There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPY

Snoo_16536 · 2021-08-24T15:31:12+00:00

just be attractive bro, they'll throw you choosing signals

KJ1017 · 2021-08-24T23:53:19+00:00

I’ve approached a girl in the middle of the club and been called a creep, and I’ve done it and gotten laid that night.

Just don’t corner women in weird locations. Other than that, you’re bound to get called a creep if you approach. They use the word creep so casually and liberally it doesn’t really matter.

You miss 100% of the shots you take. Worst case scenario, and woman you’ll never see again calls you a creep. WOW, so scary.

Kaisha001 · 2021-08-24T14:55:49+00:00

Be attractive, don't be unattractive.

TheMailmanic · 2021-08-24T15:22:48+00:00

Also, this advice is really just to filter out the beta males who are stupid enough to listen to it

Guarantee you the guys who are getting laid aren't concerned about looking creepy or when and where it is acceptable to approach

The only rule is to approach in a place where a girl can feel safe rejecting you (she can leave easily, there are other people around, etc)

myerbot5000 · 2021-08-24T15:51:15+00:00

It all depends on how attractive you are.

CatchPhraze · 2021-08-24T15:50:39+00:00

But seriously:

If you HAVE to hit on someone in public:

Don't do it to someone who is at work, they cant leave and probably feel pressured to be polite, so it's shitty. Co-workers is a mixed bag, but def not to a cashier or waitress who is stuck with you.
I know some of you aren't the best at picking up signals, but that's kind of even more of a reason you shouldn't be the kind of dude hitting on strangers in public places. If you're going to, start with small chat and gauge interest. If she's responding stop. If she's actually engaged and reciprocating, go for it. Don't open with asking her for her number/date. That's hella uncomfortable.
Anyone who rebuffs you for trying to meet a new person at a social gathering is being the idiot werido, not you. It's expected that people will meet and mingle at parties and bars, and if someone is an asshole, that's on them not you.

Thankyou for coming to my TED talk.

i_wind · 2021-08-24T14:56:28+00:00

Well, you see…

If you’re a 9/10 or higher Chad/Tyrone that’s tall and beautiful, it will never appear creepy or annoying to any women.. Not even if they are married.. Actually it then completely flips the narrative:

Husband: “Why are you giggling and smiling and making such strong eyecontact and attention with the bartender?”
Wife: “Oh stop being jealous, controlling, and insecure. I’m just being friendly, and he is a very polite young man”

Lol.

TheMailmanic · 2021-08-24T15:20:01+00:00

This is the big con - if you listen to female advice you'll come away with 95% of situations being disallowed for approaching

The answer is that you have to become thick skinned and comfortable with being called creepy. You're doing something that is not entirely socially acceptable. That is just the cost of doing business

mantapacktribe · 2021-08-24T16:34:28+00:00

there is no universal language or rules for approaching somebody. you need to be able to read body language, tones of voice etc.

to normal people this comes naturally, maybe you should practice.

i have been rejected many times and i'm fairly confident none of the women have considered me creepy. some have even complimented me along the lines of: "sorry i'm not interested but thanks for being such a gentleman about it!"

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2021-08-24T21:57:29+00:00

it's attractive for a man to be able to approach a woman with confidence."Yikes! Women will assume you want to sleep with them which is a turn off!"

Who cares. Go in to it just wanting to make friends and grow your social circle with women. Women won't assume you want to sleep with them if you don't escalate

just approach women, be upfront and honest with your intentions from the get-go."Eww, this creepo thinks it is okay to harass women on the subway"

Yes, this is great advice... But not on the fucking subway

try some more social events, like night clubs!"OMG, I'm just trying to enjoy a night out with my friends!"

Excuses excuses. 99% of people at clubs are either there WITH their SO, or looking for someone to dance with/date/makeout with/fuck/talkto/whatever. If they say you're creepy here, then your affect is pretty fucking creepy and you should definitely do some self reflection

University is a great place to meet girls!"The lecture hall isn't a meat market and women don't really appreciate someone hitting on them when they're trying to focus on understanding the course material."

