Positivity Time! Say something nice about the opposite sex, or say something you feel bad the opposite sex has to deal with!

SeaworthinessSea2407 · 2024-09-17T18:50:33+00:00

I feel bad that it is normal for women to just be constantly sexualized, many times starting when they are underage. That must be exhausting and it shouldn't be "just a part of life"

Ultramega39 · 2024-09-17T17:16:40+00:00

I work at a camp for special needs children and the majority of my coworkers are women. They are all very gentle and kind and I can tell that they are really are dedicated to what they do.

Gillionaire25 · 2024-09-17T19:09:24+00:00

I think male infant genital mutilation is a vile and inhumane practice that needs to stop worldwide, and I feel sorry for men who were forced to go through that.

YourAverageRadish · 2024-09-18T08:13:16+00:00

I hate that lots of guys are struggling with dating and that many of them are genuinely lonely and seek love, but are reduced to "wanting their dick wet". It's very dehumanizing. I feel sad for them and wish they found someone. No one should feel invisible and useless to society.

Evening-Barracuda740 · 2024-09-17T17:28:51+00:00

I feel bad for how women are objectified sexually when they are as young as 5-12 years old which is totally wrong, the pain they have to experience with child birth and periods and i feel bad for women who are used for sex as they deserve to find happiness.

I've worked with teaching assistants in school that were women that helped me pass my exams and looked out for me when i was bullied which i am forever grateful for, i've been taken care of by some of the loveliest nurses in hospital, grew up in school with girls that i still stay in touch with as close friends that were there for me when i lost loved ones.

Good women when you're lucky to meet them, you never forget their acts of kindness and empathy. Women give the best hugs too. I wish we could put an end to these damn gender wars online.

Eschew_Sloth-232 · 2024-09-17T18:44:25+00:00

I feel bad that there are some genuine psychopaths out there, we walk past monsters everyday and I understand women being cautious around men.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-09-17T19:13:55+00:00

Menstruation must be inconvenient

AdjectiveMcNoun · 2024-09-17T23:40:44+00:00

I feel bad that men often can't really interact with kids who aren't their own without someone giving them the side eye like they are a pedo.

I also feel bad that men are feeling so confused as to how to approach women now. Many are worried to approach a woman in fear of being seen as creepy. Holding the door or helping a woman could also backfire. Many times it's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.

literaryhogwartian · 2024-09-17T19:04:54+00:00

I love how direct men tend to be. I work with mainly men and they always say what they mean.

yuckyuck13 · 2024-09-18T01:25:38+00:00

I come from a family cursed with well endowed women. Came home to hear my sister crying after school often. She was getting a lot of unwanted attention because of her size. I'll be honest as a straight male I notice but I feel bad because I know well endowed women be objectified purely on their size.

the_calibre_cat · 2024-09-17T22:41:51+00:00

I like and am supremely jealous of the fact that women sort of have a team spirit. Men rarely if ever have this. And I feel bad that y'all have to deal with creeps online and IRL, everyone should be able to enjoy the internet and real life.

Ripley_Riley · 2024-09-17T16:31:44+00:00

I hate that women have to deal with SA and rape, but especially when it happens as they are trying to date and find a potential partner. It's dehumanizing and has to make it harder to trust men. I will never tolerate that behavior, or being flippant about that behavior, from the men around me.

I love that women are (as least in general) open and like to talk with their close friends. My guy friends are great but it's my girl friends who will just talk to me for no other reason than to talk. That's a nice feeling. I'm glad they are in my life.

I also just like the way women look. That's probably biology speaking but geez women are just pretty.

rustlerhuskyjeans · 2024-09-17T17:27:28+00:00

I don’t what the statistic would be but I believe between 1-5% of men would rape a woman or at least sexually assault women if they thought they could get by with it. This makes the world of walking around by yourself at night an uncomfortable thought.

Women are good socially. Also, having a woman in your life generally helps improves yourself and quality of life.

bluestjuice · 2024-09-17T16:59:18+00:00

I love the way men tend to be ‘in the moment’ more and (usually? In most cases?) are both less preoccupied with the future and relaxed, and have an easier time moving on after an argument has been resolved.

I feel bad for (actually, loathe would be a better word) the way elementary education has developed in the direction of huge class sizes and necessarily still learning styles that are often not the best way for boys to learn successfully. I don’t think this is the fault of teachers, who I think largely understand this very well but have their hands tied by legislative and budgetary constraints. It’s awful.

alwaysright12 · 2024-09-17T16:19:30+00:00

I feel bad for how men aren't valued as parents.

I feel bad that dv and sexual assault and rape against men aren't taken as seriously at times.

I think most men as individuals (certainly the ones in my life) are decent men who love their families.

