What cases of "What they say they do VS What they do" do you see in the opposite sex?

tonyghow · 2021-10-26T19:46:54+00:00

“He’s just a friend…”

LittyKitsune · 2021-10-26T20:29:46+00:00

Abundance mentality. Yes logically it would make sense for a guy with plenty of options to not take breakups or rejection very hard. A lot of them do though, like the A student who freaks out over one B+.

kyjolski · 2021-10-26T20:13:39+00:00

Most noticeable on OLD, but women with descriptions 'please, only intelligent people and amazing conversations' who turn out to be as interesting and mentally developed as a door knob.

It's probably the thing for men also though. Hypocrisy and dunning kruger are gender independent flaws.

Kanonicman · 2021-10-26T19:04:53+00:00

"What happened, what's wrong?" - "Nothing."

DillonTheFatUglyMale · 2021-10-26T22:23:17+00:00

Women say they like dad bods. They don't.

BrodieDharma · 2021-10-26T18:49:38+00:00

Most of the women I’ve dealt with on Tinder probably had no hookups in their bios.

I’ve also had fuck buddies and casual hook ups with women who were actively claiming they were celibate on Facebook or even to my face right before sex.

I love sexual women, but I don’t respect sexual duplicity unless it works in my favor.

Ppdebateismental · 2021-10-26T19:54:29+00:00

Men say they don’t like high maintenance women, lots of make up, plastic surgery, fake boobs, etc. Lol, they don’t like lots of bad make up, unnatural looking plastic surgery. What they respond to is very well done, natural looking, makeup and procedures which are actually extremely high maintenance.

VastlyVainVanity · 2021-10-26T19:02:36+00:00

I've always thought that that's a stupid thing that red pillers do. Acting as if that's a strictly female behavior, I mean. Saying something and doing the opposite is very common in people in general, not just women.

"Do as I say, not as I do" is a pretty famous saying here where I live, not sure if it's famous in America too though. Hypocrites have always existed, and it's far easier to proclaim you espouse a certain ideal than to act according to it. It's far easier to say "I'm vegan" than to actually be vegan and change everything about your life, for example.

Anyway. With that being said, answering OP's question: one hypocrisy that I find very common in women is the typical "I don't like casual sex" while engaging in it periodically. IIRC, there was a study that showed that there was no correlation between a woman's regret in regards to casual sex, and her stopping to have it. No matter how much they said they regretted having casual sex, they kept having it.

CloudBerryFizzy · 2021-10-26T18:58:26+00:00

Guys say they don't simp.

They actually simp like they are getting paid for it.

cccccclairee · 2021-10-26T23:39:00+00:00

Men who say they want an equal partner but what they actually mean they want is a equally financially contributing partner who also does all the homemaker tasks. If you want a housewife, fine, but you’ll probably have to pay her bills. It you want an equal contributor, be one.

HathSpoken · 2021-10-26T20:09:59+00:00

I think the amount of feminists who exclusively date openly misogynistic men makes you realize where so many of their views come from.

eiggteen · 2021-10-26T23:43:58+00:00

RP men who want a submissive, traditional wife but don’t want to live up to being a traditional husband and father

RP men who want a young woman for fertility but they themselves are 46

RP men who claim they want a traditional family structure and to be the head of the home; only to do absolutely nothing in the house other than slouch on the coach and gauge at the television

girlindolor · 2021-10-26T19:58:45+00:00

Men say they want a submissive woman, but they're not able to respect a woman who's not an "equal" and they'll inevitably take her for granted and cheat on her

Men who claim to care about personality or claim to have non-existent standards but they would never date a woman who's ugly regardless of how great her personality is

Men who cry about being body shamed while most of them notoriously bodyshame fat women/hairy women/old women etc

majani · 2021-10-27T00:05:00+00:00

In all sexes: talking tough online about standards and boundaries, but in real life they are spineless simps for anyone remotely attractive that shows interest.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2021-10-27T00:42:16+00:00

Men here: women are emotional and not logical and that's why they're so easily led because evolution.

Also men here:

Women are all terrible, they're all shitty sluts who will divorce rape you! Women are horrible people who treat me like dirt monkey branch swinging

proceeds to rage

Women: i don't care about looks, only personality

Also women: proceeds to care about looks

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-10-26T18:53:58+00:00

Never met a woman who didn't like being objectified to some degree. I think the issue of only being an object got lost to some women who didn't get that part of it and put being objectified at all as bad when really they want to be pretty, sexy, hot, nice ass, nice boobs, etc and want men (they are attracted to) to notice.

radicalmeasure · 2021-10-27T00:12:43+00:00

That men want to be approached. I think men in their minds think only victorias secret models will approach them, shocker shocker, people who approach you wont always be your type.

chilikettlechips · 2021-10-26T19:33:52+00:00

So basically double standards?