LMAO it sure IS a meat market, myself and most of my friends found most of the people we hung out with to expand our social circles either in class, at club events, or at mixers/formals

Just ask girls out you meet at the bar or social events "uhhmmm... I don't... Like... Even... Know you...."

Lol? This is rejection, everyone faces rejection, but holy shit. The reply to this is. "Well lets get to know eachother" jesus lol how simplistic do you need it to be

it's easier to ask a girl out in your social circle"But It's sooo awkward hanging out with him after that"

Thats a risk you take but it's the highest percentage of success too

orangerose18 · 2021-08-24T16:47:27+00:00

There is no 100% certain way to tell if a girl is flirting with you or sending IOIs either.

Dating wasn’t meant for strangers. It was meant for acquaintances and friends and family connections. One woman’s flirt is another woman’s normal behavior. One man’s respectful approach is another man’s creepiness. So how do you interpret things correctly? GET TO KNOW THE PERSON PLATONICALLY FIRST. Sheesh.

throwawaybpdnpd · 2021-08-24T15:36:37+00:00

The secret is to not give a damn if you’re gonna get rejected or not

This is a numbers game, focus on quantity; at some point you’ll end up with a “yes”

When I approach, I have in mind that I’ll get rejected, so it’s not a surprise when it happens, it’s only a surprise when I don’t

MagentaMagnolia · 2021-08-24T15:35:28+00:00

Ya you can’t go risk free but you can fuck off if they’re not into it.

januaryphilosopher · 2021-08-24T16:30:57+00:00

Asking someone out can seem creepy in any scenario because you can act creepy in any scenario. If you're chill, honest and able to handle rejection in a mature way, most people aren't going to mind if you approach them in whatever situation.

Fridric_Magnus · 2021-08-24T17:52:38+00:00

Yep. It is impossible to make it through life without risking offending anyone.

ricar426 · 2021-08-24T15:50:48+00:00

((For what it’s worth, I asked a bunch of female friends this question and I got answers with examples of creepiness that spanned from “he had dainty hands” to “he grabbed me really hard on the arm for no reason,” to “putting too many smileys in text messages,” to “he looks at you in a funny way when he talks.” As is often the case, women are terrible authorities on why they like/dislike something, all they know is that they like/dislike it.) So, at the risk of sounding like a creep, allow me throw my hat in the ring and actually give a concrete definition for the phenomenon: Creepiness is behaving in a way that makes a woman feel insecure sexually. The further you get out of line with your intentions, the more distrustful she will be of your actions and words. And the more distrustful she is, the more insecure she will feel and the creepier you become. For instance, if you approach a woman and stand there and talk about the weather, but you’re staring at her rack the whole time while licking your lips, then you will come across as creepy. Your actions and words are completely out of line with your intentions and she can see that. Even if you tell her honestly, “You have great tits,” you will be creepy. Not for lack of intention, but because she doesn’t know you and most women are not comfortable being sexual around men they don’t know. Trust takes time. She has to see that your actions line up with your intentions before she can feel comfortable exposing herself to you and making herself vulnerable. Women have a lot more to lose from expressing their sexuality than men do. They make babies. We don’t. They get raped and/or sexually assaulted at a startlingly high rate. We don’t. They have five thousands years of sexist cultural history making them feel like a slut. We don’t. The second you make them feel uncomfortable sexually is the second you become a creep and the second she’s finding an excuse to get away from you as fast as she can. This is why vulnerability is so huge. When you’re vulnerable around someone you don’t know, it elicits trust in them and they will become more vulnerable toward you in return. The more vulnerable a woman is willing to be around you, the less likely you will be to creep her out. (Caveat 1: Vulnerability is still subject to the right intentions. If you tell a girl a sob story for no other reason than to get her to feel sorry for you and sleep with you, then guess what, you’re still creepy!) (Caveat 2: Sex can be viewed as the ultimate act of vulnerability for a woman. The more vulnerable you make yourself around her — by leading, by sharing your intentions, by being honest — the more she will trust you and become vulnerable in return. Sex is a side effect of that mutual vulnerability.) Paradoxically, the way to interact with women in a vulnerable way and, therefore, the way to combat creepiness, is to accept that some women will find you creepy some of the time. Just as with rejection, the more you’re willing to risk it, the less it will happen. The more comfortable you are with women finding you creepy, and the more uninhibited and vulnerable your actions and words are around women, and the more aware and respectful you are of their interests and desires, the less likely they will be to find you creepy. The more reserved and closed up you are about your intentions, the more you attempt to manipulate her and mislead her about what you want and who you are, the more you disregard her feelings and actions toward you, the more likely you are to become creepy.