Oh, and I find my husband extremely physically attractive.

whisky_pete · 2024-09-17T20:36:13+00:00

I think there's a lot to admire about women, so maybe I'll start with this. I totally believe women are the equals of men and are capable of anything we can do. Smart, strong, capable, creative, you name it. It should go without saying, but I say it because sometimes you see people here say the world would collapse if men stopped doing the work. But I firmly believe in the sci-fi scenario that all men disappeared, women would absolutely adapt and innovative tools made for their bodies and everything would be just as fine as it was before.

I also admire the richness of the feelings many women seem to experience just going through the world. When you see a woman or young girl get excited and passionate about something, I question whether I've ever felt as intensely excited about something as casually as that in my entire life.

Also, in general, I just wish you all the best. There's too much suffering in the world and it helps none of us. So treat yourselves kindly and go easy on yourself if you make mistakes or don't live up to your goals sometimes.

MikeArrow · 2024-09-17T21:13:19+00:00

I think I'd go insane living in a world where I was 'prey'. Where something intrinsic to my body made me fodder for every Tom, Dick and Harry who wanted to use it for their pleasure. Of not knowing who to trust, or whether their intentions were genuine, ever. Of fearing that at any moment they could get frustrated or impatient and just take what they want from me.

That fucking sucks.

HappyCat79 · 2024-09-18T10:21:07+00:00

I honestly prefer hanging out with men. I find men easier to understand because with a few exceptions, men typically just speak directly and don’t expect you to read their mind or understand their subtle hints. I really suck at indirect communication. I have also found most men to be easy to impress and they don’t find me threatening at work.

I absolutely feel bad for the fact that heterosexual men often have to deal with indirect communication so much. It’s exhausting having to constantly try to figure out what someone is trying to tell you, and when you ask them to just come out and tell you what you need or want you have a good chance of being met with anger at not magically knowing on your own what she was trying to tell you.

Show-Me-Ur-Prsnlty · 2024-09-17T17:40:47+00:00

I think women have been better friends to me average than men have. I feel like I've been able to count on and trust women I was not all that close friends with more than I was men I wasn't all that close to.

Jesusofthedinosaurs · 2024-09-17T18:13:23+00:00

Women tend to be thoughtful gift-givers.

a_minty_fart · 2024-09-17T18:46:25+00:00

I feel bad for women's clothing options when it comes to pockets.

That is the real struggle for equality.

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2024-09-17T16:51:23+00:00

Women dealing with constant unwanted attention from guys must be exhausting. I don't know how often they are approached, but I can understand just wanting to be left alone.

alieninhumanskin10 · 2024-09-17T19:07:11+00:00

I feel terrible for men when they get taken advantage of by women. I feel bad for single dads with a deadbeat for their kid's mom.

sweetestpineapple · 2024-09-18T13:45:29+00:00

I feel bad that men are called creepy for being socially awkward. I’m an extremely awkward woman, but since I’m short and non threatening looking, I get a pass on a lot of my weird behavior like staring off into space and unintentionally staring at someone when I’m zoned out.

Sonia314 · 2024-09-17T21:51:00+00:00

This meta-analysis (focused on rich countries, especially the US) found that hiring discrimination against women is no longer statistically significant, whereas hiring discrimination against men remains a serious problem. I experience hiring discrimination based on one of my demographics, so I really empathize with what men have to go through. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0749597823000560

Old_Luck285 · 2024-09-17T19:30:10+00:00

I envy men that they can be competitive and combative without involving feelings. Once the fight is over, they can drink beer together.

It's tragic how often men get side-eyed when they state that they like working with children. That's pedophilia paranoia.

Being considered a male loser is the absolute worst, women are never judged this harshly no matter how unattractive or unsuccessful they are.

I like men's concept of loyalty. There's beauty in not reevaluating everything constantly.

I envy many men for how easy it is for them to want sex. It's difficult when you have to be 100% in the right headspace first. However, I don't envy men for their libido.

I love how ready to help so many guys are.

Gravel_Roads · 2024-09-17T17:15:48+00:00

Pregnancy sounds terrifying, and must be extra terrifying for women who live in a state that no longer even offers abortion.

I don’t blame women for not having sex as freely as men at all, I’d be way more cautious and choosey if I had to worry about that.

the_1st_inductionist · 2024-09-17T17:07:51+00:00

Unreasonable guys are worse to deal with than unreasonable women, so I feel bad women have to deal with that.

Lacking the right to abort is worse for women to deal with than men automatically having parental rights and responsibilities, so I feel bad for women who have to deal with that.

leosandlattes · 2024-09-17T16:22:51+00:00

In some ways, men display higher social politeness or manners (toward the opposite sex), but I also feel bad for them because men are expected to be chivalrous or risk not being seen as a "gentleman." Perhaps this is location/culture dependent, but in Texas this is certainly true. Still, I appreciate the men who do this, and feel for them.

