I need a trad husband

Jinzub · 2024-11-19T13:45:19+00:00

This literally sounds ideal 😂 why would I be upset with this in any way?

Fan_Service_3703 · 2024-11-19T12:21:04+00:00

I do most of this but unfortunately am a taken man.

bison5595 · 2024-11-19T15:08:50+00:00

It's very simply, 95% of women don't want a stay at home husband. They prefer the man to work. I get you're trying to be sarcastic, but the truth is, most women would be turned off if a man desired to be a stay at home husband and dad.

Teflon08191 · 2024-11-19T15:37:59+00:00

This is literally what most conservative men expect from women.

And literally every single one of those things has become a socially taboo thing to ask, let alone expect from the "modern woman".

Assuming that important context is preserved in this gender swap exercise, then sounds good to me!

Some reassurances from everyone around me that being a stay at home dad is the hardest job in the world will be necessary as well I think. Other than that? Bring it on.

abaxeron · 2024-11-19T13:34:22+00:00

If men think it’s not harmful for a woman to be a "traditional wife," why wouldn’t they agree to be a "traditional husband"?

They would; are women offering?

Gravel_Roads · 2024-11-19T12:58:19+00:00

I mean... factually, you're as free to want these things as the men who want trad wives.

Some women even have husbands that take this role. My last girlfriend made significantly more than I did, so I DID do most of the house up-keep and stuff.

The more highly specific one's preferences are, the harder it is to FIND someone that meets their needs, but just 'wanting' something is free.

Barely-moral · 2024-11-19T13:16:27+00:00

I would have agreed to those terms if I found a woman willing to play by those terms. I didn't so I found someone under different terms.

ComfortableJeans · 2024-11-19T12:27:07+00:00

I'm really tired, and can't be bothered to write out another 15 paragraphs on this subject, so I hope you don't mind, I'm copy pasting a previous comment I've made on this subject and my time as a house-partner.

I've never, ever met a bloke who would be hurt or worried about that. I'm almost positive that it's an extreme minority of men that have any negative feeling about it, and they're just very vocal on the internet.

If I call up any boy I know, right now and ask "How would you feel is X was earning 5x what you are?" I can guarantee they'd all be estatic.

I used to date someone who outearned me by a LOT. I even used to play into it. I'd Joke about how I'm basically a stay at home wife for her, but I'm also 6'3 and could lift her above my head without any issue, so she can't say shit about it. I've actually dated a few girls who've out earned me by multiple times over.

I'm too bashful to go into specifics with strangers, but when you're the one doing certain relationship things to her, it's hard to feel insecure in your masculinity. Especially when it comes to something like money.

As much as I'd joke about it, I really thought it was cute.

In my experience, it's virtually never the man who has a problem with it. It's the woman and her side of the family.

I've found that women don't care at first. In fact, they're really into providing and showering you with gifts. But pretty soon, they start to resent it. And families resent you pretty much as soon as they find out.

The only reason I could see for men being upset about it, is knowing that they're now being viewed as bad male partners for earning less than their female partner.

But there's a much more difficult coversation to be had about how mens values as humans, partners and men is hugely determined by how much money they earn.

The only advice I could really give to a woman about this would be to not think less of your partner for earning less money than you. But I'm not sure what exactly brings on that feeling, anyway. Maybe it's not something you'd even be in control of.

In terms of advice for a woman that has a partner who's upset by this. I'd try to find ways to reasure him that you still love him, the money isn't important and you still want him just as much as ever. Make him feel safe.

Edit: I'll add this to the primary comment too, because I feel like it's pretty relivant to the whole thing.

I don't think it's so much that men feel their value as people is tied to their worth, as much as they understand that the world, women and society as a whole values them less because of it.

And it really is a value that's applied to you, regardless of whether you agree with it or not.

I've had partners get into arguments with friends because their friends have told them to leave or cheat on me because I don't have the money that they do. With the idea being, if they lose me, is it really a loss? Because she out earns me

I entered these relationships knowing full well that these women out earned me, I never changed even a bit in this regard. But I did see how others changed because of it. I'd even had it thrown in my face by one partner when she'd had a bad day and just boiled over.

I've carried partners around the house kissing them and telling them how great they were they've gotten good jobs because of degrees they've gotten from college. I've even taken mandatory extra classes online (Without teachers knowing it wasn't her) for one partner so she could have an easier time with her main studies while she was working, SO she could get these higher paying positions.