I like this take from Mark Manson's Models on creepiness, yours look way too defeatist

sivarias · 2021-08-24T19:29:58+00:00

1) Chad gets called creepy too, he just doesn't care.

2) Chad gets called creepy too, he just doesn't care.

3) Chad gets called creepy too, he just doesn't care.

4) Chad gets called creepy too, he just doesn't care.

5) Chad gets called creepy too, he just doesn't care.

6) Chad gets called creepy too, he just doesn't care.

It's a society wide shit test, and you're failing it.

TheSnowyPlover · 2021-08-24T15:50:43+00:00

There’s a reason that the most common ways people meet are work, social circles, and non-hookup dating sites—in all three cases the woman has time to feel you out and decide if you possess the sort of traits she desires in a low threat manor.

Approaching random women and using hookup sites like Tinder are best left to bonafide Chad’s that have raw universal sex appear—everyone else should stick to the methods listed above

Screenwiz · 2021-08-24T15:50:23+00:00

Attract what you desire. Cat chasing is outdated, this isn't the same world it was 20 years ago.

washington_breadstix · 2021-08-24T23:44:41+00:00

Whenever I see this type of post, it makes me wish we could share some concrete examples, like actual video recordings of men approaching women and having their advances either reciprocated or rejected.

Aside from the obvious "Be attractive and don't be unattractive" response, I have a feeling lots of men who get rejected are having this happen because they're trying to turn the interaction into a sexual advance way too early on and are hardly trying to establish any rapport with the women they're approaching. This sort of rushed approach is met with scorn because it shows a certain inability to read a room. Social skills matter.

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-08-24T15:24:18+00:00

Either I'm Chad or you people have absolutely no social skills at all.

subgamer89 · 2021-08-24T20:55:58+00:00

Well yeah. Of course there is a risk of getting rejected when you approach. Duh?

If you're that afraid of being rejected then wait until a girl sends you a signal that she's interested before you approach.

IcarusKiki · 2021-08-24T21:21:49+00:00

There is no 100% guarantee that you will not die in a horrific accident every time you drive a car. There is no way to live without risk. Sorry.

yodreadd · 2021-08-24T23:36:09+00:00

If you're not handsome af, you have to be a dumbass to approach woman because you know how things can get hard and dangerous in a lot of possible ways.

GunnzzNRoses · 2021-08-25T04:37:34+00:00

Bahahahaha. Life isn't PC.

Plus, all of these retorts come from bitchy women. You can't assume ALL women are bitchy, just like you don't assume all men are chuds

TotalTravesty · 2021-08-24T15:06:47+00:00

Nobody can say if an approach is creepy or not without specific examples. All you’ve done was make up exaggerated rejections without telling us what is being rejected.

Striking up a conversation about what’s going on around you using the context of the environment (“Hey, we’re in the same English class, aren’t we? I thought that book we read was amazing. My name is X blah blah blah.”) may be fine. Trying to get to sex without the slightest pretense of polite conversation (“We’re in the same class, wanna go on a date with me?”) might not go over so well.

But again, it depends on the girl. If the girl is crushing on you then you can say pretty much anything and still get a date. If the girl doesn’t know you from any other guy she sees then she’s not going to be keen on going out with you in the first five seconds of meeting you.

So yeah, maybe this belongs in auto-mod because I agree that there are no guaranteed answers to social interaction because everyone is different (duh!). But I disagree with the implied premise that any attempt to approach will get you labeled as a creep. There are definitely better ways to approach than others.

