Daily Community Chat Megathread

milquetoastmf · 2024-01-25T15:03:00+00:00

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hellokittysarchenemy · 2024-01-26T06:21:01+00:00

My best friend who I assumed was asexual and aromantic due to repulsion to both romance and sex, somehow managed to date probably one of the most romantic, patient, and considerate men I've ever met. I can't help but feel envious jealous of both of them.

I'm envious of her because she only had to meet a couple of guys to find her person. He treats her like a princess, like how every woman wants to be treated by a man. She deserves it! She deserves to be in an amazing relationship.

I'm jealous of him because I feel like he's my competition. Everything we used to do together, she now does with him. And of course, she's more willing to do those things with him because he does most of the driving, paying, and planning. That and him being her boyfriend and all lol.

We were supposed to move in together, but she's just told me that they are planning on getting an apartment together later this year. Last year she mentioned multiple times that she wanted us to go to Hawaii, but I'm scared she'll want to do it with him instead.

I understand this is the nature of romantic/serious relationships, that they tend to take priority over other relationships. While I have other friends, hobbies, and a life outside of her, it just hurts because we were each other's #1, and now I've been demoted and she's still my #1.

This is the first time I'm experiencing something like this and I'm having a hard time coping. Being in your 20s is rough 🥲

GreatSmashPlayer · 2024-01-26T06:18:24+00:00

https://twitter.com/stavvybaby/status/1750197060756713584

Lmfao Stav never misses

Significant-Pay-3987 · 2024-01-26T06:03:08+00:00

I don’t mind people complaining about the world, but those rose colored glasses that everyone has on and saying we had it better decades ago is wack. No the average person was not better off in the 1980s.

Iakobos_Mathematikos · 2024-01-26T05:09:11+00:00

How do people cry? I’m depressed all the time, but nothing ever comes out.

Economy-Shake-1448 · 2024-01-26T05:06:04+00:00

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I edited out his chin just in case

Here is a guy in his 50’s who is a single dad 🤣

danielwastaken · 2024-01-26T05:03:18+00:00

Getting insulted by a child is the worst- if you do nothing you're a bitch for getting roasted by a child and if you fight him you get labeled as "violent" and "crazy"

keebydee · 2024-01-26T04:59:55+00:00

Ever wondered what your family and friends' TRUE opinion is when it comes to your inexperienced of romantic experiences and relationships?

CringeButCorrect · 2024-01-26T04:58:31+00:00

Dudes be hating on black women. There are tons of pleasant, loyal BW who are a joy to be around, they just don't attract attention.

monster_lily · 2024-01-26T04:33:33+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2SQiPmtENU/?igsh=MXRyM2U4bG1wMG0yYw==

Do demonic things for him 😍😍😍😍

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-26T04:31:07+00:00

Guys, you don’t need money or game to get women. You just need big, shapely, robust shoulders and the world is your oyster.

shanshkrishur · 2024-01-26T03:23:30+00:00

Question for men:

Would you consider the US dating pool to be toxic poisoned waters - in keeping with the analogy - to find suitable fish?

New83659 · 2024-01-26T03:23:26+00:00

I grew up with bad parents in an unstable home and it's a huge part of why I have anxiety and low self esteem now. I always saw my sister as almost being entirely unaffected by it because she has a good social, career, and dating life now as an adult.

I talked to her about this and she told me she has trouble being assertive too. She has 3 roommates and they split the utility bill, but the last 3 months she's been paying the whole thing and they haven't been paying her back. She also told me she stopped talking about her dating life at work because she didn't want to make her divorced old woman coworker feel bad... So she's really worried about offending people.

I still feel bad she has trouble asserting herself and thinks she needs to be so unoffensive. I hope she stops letting her roommates walk all over her, but even I would never let something like that happen. It makes me a little bitter that women can be as spineless and have as low self esteem as they want and still find love.

hannahg000 · 2024-01-26T03:17:32+00:00

nothing terrible or traumatic has ever happened to me. but the concept of trust and opening up to anyone other than my family members seems so foreign to me. i’m terrified of being hurt and i think this keeps me from seeking out close relationships

meteorness123 · 2024-01-26T03:17:08+00:00

Your league is not who you can hook up with. Your league who wants to marry you.

GreatSmashPlayer · 2024-01-26T03:16:20+00:00

https://np.reddit.com/r/GenZ/comments/19do406/the_fuck_is_wrong_with_gen_z/

Nah Gen Z is cooked

taman999 · 2024-01-26T02:53:43+00:00

Went to a singles event at a barcade thinking it would make for easy icebreaker conversations since everyone would be doing a shared activity ( they had three arcades that even took 4 players). I was wrong, I never saw any women there for the event touch the arcades, most formed largest groups and just talked amongst themselves. Granted, I don't have much experience navigating the bar scene, so that's on me.

keebydee · 2024-01-26T02:51:28+00:00

I've been reading books and doing research on my disability and it's been depressing reading on how parents are actually supposed to help their child with it and what are the correct treatments. I've been reading it all day because all of it has been such an eye-opener.