The women's body positivity movement vs their ingrained "preference" of tall men.

Women's disgust that if they lose weight and become attractive that men will give them more attention vs disqualifying short men.

Women's rallying behind each woman including fattys while telling short men to just be confident.

Women telling men to go to the gym, get a better job to become more attractive while telling fattys and uggos that their looks don't matter. Contrast with their disqualification of short men.

Women saying even if they have no tits or ass it doesn't make them less of a woman but short men btfo.

Women's insistence that looks don't matter but filtering out short men.

A lot of those are basically the same thing, but I've heard them all and more. Once you take the height pill you can't unsee it. The gaslighting is pretty bad. teach the controversy

*Editing to add a FDS short roast thread on today's front page.

https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qgcy5s/woman_comments_we_stan_a_short_king_on_random/

ConsultJimMoriarty · 2021-10-27T04:39:21+00:00

Guys who say they want a tradwife and to be the provider are the first and loudest to bitch about having to go to work and giving his wife money to do the grocery shop.

asdf333aza · 2021-10-27T11:48:34+00:00

This is a story of a FWB I had. I met her after her and her exe broke up. But I had no intention on being serious with her. Just wanted the cheeks and fulfilled my friendly rolls by chitchatting with her and helping her get some weed here and there. Normal 20 something year old stuff. I stopped talking to her once she started dating sleeping with the exe who beat her up. She was just a fwb and I knew she was messing with other guys. I didn't care so long as I got to hit and quit it every 2 weeks or so. She belonged to the streets basically. Doing her 22 year old slut girl phase. But I cared enough about to drop that chick the second she let the guy who beat her up start hitting it again. Cause she convinced me the dude was the devil, but he couldn't be too bad since she was sleeping with him again. I wasn't bothered by her sleeping with other dudes as I was one of these "other dudes". But I was bothered by her sleeping and hanging out with the dude who put her in the hospital and posted revenge p0rn of her. She sweep all that under bridge and let him back in her life. And it just made me lose so much respect for her that I didn't even want to fuck her anymore. Her family stopped talking to her too. And we are all just sitting back and chilling waiting for this to end up poorly like it did last time.

Anywayyysss it goes like this.

Her: I hate my exe! He is abusive! He used to hit me! I will never get back together with him. Let me post all these pictures of me beat up in the hospital and start talking about domestic abuse on social media.

Her 6 months later: I'm driving in a thunder storm 40 miles away to go get some dick and get back together with my exe

her 2 months after that: Me and my exe are back together. I don't care what none of ya'll say. Him and I are happy. And he loves my child even though it isn't his. And just cause he beat me up once doesn't me he would again. And he would never hit my daughter like he would never hit me again. People make mistakes. And just cause he don't have a job and lives in my house doesn't mean anything. He is over 6ft and has various tattoos and I love him. And yeah that video that he uploaded on the hub of us fucking without my permission is still circulating, but I still love him and ya'll can't change that. Now excuse me while I delete all the pictures I posted of the bruises and black eyes he gave me. And let me take down all my post about domestic assault and let me set my profile to private and block all of my old fwbs on fb (multiple guys. She belonged to the streets).

her 1 month later: let me unblock all my old fwb cause me and my exe broke up.

her 2 weeks later: okay him and me are back together. Can't fight true love. I love this man more than life itself. He is my amor'. And we have to move to the country cause we can't afford rent cause he doesn't work and I only work low level jobs and my onlyfans career didn't take off as planned.

Ward_G · 2021-10-27T13:22:50+00:00

Women, young women anyways 17-29 who are single and say things like, ‘Well, I want a guy like that’.

Then, I look at her last few selections and they’re nothing like that.

neetykeeno · 2021-10-26T20:06:09+00:00

"I want a nice, quiet, slim non-pushy virgin who doesn't dress slutty. That's what there isn't enough of. All men want those girls. Rare as unicorns"

Twenty seconds later you all get out the car of the designated driver walk into the 21st birthday party and him and his mates are all over the size 14 girl wearing a hot pink size 12 bodycon minidress with plunging neckline, stripper heels, fake eyelashes, enough makeup to sink the Bismarck, bottle blonde, tattoos, hoop earrings that graze her shoulders, loudly cracking dirty jokes and ordering guys to fetch her drinks and stuff from the buffet table. On the couch sit three slim quiet girls in the basic bitch uniform of brown suede boots, jeans, a long sweater and a large scarf. Minimal makeup, a slick of lipgloss and a bit of mascara. Some of them don't even have pierced ears. You and your boyfriend get chatting to them. Two of them have never had a boyfriend, the third had a boyfriend but he died of leukaemia a year ago. They are all studying early childhood education. After an hour chatting animatedly with you about their pets, their job prospects and whether stack heeled boots are going to be good this fall, they get up and leave to go study for an exam. An hour later the loud girl leaves with someone none of you know. "Hey did you see that slut back there...she had a tattoo on her titty and pulled her top down to show me and then she left with that guy who came over, laughed at us and offered to take her to Melbourne on his motorbike for ribs. Women nowadays are just gross aren't they?" Yeah. Right. Sure. You all go back to the car.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-10-26T20:40:44+00:00

Men complaining about being lonely or disrespected, but then only caring about sex.