This isn't about men generally, but my boyfriend is warm and safe and has "boyfriend smell" - yummy, lol, and I really like that.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-09-17T18:52:24+00:00

I like that men are often more enthusiastic about spur-of-the-moment ideas, and seem to be able to let loose a lot easier.

I feel bad that their mental health issues aren't really addressed, they've often been told to "be a man" and pretend that everything is okay. It also sucks that men who enjoy caregiving professions are seen as inherently suspicious from the get-go.

cromulent_weasel · 2024-09-17T20:30:45+00:00

Something I feel bad women have to deal with: being talked over in the workplace.

Something nice: Women generally are better able to articulate and discuss their feelings.

Key-Faithlessness-29 · 2024-09-17T20:23:41+00:00

I feel bad for women who had to deal with red pilled conservative dudes whose masculinity was so fragile she had to walk on egg shells every time to not make sure he is seen as a loser.

chilumibrainrot · 2024-09-18T19:40:05+00:00

i also think that circumcision is mutilation and i hate that it’s so widespread

beautyloser · 2024-09-17T17:51:43+00:00

I really appreciate how many men are actually great self starters and are very determined to meet their goals through the power of only their own body and brain. I know this stems from a lack of feeling supported (which I feel bad for), but I admire their independence and drive to achieve

ZaWarudo234 · 2024-09-17T20:00:47+00:00

Tampons should be completely free. What else are you guys supposed to do?

AnonPinkLady · 2024-09-17T18:05:02+00:00

As a woman / feminine identifying person, I love the way that good men have this deeply protective nurturing way about them. I didn’t grow up with a very caring parent, but my boyfriend loves me in a way that makes my inner child feel protected, adored, and doted on. It’s truly healing. On my end I want to love on him the way he deserves. He helped me get behind the wheel and overcome my fear of driving and just yesterday I drove to his place with a bouquet of roses just because I could and took him to lunch, kissed him and told how handsome he is and dropped him off at his door before driving home just because he helped me become the kind of person who could spontaneously make those kinds of decisions

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-09-17T17:37:57+00:00

Some of the most empathetic and kindest people I have met tended to all be women.
We should all be blessed to have someone like them in our lives

addings0 · 2024-09-17T18:02:32+00:00

Women are right to avoid men for committing assault. It makes all men look bad.

Pregnancy is crucial to human survival, a tough on a womans body and mind. They do require assistance and understanding, even if it goes to a place we don't like.

Present-Afternoon-70 · 2024-09-17T18:15:38+00:00

I dislike the minimization of womens physical pains. While the reason mens physical pain is more respected because it is less often brought up by men (we are trained to man up and ignore pain) so when we do seek help for our pain people assume its worthy of notice. Women are trained to seek help with even easy things. If we have mansplaing perhaps the opposite would be womasking= when a woman asks for help in an area she should already be competent at. This is not weaponized incompetent which would be doing a task in a manner below your ability to avoid doing that task again. This is when a woman who asks for help even though they know how to do the task. This can be for many reaons.

Flashy-Huckleberry-0 · 2024-09-18T02:23:19+00:00

I love wordless bonding via shared experiences and working towards common goals. Blood, sweat, and tears. I prefer climbing mountains, etc. with men, as this dynamic is rarely felt with women. I love that we can share deep experiences without emotional conversation. I also love the subtle competition while engaging in physical activity that doesn’t involve resentment, just mutual respect.

I love the way men nurture. It feels so safe and grounded. Both my partner and my dad have enthusiastically cheered me on at races, eyes shining with tears, pride, and love. I’ll never forget my partner joyfully yelling at hikers at the end of a big trail run as he paced me the last few miles to a “fastest known time”, “Women’s FKT coming through!” My dad has always provided me with sound and compassionate insight and advice. And the best hugs. My partner makes me feel so safe, and he’s going to be such a dorky, goofy dad. Pacing and being paced in ultra marathons by both men have been among my most treasured experiences.

I love the silly, unrestrained humor a lot of men have. It never fails to lighten the mood, and it’s so in the moment! Hanging out with men is FUN!!!

I feel terrible that men’s mental health is so overlooked and underserved. From society’s attitudes towards men’s emotions and vulnerability to how so many male SA (including CSA) victims don’t tell anyone or get help, it’s really rough and really sad. I’m hoping to be a part of changing this in my line of work.

Farathial · 2024-09-19T02:26:30+00:00

I think its great that women can have sex and love whenever they want. That they can go online and be worth a conversation whenever they want. All I've ever wanted, just to be treated as human by the opposite sex, and women get this for free

Electrical-Sink4094 · 2024-09-17T18:45:50+00:00

I feel women are far more empathetic than men (by a mile and then some). And I think men should really prioritize making friends with women.

ETA: I wish women didn't have this pressure to look skinny. I know a LOT of men who into naturally curvy women. I wish women just embraced their bodies as they were.

No-Rough-7390 · 2024-09-17T21:48:21+00:00

I feel bad for the women inundated with the misogynistic narrative that the best life they can lead is that of a man.