Gilmoregirlin · 2021-08-24T16:36:43+00:00

There is a really simple trick that works in 95% of the situations, it's called eye contact. If you are not sure if a woman is open to you approaching her or not, try to make eye contact with her. If you are able to meet her eyes and make eye contact and she holds your gaze at least twice, I usually say 3 times then approach. If not do not approach. If she hurriedly looks away, or looks down, do not approach. If you cannot get her to look at you or make eye contact, do not approach. I tell you this a formerly top 10% hot girl (now an old hag as been called on t his site) who got approached by a lot of guys in my younger years. When I entered a room, I would purposely avert my gaze to the floor to avoid making eye contact. If I was interested I would meet your gaze. Disinterested I would hurriedly look away. This is something that is done subconsciously in most cases by women. Now granted some could be shy and look away but most at minimum will look back.

over348 · 2021-08-24T16:36:46+00:00

It is a 100% pc way. Be tall and attractive.

SnooSprouts1580 · 2021-08-24T20:04:13+00:00

Fear of being labeled a creep, fear of criticism has kept a lot weak-willed men out of the dating pool.

Lateralanouncer · 2021-08-24T17:23:52+00:00

Everything we do is shamed the key is to not give a fuck.

oldmanwinter_68 · 2021-08-24T15:15:26+00:00

I think the key is to be alert for signs of interest. For example, yesterday I was waiting to cross the street when a girl asked me for directions. I used it as an opportunity to start a conversation with her; long story short we went back to my office later and had sex.

Sometimes things are more subtle, for example pre-epidemic I was at a conference, made eye contact with a girl across the room, and she glanced briefly at my crotch. I took that as an invitation to approach her and things escalated from there.

That said, if you are too autistic to pick up on social cues, there is a strategy which is almost as good: Don't give a fuck about whether women think you are creepy. If you see a girl you like, just try starting a conversation with her and see what happens. Obviously this is not necessarily a good idea at work or at school since she can complain about you to people in authority, but in most situations, what difference does it make if the girl thinks you are "creepy."? As long as you don't touch her, so what?

Whisper · 2021-08-24T16:08:07+00:00

It's not our job to make sure women feel safe. We cannot control their feelings.

xFallacyx69 · 2021-08-24T15:02:39+00:00

Yes… women work on double standards and plausible deniability… but men don’t help by being thirsty AF and still thinking that it’s “their job as a man” to approach, initiate, etc. End male thirst, end WAW

Prometheum_Range · 2021-08-24T15:32:52+00:00

Just don't give a fuck, it's not your job to put women at ease.

Antoak · 2021-08-24T17:46:32+00:00

I think that "There is no 100% Way" is maybe missing the point just a little bit.

Yes, there is no 100% guaranteed way, but:

some ways have worse odds of creeping them out than others
there's a huge difference between making a girl feel awkward, and making them feel seriously creeped out.

Your examples are all omitting details about social cues.

Generally, public locations are off-limits unless someone has signaled some positive interest with a smile or something. Asking people out is generally reserved for social designated locations- Even then, there's non-verbal signals that are generally expected (body language, eye contact, smiling, etc), as well as some basic small talk that happens first.

Yeah, there's no 100% guarantee that smiling at a girl down the bar from you, or starting small talk with the girl next to you in lecture hall won't be considered creepy, but it's so low on the creepiness scale that it practically doesn't even count. There are some shitty girls who will complain about a guy who 'smiled at her', but unless you keep smiling at her when she's clearly not reciprocating, then she's the asshole, not you.

Now, compare that to being followed out of a bar into an alley and being asked for your number, or being asked out by someone who's sitting across from you on a subway... That's Very Creepy.

IMO, there are 99% ways of being "Only a tiny bit creepy".

Delusionaldally · 2021-08-24T18:44:02+00:00

It depends on the circumstance. If there is an energy and it’s appropriate no woman will be weirded out or pissed you approached them.

Kizka · 2021-08-24T18:48:59+00:00

It entirely depends on the woman, there is no general way to approach women that is approved by all women. I have no problem being approached while shopping, a different woman will label you a creep for that. If you want to wait for a general guideline that all women agree upon you will wait until you die.

1Here4Bach · 2021-08-24T19:34:34+00:00

There are in fact appropriate places to approach women, conduct a conversation and ask for their numbers.

