A common complaint here I see is that some men can sleep with a woman with very little effort while others have to put in more effort for the same outcome.

They forget that it’s the exact same for women, men are going to put far more effort wooing a beautiful woman they’re head over heels for compared to someone dumpy/plain. Both cases come down to pretty privilege and it is what it is.

And no, it isn’t “fair” but it’s so bizarre to me that grown adults here have the mindset everything must be fair and equal.

I’m also not sure what this would look like in real life: do you plan on asking women exactly how long they waited to sleep with every previous partner, everything they did in bed and then demand they do all those things and more with you? This is my main question here.

If you’re unhappy and unfulfilled in a relationship/situation that’s a different kettle of fish, and obviously you can choose to stop seeing someone for any reason you want. I’m not trying to wrangle anyone into staying with someone they don’t want to be with, I hope that’s clear.

But it’s a very strange concept to demand “fairness” and think that a woman is required to do for you everything she did for a previous partner, when it may have been through that experience she realised she didn’t enjoy it (certain stuff in bed for example). Or whatever the equivalent is vice versa - but this seems to be mainly bought up around sex with women which is why this is my main focus.