RicePresident_ · 2024-01-26T02:25:24+00:00

If kissing is first base

Grabbing/getting naked is second

Oral is 3rd

And fucking is home

Then cumming in your pants prematurely is a walk

keebydee · 2024-01-26T02:24:00+00:00

Soon to be 22 in a few months. Still no interest from anyone. I should start the process of learning how to be fine alone romantically because I'm I'm gonna need it.

monster_lily · 2024-01-26T02:13:02+00:00

Yall when you do the cotton eye joe do you jump or you swing your other leg around cuz i just found out ppl do it differently

monster_lily · 2024-01-26T02:05:24+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPR31nA4m/

Many people dont understand this like in a relationship i feel like the man has to be absolutely obsessed with you (in a positive way) in order for it to work. also the man has to like you more than you like them. But seriously like its sooooo hard to find guys like this she’s lucky affffff

happy_discus · 2024-01-26T01:51:30+00:00

Now dating my friend. Also guy came up to me and called me cute, wanted to make out too.

CasseroleTruck · 2024-01-26T01:43:38+00:00

Women who hate men and say they can't find a man, men aren't shit b/c they all want Stacy and insist they are cute, feminine, loyal, funny. There is literally ZERO chance you are actually all of those things and don't have men waiting to simp and wife you up.

Unless:

You have a major irredeemable red flag like coming across as straight up batshit insane. Mental illness that makes you extremely dysfunctional in daily life that it's creeping people out or putting them off big time. Honestly, even this isn't enough to deter many men due to how desperate and lenient men are.
You're shooting well out of your league and refuse to consider men even close to your level.

Significant-Pay-3987 · 2024-01-26T01:36:21+00:00

One time I got the balls to ask a girl i thought was cute out to brunch. She said ya, we went and I happen to know one of the waitresses and they asked “oh are you guys dating?”. Girl I had brought out cut me off and said “no we’re just friends”. I paid $120 to not only be rejected, but to be embarrassed in front of another person.

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-26T01:34:10+00:00

I just want to scream and cry. Getting into cooking has absolutely ruined my diet, I just can't lose weight anymore. I want to cut my hands off so I can't make another dish for the rest of my life.

hungrychick404 · 2024-01-26T01:25:53+00:00

The guy who hit on me at work waited until after hours to ask again outside my building. I feel bad and I don’t think he meant to be creepy but like ahhhhh that is just so awkward. I hate rejecting people. It makes me feel bad

dbz__f · 2024-01-26T01:19:05+00:00

Has anyone read the Vince McMahon texts? I don't get why straight white men fetishise black men so much. Like, he keeps writing "BIG BLACK DICKS" in caps. Why would a straight man be obsessed with the ethnic background of the dicks? Like I can get having a sexual preference for black women, white women, Asian women, blondes, redheads, so on. But to have a sexual racial preference for the race of the man and specifically his penis is kind of gay isn't it?

hannahg000 · 2024-01-26T01:12:33+00:00

my mom just told me to go socialize lmao

GreatSmashPlayer · 2024-01-26T01:09:32+00:00

The scientific reason why I want to marry the hottest woman possible (like 8/10 or more in terms of looks and personality) is to minimize the Coolidge effect. You see, my social skills and romantic/sexual prowess have been continuously improving for many years now (starting off at the bottom with Asperger's has forced me to improve in many ways that non-autistic people aren't motivated to do). After I pull my first 5/10 I'm like "hey, if I can do this then maybe I can pull a 6/10". Then I pull a 6. Then a 6.5, then a 7, 7.5, etc... And each time I'll lose interest in the previous girl because I won't see her as being on my "level" anymore. (Don't blame me, blame the Coolidge effect.) So I don't want to settle for a 6.5/10 and then end up being tempted to cheat when a 7/10 comes along and expresses clear interest in me. By marrying the hottest possible woman I can find (with the lowest N-count, best personality, most feminine nature, and healthiest BMI (ideally 19-21, but 22-25 is permissible if she has big tits and a fat ass)) I won't feel as motivated to look at other women, I won't be tempted to cheat, and everyone in society will be all the happier for it. You can all thank me later.

RicePresident_ · 2024-01-26T00:59:18+00:00

Lotto is up to 200m next week. Highest ever in history

If I win I'm funding 5 plastic surgeries for ppd users

Leg breaking, new nose, titties, whatever you want

FunEducation1434 · 2024-01-26T00:49:55+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C17kdyAuANL/?igsh=NGltczB2dmUyZmI2

Gladboys · 2024-01-26T00:48:55+00:00

man im so glad weed is legal now i love being able to smoke myself retarded with convenience.

Real_Line_8074 · 2024-01-26T00:38:23+00:00

Sitting at the gym listening to a guy talk about how he fucked 6 waitresses on account of good his dick is. Dude sounds like typical frat bro red pill dude it's hilarious

Real_Line_8074 · 2024-01-26T00:36:27+00:00

The pretty girl I work with who I never spoke to started seeing someone smh it's so over Chad wins again fml !!!