Naus1987 · 2021-08-24T20:33:51+00:00

Be active in environments where women can witness you for more than your looks.

If you video game — be active and social in a way that women can observe your best qualities. If you’re kind and generous—do those things in areas people can witness it. DO NOT do good things expecting to be rewarded, lol.

If you’re out in public do good things. Hold doors open (for both genders). Pick up litter. Be kind. Be sociable to everyone.

The best way to not be creepy is not to be a creep. If you only talk to women you want to sleep with — That’s being creepy.

Approach everyone and let your community know you’re a social person. Then when you do socialize with a woman — it’s not creepy, because being social is your thing, and everyone will know it.

Women aren’t stupid. If you only approach women, and totally ignore guys or ugly women — people pick up on that. And to assume they don’t — is ignorance.

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Yeah, you can waste a lot of time being nice and socializing with basically everyone you meet, but that’s your example of how you can legitimately be non creepy in basically any of the above situations no matter what you look like.

Casey Neistat is an amazing example of a guy who is absolutely not a looker who never comes off as creepy with any of his interactions.

If Neistat can pull off being married, and popular— then anyone can. Seriously. Google him.

Difficult_Sale_3232 · 2021-08-24T20:37:54+00:00

Just ask her out anyway bro

Grouchy-Management-8 · 2021-08-25T02:07:01+00:00

Attraction isn’t a static thing for men or women. When you cold approach someone it’s entirely predicated on you being attracted to them/ wanting their time. You automatically take on the risk of rejection because you’re not entitled to reciprocated attraction. It’s that simple. Improve your approaches. Don’t let your insecurity make a statement before you do. Improve your ability to flirt and utilize body language to communicate. One’s inability to approach a woman without creeping her out is something to learn from and fix, not a woman’s job to make it easier or less intimidating. Women aren’t prizes in a game and if we were playing a game the stakes would be much higher for them.

SocialSanityy · 2021-08-25T06:02:42+00:00

You care way too much about what women think of you . Who tf cares , you’re responsible for your intention not her reception, if she thinks your creepy… move along . If she was truly going to be interested or attracted to you to begin with you could say whatever the hell you want and it wouldn’t be considered creepy .

XASTA123 · 2021-08-24T17:20:16+00:00

y’all self-victimize entirely too much. if she has headphones in, is reading a book, or anything similar that coveys: “I don’t want to talk”, then don’t talk to her. If not, say hi, introduce yourself, ask how her day is going. If she responds positively, great, keep the conversation flowing.

If not? Then leave her alone. It’s not that hard. You ask how her day is and she just says “Fine” without making eye contact? She doesn’t want to talk. Say, “Glad to hear it, have a good one.” and walk away.

A man who tries to chat up a woman and leaves her alone when she’s not interested isn’t a creep, stop twisting the narrative. A creep is a man who can’t or won’t read the clear signals that a woman isn’t interested and keeps trying to chat her up despite how uncomfortable she is.

One last pro tip: don’t try to chat up a woman while she’s at work. She probably has to be polite and doesn’t have the option of leaving if she’s not interested.

NameGiver0 · 2021-08-24T18:05:17+00:00

Sure there are:

Be attractive
don’t be unattractive

wienerte · 2021-08-24T15:39:17+00:00

Learn from your failed approaches and BE RESPECTFUL. I think I speak for many women when I say we love to be approached in a respectful way.

Also. Women can sense when a guy comes in with ulterior motives and it happens often. So, work with that understanding.

gimpgirl555 · 2021-08-24T16:37:51+00:00

Stop approaching women. You're only going to get rejected. Get some money/stuff and wait for them to approach you. That's how it's done.

Understand that for most women sex/relationships is an ass for cash deal. So shop around for the best value.

Generally speaking Western women are not good value right now. This is a good time to explore other options.

BandaNaVizier · 2021-08-24T16:47:07+00:00

I think there is, it's called being hot.

xxpen15mightierxx · 2021-08-24T17:58:30+00:00

There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPY

First of all, your statement is worded such that refuting it is impossible. There is no possible way to eliminate 100% of the risk in anything. There are always risks, and ways to mitigate those risks.