And after a year of taking bullshit classes that I didn't care about to lighten her load and stresses, in which I got all A's, because I knew it was important to her, I still ended up getting left because she didn't want to support me and had to put herself first. This from a girl who'd sobbed into my chest about how no one had ever made her feel so loved. I was hitting all the marks. I try really really hard in relationships. I love taking care of the person I love in all those soft ways. I fucking beam over it. I don't like to blow my own horn, but I'm a REALLY loving partner. It's wierd to say, but at some point every girl I've been with has cried about it while I've held them... And it's still not enough. Because I don't have the money.

I worked so they could earn even more than me. I'm totally comfortable being the out earned partner, by any multitude. Doesn't phase me in the slightest. But it does make people noticeably think less of you as a man. People DO treat you more poorly for it. It's not some imagined plight that's bringing you down through purly paranoid thoughts.

I throw my whole heart into this shit, and in other peoples eyes, I'm still just trash, ultimately. Because I'm poor.

This a standard by which you're judged, not by which you judge yourself.

There's aren't values men are placing on themselves, these are values being enforced onto men.

My experiences in these relationships always end up with the women who originally wanted them, wanted them for a while, then changed their minds, leaving me in the lurch.

jay_de-leon · 2024-11-19T13:10:48+00:00

Ah yes even more gynocentric shaming propaganda to shame a man for wanting a high quality feminine, kind, submissive , respectful , beautiful woman.

No instead we should want a overweight, disrespectful , masculine , promiscuous woman with a 30+ body count

iyad_gullible · 2024-11-19T14:38:24+00:00

💀💀💀💀

doesanyofthismatter · 2024-11-19T20:36:09+00:00

This kind of sounds like you were trying to make a “point” rather than actually wanting what you are asking. You sort of listed all stereotypes that trad wives do but flipped the script to try to make a point.

W-Pilled · 2024-11-19T12:58:28+00:00

A lot of men would be into this kind of dynamic if it meant you paid all the bills.

Give him money to shop and you'll easily find a man to meet this criteria

Most women, however, don't want this kind of relationship. They don't want to be the main breadwinner

a_minty_fart · 2024-11-19T12:53:48+00:00

Those men exist.

But would you respect them?

platinirisms · 2024-11-19T15:25:01+00:00

Where do I sign up? I’m up for this.

The issue here isn’t that men wouldn’t do this (they would), the problem here is that the vast majority of women tend to not want this type of relationship at all.

This is supposed to be some sort of gotcha like “See, it sounds bad doesn’t it men” but in actuality quite a lot of men would like this. Have all their bills paid and you just need to take care of the kids, clean the house, stay healthy? Great. 😊

Edit: I like how the argument against this is basically “noo you actually don’t like it and/or you’ll be bad at it”. Come on, that’s a bad counter argument.

nnuunn · 2024-11-19T14:02:54+00:00

There are plenty of men out there who would do this for you, I don't know what kind of point you're trying to prove

medicinal_bulgogi · 2024-11-19T12:34:05+00:00

That would be the opposite of a trad (which stands for “traditional”) husband

IlIIlIIIlIl · 2024-11-19T17:02:11+00:00

As a man, I always said that I wanted to be a dad when I grew up and specifically one that stayed home. I saw all of the women around me doing it and I simultaneously heard nonstop about equality. So a stay at home dad has been the greatest dream of my life.

Now guess how many dates has actually been OK with this in over 20 years...

ZERO.

Aggressive_Sweet1417 · 2024-11-19T13:19:09+00:00

he must be at least "average handsome"—a 7/10 minimum

That's not average tho

ChillDeck · 2024-11-19T13:23:48+00:00

You had me in the first half ngl

harmonica2 · 2024-11-19T13:39:08+00:00

Isn't what the OP is describing would be a woke husband?

Hatsuhein · 2024-11-19T20:55:08+00:00

I volunteer I just need to know how much you make, how atractive are you and need to get legally married.

giveuporfindaway · 2024-11-20T03:15:04+00:00

Why is this thread labeled as a debate? What are we suppose to be debating for or against?

Proudvow · 2024-11-19T14:42:50+00:00

What’s important to me is that he must be at least "average handsome"—a 7/10 minimum.

Well therein lies the issue, most physically attractive males aren't going to be that passive.

fredwester · 2024-11-19T12:38:51+00:00

That's not a trad husband; that's a modern husband you're wanting.

LowCreddit · 2024-11-19T21:05:29+00:00

This isn't the own you think it is. You could find a ton of men who would love this. The problem is that women find it disgusting.

