What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?

Frogspocket · 2021-12-16T01:08:55+00:00

He needed me to acknowledge his "outfits" that he put together. It started because I gave him genuine compliments when he looked nice. But eventually he started rolling in wearing jorts and an enormous t-shirt every day and expected me to compliment his choices. If I didn't say anything he'd passive aggressively pace around trying to get in my view until I made some kind of comment. It was a struggle to come up with something to say but I always tried, even when he swam into view looking like he was doing Adam Sandler cosplay id still try to think of SOMETHING nice to say, like "that's a nice color". when I really got the ick though is when he started making his own commentary, like "I think these sleeves make my arms look big..." And then he'd crane around to guage my reaction.

Owl-right · 2021-12-15T22:01:09+00:00

Playing devil's advocate on clear moral topics about women. No thank you 🚮

sucks4uyixingismyboo · 2021-12-15T22:49:18+00:00

One recently referred to women as “something”. When I inquired “something?” (as opposed to someone). He replied “something = female”. I blocked.

Pryras · 2021-12-15T23:32:45+00:00

Walking too far ahead of you and not keeping the same pace. Apparently this guy really liked me and was shocked when I told him it really turned me off.

stare_at_the_sun · 2021-12-15T22:46:03+00:00

One that comes to mind right away is talking about his glory days. He decides to tell me how in highschool a girl got made fun of for having mosquito bites, so he gave her a hug and said wow, are you wearing a push-up bra?! to make her feel better. No idea what the context of saying this was. I have most definitely had bigger ick moments, but this was most recent and really left a bad taste.

fruitloopcoco · 2021-12-15T22:59:10+00:00

Imitating something you say with a whiney voice...are we 5?

Bratsociety · 2021-12-15T21:52:07+00:00

This happened recently...

He drank 3% milk out of the carton using both hands like a 5 year old and then got the farts from it. 💀

He's 27..

It was our 3rd time together..

I_was_there_for_you · 2021-12-16T01:45:03+00:00

On a first date and all was going well until he asked me the question “So what are your biggest turn ons?” My answer: Honestly a guy that is an actual adult and has some sort of financial literacy. His answer: “When women are completely shaved from the neck down, and this” and gets out of his chair, and proceeds to kiss my neck in the MIDDLE OF THE RESTAURANT. On a FIRST DATE.

🤺🤺BACK I SAY🤺🤺

When he pulls back he asks, “I screwed up didn’t I?” I said YES, yes you did. I left shortly after that.

PicoPicoMio · 2021-12-15T23:03:24+00:00

Dirty bathrooms without fail, imagine beard hair trimmings and clipped toe nails all over the bathroom sink, mineral and fecal stains on the toilet, pee puddle in front the toilet. 🤢

MorthaP · 2021-12-16T00:49:13+00:00

I had already set my mind to hook up with this guy when he pulled out his phone and randomly showed me a pic of his ex and told me that I'm not as fat as her.

Never backpedaled faster

greeneyesrosylips · 2021-12-15T23:22:16+00:00

I was dating this guy from uni for only 2 weeks. We weren't even boyfriend and girlfriend, and he was already showing huge red flags, one of them being scolding me over everything I say like I'm a misbehaved child. The last straw was when we were walking around campus and I mentioned my creepy male teacher from freshman year standing near us. Instead of listening, he said I shouldn't "talk like that about people". That man IS a certified creep and every girl from my major can atest that, BOY BYE!!!!

Platipus6 · 2021-12-15T21:49:59+00:00

I'd do the recommended coMmuNiCatE - "when you... I feel..."

And he'd retort with this insanely scrunched up face and whiny voice. Defensive and desperate to get out of trouble instead of apologizing and moving on like a grown-up. "Mummy I didn't! Mummy I wasn't! 😢😢 I didn't meeeean to hurt you 😢😢😢"

🤮

areyouaddressingi · 2021-12-15T22:50:01+00:00

A guy i went om a sort of pity date with (nice enough guy but no attraction) kissed me, i kissed back a little reluctantly but thought what the hell a kiss is nbd. But then he started making miaowing noises "miaowww rrrrraow" at me to try to seduce me. I legged it out of there and called my best friend screaming w laughter. Never again a pity date.

dating-adventures · 2021-12-15T22:35:11+00:00

When I got to the first date, he was already sitting and had ordered for himself, and he asked me if I wanted to go order something for myself.

Edit: there was no second date

ceramicunicorn · 2021-12-16T01:15:19+00:00

Leaving shit laying around at the gym for other people to trip over and putting things in the wrong place because apparently reading numbers is hard. Usually weight plates. Usually the college age ones, but some of these men are middle aged. I’ve not seen one woman neglect to put things back in their spot.