Sekina7 · 2021-10-26T20:03:17+00:00

When men on this sub moan about "average women" not wanting "average men" YET simultaneously admitting that the average woman is over weight and that alone excludes her from being anything more than a pump and dump
When men on this sub say that they want women to "choose better" and vet for less than superficial qualities so they can get to know the man and vet if his intentions are sincere but then get told if they don't bend over on date one that are gold digging whores
When men on this sub readily admit they worship beauty and seductive women, regardless of their virtues, personality or "kindness" and admit to courting and rewarding these women and YET they expect women they deem less attractive to pay for half the dates THEY were asked out on, put out early and then these "less attractive" women get shoved on a hamster wheel to get commitment from this dude who they showed sexual enthusiasm with and went half on dates with
When the few men on this sub who are not incels and not desperate admit that they need a woman to be "out of their league" to be considered commitment worthy whilst chastising women for not settling for average men they are not attracted to. AND women who have obviously settled for men who can financially take care of them and who are less attractive they get accused of "betabuxxing"
Basically, most men are fucking hypocritical shit bags

Mimoxs · 2021-10-26T20:32:02+00:00

"if you invest in a guy when he's young and give him your youth/children he'll appreciate you in old age and won't abandon you"

Insert the opposite being observable everywhere and even recorded as advice to young women in the past

4_spinning_triangles · 2021-10-26T21:00:49+00:00

I want to include men in some of these, it's worth it. Both men and women will insist they won't put up with shit just to stay with someone considerably better-looking than they are... but they do.

Women saying they care about orgasms during sex, but conveniently their 'best sex ever' was always with the hottest guy they've dated - no mention of physical pleasure.

Women saying they won't choose abusive over 'assertive but kind' partners... but they do.

Men saying 'I don't simp/I'm not controlled by my gf' but in private are desperate and suck up to their girlfriends

Blackpillers (usually men) going on about how 'looks are everything' but (1) no weight loss (2) no hair regimen (3) no surgeries. By that same token, women who feel 'sad about their weight' and 'unattractive because they are fat' making absolutely zero effort to lose it... even when they know their partner is less attracted to her!

shockedpikachu123 · 2021-10-26T21:27:51+00:00

Men complain about women’s body count but then complain about women not putting out on the first date. So which is it??? What do you want??

richardparadox163 · 2021-10-27T00:54:16+00:00

I suppose this goes for both sexes, but for slightly different things but when a person says they’re not ready to date (usually girls to guys) or have a relationship (guys to girls) and then next week you find out that they’re on a date or in a relationship with someone and realize what they meant was they didn’t want to date (or have a relationship with) you.

hopesy123 · 2021-10-27T06:48:16+00:00

“I’m completely fine with you sleeping with others, it’s not a big deal, I’m not ready to settle down yet myself” -woman proceeds to sleep/get together with another guy -first guy gets angry.

Vaudeville_Clown · 2021-10-27T08:42:05+00:00

Chides men for childish interests and non-intellectual endeavors (computer games, superhero movies etc.), all while she sinks endless amounts of time into Paradise Hotel, <something> Housewives, and other forms of reality TV junk.

Edit: Has also read a lot of hero/romance lit aimed at female tweens.

PS: Nothing wrong with liking a bit of easy entertainment, but acting like a snob and pretending that you don't, that's something else.

sootlord · 2021-10-27T11:45:02+00:00

"I need a break"

Yeah proceeds to get her back broken by someone else

King8Kaista · 2021-10-27T15:24:10+00:00

A great deal of men clam they wouldn’t fuck a women that got her body professionally done, but they clearly will.

Taipanshimshon · 2021-10-26T19:22:41+00:00

" I'm fine"

Also nearly every woman I've slept with since my divorce claims to be an ardent feminist/ strong independent woman but wanted to be " supported " And also wanted some of the most degradating things to be done to her in bed.