Throw_r_a_2021 · 2024-11-19T13:16:43+00:00

I feel like you’re trying to create some sort of “gotcha” moment when in reality the majority of men I know would probably be thrilled at the prospect of having their wife take care of them financially while they manage domestic affairs.

Irish_Brogue · 2024-11-19T13:40:26+00:00

I know this is satirical, but a certain kind of guy is gonna blow up your dms!

But yes, these are unreasonable criteria for either gender.

Equal_Connect · 2024-11-19T13:30:39+00:00

Im willing to do it i already clean my whole household of peter pans and i basically have to baby them.

RaidenTheBlue · 2024-11-19T16:02:33+00:00

I would do this in a literal heartbeat

Makuta_Servaela · 2024-11-19T13:30:50+00:00

I used my body to carry a baby for nine months and give birth, so for the sake of equality, he should take care of the baby soon after birth. It would be his responsibility to spend time with the baby while I relax and focus my mind

It's weird this isn't the default anyway. We know pregnancy and childbirth has devastating physical and mental consequences, and up until recently they were very often fatal. It's weird that society hasn't just accepted the idea of maternity leave being the woman resting to recover her body, her only role being nursing and cuddling baby, while paternity leave is the man doing all of the housework and childcare work until mom is physically and mentally recovered enough to step in, and then the man slowly phasing out of paternity work while the mom slowly phases in (presuming the couple is a trad couple with SAHM and Out-of-the-house-dad).

AntiHypergamist · 2024-11-19T12:35:34+00:00

I'm aiming to one day be a stay at home husband, that means I'll get to stay home and spend more time with my kids. What you wrote is some victim narrative about house wives needing to be perfect when in reality average girls are getting married all the time.

Average women can get good paying jobs these days so having a house husband is not some luxury for top tier women. It's just their choice not to marry one.

Termodynamicslad · 2024-11-19T14:34:57+00:00

There is absolutely 0 problem with what you're describing, except that its not a trad husband, but a reversal of the trad roles.

If you want a guy like this, go for it.

Oh and average handsome is not a 7/10. Average is is average, handsome is handsome. 6/10 is already handsome, and 7/10 is getting close to actor and model levels, this is here is already a rarity. 8-10/10 are reserved for the most handsome of men.

8/10 is handsome actor level

9/10 is model level

10/10 is most handsome ever

HighValueWomanBook · 2024-11-19T16:39:43+00:00

I need a trad husband

Well, you are off to a good start by admitting you need a man, which many feminist hate to admit.

I want a man who will take care of the household. cleaning the house and cooking for me when I get home from work.

Oh, you say you want a beta, submissive male. Well, how much effort have you put into finding that? Do you have a history of hopping around from male to male? Or does your history show you have only seriously considered men who were willing to do those things for you once married? If it is the former, you are being disingenuous.

What’s important to me is that he must be at least "average handsome"—a 7/10 minimum.

lol... 5/10 is literally average. A 7/10 is much higher than average, and borderline model status, as with any gender. 7/10's for women are very rare, and far from average. 7/10 women have had paid professional model gigs, not weirdo photo shoots. So, your language shows you are not in reality, but, instead trying to live out a fantasy.

He should visit a beautician, take care of his skincare, maintain proper hygiene, keep his hair well-groomed, and dress fashionably.

So you are going to buy him a car so he can drive to get spa treatments, shopping sprees, etc.?

He can’t watch porn and must be sexually shy, preferably a man with a low body count so he won’t be inclined to cheat on me.

So, you're cool with virgins?? Hmm... again, not based in reality, and this is turning into a feminists type post.

But when we are together, he must be submissive to all the sexual activities I prefer.

Oh, you'll lead all sexual interactions from start to finish, all the time? Do you have experience doing this?

This post is just make believe, fantastic, feministic bs.

firetrap2 · 2024-11-19T13:34:00+00:00

Sounds great. I'd love to marry a rich women who took care of me and I just had to chill for a few years than I can take her to the cleaners in divorce court.

SocrateandAthena · 2024-11-19T14:24:45+00:00

Lol it doesn't sound better with the genders being reversed.

henrycatalina · 2024-11-19T13:11:02+00:00

My son in law and daughter have what you desire. They married and seem to be their first sexual partners. We'll, it isn't exactly as you describe because each has their independent activities and chores, and each recognizes being in their male/female roles at home. They each gain the respect of others by performance in life. They attend church and have other friends with balanced careers. A few marriages have very successful wives out earning husbands. But mostly both spouses have rewarding careers, and that creates wealth and freedom to have a life they choose.