LogisticBird · 2021-12-16T01:52:43+00:00

Any kind of baby-talk. I was on a dinner date and he looked at me with a blank face and said, “I’m hungie” 👶🏼

scorchedsouI · 2021-12-15T23:39:01+00:00

Fooling around and shouting like an idiot in the irritating way drunk young men do. It always reminds me of a pack of stupid barking dogs. Guys that act like this are no longer fuckable in my eyes.

plantmama104 · 2021-12-15T22:42:06+00:00

This guy I was talking to was telling me how he’s so attracted to my motivation and career goals. He proceeded to tell me about how “My friend’s wife works full-time so my friend can follow his dream.” Basically hinting that he wanted to be a stay-at-home-pot-head.

hashtaggoodvibesonly · 2021-12-15T22:06:34+00:00

Has a nest.

legoflowers · 2021-12-15T22:40:55+00:00

Long fingernails.

aquietsword · 2021-12-15T22:24:50+00:00

I don't give guys chances anymore, but back when I did the ick would always eventually show up when I realized that the guy I was dating was actually super unattractive.

AceTabby00 · 2021-12-15T21:55:59+00:00

Guys who care TOO much about "their" sports team. To the extent of yelling at the TV/radio over it/most of their wardrobe is xyz team wear. 😬

insurrectionaryINTJ · 2021-12-16T03:16:27+00:00

Playing devil's advocate in cases where it is clear that a woman was abused (Gaby Petito)

Changing the conversation when women's issues and the topic of feminism arises

Hyperfixating on other women's appearance in disproportion to their other qualities

Not taking initiative to make simple changes in their lives

Solid-Liquid · 2021-12-15T22:17:04+00:00

Men who hate on women who are happy in their relationships. Just unfriended a dude I dated a while back for reposting a video of a man surprising his gf with a trip and saying “she’s probably fucking other men while she’s with him!”

Quebeks · 2021-12-16T00:08:37+00:00

My ex used to wear long Johns, year round under his jeans. Like the same pair of them, in the middle of summer. He wouldn’t wash them regularly either. 🤮

RBGs-ghost · 2021-12-15T23:52:43+00:00

Men who can't be fucked to ask you a single question about yourself

cryptohobo · 2021-12-16T01:15:42+00:00

He gave me a $5 bill to hold onto then later asked for it back after I had paid for his coffee and bus fare. Instead of giving it back I wish I had taken the money out, mentioned the price of each expense, said “I think we’re even”, smiled and slipped it back in my pocket. This was a while ago, we weren’t even dating nor hooking up. I think of this story anytime I sense I’m holding back when someone is attempting to walk over me.

throwawaynevermindit · 2021-12-15T23:38:57+00:00

Out of nowhere he told me he wished an old lady tenant in his parents' rented out apartment would die so he could move in instead and have more space. Casual as you please.

Zauwra · 2021-12-15T23:04:39+00:00

Gym obsessed
Army obsessed
League of Legends obsessed😭

vikoala · 2021-12-16T00:14:51+00:00

I'm 6' tall. Nothing grosser than a short dude eyeing you up like a conquest. "I'd love to climb you"- actual quote.

Keepers12345 · 2021-12-16T02:44:15+00:00

I was digging this one guy after the first phone call.

The more he spoke, the less attractive he became.

Within a week and a half, my ick list was packed. Here are a few icks, but not all.

Pizza consumption & living on junk food: Within three conversations, twice he mentioned his plans to eat pizza tonight. Additionally, he told me that he doesn't eat healthy foods at all. Ugh. The fact that an adult would order pizza, and not care about eating healthy food was such a turnoff. To top it off, this man had a generous six-figure salary. He could literally afford Uber Eats or whatever sending him high-end healthy delicious restaurant meals, rather than eating like a 10-year old.
Shallow "hobbies": He likes to keep his motorcycle and cars detailed 24/7. On weekends, he likes to ride around in high-traffic touristy areas because his motorcycle is a "work of art that others appreciate." It's one thing to enjoy riding a motorcycle, and keep it in good condition. On the other hand, driving around to show off and get validation and compliments from strangers was such a turn off. What's the point? Who cares, seriously. His view on life screamed shallow.
Wants to skip dating & just get married (or maybe have sex first, and then decide if you're worth marrying?): Told me that he doesn't want to date. He jokingly proposed and came off so strong, after the first date! Like dude. He told me that it's not fair that he has to date someone, and the woman has to see that he's a good guy. He rather spend weekends working on his bike, then socializing and meeting women. Then, he told me that next, after dating for a while, you have to see if "your sexually compatible." I was like, "what? Isn't that easy?" He said, "there's a difference between sexually attracted and sexually compatible." Oh. Like, wtf is this guy into? So yea, his whining and creepy sexually compatible comment grossed me out.
Anger issues: On the date, while he was driving, he went on a long politically charged rant. You could tell that he was bottling up resentments. It's one thing to express frustration, but he was blaming people (actual people in his life, as well as politicians) for his sad disposition.
Neediness: No need to say more.

Hope that typing this out entertained someone!

I gave him a not interested in you text, then blocked, deleted, and went on my merry way :)

Fun_Sherbet · 2021-12-16T05:15:44+00:00

🤡Talked in a toddler voice

🤡Would suck on my tits like an actual baby EVERY TIME before sex (you see where this is going)

🤡Eventually admitted he wanted me to hold him like a mommy holds a baby.

