Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old men

wtknight · 2023-10-09T16:27:19+00:00

Flaired CMV as this post is making an affirmative claim

towerofcheeeeza · 2023-10-09T18:35:21+00:00

Every girl I knew in college who dated an older guy ended up dumping him. It was the same pattern each time:

Girl's high school boyfriend was really immature so when she went to college she became attracted to a more mature guy. They date for a year or two but he very soon starts wanting to settle down, get married, and have kids. He tries to make her fit into his life plans. She refuses. She dumps him. She starts dating someone her age instead. And they turn out to be a much better fit.

I saw this happen to multiple friends. All they needed was to date one older guy for a bit and then they got over it.

DzejSiDi · 2023-10-09T16:30:18+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s (...)

First sentence and you're already wrong, lol. How can you get social experience, game and so on if you ignore women? If you do so, you will need to catch up later compared to your peers, and that's not optimal for sure. Noone I know from TRP talking heads said that. Maybe you confused it with "don't settle in your 20s", but this is IMO debatable.

if a 20 year old is with a guy who's 10+ years older than she is, she's almost certainly just with him because he has money and resources, rather than because she genuinely loves him.

Bluepill 101.

...and a man will be with 20yo woman, because she's young, pretty and more cheerful, not "genuinely loves her", whatever that genuine love were supposed to represent. Pure psychical attraction? Magic?

From my experience in my own country, majority of women want somebody around their age... but plenty of women are fine dating somebody way older, if he has enough qualities she find attractive. So your title is correct, but there is more than enough suitable women for redpillers that actually moved their asses and did the work.

pinealpresence · 2023-10-09T16:37:02+00:00

I'm not saying that 20 year old women are never attracted to 30+ year old men, but it's the exception, not the rule.

I don't disagree with any of this, but for the guys in question, the likely alternative is to be alone for the rest of their lives.

Self improve and become more attractive as a byproduct of it. Control what you can, try to increase your chances especially if it takes reasonable effort. Or accept a life without romantic love.

There's not much guarantee the self improvement will be enough to attain mutual attraction with a partner. But I don't know if accepting the solitude is best. Very easy to withdraw from society completely that way. Still trying to find the answers myself.

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2023-10-09T16:38:04+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s, work on yourself, make money, grind, and once you hit your 30s, you'll have a bunch of hot 20 year olds lining up to date you"

*For conventionally unattractive guys that won't get any attention from their female peers at 20s anyway.

If you're hot then redpill is all for "Go slay, king!"

if a 20 year old is with a guy who's 10+ years older than she is, she's almost certainly just with him because he has money and resources, rather than because she genuinely loves him.

That's the whole point. If you don't have what it takes for be genuinely lovable (i.e. looks) - you go the money route or stay single.

AlastorSitri · 2023-10-09T16:31:08+00:00

social circles

There inlies the problem with the dating dynamic in that the women you associate with have social circles to begin with.

Women who have social circles have no use for dating apps and tend to avoid them (whether having no need, the stigma that is associated with them, ECT.)

However, once you open that door, it is all downhill from there, at least in my experience entering my 30's. Every younger woman I got through a dating app had no/broken up social circle, or had zero interest in their male friends.

Social circles becoming smaller isn't just a male only issue, it is simply more prevalent. You can see this in the steady rise in dating apps since their inception, as traditional dating becomes harder in the modern world.

Junior_Ad_3086 · 2023-10-09T17:07:11+00:00

most guys in their 30s can't get hot younger women, especially not guys who couldn't get women in their 20s. you need experience and know how to talk to women ('game'). which is why it's pretty comical when women use the argument of 'he dates younger cause he can't get women his own age'.

guys who are in shape, have their shit together, intelligent, funny etc. can beat the odds quite easily though. it's just a numbers game, just like dating is in general. obviously part of it is what the man can provide but let's not kid ourselves that women in their 30s and 40s don't care about that.

purplish_possum · 2023-10-09T16:23:42+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s, work on yourself, make money, grind, and once you hit your 30s, you'll have a bunch of hot 20 year olds lining up to date you

Where does that belief actually come from? I have read all the sidebar material and it actually says something totally different.

Can you cite the source from an actual accredited RedPill Contributer?