RicePresident_ · 2024-01-26T00:36:01+00:00

Happy Australia day! Woooooo Fuck England!

saulbasedman · 2024-01-26T00:21:20+00:00

Hmu if you are attracted to assymetrical jawlines

poopy_head4 · 2024-01-26T00:15:47+00:00

this sub is autism central

monster_lily · 2024-01-26T00:14:09+00:00

I am utterly humiliated

Significant-Pay-3987 · 2024-01-26T00:11:13+00:00

I used to just say no to sales people, now I just say I only have $50 in my bank account. For example, dude at the car inspection person said I should get new tires. I wish dude but I only got 50.

shanshkrishur · 2024-01-26T00:08:38+00:00

Thought experiment regarding height surgery and hypergamy:

Let’s assume for the sake of this hypothetical that all of the following come to happen:

Height surgery becomes relatively cheap & painless.
A plurality (33-40%) or even majority of men get height surgery or will eventually get it, and thus the average height artificially becomes 6’2 (but natural average is still 5’9).
Most women and naturally tall men DON’T get height surgery, let’s assume the average height of women stays the same and men 6’+ don’t get the surgery either. (This is to prevent the default answer “they will want EVEN TALLER men”)

How does this affect the dating marketplace? Does height cease to be a factor or it’s just a weak factor? Will women stick to their innate hypergamous guns and basically rule out most male partners who have had the surgery, even if it’s most men?

Would it all hinge on whether the surgery is socially accepted or not? I mean, I would assume if most men had the surgery, then it would by default be socially accepted because most men are partaking in it.

How would you as a woman you feel about the dating marketplace and your prospective suitors if you knew most of them had the surgery and were not really meant to be that tall?

Note: I specifically mentioned that women and naturally tall guys don’t get the surgery so as to rule out the default answer of “women will just want taller”. Because this answer would be unreasonable if most women are 5’5 and preference shifts to 6’9+, also most naturally tall men won’t be shifting the population towards that giant height because they wouldn’t be getting the surgery in this hypothetical.

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-26T00:05:23+00:00

Man people are going crazy in my area recently. One attempted suicide-by-cop yesterday, and a drive-by shooting this morning.

EulenWatcher · 2024-01-25T23:57:25+00:00

The OP: mods, this isn't a rant!

Proceeds to post a rant.

janedoebreakin · 2024-01-25T23:54:51+00:00

Being ignored physically hurts my heart. It’s the worst feeling I’ve ever experienced, and it happened to me for too long. It’s such a heart-sinking feeling. Imagine asking someone how their day was and they don’t even look at you, they just go talk to someone else. People have told me I’m a fool for marrying my first boyfriend, but I want to be with the one man who listens to me and cares about what I have to say.

CryptoThroway8205 · 2024-01-25T23:50:13+00:00

Been addicted to nonograms since yesterday

scwizard · 2024-01-25T23:37:00+00:00

Where has the resurgence of pushing SAHMs come from?

I'm sure if the government was willing to pay single moms a regular salary to not work and instead stay home and raise their kids, tons of people would jump at that chance.

All of the downside from being a stay at home mom comes from the husband.

No-Rough-7390 · 2024-01-25T23:20:33+00:00

Question:

Do you believe there is a cost to abortion? As in, spiritual, moral, emotional, etc?

If so, do you think there is anything wrong with not wanting to be a part of dealing with this? Whether it’s happening to you, personally, or encountering someone who has done so?

I just ask because I am personally ambivalent regarding the topic, but I would never be with someone who would abort my child or has done it in the past which still ruffles a lot of people’s feathers for some reason.

New83659 · 2024-01-25T23:16:56+00:00

I saw a good point online about the term "fake it till you make it."

When someone says they are "faking" something they and others might feel it's manipulative and fake.

But what's actually going on is you are making your actions consistent with your conscious thoughts, and if you do that enough times eventually it will become internalized subconsciously and it won't take as much willpower.

So you know rationally rejection usually isn't a big deal. But you are subconsciously still terrified of rejection. What you are doing when you go ask the chick out anyway is making your actions consistent with your rational conscious belief that rejection isn't a big deal. Eventually this belief becomes consistent with your conscious beliefs, actions, AND your subconscious beliefs. Or you "make it"

So it's not fake, it's actually being more authentic because you are acting based on your TRUE beliefs, not subconscious fears that you know aren't based in reality.

RIPGeorgeHarrison · 2024-01-25T22:56:39+00:00

A lot of people here say the most absurd things about what autism is like and how it works. I think these people don’t like that it’s a good excuse and not a personal failure to have no dating success, so they desperately try to come up with rationalizations for why it is in fact a personal failure..

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2024-01-25T22:43:43+00:00

why do some guys hate Taylor Swift like she's the bastion of feminism... shouldn't they be hating doja cat or someone else idek

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-25T22:38:03+00:00

My fervent wish right now is to wear a dark brown top with a yellow gold necklace. Chocolate and gold sounds like such a gorgeous combination for winter…

hungrychick404 · 2024-01-25T22:37:14+00:00

Oh noooo, a potential client at the place I work at recognized me from dating apps and asked for my number. I ended up telling him I don’t give out my number at work and it was the most awkward exchange ever

monster_lily · 2024-01-25T22:32:16+00:00

How to know if u got a weak or strong core

Living_Cookie9375 · 2024-01-25T22:21:48+00:00

I wish I was eating hot cheeto puffs right now

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T22:13:38+00:00

9/11 must have been crazy to watch in real time

Sillkentofu · 2024-01-25T22:12:44+00:00

What do you guys think are some essentials in your hvw glow up journey?

