorts/huUUMUV1CGc?si=mWIGKf-8F4CxUmQQ

For me it’s a tie between the black maiden at the beginning and the maiden with the purple top/purple spandex.

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-04T16:47:04+00:00

So how do you cook your eggs? This first week of the new year I want to have eggs every day for breakfast, but it infuriates me because what is marketed as a "good source of protein" absolutely demolishes my fat macros especially considering I'm cooking them in butter.

This is the kind of shit that made me go vegan in the first first place. Non vegan nutrition is just way too complicated, but I had low iron being vegan and it was annoying having to have special accommodations on holidays and when going out to eat.

I've accepted if I want to keep my sodium under 2,000mg I have to cook everything at home, but non vegan nutrition is fucking impossible and it pisses me off.

https://preview.redd.it/bobw9o7pcgac1.png?width=1606&format=png&auto=webp&s=9c02409530ad5211cd245f41fb01efce75dc6c7e

Nate_Reborn · 2024-01-04T17:56:49+00:00

When Sunday comes, I’ll be asking if all of you worked out this week. Go get it in. 💪🏾

Glittering-Ad3913 · 2024-01-03T15:47:52+00:00

Women with their "woe-is-me" BS are pathetic. Bitch, plenty women get raped but still are happy. Having a happy life does not depend on never being raped. Women are more pathetic than incels.

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-04T15:30:51+00:00

Women are inbound sales, men are outbound sales.

ratboi34 · 2024-01-04T15:58:54+00:00

Any decent movie of our time, that is about age gap relationships (Licorice Pizza, The Reader, Les Jeunes Amants) has a dynamic with an older woman and a much younger guy. I liked those movies, especially Licorice Pizza (15 yo boy, 25 yo woman), but the braver thing in our current culture would be the reverse dynamic. It would be harder to produce because of the inherent power that is assigned to men and would need a more delicate elaboration of power dynamics, but it would be much more provocative and powerful in it's message. I would be really curious if it would even be possible to make a film with such a relationship, without making it look like a creep story.

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