Ok-Supermarket-6747 · 2023-10-09T21:22:45+00:00

Can confirm that when I was 20 I didn’t want to date anyone over 24. The only reason I married older was because he lied about his age until I was in love.

I am now divorced (and luckily childless) since being a liar was only one of his issues. Women should always check the divers license

Zabadoodude · 2023-10-09T17:12:47+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s, work on yourself, make money, grind

Thats not really a common RP belief. That's what Red pillers will call betabuxxing. The RP advocates for not being afraid to approach women and put yourself out there at all ages, while also working on yourself to improve your desirability.

The argument isn't that most 20 year old women prefer 30 year olds, Its that many of them will prefer a successful, fit, charismatic 30 year old over a yoinger guy that lacks that, which is definitely true.

A 20 year old college student is probably in a different life stage, but a 23 year old college grad working at her big girl career job is in the same life stage as most 30 year olds - no kids yet, still like to party sometimes, but also have bills and responsibilities.

janedoebreakin · 2023-10-09T17:55:35+00:00

I would have loved to settle down with a man in his thirties. I didn’t want to party. I knew I wanted marriage and a family. But I was ignored by men because I wasn’t pretty enough. I was everything they would have wanted besides the looks. Maybe the women who want those things aren’t the hot ones at clubs and out partying.

AttackOnTightPanties · 2023-10-09T16:45:09+00:00

Lol I remember being in my early 20s and having absolutely no interest in guys who were more than 2-3 years older than me. For some women, the “older” look is not sexually attractive, and no amount of money/ security can make up for it, especially if you’re in STEM and plan on supporting yourself anyway.

Also, it makes me so sad how many dudes hit their late 20s and decide to grow a beard because they think it looks “manly.” Someone please bring back the clean-shaven look.

purplish_possum · 2023-10-09T16:34:24+00:00

No idea why guys here insist that young women are hot for old guys.

Of course they'll take a tall, fit, attractive 30+ guy over an unattractive 22 year old. In most cases young women choose young men.

CountMandrake · 2023-10-10T02:20:57+00:00

A 30 year old man probably wants to start settling down and start a family

I don't.

while a 20 year old woman probably wants to go clubs and house parties, with absolutely no intention of settling down anytime soon.

She does. That's how we met.

I rest my case.

SierraMistSoda · 2023-10-09T16:23:57+00:00

A 30 year old man probably wants to start settling down and start a family

Not anymore. 30 year old men just think they are 20 still mentally. They don't want to commit to one women, spend money on kids.

ArturoOsito · 2023-10-09T22:07:41+00:00

This topic is exhausted. No one thinks 20 year old college girls are attracted to 35 year old men. However, a successful 35-40 year old man could easily attract a 27-35 year old woman.

El-Carretero · 2023-10-09T16:44:05+00:00

Not were I'm from. The girls in my college were mostly all with older guys, except for the Chad and a few outliers.

The older guys had money, nice cars, and could take them places. We were all broke and struggling, they didn't want us. They didn't want to go out with us on Uber and if we can't afford many drinks. Not to mention that we needed to study and work. We didn't have much time for the gym either.

I think all of you must come from the middle class or something. Sure maybe if you had wealthy parents to subsidize you, then you could compete with them. I just don't think many of you realize the factor that money plays among people that don't have it.

Icy_Ordinary2025 · 2023-10-09T16:24:50+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s, work on yourself, make money, grind, and once you hit your 30s, you'll have a bunch of hot 20 year olds lining up to date you"

This is one of the dumbest concepts. 🙄 Anyone who follows this is going to find themselves angry and alone in their 30s.

but it's the exception, not the rule

Agreed. It's absolutely not common. And if she found out you were a hermit at her age, she'd probably laugh and walk away.

How are you gonna be some cool 30-something guy if all you did in your 20s was never socialize and just grind at "yourself". LAME.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2023-10-09T20:28:26+00:00

You misunderstand TRP and its tenets.

I would go further than what you’ve said, and would say that most women are not attracted to most men, regardless of age. Hypergamy is a cruel mistress.

But TRP does NOT say there will be hoards of nubile 20-year-olds lining up to fuck you when you’re 30. Even I, the TRP Master Blaster of Age Gap Dating, who can see the Matrix and who has the cheat codes, is certainly not going walk into Alpha Phi (or whatever) at Alabama and bang my way through the sisterhood.