I already eat right and workout. I’m working on losing more weight but I’m consistent in the gym!

I’m working on refining my style and dressing for my body for sure.

I definitely am slacking on the careermaxxing but I’m working on that this year.

What else do you guys think a woman should do for self improvement, taking opinions from guys and girls

dishonouronmycow · 2024-01-25T22:07:45+00:00

Becky ❤️ Stacy and they’re in a committed relationship

Sillysheila · 2024-01-25T22:07:43+00:00

I’m going hiking and staying in a cottage in the middle of nowhere this long weekend 😃

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-25T22:04:37+00:00

It finally happened. Someone I went to high school with is pregnant. I had a feeling I’d be questioning what I’m doing with my life today and I was correct— this is not a drill 🚨

monster_lily · 2024-01-25T22:02:32+00:00

Cant resist I see a Stanley cup in my future

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T22:00:46+00:00

if you love me let me gooooo 🖤

Professional_Bad_282 · 2024-01-25T12:19:00+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/s/5nfsmqjBem

Reddit women :- I don't swipe right on guys whose profile is filled with one word as it signifies he will not put effort in relationship also

This guy :- I am 6'6"

MyHouseOnMars- · 2024-01-25T19:33:57+00:00

If you don't like "take a shower" "have mixed group of friends" "go to therapy" "make yourself look prettier" "go to parties/conventions/travelling to meet people"

what would be a good answer that might satisfy you?

Also what makes you think there's a secret code that sex havers have that don't want to share?

Many_Dig_2782 · 2024-01-25T13:39:02+00:00

America is so unserious. People are actually debating if the world is anti feminist because Margo didn’t get nominated. The movie itself got 7 or 8 nominations

Thought it was just a joke but no there’s a good amount of people actually seething. It’s so pathetic. Margo wasn’t even good in it, just looked sexy as fuck

BackToTheMoon_ · 2024-01-25T14:50:04+00:00

Morbidly obese women. 841 matches, 11 dates, 9 hookups in 108 days

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-01-25T16:11:31+00:00

I'm excited!!! My boyfriend texted me and said we're going to Puerto Rico next month for our last vacation before baby number 4 arrives!!! 😁

shmupsy · 2024-01-25T14:49:26+00:00

I feel like this is a whole other thread. But for most men, "I love your shirt" is just not honest.

Why is this some kind of problem?

Do I have to explain to women on here that 90% of men out there don't have brains that will formulate a complement for your shirt unless you have spiderman on it?

We are wired to appreciate and be attracted to the beauty of women. We should not be expected to channel that into basically being gay dudes who care about fashion trends or wardrobe choices (unless its the kind that shows off that aforementioned beauty)

OK I get abstractly that it could seem annoying, hence you thinking 'jesus christ' in response.

But damn, this is a perfect example of erasing male sexuality.

If Brad Pitt calls you pretty, are you gonna balk at that too? Also if brad said he loved your shirt, you might think he was secretly gay.
As a women gets older, she would be thrilled to have a man call her beautiful. So what does this say about the young woman's attitude?
If we had a healthy view of men's sexuality, a woman who wasn't interested in the man giving the complement could simply be comfortable that the male was doing his thing for her. The man is just doing what comes natural. We shouldn't shame either sex for doing what comes natural.

I can see an argument like "Well when we are nice to all men when they call us beautiful, it opens the door to them harassing us and even to rape sometimes."

I don't think the solution for that is a culture of erasing male sexuality altogether. On top of that, if you somehow trained men to be this new way where they complement your hat or whatever, I'm betting that would be unsexy after a while and you'd be craving the guys that displayed raw lust.

happy_discus · 2024-01-25T14:55:52+00:00

Secured a date on the 14th and currently discussing dating a friend of mine. And two other girls seemed to be interested in me as well.

Even though I don't understand why I am suddenly in hot demand. Nothing changed about me. All I did was talk to other students and decide killing myself is a bad idea. I am just as autistic and ugly as before.

Finally Everything's Coming Up Milhouse!

saulbasedman · 2024-01-25T14:59:07+00:00

Just went for a jog and some girl eyefucked me. We are back!

hungrychick404 · 2024-01-25T20:08:49+00:00

A lot of guys here who claim to wish they were women actually probably just wish they were attracted to men

Different_Cress7369 · 2024-01-25T12:23:13+00:00

I have the sads. My doggo has her goodbye visit to the vet tomorrow.

MboloYaBaKali · 2024-01-25T15:33:55+00:00

CMV: Sex is not a need and men should stop pretending like it is...