Trade wives are a myth. They are portrayed more like trophy wives. Women in history usually shared great responsibilities in the home and managed a balance of finances, children, living quarters, and created social connections. The women in my distant relatives long past were most often strong and resilient. That led to marrying men of equal integrity. Often, women ran home finances and were good at it. The worst thing in marriage is to not recognize talents and weaknesses. Playing the you are the man and men do this task or similar for women is a formula for conflict.

Your sarcastic post is filled with characteristics that deacribe a man I have only met once in my life. He worked for me and was a major drama all the time. He became a house husband as you describe.

Ludens0 · 2024-11-19T18:33:04+00:00

This is my dream wife!

Sadly it is fiction, and not a single woman on earth would give tons of money while I take care of the kids and go to the gym.

I love my kids, and I love crossfit and martial arts. And a dominatrix who would use my body. If I still had some spare time, I could cultivate myself and read. Just for the sake of her interest.

Shit. A so perfect life... and only possible in Redditional fiction.

Longjumping-Goat-348 · 2024-11-19T14:08:51+00:00

This may sound great in your head, but i promise that you’d find this man disgusting and unrespectable. Women are repulsed by subservient beta male type. You can’t be attracted to a man you don’t respect.

USPSHoudini · 2024-11-19T13:53:15+00:00

not argue with me

i should have the last word

If there is a problem, it must be addressed. There are rarely ever any shoulds in life and this is not one of them

Otherwise there’s nothing wrong with this post at all. Those are the only two lines in the whole post where you expose insecurity and domination but the rest is reasonable as long as both of you agree and can keep up your end of the relationship

Haunting_Switch3463 · 2024-11-19T14:21:51+00:00

If that's what you want then go for it. Good luck!

Silver_Past2313 · 2024-11-20T01:47:26+00:00

It's possible of course, but would be like a cat trying to act like a dog. Men and women are different.

littlestircrazy · 2024-11-20T03:04:23+00:00

Everyone has different goals for their life and their relationship. It isn't usually as black and white as "trad wide/husband" vs "modern relationship" or whatever.

I purposely searched for someone who wanted to be a stay at home dad and prioritize taking care of me and my family.

But we don't consider it just a reversal of roles. He is still a provider - he provides our family with what it needs based on what his skill set best brings to the table. I'm also a provider doing the same. The concept that provider is limited to money doesn't make sense to either of us.

I honestly am not sure guys looking for "trad wives" are looking for your checklist here, just as I don't think women are doing the same/reverse for men (provider, looks, etc). Sure some items are important for some people, but it's really just whether the whole between what both of you bring to the table melds in a way that makes your way of living together successful.

Life is so much more nuanced than this sub seems to cling to.

GlebchikYa · 2024-11-19T13:06:46+00:00

I swear this sub just can't take a joke sometimes lol

frappuccinoCoin · 2024-11-19T20:25:49+00:00

I know you're trying to make it sound horrible, it sounds amazing, IF it made men attractive to thier wives, but it doesn't.

You're going to spend the same amount of years till retirement. Would I prefer to spend them working, or taking care of my kids, home, looking handsome, and be ready for sex at any time?

On top of that I get paraded around other women like I'm a prize?! I'd hit the gym so hard.

BCmutt · 2024-11-19T21:00:44+00:00

I know how this was intended, but honestly this would be a dream for so many of us. All that time at home to hang with your kids, take care of the house and yourself while your partner pays for everything. Ah one can but only dream though.

BDaily24 · 2024-11-19T21:56:46+00:00

You forgot an important detail OP: he must be several years younger (no older than 30) and not show signs of aging.

If he does, it's only natural for you to start seeking sexual gratification elsewhere.

EDIT: you also forgot that he needs to push a walnut through his dick after carrying the kid for 9 months. If his dick doesn't work well a couple of weeks after, you should start seeking sexual gratification elsewhere.

Upstairs_Web_9068 · 2024-11-19T12:33:18+00:00

Sure why not? Sounds like an amazing deal. I wouldn't have to work , I get to spend time with my kid, I get to stay home and do sports (what I love doing). You can deep clean a 2bed apartment in under 2 hours and once a week is enough, cooking and grocery shopping is another thing I already do anyway so no probs.

Wattisgoingon45 · 2024-11-19T13:04:15+00:00

It isn't that hard if a man has nothing to do to have a good body as compared to women.

I bet there would be more men in fendom than women.