On average, though, I would find a couple of girls who would happily bed me down.

What TRP says is, turn yourself into the best version of yourself that you can be, first for yourself, and secondarily to maximize the probabilities that good things can happen.

I run a soft harem of mostly mid-20-somethings because I can read the room, and I don’t waste any time (mine or theirs) on girls who are never going to fuck me.

Ofc, according to you, even when a guy is winning, he still losing:

she's almost certainly just with him because he has money and resources, rather than because she genuinely loves him.

I’m reminded of a certain fable about a fox and some grapes. There is a small subset of women that are super into older men. An older man who has kept himself in good shape, stayed on his grind and learned the signs will do well with that group.

As far as $ goes, no so-called “age appropriate” woman I’ve ever dated has been disappointed that I am a good earner. It is the nature of the beast.

ZeeMark17 · 2023-10-09T16:47:23+00:00

I don't think the redpill tells men to ignore women. Sounds like something MGTOW would say.

I also don't think 30-year-olds are trying to date "most college aged women", they surely are trying to date the women that they see are dating older men.

So, where is the issue?

meteorness123 · 2023-10-09T17:26:24+00:00

The point isn't to go for a 20 year olds when you're 30. The point is that people have mental, physical, personal and sometimes financial hurdles to overcome that hopefully are overcome when you get older. You will then be able to realize your goals with a woman close to your age. Psychologically healthy people arent just interested in hooking up and hooking up only.

Men who completely ignore women for 10 years straight are also rare and nobody is saying you should ignore them. Socialize, go to parties here and there but don't be obsessed to the point of neglecting your professional aspirations.

An attractive man in his early thirties will also definitely able to have some fun with younger women if he wants. Personally, I dont really understand the point of that which may or may not be a result of my (hopefully) advancing maturity

RahLyt · 2023-10-09T18:36:10+00:00

Most post here people just create a strawman than argue with that strawman.

xbthewizard2 · 2023-10-09T18:43:10+00:00

This sub is hilarious

0ffnliner · 2023-10-09T22:47:44+00:00

The reason why there are women in their 20s that have dated older men is because dating older men is easy but they rarely rarely are long-term choices. Older men likes younger women, but it's not always true that women likes men that are older. Plus, older men who chases younger women are never looking for long-term relationship either, hence all the bad reputation.

But most women chooses men their own age for date seriously. That's always been my speculation.

Another thing is, men thinks it's discrimination that women prefer men their own age, but really, there's way too many older men who prey after younger women for sex and nothing else. Clearly, that stereotype being a thing is these types of men's fault. But if there are some women who likes older men, I personally don't give a shit enough to judge. Their choice, their life. (But when their relationship fails it's always a god damn disaster).

Eastern-Action1384 · 2023-10-09T22:56:08+00:00

They were talking about a minority of men. Good genes, taking care of themselves etc. As for your average men working hard + the stress + the anxiety. Trust me if you think women past 30 are ugly, than prepare yourself for the truth cause you will turn uglier. Something else to add, most women want someone their age, unless they have psychological problems or their options are limited or you look so perfect in your 30s (which is rare).

abaxeron · 2023-10-10T06:37:47+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s

Source?

Every couple I see on my campus is a student with another student.

Almost 20 percent (18.8) of married US couples have a man at least 6 years older than his wife. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

Discrepancy within dating is usually subject to less peer pressure and other constraints (although I failed to locate a study on it).

Finally:

"Most ~~college aged~~ women do not want ~~30+ year old~~ most men

FTFY.

claratheresa · 2023-10-09T17:24:55+00:00

Men think they’re going to get more attractive as they age-lmao, no

Ac3leco · 2023-10-09T17:44:49+00:00

True I agree - so then why do so many old bitter women always act like men who date younger women do so because they are "naive and easier to control," when in reality it's actually harder to attract and keep a younger woman?

Elixier_55555 · 2023-10-09T16:56:56+00:00

Agreed. Even with most weddings that l see, it's from peers eg college sweethearts.

Red pilled men say women are unrealistic but they think things will magically turn around for them in their thirties. You're like a decade older, lots of baggage, a good percentage do have kids in the picture... Probably still spewing misognistic sh*t, basic style, you live paycheck to paycheck because not everyone magically becomes rich... Balding and the impotence starts to kick in... Why should a 21 year old sit down with you, with you asking to go "50-50" on the coffee date??