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-25T16:28:05+00:00

I need to stop all the incel being bitter and adversarial and angry at women shit. I'm faking it when I do it. I don't really dislike women, I'm just insecure and need women's validation. I know all the shit I see on TikTok is just rage bait. I know that all the manosphere shit isn't indicative of all men just like the all the stuff I see about women and from women isn't an accurate portrayal of women. I'm aware and willfully letting myself believe stuff I don't actually believe. Women have always liked me. There was a time that I got along better with women than men. All of my issues with women are of my own construction. It is a result of my entitlement and selfishness and low self esteem. I think generalizing women and portraying them as the problem just feels safe. It isn't any different than any other group that blames another group for all of their problems. If I was a mature person I would choose kindness and goodness over allowing myself to be bitter. To quote The Smiths, "It's so easy to laugh it's so easy to hate, it takes strength to be gentle and kind." I think in a way also it keeps me from wanting to seek out approval form women too. Like if I can make myself dislike women, I won't cheat or talk to other girls. Being a man is so difficult. It's so hard to be pure. There is this duality of goodness and badness that corrupts us. But, I should actively reject all that and live authentically and practice kindness to those I meet.

teball3 · 2024-01-25T16:44:44+00:00

Just saw elsewhere on reddit somebody say "Women hit on men ALL the time, but they are more subtle about it." Look, if the person you were hitting on didn't know they just got hit on, you did not hit on them. Either nothing happened, or they hit on you.

Women hit on guys like Barry Bonds going to hit without a bat. they do nothing but walk up to the plate and hoping something happens, and end up with the best on base percentage in the league.

dishonouronmycow · 2024-01-25T19:52:14+00:00

everyone getting reddit cares without me

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-01-25T12:14:49+00:00

Have they started the thinkpieces on how Barbie not getting best director and best actress nominations is off of the muh patriarchy? I kinda smell a slate article

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-25T12:44:44+00:00

Now that I have all the city council meetings, school board meetings and planning commission meetings I can write so many more articles. I don't want to give up my monopoly

saraimarsena · 2024-01-25T13:32:24+00:00

saw this ideaon instagram and i think i’m gonna make it for my bf for valentine’s day. 50/50 on getting flowers, he might think it’s weird. he’s more of a succulents guy so might do that instead.

honestly i don’t really like cards, i tend to see them as pointless but he likes them. and fingers crossed he’ll think it’s cute, i do!

he used to like the love notes id put on the mirror and i haven’t done that in awhile so i think it’ll make him smile.

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-25T14:31:12+00:00

I miss being a breakfast server. Tips and free breakfast with hashbrowns slapped

spunkystoic · 2024-01-25T15:07:13+00:00

So the UK is warning of a potential war with Russia and subsequent military draft, or at the very least recruitment drive.

Here's my thoughts:

As a small brown British guy, my life could be characterised as a series of patronising hair ruffles from tall white dudes and being studiously ignored by women.

So why in god's green earth would I (or quite frankly the bottom 50% of men) ever fight for this country?

If shit kicks off I'm using my second passport and heading to the god damn motherland.

monster_lily · 2024-01-25T16:12:43+00:00

Ppd mods I FEEL YOUR PAIN✊

Ok-Principle-3785 · 2024-01-25T16:35:10+00:00

Gah, I tried to have a good faith discussion with the mods and then they timed me out for three days. What's the point of a debate sub when you're only allowed to say the things that the moderators have decided are correct? There isn't a point to it, it's just a circlejerk.

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T16:46:55+00:00

apparently there is this oxytocin nasal spray that has been proven to make people more social and nice. i wonder how long the effects last 🤔

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-25T19:23:14+00:00

Daughter who complains that men can’t handle a real woman like her or son who complains that female video game characters aren’t hot anymore?

Gladboys · 2024-01-25T20:28:33+00:00

im gonna have massive shoulders and traps. gonna be awesome

NotMattDamien · 2024-01-25T15:20:04+00:00

Honest question. In physically abusive relationships, do they start out abusive? Are the red flags there and are ignored? Does the abuse start out small/verbal and escalate to physical over time?

Or is it like a switch as in they start out sweet maybe love bomb and after some time suddenly become physically abusive?

Honest question to combat “just leave”.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2024-01-25T16:04:14+00:00

Husband's employer failed to update his W4, now we owe the fed $500, and according to the internet, we just have to eat it.

Harumph.

Iakobos_Mathematikos · 2024-01-25T17:25:27+00:00

Fellas, is it over if Hinge says your “most compatible” is a woman 40 years older than you?

Gladboys · 2024-01-25T17:26:13+00:00

someone suggested i record the general trend for height in my area. so i did that today on my walk.

i will however not be collecting as many days worth of data this time though, as it really fucks up the amount of steps i can get in 1 hour when i have to keep track of this many people. couples are much rarer than singles in public after all.

again for context this data was recorded in a university town that skews towards wealthier students, because its quite difficult to get into. i went to every part of the campus this time, to see if there is a correlation between height and general department.

in terms of raw numbers, i saw 113 single men who were taller than me, and single 181 men who were my height or below, this makes sense as my height is considered to be average(5 ft 9, 5 ft 10 in shoes).

of couples, i saw 7 couples where the man was taller than me, and none where the man was my height or below.

the rest of my comment was based off data im intuiting from memory, and was not rigorously tracked.

in the part of campus where the highest density of fine arts and other "creative" classes are held, this had the highest density of couples, and the highest density of men who were taller than me. after that the highest density of couples was in the engineering part of the school. no other couples were spotted.

in terms of men taller than me, it went fine arts, business, law. for shorter than me, it went mathematics, biology, literature/liberal arts. the engineering part of campus seemed to be bimodal, mostly tall or short men, not many of average height which was surprising.

i did not go to the computer science part of campus because it smells

side note: in terms of density of cute girls, it went art, liberal arts, biology, and i saw one that made my heart skip near the law school.

if someone can figure out a way for me to track this shit without having to stop and look at my phone and input something, maybe some buttons that scientists use for tracking shit irl idk. that would be appreciated.