SaBahRub · 2024-09-17T18:40:27+00:00

I do not envy the male libido

ExcelSpreadCheekz · 2024-09-17T18:15:25+00:00

I feel bad that it's not normalized for men to be more affectionate towards each other. There's nothing wrong with men hugging their male friends and telling them they love them. Everyone deserves to feel like they matter.

AlleGood · 2024-09-17T23:08:37+00:00

I admire the emotional and social support networks women have built for each other. Wish us men could have the same.

mvdziula · 2024-09-17T22:26:02+00:00

I feel bad that men are less likely to be given custody of their children which is crushing for those who have intention in being active fathers. Also nowadays I feel men are generalized more and online all of them are instantly labeled as horrific creatures that hate women.

There are lots of things I like in men. From my experience during discussions they’re more likely to stick to the topic, don’t instantly include emotions in their statements in case of disagreement and are more likely to answer the question directly. Also I see that men have this ability to give themselves over to their passion and treat it more like a way of living than a casual hobby. I also admire men for being quicker to run to the aid of someone who needs it, even if they are to lose their lives in the process. Both professionally, like firefighters or paramedics, but also just ordinary people saving randoms.

Sillysheila · 2024-09-18T03:41:50+00:00

Good men make people feel safe and at ease, they protect those that find it more difficult to protect themselves. I appreciate that.

We probably wouldn’t have a society without the invisible labour of blue collar men, even though politicians, CEOs etc get all the credit.

There’s studies that show fathers and other involved male family members in a woman’s life increases her body image and her self esteem. My father definitely built me up and made me feel like I could do things. He was very cheerful and happy, and treated me like a princess.

My maternal grandfather was heavily involved and had a soft spot for me, when he realised I was intellectually curious at a young age. He gave me adult sections of the newspaper (economic reporting, political reporting etc) even though my parents weren’t sure I’d understand it but I did. I loved it. The more I read it, the more I did understand about it. His trust in me to comprehend complex subjects at a young age made me economically, philosophically and politically aware.

Pola_Lita · 2024-09-18T10:53:41+00:00

"White man = Bad" truly aggravates me.

It's this millennium's stupidest contribution to society.

Pola_Lita · 2024-09-18T10:53:52+00:00

"White man = Bad" truly aggravates me.

It's this millennium's stupidest contribution to society.

smallfrythegoat · 2024-09-18T17:33:32+00:00

I feel bad for husbands with sincerely overbearing wives. I think the awareness of weaponized incompetence and issues like that is great, but it's also become a scapegoat for those who are genuinely way out of line for how much they demand from their husbands.

Trikger · 2024-09-18T20:14:11+00:00

I feel bad that crying for men isn't normalized.

My sweet boyfriend is the kind of guy who never gets mad. In the 9 months we've been together, he hasn't shown anger a single time, not even in the slightest. He is far quicker to cry and express his negative emotions in this way. He doesn't let his sadness and hurt turn into anger, and instead faces it head-on. That's fucking awesome and should be encourage and applauded instead of shamed and ridiculed.

Also, this is an awesome post. We should have this stuff up more often. This sub is full of negativity and villainization. Stuff like this is good.

TopShelfSnipes · 2024-09-17T18:13:36+00:00

Women are just so naturally sexy and most of them have such a fun and naturally positive energy about them.

Your movements, the way you smile and talk, the looks you make. The stuff you know about relationships but don't let on until we have a deep convo wtih you about it. Y'all are amazing. Never lose that.

I feel bad that y'all have to deal with creeps, pervs, and betas who orbit you without the confidence to be upfront with you. The fact that you manage to still be the way that most of you are in spite of that is just *chef's kiss*.

justsomelizard30 · 2024-09-17T21:13:48+00:00

I honestly feel bad that women have to deal with so much bullying on account that they're smaller. It happens a ton.

GridReXX · 2024-09-17T22:49:40+00:00

The average dude genuinely seems less neurotic. I would love to turn my brain and compulsively thinking angry considerations off. That’s freedom!

I feel bad that straight dudes have to pursue. I know some “enjoy the hunt.” But for the ones who don’t, it can be fairly traumatic in the learning stages of having to get over regular rejection.

Savings-Bee-4993 · 2024-09-17T17:19:25+00:00

Women are fucking cute.

Seriously, even you out there that think you’re ugly — you are cute. I see that cuteness everywhere, and everyone’s cute in their own way.

Sora was right: cuteness is ultimate justice. (Just kidding. Kind of.)

A1Dilettante · 2024-09-17T17:14:21+00:00

I think it sucks how guys are expected to ask out and chase women. It's 2024 yet this norm still persists, especially among some women who just deem it unfathomable to approach a dude. Like it's so beneath women to go after what we want sexually and romantically.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-09-17T16:47:19+00:00

There are some truly lovely, wonderful men who have changed my life for the better.