I have been in an age gap relationship but it was with a really wealthy man. All l had to be was completely celibate, kinda wild but still focused on my education & not gloomy. So for me making him tag along on my adventures, being entertaining, inviting my friends & just the general youth craziness to cure his severe loneliness, he compensated me really well for it...Thats was only right...

So if anyone thinks that I'll ever, like ever gaggle wrinkly old balls for "love" or whatever delusion or audacity they have in their heads, they must be smoking D...

throwaway164_3 · 2023-10-09T16:21:57+00:00

Not as LTRs, but as casual fuckbuddies, hookups, sugar daddies and situationships they’re totally okay with 30+ fit men.

As always, alpha fucks/beta bucks is the way of life. Women are attracted to tall, confident, rich, muscular, high status, tall, dominant men.

she's almost certainly just with him because he has money and resources, rather than because she genuinely loves him.

All relationships are like that in some sense anyway lol

bruhminer · 2023-10-09T17:54:51+00:00

Women date older but not that much older, most age gaps are of like 3-4 years at most.

Proudvow · 2023-10-09T19:44:10+00:00

One of the most common redpill beliefs is to "ignore women for all your 20s

Stop posting this lie.

HolidayWhile · 2023-10-09T16:16:29+00:00

College campuses and ghettos are the only places with a female majority in the 20s age range, therefore the odds are still better.

DerayRevan · 2023-10-09T16:34:44+00:00

"One of the most common redpill beliefs"

No it's not unless you give a name

PracticalLeg2372 · 2023-10-09T21:33:40+00:00

If the girls at your college are with an older guy they most certainly are not “walking around campus”. More likely riding in his luxury car on their way to the expense club or hotel.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2023-10-09T22:22:56+00:00

And water is wet.

I agree with everything you said.

AshySlashy3000 · 2023-10-10T02:09:40+00:00

They Look The Wallet...

AppropriatePoetry635 · 2023-10-10T03:06:10+00:00

Yeah, I know you’re right that is absolutely stupid advise. It should be don’t prioritize a woman above all else in your 20s…

dontreallyknoww2341 · 2023-10-10T05:32:45+00:00

Also in my experience as a 21 yr old women, the girls my age who do want to date older men are not the type of women I’d want to date if I was a guy. They tend to be the ones who are desperate for male validation and make a lot of stupid decisions when it comes to relationships bc again they prioritise having a relationship over having a good relationship

rootsnyder · 2023-10-10T07:29:43+00:00

I mean you are college aged correct? which means you don't actually have any serious dating experience or long term knowledge on the subject matter your talking about correct? You also understand that women who are dating older arent taking said partners on campus? you also understand current statistics on male singleness in the 19-29 range while you have an absence of women single in the same range? You think that magically appears because chad has a harem or something?

I will tell you, you are correct, normal people almost always date within their social circles, normal people are very hindered socially, because they can't conceptualize pulling themselves against the herd or opening into new or unusual social circumstances.

This redpill advice isn't meant for normal men, its meant for exceptional men. Its meant for men focused on improving themselves and continuously developing themselves over time.

Now to attraction, if you want any idea what women are attracted to, you've come to the completely wrong forum, your surrounded by blackpill men, and women on a cycle of mental gymnastics to hide and hinder the desire of their sex to defend their ego. Realistically though it doesn't take much knowledge to look at the outside world and understand, especially when you've gotten to the age group im in, most men peak in looks and success ratio, 26-34 range. Do with it what you may, but this ratio increase success on approach and dating women peroid, no matter what anyone says or disagrees with its just the fact of the matter.

What matters is success rate, redpill men who are dating later, are wanting higher success rates with top tier women, not your average bell at your school, were talking 8/9/10 with something going for them in life, these women chase men with success and aren't going to be committing or chasing after some run of the mill college student.

bitchcoco · 2023-10-10T11:13:06+00:00

I sure the fuck do. Guy im seeing now is 36 im 24 best sex i have ever had.

neverendingplush · 2023-10-09T18:14:29+00:00

Most 30 plus old men have become utter slobs. Has nothing to do with the age.