CompetitiveTennis112 · 2024-01-25T18:03:03+00:00

just got my first redditcare message... who took my redditcare report virginity I just wanna talk

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-25T18:53:27+00:00

I just feel like I shouldn’t wear jewelry that’s not from Tiffany’s. That’s my fatal flaw.

New83659 · 2024-01-25T19:00:25+00:00

As someone trying to overcome social anxiety and stand up for myself and get out there more, it seems like women are by far the most likely to try to police me and keep me down where I intuitively appear to "belong" on the social heiarchy.

There's this chick who's always been an absolute bitch to me at work for a while and the other day some customer said something funny and everyone was laughing and I was too and shes like "wow even (my name) is laughing too isnt that crazy." Literally all I said in a calm tone was "What makes you think I can't understand humor like everyone else?" And she got really triggered and said "isn't it obvious?" I said "not really I don't see what your getting at." Then she gave me this really mean look and has been acting passive aggressive all week. But the aggressive aggressive comments and patronizing like before have stopped.This isn't the only example of a woman giving me shit for having the audacity to assert myself as a normal and equal human to everyone else lately. Like even just joining in on a normal conversation or saying what's on my mind the guys will be cool and act like it's no big deal but you can kinda tell some of the girls are a little off out and surprised by this. What's surprising is the cool social guys seem the most chill and accepting by FAR.

I would say 70% of people women included are chill and I have even had this other girl tell me "im glad you are feeling more comfortable and at home lately." So it's definitely not all women.

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T19:12:25+00:00

i got a reddit cares message!

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T19:20:29+00:00

a very accurate video

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-01-25T20:21:36+00:00

I don’t think I’ve stepped in shit in like 20 years. That’s a great streak

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2024-01-25T20:22:59+00:00

Guess the gender

https://np.reddit.com/r/Money/comments/19eqotg/i_quit_my_8hr_job_and_started_streaming_last/

Imagine life being this easy for you that you can just start streaming and making more money than your job on the first month. They'll be able to make much more money as they grow and keep streaming.

Gender privilege

babazuki · 2024-01-25T12:14:29+00:00

I went to the store looking for baby teethers for my nephew because his always get lost. I seen this bullshit. "Girls rule". They don't make "boys rule". Why? Why feminize them so young? They're just babies. He doesn't know he's supposed to be an evil oppressive male.

I have no apprehension telling his older brother we do "man stuff" when I play with him. We fix things around the houses and throw darts and hit things. He asks me "Can we go do man stuff?" and I feel so proud.

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-25T13:23:15+00:00

You know you're fucked up when you wish you had the same congenital disorder as Lizzie Velasquez because she can eat 5,000-8,000 calories a day and only weighs like 64 lbs. Like damn I wanna be deformed so I can eat more

monster_lily · 2024-01-25T15:35:23+00:00

Guys my sat is gonna be digital and the best part about that is if u keep getting shit wrong they make the questions easier

SweetTeaFriedChicken · 2024-01-25T15:53:41+00:00

Getting "reddit resources" called on you is infuriating. I don't think people realise how much that shit doesn't help. Having to tell it to stop is infuriating.

wonder-garden · 2024-01-25T16:35:59+00:00

Has anyone had trouble from the user safinated blue pill women. She keeps commenting on my posts and keeps aggravating me. She is so annoying and won't just leave me alone. I told her to touch grass but she is not.

poopy_head4 · 2024-01-25T17:57:26+00:00

i hate looking at florence pugh. her neck is too short. it needs to be stretched

mummydontknow · 2024-01-25T18:19:47+00:00

The older I get the less I care about n count and I think it's mostly due to being disillusioned from the romanticized ideal of relationships.

Like she's not THE one, but just a one, could have been literally anyone else and she's just enriching my current life.

Sure this will give me more options, but I don't like it, I want to believe in the romantic ideal...

monster_lily · 2024-01-25T19:42:36+00:00

I am like actually about to die of hunger

Ok-Coat7665 · 2024-01-25T21:00:34+00:00

We talk a lot about Chad here but what are the essential qualities of a Stacy?

MyHouseOnMars- · 2024-01-25T21:08:18+00:00

"I don't like him anymore"

also me 5 seconds later:

"why is that whore* sitting next to him"

*a perfectly normal looking woman with cero intentions in a perfectly normal non sexual situation

Excellent_Badger123 · 2024-01-26T12:39:47+00:00

Oysters - who likes them?
I just ate some really good ones with very spicy Thai sauce.

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TheRedPillRipper · 2024-01-25T12:01:36+00:00

First!

TheRedPillRipper · 2024-01-25T12:02:06+00:00

It’s like a lottery getting the first comment hehe!

Gladboys · 2024-01-25T12:32:38+00:00

Waking up to work at 4:30 am is not how I imagined things going

saulbasedman · 2024-01-25T13:17:47+00:00

https://youtu.be/LVtgPQkdkMs?feature=shared

SweetTeaFriedChicken · 2024-01-25T13:44:14+00:00

After all the article yesterday spreading on reddit about the gen z political gender divide, I keep seeing people on the left or centre left bemoaning how they dont have enough male role models or whatever. I think you guys are missing the point...because you see tate and JP or whoever and assume those guys are swaying young men.