Most clothes of men are not revealing.

Nothing harmful just that majority women don't like this dynamic.

John_Oakman · 2024-11-19T12:59:42+00:00

Assuming that this isn't a longform way of writing a gotcha, this is still the wrong place to ask.

That being said, the traditional methods of nabbing a traditional type of husband material still works: relying on local community and social structures. Send out feelers that you are looking for such a type of male and your relatives/friends who are busybodies will start suggesting you ones that fit your criteria.

fundamentally_comfy · 2024-11-19T15:20:34+00:00

I'd commit genocide to date a woman who wants a husband like this

hereforthesportsball · 2024-11-19T17:26:04+00:00

A lot of men would jump on this if you could afford the lifestyle they want on your income alone, with the one caveat that your sex drive matched up with theirs. Sexually shy people would have a hard time with this if their sexual needs weren’t being met/matched

Big-Onion-1725 · 2024-11-19T20:27:08+00:00

I think a lot of people are misunderstanding this post. OP doesn't actually want a man like this, she wants men to understand how it feels to hear this.

For a lot of desperate guys, being a dominant woman's sex toy sounds like a dream, but if they were actually in that situation I don't know if they would feel the same way.

If you say "most men would love this," I don't think you've met most men. Men don't want a woman who bosses them around, makes them do all the chores, and expects them to look "pretty" all the time (on her terms). It sounds so dreamy and ideal, but housework and raising children are difficult, tedious, and extremely tiring.

And if men would really love to do all the housework and childcare, why are there so many men who don't even want to do half of it? That is, when husband and wife both have jobs but cooking and cleaning still goes to the wife?

John_Oakman · 2024-11-19T12:59:42+00:00

Assuming that this isn't a longform way of writing a gotcha, this is still the wrong place to ask.

That being said, the traditional methods of nabbing a traditional type of husband material still works: relying on local community and social structures. Send out feelers that you are looking for such a type of male and your relatives/friends who are busybodies will start suggesting you ones that fit your criteria.

MaLenHa · 2024-11-19T13:31:23+00:00

Maybe you mean you want a "trad wife" husband.

A trad husband in my POV is someone who fixes your car and things around the house, makes more money, chops the firewood, does the yard work, maybe hunts/fishes, and protects you.

LawfulnessBorn76 · 2024-11-19T13:43:50+00:00

First of all, that’s not a traditional husband. That’s just a man acting like a traditional wife. A traditional husband is masculine, not feminine. Secondly, you’re arguing against conservative men, but conservative men already don’t believe that the genders are equal. They believe each gender has their own roles. So no it would not be reasonable to expect things things from a man because men arent supposed to act like women.

BowelMan · 2024-11-19T15:52:26+00:00

Let's do it.

I'm serious.

AntonioSLodico · 2024-11-19T18:47:04+00:00

If I was single and a 7, I'd apply, lol.

christroiano1993 · 2024-11-20T05:05:03+00:00

That shit is crazzzzzzy you have like 75% of your ideas on point & I tick all the masculine boxes, however that dynamic is only going to attract a simp that you will lose attraction for. You need a man to lead, he will pay for you so you dont have to work. If you prefer to work it means you prefer attention = red flag ;)

christroiano1993 · 2024-11-20T05:10:37+00:00

Wow you sound as insecure as me, maybe we should get married, the only objection I have is for us to get married is I am the leader you are the follower, I pay for you you stay at home and cook etc so basically the opposite of what you want & you have to be 7/10 or above, asian 5 ft 5 or less, curvey, etc, then we can be together ;)

MirageTheWitch · 2024-11-20T15:25:50+00:00

It's very specific but there is a lot of guys like this. Search for a lazy supermodel who grow with women ahah should be the perfect fit.

Odd-Snow6 · 2024-11-24T01:07:08+00:00

Do you think that you should be able to cheat or watch porn in this situation?

Ok_Trust2356 · 2024-12-04T04:03:33+00:00

ya know what hell yea

Xeltar · 2024-11-19T13:42:35+00:00

I think they won't due this due to socialized ideas of what makes a man a man. Plus women still make less than men so a single income household is even less likely to be feasible.

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RelativeYak7 · 2024-11-19T15:00:22+00:00

I follow a guy on TikTok who does all this Joey Foo. He seems happy. https://www.tiktok.com/@joey.foo?_t=8rWigUyj3jX&_r=1

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-11-19T15:11:30+00:00

what "tradition" does this reflect?