Napo_De_Leone · 2023-10-09T16:32:04+00:00

“work on yourself and the right one will come one day” are what bluepillers are telling young men… these guys then think they are never good enough to deserve a relationship start hitting their 30s single and with little experienced just to get eyeballed and called dirty old men by the people who told them to wait.

Shebalied · 2023-10-09T16:50:58+00:00

Maybe not a 20 y.o but 23-27.

Also colleges are 65-75%+ women now. Not every women is going to be able to date a college man.

washington_breadstix · 2023-10-09T18:54:34+00:00

A 30 year old man probably wants to start settling down and start a family

He probably doesn't want to do that if he's the same guy who spent his entire 20s grinding away in order to turn himself into a more attractive prospect. If a guy is grinding that hard in order to make himself more attractive, it's probably because he explicitly wants to enjoy the "bachelor" lifestyle for a while and be one of the cocks on the cock carousel. He doesn't want to sacrifice all of his 20s for self-improvement just to settle down with someone as soon as he hits 30. That sounds pretty lame.

2023-10-09T19:20:29+00:00

Ironically and generally speaking, college-aged girls dating 30+ are usually the ones with daddy issues who will cheat on you, be argumentative, etc,. loll.

harmonica2 · 2023-10-09T16:49:50+00:00

I'm almost 40 and I'm dating a college woman in her twenties now.

A part of me looks at it as well women didn't want me back then but it's good that they do now. Is that a bad way of looking at it?

But she does want to settle down though so it works for us.

But I don't have a lot of money there and she always puts the bills with me so I don't think she's in it for the money.

2023-10-09T18:53:46+00:00

Speaking as a college aged guy myself

The two biggest haters of age gap relationships are young men and older women.

neinhaltchad · 2023-10-09T19:34:03+00:00

Correct most college aged women” do not want “30+ year old men”

What you’re ignoring is that enough do to keep any attractive, established and RP aware 30+ year old man happy with a steady of supply of 21 year old pussy.

My dating history in my 30’s:

30 - 20 year old GF
32 -21 year old GF
36 - 24 year old GF

Etc.

Anybody thinking of coming back with some pathetic Bloop retort of “just using you for resources!” Please don’t bother. It’s wildly inaccurate in all of my examples.

The other funny thing about posts like this is that while, it’s true that most college age women don’t want to date “30+ year old men”, you know who else they don’t want to date?

90% of men their own fucking age

_Ad_Astra_Abyssosque · 2023-10-09T17:25:51+00:00

Yes they do. They fuck them regularly. Never met one who didn't.

namey_9 · 2023-10-09T17:44:37+00:00

it's almost like, from puberty onwards, most of us want hot guys around our own age. Amazing, right?

melindabrown2023 · 2023-10-09T16:52:07+00:00

I'm a woman in her early 20s with sisters and a large female friendship group. Not a single one of us is dating a man in his 30s. The interest just isn't there.

I recognise that a man's dating success may improve as he enters his 30s. But he'll likely be dating women in their 30s too as these are his age mates

KlingKlangKing · 2023-10-09T17:25:49+00:00

Yup, once out of your 20s, your life is basically over

szclimber · 2023-10-09T19:54:09+00:00

Who is telling men to ignore women in your 20s? This is not common advice of redpill or anyone

SweetEnuffx · 2023-10-09T17:04:09+00:00

This is a little fantasy that's played out daily on Red Pill discussion groups, along with the notion that women hit the "wall" at 27yo or 30yo or whatever other number is today's pick.

If you're going to join in the circle jerk you need to get all the components right, though. You have to claim that every woman who looked down on you 10+ years ago, now adores you but has two kids in tow and put on 30lbs (at least). Meanwhile, you went to the gym, worked on your career/business, and are now earning six figures a year with a seven figure investment portfolio, and live on boat you're working on or a log cabin in the middle of nowhere, and can't walk down the street without women trying to backflip onto your dick now.

They just copy & paste the same story. It's the old Charles Atlas fantasy updated for 2023.

The only time a 30yo+ man is on a 20yo girl's radar is when she has a membership on SeekingArrangement or lives in some country that's at the economic ass-end of the world that these same guys love to wax lyrical on moving to.

slaaya · 2023-10-09T18:40:27+00:00

Not entirely true. I'm a 31 year old dating a 23 year old. We met her last year of college during covid. 2 years ongoing and she is putting pressure on me to get married.