Maybe some young men are actually swayed by those influencers, but I dont think so. I've never liked either guy. I think young men moving away from young women politically has nothing to do with "influencers" and more to do with actual policy.

In the US of course abortion is a big factor, but in the rest of the developed world the abortion debate is already settled, including in Canada where I live. I think this goes waaaaay beyond just abortion.

In western political overton windows, the main difference between people who lean "conservative" and people who lean "progressive" is that conservatives are more libertarian (in the US there are notable exceptions) whereas progressives see it as more important to focus on issues which are "tragedies of the commons", such as climate change.

Actually I think climate policy is the best way to demonstrate how gen z men and women are splitting. In Canada we have EV mandates set, carbon pricing, CFR and CER, and many other climate policies which add-on costs to consumers and limit consumer choice. If you care about "the commons", you see these costs and limits of choice as necessary, because otherwise the future is bleak due to the effects of climate change.

I accept climate change as reality and I see it will be devastating, but I have no wish to make personal sacrifices, no matter how small, for a future that I do not feel I will get to be a part of. And yes climate change will have catastrophic effects even in my lifetime as a gen zer, but I am really apathetic about the whole thing. I can't ever fulfill my dream of getting married and having kids, so why should I care? And as I grow more resentful, I find myself cheering for climate change. That's part of why I became an oil lobbyist straight after uni.

TL;DR Individualism vs collectivism is the defining characteristic of why gen z men and women are fracturing politically. Young men, who aren't the best looking and most outgoing, have zero incentive to care about the collective.

Gladboys · 2024-01-25T14:07:42+00:00

The sun shines equally bright on both the victors and the defeated

BackToTheMoon_ · 2024-01-25T14:12:59+00:00

[What do you guys think?] In my opinion, I think he should not confront her but be aware. Her saying she did not know he was going on the trip is a huge red flag especially since OP said her and Dave text a lot

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-25T14:39:14+00:00

I don't like the way this new reddit layout looks, it's too small. In other news, I think it is absolutely hilarious that people are pointing out how awful Gen Z is aging. I am so here to witness their downfall and misery.

leosandlattes · 2024-01-25T14:44:22+00:00

Good morning to everyone who:

Is currently sick
Lives with at least one roommate
Has been on a date in the last month, OR
Drives a Ford, Honda, Mazda, or a Jeep

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T15:12:12+00:00

does anyone else have an emotional support piece of jewelry? i have a necklace that my grandma gave me that i never take off

BackToTheMoon_ · 2024-01-25T15:14:34+00:00

I dont think its: former hoe settles for a beta and takes all his shit in divorce

What usually happens is probably: former hoe settles for beta and leaves in divorce. May or may not get some extra assets but for the most part shes now single and unhappy. Hes now single and unhappy. No one wins

siempreloco31 · 2024-01-25T15:25:31+00:00

Not that I think Barbie should get nominated but Top Gun got nominated last year despite being aggressively average as movies go.

dbz__f · 2024-01-25T16:03:11+00:00

Question for everyone but I guess mainly women

You have two items which are the exact same. The exact same. EXACT same. Like, say its a scarf, or a handbag or a shoe or whatever.

One of these has the label of a famous fashion brand and is sold for $1000. The other one is from kmart and is $10. Why do you go for the $1000 one. What is the logic?

K_Wilson54 · 2024-01-25T16:33:42+00:00

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Relevant-Crew946 · 2024-01-25T16:43:37+00:00

Can someone explain what this women means by this.

notice how 23-25 year old guys will date an 18/19 year old girl but not be friends with an 18/19 year old guy bc they understand that's weird.

Does she mean that friendships are the same thing as romantic relationships. Would she think it is weird to be friends with a 50 year old but not wanting to fuck them? I don't get this, can someone explain her line of thinking?

PrecisionHat · 2024-01-25T16:44:57+00:00

Can anyone sum up the arguments for why/how we live in a patriarchy?

I can't understand how this idea became so mainstream and it drives me crazy that so many people defacto blame patriarchy for anything they think is unfair. The latest Barbie Oscar bullshit is a perfect example.

In clear language, what are the symptoms or signs we live in a patriarchy, here and now, please?

I won't even argue with any of them in this thread; I have a feeling I know a few, but could easily debunk them or show how they have been debunked, but I won't respond except if I need clarification about something.

FuuraKafu · 2024-01-25T17:37:44+00:00

Femininity is so good... just inject it into my veins!

monster_lily · 2024-01-25T17:49:34+00:00

MY PHYSICS TEACHER ROUNDED MY 75 TO AN 80

YuYuHakusho23 · 2024-01-25T17:57:21+00:00

Q4All: Why is it extremely difficult for modern men to get female women girlfriends?

hannahg000 · 2024-01-25T18:19:26+00:00

it’s raining and everyone stinks

OfficeMain1226 · 2024-01-25T18:22:13+00:00

Vote for:

Brushing

A) Before shower

B) During shower

C) After shower

EulenWatcher · 2024-01-25T18:30:39+00:00

Why do I feel like shit today. Is it low blood pressure? It better be low blood pressure and not another cold right 2 weeks after the last one.

