The average man has to remain vigilant, whilst appearing laid back. He had to remain aware of his partners behaviour and patterns as to avoid being blindsided, but without appearing controlling or obsessive. And he has to simply accept that it's her way or the highway and that he has very little bargaining power in a relationship because, well, there's simply so many more options right in her phone at any given moment in time that she just does not have to accept anything but total compliance on his part.

Relationship experts and therapist and self help gurus advocate everybody maintains a level of self respect, sets boundries, trust your partner, don't expect the worst etc

But let's say you're an average man in your mid twenties etc and you have s girlfriend or are dating.

You probably do not get options often, let alone somebody dating you for a while or even a girlfriend.

She's going to have multiple options at any one time, and whether they are quality options or not, the illusion of it is there. You as an average guy are very expendable and exchangeable.

So how are you meant to hold this healthy attitudes and principles yourself, when the majority of the time you're going to have this behaviour punished by being dropped?

The average man can't behave in a way that's healthy for them in a relationship, because most of the time, if the girl or woman doesn't like it, she has so much more leverage via options she can actually just drop him, punishing his perfectly reasonable attitudes and boundries leaving him only more likely to act in a way that's toxic to himself