EndZealousideal4757 · 2023-10-09T17:36:58+00:00

I started dating a 20 year old when I was 30. We broke up when she was 25 and I was 35 because she wanted kids and I was still having fun!

retal1ator · 2023-10-09T17:04:25+00:00

It’s incredible that this has to be said so many times. If you exclude party sluts young women usually do find older men to be more interesting because of experience, confidence, skills, and because they’re more mature.

Of course the principle works if you consider women who are serious about their future in that moment and men who have invested in themselves and reach a good place in life.

SirTruffleberry · 2023-10-09T19:58:45+00:00

Why would a student bring their non-student boyfriend on campus to walk to class with them? Some of the women you see walking alone have older boyfriends off-campus.

gigrabbit · 2023-10-09T21:37:29+00:00

Every girl I’ve been with in my 30s was in their 20s

5 years strong and getting more confident in myself every year.

Stay strong boys don’t let this b.s discourage you

Commercial-Shallot-5 · 2023-10-10T00:55:18+00:00

Here’s a secret many won’t tell you those college girls yes they have their 20 something boyfriends but you know what else they are doing? Sleeping with older men on the down low as to why many reasons money guy looks good status etc etc. I’m in my 30’s make decent money and yes I have slept with the 20 something year olds at my company. All of them had boyfriends all of them would post videos with them and go out with them and all of them still would text me and come over to sleep with me. I saw them literally telling their boyfriend they were going out with some girlfriend or that they were with their mom or sister and all the while they were in the car with me

Green-Quantity1032 · 2023-10-09T19:01:29+00:00

It's mostly about standards.

If you're a hot well-off guy @ 35 - don't worry, you'll have your fair share of hot 22y/o ready to do stuff, whether it's hooking up or dating.

But sure - it's probably easier (i.e you don't have to be as attractive) if you're 26.

gopher_glitz · 2023-10-09T19:28:38+00:00

They do if he's hot and a lot of guys that were not hot when they were young are much hotter at 30.

George Clooney and John Hamm would not have been thought of as attractive in their teens and 20s are they where in their 30s

527east · 2023-10-10T02:32:14+00:00

Women just want to sleep around in their 20s and then flip a switch to go wifey mode when they hit 28 to 35. You know live their best life hot girl summers.

2023-10-09T16:30:12+00:00

Agreed.

r2k398 · 2023-10-09T17:33:08+00:00

Why would anyone who is 30 want a 20 year old? Maybe a 25 year old that is out of college and has a real job, but not some 20 year old that they would have very little in common with.

TroidMemer · 2023-10-09T18:38:23+00:00

Lol why would I (as a 30 year old with my life together) want to spend said life with someone who hasn’t even started hers yet?

Spyro7x3 · 2023-10-09T22:59:50+00:00

Kind of redundant because most women don't want to date most men anyway. In my early 30s I've hooked up with as young as 19

Thalia2345 · 2023-10-09T18:05:08+00:00

You’re right and studies confirm your point but they won’t accept it because it does against their made up reality.

No_Incident4004 · 2023-10-09T21:04:04+00:00

What all you „older men have no value“ believers dont understand is following key factor.

A 34 year old 5‘8 overweight ugly mcdonalds worker? Yeah blud aint getting 8/10 Models who are 20

A 6‘3 fit, solid looking, 34 year old lambo pushing millionaire? That mf can clap with his hands and a 20 Year old Bad bitch is on his lap.

Know the difference.

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2023-10-09T22:10:02+00:00

Well...yeah. Most people want to date people within their social circle that's just common sense.