WanabeInflatable · 2024-11-19T17:26:46+00:00

What you want is opposite of traditional man. Sounds quite progressive or role reversal. I guess, there are many men who want it, but they will probably not realize what you want, if you advertise it with a title "trad husband needed"

Queasy_Assumption816 · 2024-11-19T19:01:45+00:00

Honestly this sounds great

DeadMils · 2024-11-19T19:17:01+00:00

That’s not a trad husband but my husband would like to apply. Except for the part about not arguing and getting the last word.

Mystery-Sherbet · 2024-11-19T20:46:19+00:00

What?

TheNattyJew · 2024-11-19T21:45:03+00:00

And what's the problem?

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-11-19T22:03:55+00:00

What I expect from him is to stay in shape, be submissive, avoid being aggressive, and not argue with me, I should have the last word since I'm a wife and bringing a money. He would stay at home, take care of the baby, and manage the household while I focus on my career and bring in the money.

Deal, now you have to marry me or fuck off.

MachineMan718 · 2024-11-19T22:18:33+00:00

That’s not a trad husband, that’s a house husband.

But damn if the role reversal got me feeling some type of way.

nxte · 2024-11-19T22:51:47+00:00

You mean I get to stay at home, and bond with my own child, while you face the stinky assholes of the world? Where do I sign up? I’m very fit handsome and intelligent. I currently have a high paying job and massive amount of savings. I think I really could be a trad husband for the right lady.

Full-Rub-9348 · 2024-11-19T23:24:10+00:00

Your terms are acceptable

longrange_tiddymilk · 2024-11-20T00:19:32+00:00

Okay? I wouldn't be upset with that

JackofBlades0125 · 2024-11-20T00:32:20+00:00

Can i apply for this position?

Handsome_Goose · 2024-11-20T00:35:58+00:00

You can find a plenty of men like that

Melodic_Structure928 · 2024-11-20T01:08:24+00:00

>But is it possible for men to behave like this if the roles were reversed?
If men think it’s not harmful for a woman to be a "traditional wife," why wouldn’t they agree to be a "traditional husband"?

Ima put this one bluntly it’s simply because men that take on those roles are more often then viewed as losers, and not real men. Both, conservatives and progressives alike dont respect that kind of men, just because gender roles have opened up more for women, does not mean the same for men.

To simply flip your question how many women won’t be outright disgusted that the men in question either has no job, or works very little and more then likely makes significantly less then her (I’m just gonna assume these are the premises for stay at home husband) the answer to your question is very very few.

EfficientClue1494 · 2024-11-20T02:36:12+00:00

OkSun6251 · 2024-11-20T03:06:59+00:00

Wow. I’d hate some of this this as a woman lol. Though after I pop a baby out he better be on his hands and knees cleaning and caring for me and providing 😤. But I see what you are doing here. Also agree he should avoid porn and stay in shape/look good- things I expect from my own partner. I’m just so fed up with working that I’d love for him to be the career oriented one and make enough money for me to quit working

JadeGrapes · 2024-11-20T03:53:37+00:00

I think you are joking here, but there are plenty of guys that would love a SAHD role.

I can hear them now, tanning and taking cooking classes. Picking out a jogging stroller, dreaming of their wedding day; "Bring on the death by snu snu!"

Adventurous_Limit84 · 2024-11-20T04:21:45+00:00

All of these trad wife’s !!! Where are the trad husbands !

Cablepussy · 2024-11-20T05:35:18+00:00

I'm down.

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2024-11-20T06:24:05+00:00

I dont see a problem with it. Its mostly that it often fails cause women mostly do get resentful when children comes and they lose more time with the children to work

While mostly women prefer to work less and be more with the children.

And being required to work instead of being home with the child or doing house duties is just often what most women enjoy more then stressful work life.

What I'd also hard to tell if you ok with it yet by that time if you don't have children yet.

But I do think plenty of people dont fit in the normal mold of gender roles. And that's very fine.

And power to you and only good of you find some one that compliments what you looking for.

But for most the people that work the most and pay the most to the household what most the time is also the person that works longer hours. It's mostly just normal or expected that the others does more house work. Even before children when mostly both do be working.

Cause when you meet a partner most the time you both already have a job to cover your needs. And costs.

Just be open and honest what you want and expect in a relationship earlier on I do think you will definitely find what you're looking for. Even if a smaller amount of men would have that expectation.

But it's completely fine to want something outside of the expected mold. And I think many people have that with different things be it big or small.

But everyone wants to find their level of happiness.