I was so revolted. Even typing it out makes me want to vom 🤢

mattress-kings-third · 2021-12-15T22:37:13+00:00

... stains in their toiletbowl.

dancinqqq · 2021-12-16T00:47:19+00:00

The “oh I’ve cheated on women, but i would NEVER cheat on you”.

They never got a second date.

allofthebaconneggs · 2021-12-16T02:15:59+00:00

He looked down at me after he finished during sex and asked, "So.....Did I get ya?"

Like that was how he asked if I had an orgasm.

That was 4 years ago and I still cringe thinking about it. 😖

(Spoiler alert: no, I did not.)

_Amarantos · 2021-12-15T23:56:49+00:00

Any man above the age of 22 asking for my “snap”

2oatmeal_cookies · 2021-12-16T02:28:28+00:00

My 28 yr old ex didn’t like something I said once and proceeded to burst into tears, fall to the floor, and thrash for 20 minutes. I had no idea what to do so I walked into another room. When he stopped his tantrum, he asked me to give him my breast to suck on.

Dumped and sent on his way. He still tries to contact me and it’s been years.

What in the fuck?

_cnz_ · 2021-12-16T00:02:04+00:00

He said the word voluptuous to describe women. He was an early 20s GenZ guy, I was so confused and I wanted to 🤢🤮

I was going to study with another guy I just started seeing and he said he couldn’t come walk me over from my work to his place (a 10-15 min walk). He lived in one of the most dangerous cities in the US, I couldn’t believe it. I stopped talking him immediately

krissycole87 · 2021-12-16T00:33:06+00:00

This may seem super petty but I hardcore get the ick when a man cant use grammar, spelling, punctuation, or form sentances:

Example: "ey bb wan meet up les kick it...? "

No, Im sorry I must've mistaken because I believed I was speaking to an adult but clearly you are an 8 year old struggling through elementary english. Thanks.

Spittens · 2021-12-15T21:52:05+00:00

Men who stare at any particular part of my anatomy.

Men who don't listen to the first no.

Men who let their pants sag.

Men who look like their mom dresses them.

Men who put jalapeños or hot sauce on everything.

Men who litter.

poison_snacc · 2021-12-16T05:51:03+00:00

Ok here’s one. This is about my pornsick ex who I’ve mentioned in quite a few comments. So, he was learning how to make 3D & CGI graphics on the computer and was doing a pretty decent job for someone who’d never even drawn a picture before. One day he showed me a character he said he designed based on me. I’d actually already seen him working on the head/face, he’d carefully rendered a hyper-realistic version of me, the detail was similar to that in a lot of video games you see these days.

So I was like wow, that’s literally art of me, how cool! I used to model a bit so I have always enjoyed seeing art & pictures of me, because hey, who doesn’t want to feel like a muse!

Then he went ahead and zoomed out or clicked something so I could see the body. “My” body. Turned out not only had he actually been creating what is essentially 3D porn, the main star was ME, or at least an uncanny-valley version of me— completely nude, rendered in graphic and realistic detail, but the body was basically a toothpick with two massive breasts jutting out, each larger than my actual head.

I can’t describe in mere words how I felt at that moment. Yes it’s indescribable and not in a good way. Considering that I have average size breasts, I think I might have asked him, is this what you want me to look like? Is this what you’re attracted to? But I really don’t remember because I didn’t even care about that anymore.

All I can say for sure is that any remaining attraction I still had to this guy, who id dated on and off for years, was gone in a millisecond. It never came back. I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry at the time. I was just stunned. I never asked to see his “art” again. It took me months longer and a lot worse shit happening for me to finally get out of that situation. but I will never, ever forget that poor balloon-boob version of myself who was probably forced to star in a hell of a lot of bad CGI porn.

Edit- I need to mention that he had literally no idea why I was upset after seeing this monstrosity. Like, no clue whatsoever, and he tried to claim that’s just what he thinks I “actually” look like and that he didn’t think he did anything wrong 🤦🏼‍♀️ I SHIT YOU NOT.

saint-jezebel · 2021-12-15T22:41:41+00:00

Asked me to be 50/50.

Also, told me his mothers dream was that they had matching cars in different colors. Then you want to argue why I want a real man.

Softrito · 2021-12-15T23:28:20+00:00

Using me for therapy and having soft hands 😂

tinyoceankisses · 2021-12-16T00:44:13+00:00

He sprayed his cologne not only on his neck but also on his lower torso just above his dick...and was so smug about it. I still cringe hard over it to this day.

albahe12 · 2021-12-15T23:43:09+00:00

this one is gonna sound weird but men with very very low pain tolerance?