"Yikes! Women will assume you want to sleep with them which is a turn off!"

Not true...at least, not necessarily. Women do enjoy sex.

just approach women, be upfront and honest with your intentions from the get-go."Eww, this creepo thinks it is okay to harass women on the subway"

...are you harrassing them though? Did you display the visual and social cues that demonstrate you can be trusted to fuck them, not rape them or be weird, and sex with you would be a good time? Or did you walk up in your neckbeard garb and ask if you could stick your finger up her butthole in the subway bathrooms? There are ways to be upfront without being inappropriate or creepy.

try some more social events, like night clubs!"OMG, I'm just trying to enjoy a night out with my friends!"

See previous, you fucked it away. OR they really didn't want to be bothered and you weren't blindingly attractive enough to be the exception to that rule, as 999/1000 of us aren't.

University is a great place to meet girls!"The lecture hall isn't a meat market and women don't really appreciate someone hitting on them when they're trying to focus on understanding the course material."

First of all this isn't evidence that university isn't a great place to meet girls. You cherry picked yet another instance where you misread the social environment and fucked up. And then applied that to the broad experience that is college.

Just ask girls out you meet at the bar or social events "uhhmmm... I don't... Like... Even... Know you...."

Right dumbass, so why aren't you getting to know her?

it's easier to ask a girl out in your social circle"But It's sooo awkward hanging out with him after that"

It's only awkward if you make it awkward. Stop being awkward, I'm seeing a strong pattern here.

Okay so to summarize, you have little to no experience being successful on this, and you are making sweeping claims regarding the possibility of it being done. And yet men do it ALL the time, disproving right there that it's impossible. It's like watching some random joe fail at the 6' high jump and then saying high jumps are impossible. I surely hope your next statement won't be lamenting that high jumps should be 2'.

flamingoinghome · 2021-08-24T16:29:33+00:00

Okay? So? If you're not ready to run the risk of someone saying "it's awkward to hang out with you" or "go away," you aren't mature enough for dating yet.

Also, you might learn that...not all women are nice or polite. A woman who is rude to you for asking her on a date once at a bar may just be...a rude woman, and not worth your time.

That said, you missed one: going to specific dating/singles events. People are literally there to be asked out, so it is expected you ask them out.

SaBahRub · 2021-08-24T15:34:17+00:00

Sure there is

Creepy is the method, not the fact

Wanted contact is wanted, unwanted contact is unwanted

Kanonicman · 2021-08-24T15:49:28+00:00

If you are a creep, these are creepy. If you are a respectable lad who knows his worth, these are just lies and excuses.

alialahmad1997 · 2021-08-24T18:37:48+00:00

Hi, i noticed you are pretty attractive and i would like to get to know you i am "blank" may i invite you to a cup of cofee

harold_shipman_gp · 2021-08-24T19:18:23+00:00

Have I jumped back 25 years in time? Who is approaching women in public these days anyway? There are an infinite number of dating apps that bypass the need for an "approach" - why don't you just save yourself the hassle and use them?

ThatGirl50 · 2021-08-24T20:59:44+00:00

If everyone is calling you creepy. You’re creepy. Get a hobby

theoracleofosiris · 2021-08-24T23:26:42+00:00

MGTOW was right about women.

Insidious-Sid · 2021-08-24T23:53:26+00:00

The Rules.

Be attractive
Do not be unattractive

That is all.

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fatsocalsd · 2021-08-24T15:56:46+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-08-24T16:55:40+00:00

Men will say “just be attractive,” which isn’t entirely wrong. Not gonna lie, looks make a big difference in how you’re perceived in every facet of life, that’s the harsh truth. But when it comes to approaching people, social graces and ability to read their cues accurately is #1. Being able to tell if someone is open to being approached, if they find you attractive or not, when to keep talking and when to back off, are skills that come naturally to some people and not to others, but can be improved with practice. Everyone gets rejected sometimes, but as long as you are willing to take “no” for an answer and don’t push women’s boundaries, you really don’t have to worry about being “that creepy guy.” “Creeps” either know exactly what they’re doing and don’t care about other people’s discomfort or are seriously lacking in basic social skills. Someone will say “but you have to be persistent,” but I disagree. The ball is now in her court.