Planthoe30 · 2024-09-18T05:01:50+00:00

I appreciate that men made me feel protected and respected yesterday I was walking around a bad part of town to catch a Pokemon.. Ignoring I’m too adult to be doing that.. Anyways I was circled by this guy in his SUV 3 times and each time he would roll down his window and try and talk to me I didn’t actually understand what he was saying but then he asked me if I wear a thong/if he could see it. Realizing he has now circled me three times in a deserted area and bold enough to ask to see my underwear in public I walked straight into a nearby rental office. The guy at the counter was a saint. Then my husband drove to my rescue. He also understood my frustration of how dehumanized I felt and made me feel valued. I was really lucky to be surrounded by good men after that happened yesterday.

Redpill-mind · 2024-09-17T16:59:45+00:00

I can only speak for the women in my life as they are the one of the most wonderful people l've known

My mom,sisters,female relatives and even my female friends have gifted me a positive relationship and I'll always be there if they need help

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-09-17T17:34:14+00:00

I like that women inspire us to achieve what was thought to be impossible. I think without them world would be a cold bleak place.

bluepvtstorm · 2024-09-17T21:05:53+00:00

I feel bad that male victims of sexual assault aren’t treated like it is a serious crime.

I really like men who are active and present fathers. I always love to see dads in the hardware store with their daughters. Reminds me of my dad.

I feel bad that men don’t have the same social support systems that women have. It would make some challenges a lot easier to go through.

audiofoxthethird · 2024-09-18T01:02:44+00:00

I think it’s rough that human psychology and society still make it the man’s job to pursue. I think it’s rough that traditionally men pay for most things. I think women are altogether too ridiculous and demanding about something as unimportant as height.

operation-spot · 2024-09-17T19:00:38+00:00

I think it’s really cool that men can just pick things up when in most cases I can’t. I do feel bad that they are so desperate for validation and I hope they’re able to overcome that.

Junius-Julius · 2024-09-17T19:19:25+00:00

I think women are great artists.
I hate women have to deal with revenge porn.

imagineDoll · 2024-09-17T19:23:28+00:00

men are good at physical labor.

Cunnin_Linguists · 2024-09-17T21:25:34+00:00

I love the way women can lower stress, and not just in a sexual way. I love when women can be free spirited and goofy. I love natural maternal instinct.

Armagerdon · 2024-09-17T23:09:18+00:00

As friends, women are much better with opening up and talking. When there's something eating at me I can always rely on them to be more willing to listen and give feedback. It's not that male friends don't want to help, but their response just seems much more muted.

Edit Question for OP: Aren't women also supposedly good at encouraging each other? The conventional idea is that women compliment and build each other much more and look out for the safety and interests of even women they don't know as a group.

DennistheMenace__ · 2024-09-17T23:20:29+00:00

i like how most women seem to take better care of themselves than men

SnooSongs8797 · 2024-09-18T03:04:26+00:00

Most women I talk to I super fun to talk to and have a lot of interesting outlooks of life

Dertross · 2024-09-18T15:18:05+00:00

I must be a misogynist because I struggle to think of something positive to say about something specific to women in general. That can't just be reduced to something they are simply born with but a result of their agency as human beings.

But judging from a lot of the comments, a lot of men are even worse than I am because the best they can come up with to answer this question isn't even something positive about women but feeling sorry for how women are affected by something.

It makes me want to make a challenge thread to say something nice about the opposite sex with some actual rules like

It has to be a generalization, not specific to people close to you
Something they actively choose to do
Not a physical process they have little control over (i.e., childbirth or being pretty)

ExternalBarracuda292 · 2024-09-18T16:19:44+00:00

By far the biggest sympathy I have towards women is regarding the pressure on them to be thin, and the dehumanization of those who are not. Overweight women suffer from almost all of the issues that men do, but no one has any sympathy for them.

You see this double standard all the time here:

"Women are so shallow! Studies have shown repeatedly that they only care about height! Why do they say they care about personality when they don't! We men would never refuse to date someone for such shallow reasons!"

"Would you date a woman who was overweight but had a really great personality?"

"Ew no don't be disgusting bro." (This situation is unrealistic because no one would ever even point out the hypocrisy by even asking the previous question)

I think they justify it to themselves because being overweight is "unhealthy", but realistically for many people the tendency towards being overweight is largely genetic and the health risks associated with it are often overstated (after all, almost everyone in the US is overweight, and their life expectancy is still fairly high). It's clearly far more about aesthetics or social factors than legitimate health concerns.

Bitter-Hat-4736 · 2024-09-18T21:11:24+00:00

I am always and forever grateful I never have to deal with menstruation.

sunsista_ · 2024-09-19T01:26:27+00:00

As a tall Black woman, I empathize with short men and being looked over/undesirable for something you can't control, regardless of other good qualities.