GltyUntlPrvnInncnt · 2024-01-25T18:37:20+00:00

So, guys that say living life as a woman is living it on easy mode, how many of you would actually trade places with women?

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2024-01-25T18:40:31+00:00

Q4A: What small to medium sized purchase have you made that improved your life the most? I have a decent chunk of cash coming in for my tax refund, and I’m thinking of how I should spend it.

Mobrowncheeks · 2024-01-25T18:54:11+00:00

Considering changing my flare to purple pill since neither the blue pillers or red pillers think I’m red pilled enough

meteorness123 · 2024-01-25T20:13:42+00:00

Im tired of dating experts or even psychologists telling us about red flags or how to be the perfect human. The only red flag is you posing as an expert

Ok-Principle-3785 · 2024-01-25T20:20:37+00:00

TEST: can anyone read this? I've been shadow banned.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2024-01-25T20:20:39+00:00

Last night my husband and I were talking, and he unlocked a memory that we used to party* with Trisha Paytas before she moved to LA.

*and by party, I mean she was the messy drunk girl at his frat house that a few of his bros would pass around. I'm fairly certain I saw her shit on a bathroom floor once.

Rach1943 · 2024-01-25T20:43:32+00:00

It's easier to get laid from a women as a trans female (MTF) than a straight guy, and you'll be able to date far more attractive women.

why? there is a a niche for that, that is not oversaturated. The need for straight men is oversaturated.

Also explains why lipstick lesbians will date butch looking women who look like passable unnatractive overweight men but will tend to only be attracted to hot cis-straight men.

CliffPR · 2024-01-25T20:58:49+00:00

If your online publication has a list of Oscar snubs for this year and it does not include Godzilla Minus One, it's just clickbait for Barbie fans/anti-fans.

JustAnotherBoymoder · 2024-01-25T21:59:04+00:00

pov: ur my bf while im having a bpd episode

Sillysheila · 2024-01-25T22:07:48+00:00

I’m going hiking and staying in a cottage in the middle of nowhere this long weekend 😃

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-25T23:03:34+00:00

I'm stimming so much I feel like I'm having a seizure or some shit. Sucks

JustAnotherBoymoder · 2024-01-26T02:05:51+00:00

i looked up what home price i could afford on my salary and it was half the median price of homes here lmao im never owning one

dbz__f · 2024-01-26T10:19:04+00:00

There are a billion type of rings, how the fuck is a man supposed to know the exact ring his gf will like the most? Why is it meant to be a surprise? It should literally be up to the woman to pick the ring she likes the most.

imagine if my gf was buying a car to surprise me and she used the money to buy some car I really didn't want instead of my dream car. I'd be annoyoed.

dbz__f · 2024-01-26T10:26:52+00:00

the wall does exist for men, and apparently its at 36.

dbz__f · 2024-01-26T10:29:48+00:00

just bought the new tekken game

can't wait for my gf to beat the shit out of me

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-01-26T10:47:42+00:00

Ever get so incredibly bloated you look pregnant and can't move? I spent all day preparing those beans, next time I will just stick to canned. That was truly a gut busting meal.

Relevant-Crew946 · 2024-01-26T10:57:36+00:00

Why does this 30 year age gap make women so upset? She is 27, not 17. She is very much a woman and not a girl?

https://i.imgur.com/I2MGEhu.png

FuuraKafu · 2024-01-26T11:08:11+00:00

Is life just about trying to forget the question "why am I here"? Anything that makes your present moment dense enough that it just IS, where it becomes self-justified and allows you not to think, anything like that is thrilling. This is why abusive relationships can be a trap, because pain has this quality. All negative feelings can be all-consuming, if only temporarily, that's their danger. Doing a really bad decision is a powerful "self-justifying moment" in a twisted, tragic way. Going bankrupt for your online findom goddess, or letting yourself used as a doormat by your powerful, but narcissistic man, stealing money from your parents for drugs while you know you can't get away with it (or watching bdsm porn on your father's PC when you get the chance without knowing how to delete history, khmm)... Going against common sense is nice, because "common sense" inckudes that question in the back of your head that you don't want to think about anymore.

Speaking of BDSM, I love it. On some level it acknowledges this destructive desire and attempts to turn it into love, almost "cleanse it" in a sense. If it's done healthily with a trusting partner, isn't that wholesome as fuck?

And it's related to what the buddhists are saying too, it's all about being grounded in the present, just being. Letting go. Humans want that so bad. Poor humans.

StrikingAd8556 · 2024-01-25T15:13:31+00:00

Can someone please explain to me how hoe_math has received so much internet support. I remember getting his videos on TikTok in the early days and it just doesn't make sense to me.

You have a faceless guy with a high pitched voice showing hand drawn diagrams as to why the dating market is skewed against men.

Like I've seen other accounts post data from academic sources and the comment section is 50 different iterations of "bro needed to do a study on why he gets no bitches"

How was hoe_math not laughed and mocked off the internet. He literally had to sit there and draw and color these little pictures and men and even sometimes women agree with him and the comments are always like "bro never misses"

It just doesn't make sense to me.

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