swagking420swag · 2021-08-24T17:38:27+00:00

Just be hot

superlurkage · 2021-08-24T17:45:13+00:00

If that were so, than no one would b fuckin

Megabyte7637 · 2021-08-24T18:28:45+00:00

Nodeal_reddit · 2021-08-24T19:37:57+00:00

People keep talking about attractiveness, but that’s a cop-out. Everyone knows that confidence and humor are attractive qualities, but how is a woman supposed to know you are confident of funny if you don’t go up and talk to her? Get off your phone and shoot your shot.

__Vandetta__ · 2021-08-24T20:34:19+00:00

Personally, I think creepiness comes from two primary factors, the inability to make a decision for whatever it is they want(indecisiveness plaques modern men and boys to a very high degree) and lack of personal standards(also a factor of indecision.)

Decisiveness will allow a man to approach with confidence because he'll know what he wants, the rest falls into place naturally as long as he has personal standards.

Personal standards will dictate how and what he'll view as acceptable behaviour from a Woman when he approaches, if she says no that's fine his standards will allow him to leave, if she starts to attack him like a crazy for rad feminist would then personal standards will allow him to protect himself(usually by walking away).

If the Woman decides to play ball, then a relationship of some kind can be formed and his personal standards will define what that looks like on his end.

But, I also agree, there is no PC nor perfect way in which a Man can approach a Woman(it's just a matter of if she'll try to end him or not which is a more prevalently question than ever in our society), and for me there is No perfect way a Woman can approach/attempt to chat me up. Do it in a way I dislike and I'm going to reject you(up to you if you want to make a scene about it or not, if you do it proves me right.) Do it in a way I like and I'll let you take a shot at getting my guard down so we can actually get along.

revente · 2021-08-24T21:15:35+00:00

Who fucking cares what some bimbo thinks of him?

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-08-24T21:26:22+00:00

Maybe, maybe not that's why I just go for it with anybody who might be interested and if it works out great, if not whatever. If a woman wants to be terrified of the opposite gender, that's her problem not mine

DplusLplusKplusM · 2021-08-24T22:36:17+00:00

You may have inadvertently stumbled onto why hookup/dating apps/sites have come into prominence.

Psiphistikkated · 2021-08-24T23:03:32+00:00

I thought giving your romantic interest your number on a post it note was enough?

paris_rogue · 2021-08-24T23:14:13+00:00

Not true-and attractiveness is relative. Sincerity and context are relevant factors.

infernalwretch · 2021-08-25T00:46:57+00:00

I agree. It seems like all you’re really allowed to do is online dating, but I know that doesn’t work well for a lot of people. I’m a woman myself and I feel like it’s all I’m allowed to do, but it makes me uncomfortable as hell and I can’t really tell if I’m attracted to someone just by pictures and small bits of information.

Big_Thony99 · 2021-08-25T00:59:02+00:00

Imagine worrying 😂 jkjk

KurkTheMagnificent · 2021-08-25T01:15:09+00:00

You don't ask a fish how to catch fish, you ask a fisherman

tropicsGold · 2021-08-25T01:16:14+00:00

Generally speaking, attractive is the only way to avoid creepy, at least if you are straight up hitting on them.

An alternative is to just talk with them without expressing overt interest. Women like covert, not overt. Talk with them about their clothes, their jewelry, whatever, and once they see you are not psycho they might get interested.

kur0ikunn · 2021-08-25T01:23:03+00:00

I'd say all of these approach would be appropriate if the woman is showing signs of interest. Approaching someone when they are doing something or avoiding looking at you is a sure sign of being called a creep.

SingOrIWillShootYou · 2021-08-25T01:25:03+00:00

Just don't say anything creepy. Also don't hit on random strangers. Who would want to go out with a stranger?

AynRawls · 2021-08-25T01:30:04+00:00

You could try a dating website. Women on those sites actively want men to approach them.

There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPY

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Title	There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPY
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