Plus-Opportunity8541 · 2024-09-18T00:41:11+00:00

It's completely messed up that women genuinely have to fear walking around in public. I really didn't understand how bad it was until I was with a group of girls who said that the number one reason they won't go on a date with a guy is fear of being assaulted. Even if it's just a minority of the population that does anything like this, it ruins things for everyone else.

SirTruffleberry · 2024-09-17T21:15:06+00:00

I regret that women are facing pressure to procreate when, for most, it is a rarely joyful and often burdensome responsibility. If men are viewed as work-horses, women are viewed as egg-laying hens.

one_ball_policy · 2024-09-17T16:27:01+00:00

Women smell nice!

Windmill_flowers · 2024-09-17T21:48:51+00:00

Males here tend to be able to stick to the topic and logically form their responses (Even if I disagree with those responses). They're less likely to take a disagreement personally and more likely to answer the question that was asked.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-09-17T23:11:01+00:00

I think single mothers are really strong and need to be commended for their amazing effort of raising the future generation

ladyindev · 2024-09-17T18:05:25+00:00

Is sexual attraction obnoxious? Possibly, but I think the easiest thing to say is that I’ve very much enjoyed smushing my body against men’s bodies. Very fun, 10/10 do recommend. I’m a fan of men physically in multiple ways. As far as cis men go, I thoroughly enjoy giving blow jobs. I’m bi and I have a specific appreciation for men that is different from how I enjoy and love women.

Aside from that, as a feminist, I feel for the way men are conditioned to silence their emotions and their relative lack of social support and healthy empowerment. I think the manosphere/red pill are toxic answers to something real that men are feeling. I can even somewhat agree with a possible struggle to adapt to new gender roles and feeling less needed or useful in society. My answer to those things is very different, but the increasing suicide rate among men is really sad.

Aside from that, I think I’ve enjoyed sparring intellectually with men in debates. I’ve also enjoyed this with women for sure, but I think our common gender conditioning leaves men more open to certain kinds of conversations that I enjoy. More competitive, assertive, into challenging and being challenged, etc.

I love good fathers who respect women and empower their children, like my dad did.

Many men are very passionate about leftist politics and pushing for a better society for the greater good.

Lots of men embody goodness, kindness, positive use of strength, etc. Lots of great things.

We just don’t like patriarchy, sexism, misogyny 🙃

Disastrous-Chart-928 · 2024-09-17T21:05:34+00:00

I think the world genuinely is more brutal for men and having a boyfriend with diagnosed autism made me sympathise more with young men's struggles. I think I'd just transition if I was a dude, but I'm a very comfort driven person and it's much easier to achieve that as a woman, maybe it'd be different if I was a man.

Also how the hell do men just randomly fall asleep anywhere

I don't know how you guys do it, but for the good men out there and I know that's the vast majority of you; good luck you're going to need it.

y2kjanelle · 2024-09-18T03:39:21+00:00

Their assertiveness. They don’t worry about being a nuisance when they need something. They don’t constantly hold themselves back ( reasonably), they don’t spend hours worrying about what others will think, they just ARE. I’ve ALWAYS admired that. They ask for what they want, they don’t cause unnecessary drama.

I work with some of the most stereotypical corporate bitches ever. They’re always passive aggressive, they’re mean girls yet shout all the time that they don’t “tolerate mean girl behavior” (verbatim). They targeted one coworker and constantly left her out of our meetings. They “forgot” her flowers on her bday because they didn’t like her (everyone else got flowers or $150 gift cards). In her review, my boss wrote that she can’t wait to see her finally grow and contribute to the team💀💀I hate my boss so much.

But we have this wonderful male hiring partner. And there’s none of that. If he needs something done, he’ll ask. If something goes wrong, he’ll ask (instead of leaving it until something bad happens and then getting mad and freaking out when they already knew about it). If we need something, he’ll do it. There’s no passive aggressiveness. There’s no attitude. There’s no “im better than you”. He serves the team. I deeply admire him.

And I don’t think all men or all women, but I’ve noticed lots of drama caused by women in the office that’s just fucking ridiculous. It’s bad and childish behavior. And the men just..don’t do that shit. They’re infinitely easier to work with than my own team.

So that’s what I love about them. Everything is simple. They don’t cause me unnecessary stress.

I wish they struggled less with making intimate or deeper connections with others. My bf has shared a lot about this and how hard it is to connect with other men. He thought it was weird to ask a guy to hang out until I told him it wasn’t and he should just approach his coworkers. Now he and this one guy hang out pretty often and he has a lot of fun. But I can’t imagine if he had held back and kept himself from a good friend. It’s not “gay” (nor is gay bad lmao) to want male friends, to want shoulders to cry on, to want or need to depend on others. I really do think lots of men are just absolutely fantastic. And really funny! And I enjoy their company so much! I would love for men to feel more comfortable seeking connections with others.