SaBahRub · 2021-10-26T19:52:58+00:00

“I want love/caring/emotional openness/social interaction/friendship/empathy/sympathy/value”

Uh, no u don’t; U want sex

houstongradengineer · 2021-10-26T19:12:48+00:00

That men will actually respect or care for any woman who asks them out on a date first. I watch y'all, I know how rare that is for it to turn out well for a woman.

mackenzie013_02 · 2021-10-26T21:33:30+00:00

Men claiming they don’t care about how much money/education women make/have, then refusing to date anyone that’s not in their income bracket. 😅

superlurkage · 2021-10-26T22:13:05+00:00

“I am so lonely and unloved, and women just want to use me and dispose of me” says lonely, unloved man

“How about some friends and socializing, especially with other dudes who understand and can relate?” asketh the normies

“Ew, what’s the purpose in that? So homo! People suck and are dumb!”

wub1234 · 2021-10-26T18:42:43+00:00

Before I go on a date, they say that they'll look forward to meeting me, and then...

That was just a 'hilarious' joke BTW.

purplish_possum · 2021-10-26T20:04:06+00:00

Says: "I take care of people I love."

Action: AWOL when a person she professed to love could actually use some care.

chubbybutt22 · 2021-10-27T11:58:32+00:00

They say they want a relationship. Never go outside, won’t online date, never socialize with women.

TrueStorms · 2021-10-27T14:03:42+00:00

a certain type of man insists he loves demure obedient sweet submissive modest prudent women. Instead he treats those women like welcome mats and white knights like crazy for the BPD chicks.

CFinCanada · 2021-10-27T14:14:15+00:00

lol, everything.

Men claim to want virgins without college degrees who will tend the home and look after their numerous kids.

In reality, they are more likely to formally propose marriage to women with 4-year degrees or higher and are more likely to cheat on the women who give them children.

They are 100% incentivizing all of the go-girl careerism they bitch about, and the subsequent lower birthrates.

Altruistic_Wafer4398 · 2021-10-27T23:29:26+00:00

I’ve had to learn the hard way that there are men out there who will say anything they think you want to hear to get you into bed. I was dating a guy was talking about going on trips together, pretending to be super interested in me but then once we had sex completely switched.

Jakes1967 · 2021-10-26T23:34:10+00:00

What cases of "What they say they do VS What they do" do you see in the opposite sex?

Women say they prefer personality above all else...need I say more?

Women say they prefer good guys...need I say more?

decoy88 · 2021-10-26T19:03:29+00:00

I’m not in highschool or uni anymore. Surrounded by adults with busy lives that couldn’t any fucks enough to bother lying about most things.

For the average schmuck, peer pressure has less effect than it does in school.

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2021-10-26T18:41:51+00:00

Literally everything women say on this sub lol

cowfishAreReal · 2021-10-26T18:36:14+00:00

The Red Pill insists on the idea that what women say they want and what women actually want are two completely different things

And they have no proof of that other than "iN mY ExPerIEnCe"

What things does the opposite sex do that goes completely against what they claim they do?

I don't think there's anything that I could say the majority of men do in that context, some people lie, mostly online, but if you talk to people in real life, what they say they like is 99% of the time what they actually like unless they're extremely religious or something

Kentucky_Supreme · 2021-10-28T19:39:05+00:00

The whole thing about saying they want nice guys but actually dating alcoholics with tattoos.

Philip8000 · 2021-10-27T04:06:56+00:00

If I see anyone's dating profile screaming, "I don't want drama!", it's an immediate red flag for me. My experience is, the more someone claims they don't want drama in their life, the more it seems to follow them around.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2021-10-27T04:51:52+00:00

Plenty of times they say, "no hookups" only to 2 days later hookup.

Mark_Freed · 2021-10-27T18:34:25+00:00

Women who say no but mean "try harder" piss me off. Playing hard to get just means there are girls out there with guys who have not taken the no seriously.

Unlikely-Ad4820 · 2021-10-29T21:46:47+00:00

Guys say they dont like the archetypal fake bimbo thot but that's the type of girl they pretty much go for most of the time.

It's funny because I think family guy kinda made a joke about this with Brian at some point.

rilakkumkum · 2021-10-30T03:34:28+00:00

For men, whenever I see a guy in a relationship, and he’s not married/engaged to his girl after like three years. Usually it means he’s not interested in marriage or just not interested in getting married specifically to her, making her a forever girlfriend. Afterwards, it’s usually just them doing it out of convenience. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “my wife isn’t the women I’ve loved the most.” The only time I’ve seen an exception is if they’ve been together since highschool and are still in their early 20’s

QuadraJoel · 2021-10-31T04:41:09+00:00

Women who say "not every women" but become part of the average woman who says no to you; just means that its not really no since "not every women" should be saying no to you anyways.

Really says a lot of women in our society tbh

Title	What cases of "What they say they do VS What they do" do you see in the opposite sex?
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