Like I remember one time my ex touched a hot pot handle that I had just come out of the oven and it's like the world collapsed. he was whining and wouldn't stop complaining the whoooole night. ( btw 5 minutes prior I had made the same mistake, yeah sure it hurt but I didn't even cross my mind to mention it, I just ran my hand in cold water for 20 seconds and moved on. didn't mention it to him). He never did any cooking at his home cuz mom was his private chef but anyone who cooks a lot knows that getting minor cuts/burns etc just happens.

anyways I remember getting the ick that one time and thinking, what a huge whining baby this guy was..

carlyraejessie · 2021-12-15T22:14:43+00:00

my ex always said “sammiches” or “sammich” instead of sandwich. 30 year old man. revolting.

also, he wore those old balance sneakers dads wear with bootcut jeans that were 2” too short. makes sense that his mom straight up told me i was too good for him at his birthday dinner 😂 glad i listened to her!

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-12-15T22:09:41+00:00

I had a little crush on this guy and then he wore socks with sandals 🤮

violettaj · 2021-12-16T00:42:25+00:00

Men who ghost and come back years later like I’m supposed to be waiting for them.

Men who don’t brush their teeth.

Men who are over-sexual, believe it or not, yet shame women.

lemonbird4971 · 2021-12-16T03:04:01+00:00

My older neighbor calling me a “healthy animal”

superheroxnerd · 2021-12-15T21:53:26+00:00

Used the 🙄 emoji at me (eyerolls are a sign of contempt) boy bye 👋

kumquat_fds · 2021-12-16T05:46:43+00:00

When we were at a mall, he threw a pretzel in the trash, changed his mind, then fished it out and ate it.

Oizys_Wanderer1021 · 2021-12-16T03:21:47+00:00

This entire thread makes me appreciate being single. Thank you 😊

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-12-16T00:30:40+00:00

Straight up started SOBBING so hard he was almost hyperventilating during a fight we were having because I apparently lied to him that his peepee was the biggest I've had when it wasn't. Just couldn't look at him the same anymore after that 😳

And they say women are emotional and illogical????

yoonbunny · 2021-12-16T00:07:36+00:00

I think this is something anyone would have an ick with but especially when men chew with their mouth open or chew/slurp loudly.

rando_avocado · 2021-12-15T22:24:02+00:00

--Guys that smell like garlic, onions, or are lacking in hygiene.

-- Sarcastic Men who claim they're funny by running their wives/gf's/ others down

-- Men who are anti-abortion, thinking they have a right to say over women's bodies.

-- Men who like to argue, Mansplain, or play devil's advocate.

--Mama's boys with a neckbeard nests and incels

fiftyspiders · 2021-12-15T23:28:11+00:00

our first time hanging out. he went out and bought a comforter and pillows. because he had none on his frameless bed. in the basement he lived in.

and he was 8 years older than me.

practicalwerewolf · 2021-12-15T22:58:31+00:00

He sang me "Crazy Rap" by Afroman which is a gross, sexist song about sleeping with a bunch of women from different ethnicities. He was 32. It was our 3rd date. When I brought up, he whined, "But you're supposed to accept me for who I am! 😢" Dude, I don't even know you yet!

The same guy also loudly talked about his ass to boob ratio preferences at a quiet, nice restaurant and was getting looks from staff and patrons... I called him out and said maybe he shouldn't talk about that so loud cause people are staring and he said he didn't care.

Another guy I went out with did the same thing. So embarrassing. Imagine if I started yelling about my "preferred" dick size. 😂

thenonblueone · 2021-12-16T00:58:17+00:00

He told me I was lucky that he was such a nice guy, because other men wouldn't put up with waiting so long for physical intimacy.. We had known each other for two months - ick

BiscuitWoof · 2021-12-16T00:37:16+00:00

Soo many:

🚩First date with a guy - he showed up late, in flip flops. His gross toes gave me so much ick, I will never forget that feeling lol. I was wearing a gorgeous summer dress and heels, with hair and makeup done. What a waste of effort

Also he ‘forgot’ to bring his wallet so I had to pay.

🚩Guy I was crushing on got a haircut jt looked awful I realised he was actually ugly lol

🚩Guy talked about how hot certain celebrities are to me, the girl he liked

🚩Guy modelled his work uniform for me (he worked at a supermarket) thinking he looked cool

🚩Guy made me travel to his campus for a first date he asked ME on

🚩Coffee first date (I know, I know better now lol), he told me to ‘go ahead’ and order first lol as if he was being gentlemanly, he just didn’t want to pay for a $3 coffee. Follow up date was McDonalds…

🚩Guy gave me an old necklace that was already rusting as a valentines gift

🚩Guy said my dog (who is adorable) looked creepy

🚩Guys who don’t like dogs

🚩Fat balding guys who are literally only in their early 20s and breathe heavily out of their mouths lol

🚩Guys who order the same dish when we go out every single time no matter what restaurant we go to (e.g. chicken tenders)

anotherdamnloser · 2021-12-16T01:29:17+00:00

Guys who are at a formal event and have a tie and jacket on, but are wearing everyday jeans that they likely wear to Walmart

Jandi18 · 2021-12-16T02:00:54+00:00

My ex husband showing me a condom and point to the bed…that was the last straw of all his crap. Divorce was filed few weeks later

butterflyfrenchfry · 2021-12-16T03:33:46+00:00

🚩 not respecting my personal space. If I need to be left alone, leave me the fuck alone

🚩 having no hobbies. If they don’t have any hobbies, they’re going to sit on their ass and do nothing but watch tv and play video games. Playing nerdy games with friends doesn’t count as a hobby (in my opinion)

🚩 small girly hands

🚩 men who make literally everything feel awkward.