And while it's true most college aged women probably aren't looking at 30+ year old men, there is still a good amount who are seeking that out on a regular basis

basedmama21 · 2023-10-09T22:21:16+00:00

It depends on the woman but I dated mostly 30+ from the time I was 21 up until I met my husband. And he is six years older. He could even be 10 years older and I would still dig him

Spare-Estimate5596 · 2023-10-10T01:24:09+00:00

Plenty of young women are into older dudes and most women dont want to take a chance on a guy anymore.

beastmode179 · 2023-10-10T03:58:07+00:00

Meh.. it depends on the woman. I'm pushing 50 now but I still occassionally get to hook up with women in their early to mid 20's. It is what it is. Being in a relationship is not better than being single for a lot of men. One day I'll meet a woman in her 40's who isn't hung up on her recent divorce or happy "having it all" except for a regular man in her life. But until then, if I have the body and the attractive personality younger women are willing to tolerate for a night's fun I see nothing wrong with indulging in that.

harmonica2 · 2023-10-10T05:14:52+00:00

Aside from my own relationship, I know two other couples in age gap relationships, where one is in their 20s and the other 30s-40s, so that is three I would know personally but is that unusual?

daddysgotanew · 2023-10-10T13:56:59+00:00

Most? No. Hell no.

But 10-20 percent either do or don’t mind. That’s enough to work with

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herefortheparty01 · 2023-10-09T17:35:20+00:00

It’s true.

mixedcurrycel2 · 2023-10-09T18:36:19+00:00

I don’t agree with that mindset either but I also think they don’t mean college students, but rather something like a 24 year old and and a 30 year old, which is less weird.

Able-Imagination3695 · 2023-10-09T20:12:04+00:00

It's a crazy take, because it's functioning under this guise or impression that

a) there's a sudden "make hot" switch that they think will go off at 35 through no work or effort on their part

b) going after women that aren't in their age group is going to magically attract someone who's actually interested in him, for him.

I knew lots of girls in their late teens and early 20s milking 30 something year old guys for their money while keeping an age-appropriate side dude to sexually satisfy her lol

MacaronFinancial · 2023-10-09T20:19:15+00:00

There is always scarcity for most men. What changes is the type of scarcity and hope you have.

Lots of men in their early 20's believe women to be God on earth and are chronically intimidated by them. They are also very insecure about their own bodies and prone to crumble under all kinds of ego threats. They also often have deficits in hygiene, diet and social skills that takes time to fix.

Whereas men in their 30's are often bald, obviously have a rougher skin texture, may be more tired and in a minority of cases have developed chronic diseases or lost teeth. They realize the finity of life and have lost some attractiveness points skin wise. However they are also more cognizant of who they are, have some accomplishments and experiences to draw upon and have realized that women are not Gods that will crush men with one finger. Even though that does not make them any more attractive to women, it reduces approach anxiety and anger which often turns into serene acceptance of the world being unfair. By this age these men are more likely to have fixed deficits in their hygiene, grooming, diet and gym habits although they may still go through seasons where their weight goes up for example. For slob guys their peak physique is in their 20's while for cerebral guys it is in their mid 30's.

Youth is wasted on the young except for chads AND normies who luck out environmentally and get to thrive in a nice bubble where they are sheltered from inconsistent parenting, absent or abusive relatives, bullying, friends with low aspirations and what not. In the best possible case a normie gets to retain a child like naivete about the world around him because he gets to avoid shitty people and is luckily surrounded by excellent people also being born in an advanced city with practically unlimited options for hobbies, better schools, superior health care etc.

ViolentMagician1 · 2023-10-09T21:47:06+00:00

Yes. It really sucks. I looksmaxxed my ass off and finally got to a point where young women would approach me only for them to lose interest when I tell them my age. I just turned 30 but these age rejections happened when I was around 28/29. Late bloomers like myself don't have much of a choice but to geomaxx if they want younger (early 20s) women.

AreOut · 2023-10-09T21:50:58+00:00

that's true, but 30+ men who want younger women compete for the minority who want them

it's like saying "most men don't want to date gay men" which is true so what, gays just date other gays

pssnflwr · 2023-10-10T01:42:26+00:00

I think a lot of younger women have like one experience with an older man but it doesn’t usually work out long term bc, as OP says, 20 something women aren’t always ready to settle down when the older guy wants to. this even happened to me, I was with him cause I loved him, but I also wasn’t about to settle down as early as he wanted to and give up on my own personal development goals before having a family.

q_dice · 2023-10-10T05:16:50+00:00

I’m 31 and I have a 16 yo brother. I have a rule now, if the girl is closer in age to him than I, she is too young for me. It makes me feel weird

LetsDOOT_THIS · 2023-10-10T06:51:13+00:00

yeah and?

