Not a monolith, but think about it, there is roughly a 50/50 gender ratio out there, why would sites like "Are we dating the same guy?" even have to exist if women weren't going for a minority of men? Aren't they indicative of a trend that they obviously do? These things don't sprout into action out of nowhere, there has to be a actual thing irl. And it doesn't correlate with the claim that women pair off at a natural gender ratio either, but that they go for the men who will likely have them on a roster, and women are now actually aware of this happening, in fact, its happening so much and so often they now have to rely on literal spyware to check things out. Crazy.