🚩 beer bellies and dad bods 🤢

🚩 men who are not smart with their finances. If you have an extra $20k in your account and there’s a leak in your roof, you fix your goddamn roof, don’t blow your money on stupid shit. That’s your fucking house and black mold will grow if you don’t fix it.

🚩 and this is just my opinion because I’m 2 years sober- but I personally won’t date a guy who does drugs or gets drunk regularly. I can’t be around that shit. I’m beyond the party stages of my life and like it that way. Also, I can’t date a smoker. I quit smoking almost 4 years ago and now the smell literally makes me gag.

There are so many more things that bother me but I’ve been extremely irritable lately so maybe that’s part of it idk.

ar_tiny30 · 2021-12-16T03:34:25+00:00

I had a guy tell me on a first date (first date!! he couldn't even keep from showing his ass for one date!! 🤦🏻‍♀️) about how when he was younger, he wanted to name his dog "Syndrome" so that he could tell it to sit by saying "Down, Syndrome".

Instant ick.

I swear men just say words sometimes and don't have a single clue how they come across to other people. If that was him on his "best behaviour" while trying to get with me, I can't imagine what he'd be like after he actually gets a girl and stops putting in effort.

I could say many other things about that date alone (so much love bombing, he also made a cancer joke, had a "crazy" ex-girlfriend 🙄).

This was pre-FDS for me and I'm glad that even then I knew enough to see the red flag parade for what it was and drop him, but post-FDS, if I ever encounter a dude like that again, I'm just going to walk out, because that was such a waste of an afternoon-

jochi1543 · 2021-12-16T02:21:48+00:00

Lol this guy was bragging to me about how a teenage boy cut him off twice on the road, and said he followed the kid home and when the kid parked, he pulled him out of his car by his shirt collar “to teach him a lesson.” I was like, “Sure you meant you were THINKING about it, right? Hahahaha” he’s like “No, I actually did it.” Uhhh, ok, I’m good.

Boomyjo · 2021-12-16T03:14:50+00:00

This is petty but, I HATE seeing butt crack. Got the icks after the guy bent over to tie his shoe and his whole extraordinarily hairy butt crack was showing.

lucidlotus · 2021-12-15T22:58:57+00:00

Men who turn their head to the side to purse their lips and blow out a burp, supposedly so it doesn’t go toward the person in front of them…but it makes it more obvious (and gross).

fiftyspiders · 2021-12-15T23:31:40+00:00

oh additionally. when they playfully insult you. i think it’s so….. immature and annoying. especially if we don’t know each other well enough.

Ok-Discipline2398 · 2021-12-15T23:57:11+00:00

If he uses Snapchat as a main form of communication, and actively takes his Instagram seriously where he worries about his follower count. Weirdo vibes for sure

witts_end_confused · 2021-12-16T00:40:17+00:00

Nasty feet

Messy hair

Crossing his legs and then having them lay to the side (think Kate Middleton sitting down)

Saying his mom does it a different way

MostDivide7277 · 2021-12-16T01:03:19+00:00

When they get comfortable asking me super personal questions You would be surprised how many men ask me if I am a virgin 🤢

ilovewinniethepooh · 2021-12-16T06:54:04+00:00

Actively picking apart other women in front of me. Complete fucking strangers, and just voicing his opinion on their appearance, as if it was absolutely important enough to be voiced, and completely normal and okay to say so. I told him straight up it was unattractive and to shut the fuck up.

Oh, and he never commented on any men. I am so fucking embarrassed that I continued to go out with such a fucking spineless coward who thought that his opinions mattered so much in so many inappropriate situations. Believe me, it carried into other aspects of the relationship. His opinion was always so important and so necessary.

blackflowerx3 · 2021-12-16T03:05:52+00:00

He got out of my car and his pants fell down and I saw his buttcrack. That was after we'd gone out for Indian food for dinner and he thought good dinner conversation would be telling me about his digestive issues.

exhalefierceness · 2021-12-15T23:31:55+00:00

Saw his dirty finger nails and then he told me they’re even dirtier in the summer because he helps his dad out in construction 💀

pinsandtucks · 2021-12-15T22:18:41+00:00

Guys with overinflated self-esteem.

timefornewgods · 2021-12-15T22:47:33+00:00

Literally pouted after I said I wanted to go home (by myself) after dinner. I guess I should find that flattering or something but he looked and acted like a total child. Even funnier because he was bald so it gave "I'm Calliou."