StrugglingRando · 2024-11-20T07:44:41+00:00

Are men supposed to protest this?

TheHandymanCan- · 2024-11-20T12:04:12+00:00

Yeah okay fair enough.

In exchange you must take care of the finances and provide a lifestyle befitting a man like him. He wants to feel taken care of and appreciated for his efforts. If you lose your job, even if it’s not your fault you should feel like a failure as a woman and contemplate suicide.

Maintain the yards and be capable of working a grill.

Service his vehicle regularly and be able to fix any issues if you break down on the side of the road. If you can’t fix it you should be embarrassed enough to start acting a little irrationally.

If an intruder breaks into the house you must protect him even in the face of certain death. Same with if someone disrespects him while you’re out.

Take out the trash or anything toilet related because he doesn’t wanna touch that nasty stuff.

trahloc · 2024-11-20T12:54:42+00:00

Except for the "7/10" part you just described some of my friends. Some of the most wonderful people I've ever known. These are dudes who worked their ass off to gain resources who would have happily been a kept husband instead. Women ignored them and treated them poorly when they noticed them.

Alternative-Dream-61 · 2024-11-20T16:05:45+00:00

I think a lot of men would agree to that.

SleepingInAt11 · 2024-11-20T17:23:53+00:00

I get to stay home, watch anime, and work out? Sign me up, buddy!

dalemonfiend · 2024-11-20T17:34:29+00:00

This is an exaggeration to the point of being laughable. I'm a (very) conservative guy by modern standards, and I'd give any guy that talked like that crap.

Relationships are give and take. No one should expect to have a servant.

at least "average handsome"—a 7/10 minimum.

Most people are average, I know plenty of guys that would date anyone who takes care of themselves. Realistically anyone who takes care of themselves is in the top quartile in my country, just be fit enough to enjoy an active life style and I know plenty of guys who would line up for the privilege of having a relationship.

He must exercise at home to stay fit and appealing.

Yes, everyone should. Not necessarily at home, but everyone should try to be moderately fit.

In public, he must dress modestly

Different people have different definitions of modest, but this is something that makes men and women uncomfortable when their SO is out gallivanting around and conducting themselves in a way that advertises sexuality to others. Every culture is different, but there is a line that most people can recognize in any given culture.

What I expect from him is to stay in shape, be submissive, avoid being aggressive, and not argue with me

Yes, this goes both ways.

I should have the last word since I'm a wife and bringing a money. He would stay at home, take care of the baby, and manage the household while I focus on my career and bring in the money.

This isn't really a healthy way of looking at it. Somebody will have to have the last word. For most relationships who gets the last word will vary on topic, and it's a give and take.

If we decide to have kids, after I give birth, he would stay at home with the baby while I go back to work.

I used my body to carry a baby for nine months and give birth, so for the sake of equality, he should take care of the baby soon after birth. It would be his responsibility to spend time with the baby while I relax and focus my mind at work instead of listening to the baby crying.

Having kids is a huge privilege. Both parents should want to be involved and committed to the well being of the children. Anyone who wants to abandon their child is a horrible parent.

I know there are people who think about this way, but it is very much in the minority in my personal experience. I'm tired of people throwing around accusations and dividing people further. At the end of the day, the vast majority of people are just trying to do what they think is right.

Arievan · 2024-11-20T18:17:04+00:00

Men say they would be ok with this, but the reality is within 6 months they will sitting in a dirty ass nasty house, throwing prepackaged snacks at the kids, and have put on 30 pounds. Also likely about to start an affair bc they are so bored and dont get any adult interaction. They say they would want to do it, but it's not about wants, it's about ability and I don't think 99% of men can hack it.

Intelligent-Insight · 2024-11-20T19:34:26+00:00

This is the opposite of a trad husband. You know what "trad" means, right?

DasBrott · 2024-11-21T00:52:54+00:00

Men don't care. It's women who care.

zuesthejunior · 2024-11-21T08:48:19+00:00

99% women , especially young hot women dont want this, only ugly masculine women would want a house husband

danr2000 · 2024-11-21T10:23:03+00:00

This post is hilarious because by trying to shame "trad men" with this sarcastic post, you've shot yourself in the foot. Almost no woman wants a stay at home husband, they "don't want to be the man in the relationship". Additionally, most men wouldn't want to be emasculated like this either, it's biologically ingrained. That's why the "trad" dynamic has existed throughout all of human history, its what men and women naturally desire.

pence_secundus · 2024-11-21T12:33:12+00:00

Lmao sounds great, I get to wake up early, gym, clean, maintain the house and spend quality time with my kids, that's a privilege few are afforded nowadays.

cbig86 · 2024-11-21T12:45:14+00:00

Sounds like a fantastic deal! If I could I'd sign right away

bottomLobster · 2024-11-21T14:09:23+00:00

I did not see the trad men planning to give a birth to a baby though, are you sure you got your biology basics right?

