This post is really as simple as the title says. I wanted to see what others' experience has been. I live in a high population area in Texas and recently met a lot of people from the poly community. I always end up asking how each couple came to start doing the dynamic and in every single case, except one very specific one, the woman engaged the conversation and wanted to do it. My one outlier was a man who was polyamorous previously to his relationship and has never been in a monogomous relationship.

This seems interesting compared to what I've read on Reddit, as it seems men are unable to be monogamous and always seek out poly as a manner of "ethically" cheating. So what's y'alls experiences been who's had them?