This is even coming from someone who has been in a relationship and is not a virgin. Men who are going on to these subreddits such as purplepilldebate, dating app subreddits and just the general dating ones. I genuinely believe that women unintentionally radicalize men just by talking about the situations they are in. Making posts complaining about situationship, all matches being trash, casual sex and so on. I think that seeing these type of posts and comments as virgins in their 20s, builds up such a resentment due to them not being able to get anything at all. I see some of these posts and look at the comments and see the men complaining about never having had anyone and that they wish they could be in a similar situation. This is what brings me to the actual radicalizing part...

Even though it may come from a good place, any of these women with the situationships and thousands of matches that are telling someone their own age or someone who may be older than them, that it's "not all that" and "you will meet someone eventually", will just increase their anger and hatred. I honestly believe that not responding to these people is the absolute best way to go about things. Any response that you give to people who are in that down bad situation, while you have actually gotten the chance to have all of these experiences, will make it worse. There is genuinely nothing that can be said to make them hate you more.

If you look at any thread even on this subreddit in regards to virginity, never having dated or not getting matches. Coming in and telling someone that has never gotten a match, that "I have gotten thousands, but they are all shit", is going to create an incel. I first noticed this when I started reading the comments and not only the threads, and seeing what may seem like an innocent response from a man and then following the comment chain after the woman responded. The pure bitterness and hatred that came from a response that was not even ill-intended was pretty eye opening.

My personal theory is that there are men who have made it all the way to their 20s without having even been with someone. They see thread after thread about women who are sleeping with a bunch of men, getting dates every week, situationships, relationship hopping... All while they do nothing. Women who are their age who has gotten the fun out of the way and may start trying to look for something serious, all while they never got to experience anything at all, making them largely unqualified for the women their own age. Even if they don't explicitly say this I think that it is a subconcious thought.

These threads and comments will keep popping up, they will keep hate reading everything, further radicalizing them into hating women more, because they got to effortlessly "live" and have all of these experiences, all while these men didn't. It will be interesting to see what happens going forward in society.