The title is self explanatory. Women love nice guys. The problem is men who think they are nice are just passive doormats with zero self esteem. That’s not being nice that’s being weak. Women don’t like those men. Just because you don’t have the confidence to be assertive and stand up for yourself doesn’t mean you’re nice and stable.

When women say we like kind guys the “also is assertive and confident” part is silent. You can be a nice person without kissing her ass and being a “yes” man. The problem I think inexperienced men have is when they really want a woman, they feel the need to put her on a pedestal and borderline worship her. Women love when you show love to them but don’t like feeling that she’s the only source of your happiness. It’s overwhelming and weird.