TermAggravating8043 · 2024-09-17T16:30:51+00:00

Men on average, are funnier than woman

IdiAminD · 2024-09-17T19:26:28+00:00

Women 35+ are great, they can be your partner in crime and imo they are in many ways superior in life skills comparing to men. Young generation of women is spoiled, entitled and extremely egoistic. Good that they opt out of motherhood, their views should not be passed to next generations.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2024-09-18T10:44:07+00:00

They are great at stringing you along and ghosting without remorse

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meteorness123 · 2024-09-18T02:16:43+00:00

You are too wholesome for this sub.

garacus · 2024-09-18T04:35:17+00:00

women tend to be more tender and subtle lovers. The difference between men and women romantically and sexually, would be like the difference between a mukbang and a food connoisseur respectively. Women are a lot more varied and interesting in that department, and they take the emotional and sensual parts of life in all its capacity. Men are on average, a lot more unsubtle and too down the line in the inverse. Speaking somewhat from experience, being bi to a degree sexually, although only straight romantically.

I'd say expectations on women having to do, or feel they have to do a huge weake up regime and makeup is pretty bad for them, even for those who love putting on make up. Only because, as a guy, I like putting on nice clothes, some wax, shaving, all that sort of stuff, but I'd hate doing that everyday for 4 times as long, just to even go down to the shops.

balhaegu · 2024-09-18T05:48:04+00:00

My gf actually says she envies being a guy because the bros seem to get along with each other much better abd have lots of fun. So i can see where youre going with the post.

I appreciate womens' ability to multitask very well and their ability to give birth to the next generation.

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2024-09-18T11:16:06+00:00

Things I feel bad that women have to face are dealing with stalking ,sexual harassment,dudes not going away after being turned down and stories like Junko Furuta and the thing some men want children but they don't want to be fathers

MrNotSoFunFact · 2024-09-18T16:55:59+00:00

Older women got some special warmth and charm to em.

The female reproductive system is a bitch. Makeup industry is pretty ass too.

chilumibrainrot · 2024-09-18T19:38:46+00:00

it sucks that men have to feel macho all the time and can’t express vulnerability around other men

griii2 · 2024-09-18T20:11:16+00:00

I am sorry half of the country finds it acceptable for a future vice president to use “weird cat ladies” as an insult against women.

Coloursoft · 2024-09-19T05:22:56+00:00

Pregnancy's a bitch, yo. Hormonal imbalances, physical burden, and (without medical intervention) success rates that border on comical from a biological standpoint? Fuck all that.

Coloursoft · 2024-09-19T05:39:31+00:00

Women are so fucking adorable, dude. Getting all excited over pockets on a dress, giddily showing off decorated cookies after obsessing over getting the nose just right, how they'll infodump about things that piqued their interest that month, the way they laugh. I feel like most women are woefully unaware of how cute they can be just by enjoying something.

digitaldisgust · 2024-09-19T10:48:15+00:00

My male model friends are so good looking, thats all my lesbian ass has got. 🤣

Willow-girl · 2024-09-19T13:39:49+00:00

I feel bad that my man has six more newly-hatched ducklings to co-parent. It's a lot of work! He just got four successfully raised to adolescence and now has a new batch to watch over and shepherd around. Many sleepless nights will be spent going out to check on who is WHEEP WHEEP WHEEPing when they've become separated from the tour group.

It's hard work being a Duck Daddy!

prolixdreams · 2024-09-19T22:45:02+00:00

I feel bad that men have to be constantly feared, especially where children are concerned — men are more likely to be chased out of spaces (e.g. a park) if they’re not with women or children and less likely to be assisted when appearing to be in need alone in public. On the flip side I deeply appreciate men who bear that burden with grace and go out of their way to avoid being scary.

proffessorCouch · 2024-09-20T01:09:33+00:00

Periods must suck. Also being small with less muscle sucks

TERMINXX · 2024-09-20T12:48:39+00:00

So soft to the touch. It's wild to me. All that Bath and Body lotion must make a difference.

Affectionate-Yard899 · 2024-09-21T04:52:29+00:00

I love women's voices, they are music to my ears, and well scientifically, to my brain too

Squidbro66 · 2024-09-24T23:35:09+00:00

Honestly, periods suck not just because of everything surrounding it, but also because it's not really a problem you can social justice away. Even in a perfect world with no sexism, periods seem inevitable.

TheDwiin · 2024-09-18T07:01:48+00:00

I do feel bad about all the sexual harassment, both online and in person, woven have to deal with. No one deserves to open up a DM and immediately see a picture of genitalia, or get constant invasive comments on how good some stranger is in bed.

The gender ratios are so skewed too, so much so that women are more likely to get harassed by women than men are to get harassed by women.