Busy_Recognition_860 · 2024-11-22T19:47:52+00:00

A lot of this I could genuinely get behind. But I can’t say I’m too submissive in bed. As long as we’re both in our comfort zone, sexually, I’d be pleased.

YouAreMegaRegarded · 2024-11-24T21:29:03+00:00

Lmfao why don’t you just fucking do it then? You think it would be hard to get dudes to sign up for this? Many men are on welfare right now ready to be your doll.

You don’t want this because, deep in your heart, you would never find this to be an attractive arrangement. Deep down, you want to be the pampered one.

CaracallaTheSeveran · 2024-11-25T03:29:16+00:00

This is literally what most conservative men expect from women.
But is it possible for men to behave like this if the roles were reversed?
If men think it’s not harmful for a woman to be a "traditional wife," why wouldn’t they agree to be a "traditional husband"?

I don't get your point. If a woman doesn't want to be a trad wife, she doesn't have to, but she won't get a husband who wants a trad wife. If a husband doesn't want to be a trad husband, he doesn't have to, but he won't get a wife who wants a trad husband. You have a choice to live whatever kind of life you want, so I don't see why you care how other people choose to live their lives.

EveningSuggestion283 · 2024-11-26T02:18:12+00:00

Is this rage bait?

ATasteofTx214 · 2024-11-19T14:14:02+00:00

Personal trainers and retired athletes make great, sexy, trad "wives." They're structured, socially saavy, health consious, take direction well, and earn flexible income.

OtPayOkerSmay · 2024-11-19T14:22:16+00:00

That's what is referred to as a numale or a house husband. Couldn't be further from tradition.

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-11-19T17:30:51+00:00

You need a tradwife with a dick. Transtrad.

to stay in shape, be submissive, avoid being aggressive

I just want to say, for a guy to stay in shape he'd have a ton of testosterone and would be hyperaggressive. It's a self-contradicting requirement. Works for women, doesn't work for men.

The rest is doable though. You could very likely find a guy like that.

saywhatitis11 · 2024-11-19T19:31:36+00:00

There are tons of effeminate, obedient, poor bitch men in society. You’ll have no trouble finding this man.

SlowmoTron · 2024-11-19T16:41:34+00:00

"This is literally what most conservative men want" is just a straight up incorrect bold faced lie lol. Look outside of your Reddit and TikTok bubble, how many actual real people do you know that are in a trad wife style relationship. Have you ever met them? 99% of the marriages in America are 2 income households meaning both the man and women work and take care of the family. You've been fed a lot of bullshit lady.

Flash_4_Crab · 2024-11-20T06:44:04+00:00

You missed a ton of your Duties. You need to protect him. You need to put his life above yours. You need to treat him in accordance with your religious code. You need to mow the law and do all the "masculine housework." You need to listen to all of his complaints in private and live a life where him and the childrens needs are above yours, but you have the "final" say.

Also WTF is the bit about being sexual shy. It's Lady in the street, freak in the sheets.

BTW i've known plenty of men that would take you up on this offer.

Low-Cockroach7733 · 2024-11-19T13:32:28+00:00

Sounds like gentle femdom

decentdecants · 2024-11-19T20:13:04+00:00

On a scale from 1 to 10, how physically attractive would you say you are?

DopeAFjknotreally · 2024-11-20T00:38:30+00:00

As a guy who loves working out and training BJJ, if I had an attractive wife that was making good money, fuck it, I’d clean the shit out of a house and stay in shape for her 😂

Alternative-Can-1404 · 2024-11-20T00:50:57+00:00

You might be a lesbian

mashedturnip · 2024-11-19T14:25:17+00:00

Men aren’t willing to do this, which is why trad husband doesn’t mean that but the opposite

I don’t see the point of mis-defining trad husband; we all know being a trad wife is a bad deal

Status-Guidance-5755 · 2024-11-19T12:31:35+00:00

Well that ain't possible, unless you go for an unhealthy man. All healthy men are ambitious and masculine. So your best bet is looking at what causes you to not be feminine yourself

Title	I need a trad husband
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Date	November 19, 2024 12:14 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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