Upper_Grapefruit_290 · 2021-12-15T22:57:17+00:00

Omg I have soooo many from my ex but he claimed to have a good sense of style while wearing a plaid button up shirt with basketball shorts and timberlands 😭😭😭

UnlikelyAcquaintance · 2021-12-16T03:37:43+00:00

Any guy who feels the need to make fun of people. Like, you know those boys in gym who make fun of a girl for trying to play basketball with them? Yeah, that’s the kinda vibe they give off, and it’s gross.

DiosaCordilia · 2021-12-16T00:49:08+00:00

I had a date with a guy and I was sitting in front of him. He was looking a bit down with his head and I could see the reducing hairline like x 100. The longer I stared the worse it got and I remember staring at him and thinking 'what in the actually fuck, you ugly as hell actually' 😭😭😭 it made me giggle but also nervous at the same time😭🤣

Also a guy (this is years ago) picked me up at my house, first off this guy was a idiot who thought he was funny. Well my mom literally stood behind me, HE GRABBED THE HAND OF MY MOTHER AND KISSED IT and said when we walked away 'I hope she will make it out alife 🤡🤡🤡' Never. Ever. Again. My mom was too shocked to say something back, she would now have punch them happily in the throat 🥰💜

heythereitsemily · 2021-12-16T00:42:32+00:00

Nagging and getting whiny in texts about my response rate and when we would see each other next. I end up watching their slow death through the texts while I continue to ignore them cause the ick is too strong.

Automatic_Bet_8932 · 2021-12-15T23:08:18+00:00

My ex had dandruff and when I complained about it he rubbed his head and fkn sprayed it on me in the car with no windows open

scf21078 · 2021-12-16T01:48:27+00:00

Immediately called his mother when he had to make a choice about anything😂

Ericaeatscarrots · 2021-12-16T02:21:39+00:00

coming out of the bathroom and not washing their hands

-ear hair

-hitting it rich quick mentality, no realistic plans for the future

-picky eaters. Grow TF up

-dirty pores

-dropping /breaking something and not picking it up

-heavy breathing /moaning

-bad teeth

-bad posture

-nasally voice

-glazed over eyes when attempting a conversation

saying “I hAve nO aSs HAR HAR” to justify their eternal plumbers crack and being unable to lift up their pants past their swollen beer bellies. On that note…

-swollen beer bellies

AmeliaEmiliaEmma · 2021-12-15T22:09:19+00:00

Used a lot of “ew” while talking. Everything was ew, but his unshaved armpits were not! To shave that would be GaY, and being gay is EW. I cannot stand hairy armpits.

ackeepingitcool · 2021-12-15T21:34:36+00:00

wearing bowling shoes is ick for me IM SORRY

lybid8 · 2021-12-15T23:02:10+00:00

So many things. Thinking they’re owed sex. Thinking they don’t need to work out or eat healthy. Thinking women should take Them on dates. Thinking a woman is Lucky to go through 9 months of hell to make their baby. Thinking it’s bizzare that women have physical preferences in men.

Savethebeez15 · 2021-12-15T23:48:51+00:00

Went to his house for the first time and his table was those white long plastic tables and one chair facing his sink.

pyaara_chhota · 2021-12-16T01:49:56+00:00

The first time I met his mother, I realized he spoke to us the same way. He would ask for favors in the same tone and then get huffy if I didn't comply fast enough. 100% man baby looking for another to mom him. ICK so fast I ended the relationship.

Educational_Sorbet_3 · 2021-12-16T02:39:47+00:00

I went on a date with this guy once to an escape room. Worst fucking idea ever. I was clueless to dating. This guy had braces and I was trying to resolve the riddles but he just wouldn’t leave my side and wasn’t even looking to escape like I did. Then he started like breathing in my face almost and I told him to stop and keep his distance the he tried to kiss me and I wasn’t even into him. There was no vibe or anything 🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮 his breath from the braces and his saliva whenever he talked. Fml .. I pushed him away and left the room and lost it on him.

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-12-16T07:55:32+00:00

Vanity. Too many selfies or shirtless pics on his social media.

Aurumpendragon · 2021-12-15T23:28:56+00:00

When we as a humanity is already at the age where information is easily accessible at the tip of your fingertips — but chooses to believe outdated and medieval beliefs that the earth is flat and vaccines are evil 😂 eww! I think scrotes are getting mad that more women are getting more competitive in arts and science that they choose to cling to the only time men were revered just for being men. 🥴

cnnorton · 2021-12-16T01:34:05+00:00

Wearing jordan’s

mar_of_hearts · 2021-12-16T02:35:55+00:00

A few years ago, I had a mentor (late 40s), who would talk to me about his sexual preferences. He would go on about how he had sex slaves, was into bdsm, etc. I was so young too, totally inappropriate how he thought that was a "fun" conversation to have. Luckily he quit a few weeks later so I didn't have to deal with him anymore.

BansheeCon · 2021-12-16T06:59:03+00:00

Sent me a (bad) topless photo - unprompted mind you - and wrote: "How could you be attracted to this?"

