I see comments from men like “it’s dating apps fault!” And “women are just too picky nowadays”. “Women have too many options”.

As a woman, dating apps absolutely do contribute towards hookup culture.

HOWEVER, the reason we have become a lot more selective with the men we choose is because societal norms have completely changed since our grandparents generation.

Speaking to my grandma recently, in the 1950’s and 60’s all you needed as a man was a decent job to attract a wife. That’s it. As long as you had gainful employment and could play the provider role, that was basically the only requirement needed for a woman to settle down.

Today, we have our own careers. We graduate university at higher rates than men do. We own property. We pay our own rent. We pay our own bills.

“Having an ok job to pay for your wife or girlfriend” is no longer impressive, it is now considered the bare minimum.

And with the rise of discussion around mental health, women seek men who are emotional providers. Are you emotionally mature?

Will you actually listen when we speak? Are you an engaging conversationalist? Are you funny? Do you have a hobby or passion outside of work? Have you processed your trauma in order to avoid dumping it on me? Are you self-aware? Do you love children and will be a good father to my kids? Will you treat me as an equal? Are you loyal?

With the rise of the independence of women, we no longer NEED men to exist financially. It used to be that a divorced woman was shunned by society, and had the potential to be beaten, threatened, or in poverty if she left. That is simply not the case in 2023.

Women are not bound to men for survival. If you have nothing to offer that we don’t already offer ourselves, that’s likely the reason you’re single!

Ask yourselves “what do I bring to the table?”