Endovelico · 2023-10-10T08:19:12+00:00

Im in my late 30s. I've never dated this many college students ever in my life. They don't give a shit about your age

HungerISanEmotion · 2023-10-10T13:00:45+00:00

Seamen sacrifice a lot of their lives to earn $$$, in older generations they would usually spend 3/4 of their lives at sea. And most of them would end up marrying younger hotter... gold-digers.

I saw them being happy initially with their wives... and never again.

qunamax · 2023-10-10T13:56:20+00:00

That's mostly true, the ones that usually do are the ones that 30+ guys rotate, so not very quality. Decent young girls don't just go out of their social circles to date random attractive 30+ year old guys that are at a completely different stage in life and complete strangers to them. The ones that do usually for some of the reasons didn't get coupled with someone in their social circle, either they don't want anybody (problematic) or nobody wants them (unattractive).

lvoncreek · 2023-10-10T14:56:05+00:00

Yeah true. Fortunately no one believes this besides the redpill folks.

CroomagnumTX · 2023-10-10T16:49:34+00:00

Huge difference in dating a 20-22 year old woman and one that is 25-28 and has had to face the world outside of college.

ZenityDzn · 2023-10-10T17:41:49+00:00

I disagree that redpoll belief is that a 30 yo man will attract early 20s women. I don’t know of redpill content that says and believes that. It’s just not generally true. Most likely it is a content creator that is espousing their own beliefs and calling it redpill, even though it is not.

Cotehill · 2023-10-10T19:17:49+00:00

Just like the trope you are attempting to argue against, you use bias, conjecture, assumption and anecdote to help give your belief a foundation that is nothing but a fictional hypothesis.

While the truth is that you have no idea what the truth is.

Seeing as you are in college, why don't you take a stats course, develop an unbiased survey, ensure you have a good hypothesis to test, make sure those answering your questions are a true cross-section of society and can represent the population, and produce some statistically significant results that will stand up to peer scrutiny. Instead of making ish up, just like those you argue against.

James_jackm2020 · 2023-10-11T01:07:14+00:00

Is it just me but having a whole strategy for this shit abit weirdblike go live Ur life get some girls work on urself and when Ur ready for something long term U just comit to something

CalmNeedleworker3100 · 2023-10-11T07:48:27+00:00

If young women don't like old guys, why do old women complain about age gap relationships?

SupposedlySapiens · 2023-10-11T16:11:45+00:00

I’m curious why it’s considered by you to be bad that a woman in her 20s would be with a man in his 30s because of his resources? That’s a completely natural part of the dynamic between men and women. Man provides protection and resources, woman provides companionship and comfort.

As for love, romantic love is something that develops over time. Your concern of whether or not “she genuinely loves him” is conflating infatuation with love. Of course a woman will be attracted to a man with resources. She develops feelings of romantic love for him over time as he proves himself to be a quality man. If he proves otherwise, she loses interest and moves on.

Dashing2025 · 2023-10-14T00:13:39+00:00

It's not the 30+ age that necessarily attracts women -in fact the older age will likely be a detriment- however, the drawback of an older age in men can be offset by the wealth, confidence, wisdom, and status that only older men possess, and some women are willing to make the tradeoff of dating an older man for the sake of enjoying the features that he built overtime.

Dashing2025 · 2023-10-14T14:39:52+00:00

if a 20 year old is with a guy who's 10+ years older than she is, she's almost certainly just with him because he has money and resources, rather than because she genuinely loves him.

I'm noticing some self-contradiction here: if she would "genuinely love him", why would his age be a nuisance? Would it be any less shallow if a woman loved a man for his youth/looks compared to her attachment to him for his money and resources?

Vegetable-Rub3418 · 2023-10-30T18:01:58+00:00

You're so wrong it's not even funny

Relationship Status	February 2022	July 2022	Census Bureau 2021
Married	16%	14%	13.3%
Living w/ Partner	9%	11%	12.7%
Committed Romantic Relationship	18%	11%	N/A
Single	57%	63%	N/A

Relationship Status	February 2022	July 2022	Census Bureau 2021
Married	21%	19%	18.6%
Living w/ Partner	27%	27%	14.7%
Committed Romantic Relationship	16%	20%	N/A
Single	35%	34%	N/A

Title	Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old men
Author	Glass_Bucket
Upvotes	243
Comments	388
Date	October 9, 2023 4:13 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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