I never said that I was. 🙄 The same guy also had his friend message me off his phone and demand that I sleep with him. Even pick-me me knew to cut contact immediately.

archi-zen · 2021-12-15T22:40:45+00:00

on a date I asked him what he would go back to school for if he could study anything in the world...he said he would never go back to school. I dunno why but it gave me the ick. Like really? You wouldn't want to learn about ANYTHING?

Sudden_Connection180 · 2021-12-16T01:17:17+00:00

Deadbeat men 💀

scf21078 · 2021-12-16T01:51:22+00:00

I went on a first date with someone and as we were walking back to the car he crept up behind me and grabbed my hair and started aggressively sniffing it😳

ca-tn-al · 2021-12-16T02:02:46+00:00

I read through the answers and most of them sound like my LVM husband... 😭😱

DumbPhat · 2021-12-15T23:53:34+00:00

LOOOOL I’m glad you asked, here’s some I copy pasted from a note on my phone

Here’s a semi-complete list:

When he has holes in his socks Spitting in public When he has bad grammar When he speaks like a roadman Using a cheap umbrella that flips in the wind When he’s the ugly friend Eating with his mouth open If he doesn’t drive Baby talk Using too many emojis (really any at all) Bad manners Lies about his height if he smokes cigarettes and he’s not European Walks slower than me Rude to his mom Can’t do laundry Repeating jokes or repeating himself A MULLET Dry lips or dried toothpaste on his face he’s controlling Wears flip flops When he sleeps late into the day Sweats at night Only has 1 pillow bad hygiene Says he can’t cook has a moustache Wears sliders When he’s too serious When his towels are scratchy If he has the blue plaid bedspread Uses his phone too much Sells drugs Punches the wall when he’s angry Wears sweatpants out of the house When he’s bald When he asks for your Snapchat only listens to grime When he Doesn’t smell nice When he’s aggressive

ruubytuesday · 2021-12-15T22:49:31+00:00

He was eating doritos and when there were only crumbs left in the bag, he poured the crumbs from the bag into his mouth

cmj87 · 2021-12-16T02:03:07+00:00

Recently an young man that I kept turning down, who is in the same friend circle as me, deleted me off of his Facebook. When I asked him why, bc actually in my head we had grown to become close friends, he told people I was “crazy” for asking. I only asked because I know he has a history of mental health issues & he seemed to be acting erratically. So because I led myself to believe we were “friends” I wanted to see if he was ok. So after a hour of that abuse, in a closed Facebook group with mutual friends I let it go. Then he followed me around in this group calling me insane & he got one of his friends that is a woman to do the same to me. Tagging me in posts calling me insane, making up lies about me.

This is just the craziest thing that has happened recently. I believe it’s because when he asked me out I gently kept turning him down but it seems as if he made himself believe I would send him nudes. I haven’t even sent nudes to the guy I have been dating on & off online since 2019. So he deluded himself then exploded bc he couldn’t control me. Extremely sick behavior, but seems common among men online.

rhi_ni · 2021-12-15T23:34:24+00:00

He tried to get the attention of a bar man after waiting for ages and was ignored, some other guy walked up and got their attention straight away. There was no coming back.

woadsky · 2021-12-16T07:20:18+00:00

He kissed by literally sticking his tongue out so our tongues were touching and moving but lips weren't touching. It was so ick. I went along with it because I froze and didn't know how to decline. Ugh. He was a nice guy but I don't understand the kiss.

PenelopePitstop21 · 2021-12-16T09:02:46+00:00

Saw the (good looking, well-groomed) guy through a window, he was picking his nose and out came a long strand of mucous connecting nose to finger.

It even became a joke for a while in our circle - a good looking guy with a big character flaw would be described as a 'stringy bogey guy' lol.

the-worst- · 2021-12-16T11:09:25+00:00

Being on his phone the entire date

Not responding to a question or paying attention to the conversation.

Talking about his ex in any form.

One date I aborted before it started... he literally wanted me to confirm over text that I would screw him after dinner, on our first date, even though I made it clear I was living with my mom and she and I shared a room... he threw a mantrum, again over text, about how he "has the body of a God" and that "you should be GLAD I want to fuck a fat pig like you!" .... never ran from a date so fast before.

Another literally told me that "when you get in shape, message me and send me a picture." And basically said I shouldn't talk to him until then.

Mansplaining anything that I just talked extensively on, especially if he was rejecting the concept entirely just a moment ago, or is just regurgitating what i said, just trying to frame it as correcting me or something.

Old fashioned beliefs like "men shouldn't do any housework or childcare because they earn money for the woman to stay home" like... over 50% of households have both partners working, and who knows how many of the ~45% are the woman being the only one who wroks...

Any indication that he thinks periods "aren't that bad" or that pregnancy is way easier than women make it out to be, or putting down mothers/single mothers as a collective. Putting women down in general.

Wanting me to call them daddy, especially if I already told them my dad died when I was a preteen.

Playing devils advocate on human rights issues, or health issues. I.e. arguing against vaccines for the hell of it.

Being so insecure that he "needs" me to be on the phone with him every second of free time I have.