Edited to add something unrelated: I'm tired of reddit getting rid of my custom user flair. I don't identify as a man, but as someone who was AMAB, I want it on my flair to recognize my bias as I work to overcome it.

kongeriket · 2024-09-18T07:37:45+00:00

Things that really suck about being a woman and I really feel bad about it:

periods
being told that the best you can do is to have/emulate the life of a man
higher neuroticism which leads to self-doubt
women's clothing

Like, seriously, we're down to buying clothes meant for smaller 15 year old boys for my wife. Women's jeans are either with holes or have no pockets. Same with more feminine jackets. It's ridiculous!

Things that are really awesome about being a woman:

multiple orgasms
social life on very-very easy mode by default
presumed safe in every situation, especially with children (even contrary to statistical evidence)
strong in-group bias

What I personally admire is most of the older (60+) women in Eastern Europe. They're an encyclopedia of stories and cautionary tales that are highly useful especially for young people. The dismissive "okay boomer" promoted among Zoomers legit feels like a psyop to sever the connections between young people and their grandparents' wisdom.

Demasii · 2024-09-17T18:27:05+00:00

There are two fathers at my job who are in a constant back and forth with the court system trying to get visitation rights to see their kids.

One of the fathers has a child is in Georgia. The rule there is unless the bio father was married to the mother he has no rights to the kid. He wants to pay child support and legitimize he is the father (he got a DNA test done) but the mother contesting it. They been back and forth for the last two years.

Sharp_Engineering379 · 2024-09-18T00:25:14+00:00

I’m very sorry that men feel the pressure to be tall, and I won’t let any women around me get away with making derogatory remarks about height.

I’m tall and I can’t stand to see strange men skirting me and avoiding standing next to me in line, it happens a lot of social spaces. I’ve had four or five complete strangers in bars ask me to go stand next to their OLD date and “verify” his height. It’s the worst thing I’ve seen women do in the social sphere.

It’s true that people can’t help what they are attracted to, but they can sure keep unnecessary remarks to themselves.

I admire competence and the focus and pride men take on doing something correctly. Fixing things, building things, creating things which last instead of half-assing a project is always admirable. I also love the enthusiasm men show when explaining or displaying their work.

WendigoBarbarian · 2024-09-18T01:11:12+00:00

I like women who wear sun dresses. they look pretty. I think more women should wear them.

SnowHussar · 2024-09-18T05:05:16+00:00

I honestly think most men look down on women and it should be awful. Once men get past puberty and begin hanging around with each other, women become basically "prey" for the "hunters". I am generally a proud guy, someone serious who likes people to have respect for me and treat me properly. I feel that is extremely hard for a woman to get. Most men I know and have met REALLY think they are better than women just for the fact of being men. There is this subconscious bias of seeing a girl and thinking "I am better than her" that comes from a feeling of physical superiority but somehow also extrapolates to them thinking they are smarter and have a cooler personality and all that. You have thousands of black pill and incelsphere men directly saying "There is nothing a man can get from women besides sex and love since women are zero interesting, have sad lives and offer nothing in a friendship" which is just like... so sad, lol. I know for a sure if I ever heard something like that said about a collective of people I belong to (like my Gender or my nationality) I'd clench my fists and instantly want to break the jaw of whatever moron spits such nonsense.

In this note, men only compete against men as they don't even consider women worthy of being considered rivals, while women have essentially to outshine both men and women to get relevant in their careers. Women have it so much harder on average to be promoted, which I attribute to this same problems which also generally apply to short or unattractive men, since our monkey brains see "Big, strong, handsome" and say "leader".

Cool_Ranch_2511 · 2024-09-18T09:06:24+00:00

again? these posts are so fucking regarded

TallFoundation7635 · 2024-09-17T18:26:27+00:00

Women are good at nurturing kids. I feel bad that women have been led astray by corporations and politicians pushing the feminist agenda.

SandBrilliant2675 · 2024-09-18T14:38:36+00:00

Men have an innate sense of confidence that is really awesome! I feel like they are bolder and more willing to (and I mean this positively) to make a fool of themselves, let go of personal ego, and just have fun.

No-Department1374 · 2024-09-19T01:53:33+00:00

I feel bad that so many women have to deal with weeding through so many men who are losers. So many men are unkempt, have no ambitions, no style, no emotional intelligence, and whose hobbies consist of drinking and video games. It’s really baffling that it’s this hard for women to find a decent man. I hope more women are able to find men they deserve.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-09-17T21:00:33+00:00

I love women (2d)

FrameWorried8852 · 2024-09-17T17:10:59+00:00

I feel bad for women's lack of taste for any movies or music that's actually good.

FrameWorried8852 · 2024-09-17T17:11:15+00:00

I feel bad for women's lack of taste for any movies or music that's actually good.

systematicdissonance · 2024-09-17T18:25:59+00:00

say something you feel bad the opposite sex has

Joy and ecstasy

In my humble opinion

naked_engineer · 2024-09-17T17:25:57+00:00

Naked bodies are hot.

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