Playing down any struggle I describe having "pffft AdHd IsNt ThAt BaD!" Especially if he is nerodivergent too.

Talking about himself way too much, not bothering to learn anything about me.

Pointing out my weight or other physical traits as if I don't have eyes.

Treating me like I'm a 2 yo who has no sense of common knowledge.

Saying I'm different from other girls. 1. I am a woman, not a girl and 2. Putting other women down isn't the building me up you think it is, bub.

Referring to women as females or girls.

Defending any man, no matter how blatently inhumane or evil he is.

Any sort of racist remarks, based on the assumption that because I'm white i must be racist too.

Saying I look better in person than in my photos. Like dude, quit lying. My pfps are carefully picked, and some I have edited to improve my looks... not like facetune, but bumping up the contrast a bit so my red cheeks and blue eyes stand out.

Most of these are from my online dating days, which I dropped. I had recently went onto a site I used to frequent to see what the scene has been like, and it has only gotten worse.

rustedchains- · 2021-12-16T00:39:12+00:00

I know this one is mentioned a lot here but going 50/50 on a date. It's cheap af and I lose attraction instantly. I felt this way even before I found fds!

InjuryOnly4775 · 2021-12-16T06:55:21+00:00

I had a third date with a guy who insisted on cooking for me. He was just ‘learning’ new recipes (learning to cook-as a mid 40s man, abandoned by his last girlfriend mommy). He sat me down at the table and I painfully watched him pull ziploc baggies out of the fridge with everything pre measured and cut for the stir fry recipe down to the last sad little carrot. I was so horrified by the neurosis behind this I could barely eat. Lastly he added a fried egg, which I am intolerant to, but he had to add because ‘the recipe said’. The bits of egg were too small to pick out so I was on the toilet for the next 2 days, where from I happily sent him a text saying, it’s not me, it’s you. LOL

eleguagirl · 2021-12-16T01:09:45+00:00

Hemorrhoids

NeighborhoodSudden45 · 2021-12-16T01:37:44+00:00

When I denied his advances to hang out, he texted me “Is it because I’m ugly?”. Now mind you, I didn’t think he was attractive but I wouldn’t say ugly neither. But when he said that, I literally felt repulsed by him.

hiinu87 · 2021-12-15T23:51:30+00:00

When guys do that "cutesy" "precious" thing. Ick. Why are you trying to be cute right now?!

Usual-Vegetable-3638 · 2021-12-16T07:36:12+00:00

When my causin said that all women who are 30 above are menopause, when he himself is 34. Never thought that even my causin is a scrote too. I'm so disappointed in him, didn't even gifted something to his own mother on her birthday. I warned my mom's friend not to be with him. He also has daddy issues and vices. Edit: added men who have vices.

sculderandmullie · 2021-12-16T11:45:03+00:00

I guy I dated for a couple of weeks was always complimenting me on my looks, how beautiful he thinks I was. All was ok, until he mentioned I was the number #2 most beautiful woman in the world, because #1 was reserved for Ana De Armas. We were literally having pillow talk after sex when he said that. He also had ED during that. He was shocked when I stopped dating him LOL.

purasangria · 2021-12-16T05:50:37+00:00

My ex used to say things that sounded vaguely gay, like, if he and another man liked the same hobby, he'd say something dumb like, "Oh, you're a man after my own heart."

I'm like, WTF, why would a man be after your heart. STFU with that. He was so fucking awkward, it totally gave me the ick.

disgustingvirgo · 2021-12-15T22:52:36+00:00

My ex and I went to a beach in Mexico and he wore swimming goggles... i swear it made me stop loving him 💀

Maleficent-Brief-178 · 2021-12-15T22:52:49+00:00

Refusing to shave because it looks better natural but really there just lazy 🤮

tuesmoiencore · 2021-12-16T03:45:35+00:00

When a man smells bad (bad breath, sweaty or smelly armpits or feet). Or bad hygiene in general.

Smell is my only pet peeve - yet it often feels like asking them to NOT stink all the time is too much to ask. Is this REALLY such a high standard to have?

Like, yes I understand that people can sweat more than others, which is fine, but we're also adults. Know your body and deal with it, like the rest of us do.

Hortensia78 · 2021-12-16T10:11:43+00:00

When he could not accept the fact that another co-worker was considered attractive by all the women in the office. Telling me this guy "looks old for his age". It's hard to respect someone who can't accept cold hard facts, and who dismisses the point of view of 100% of women.

aoi4eg · 2021-12-16T10:46:37+00:00

Idk how your post unlocked this memory, but I used to date a dude who randomly pantomimed that there's a giant robot nearby. Like, he made "robot" sounds, heavy stumps sounds and pretended to shake as if the ground around us is shaking because something big is approaching. He did like 3-4 times before we broke up (surprisingly, for a different reason) and if you think we were kids at a time, nope, he was 24.

Title	What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?
Author	iggypiggyfiggy
Upvotes	356
Comments	304
Date	December 15, 2021 9:31 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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