Why do women intentionally sexualise themselves at the gym? Do the men feel uncomfortable as a result?

HemluckMcGee · 2022-01-06T18:56:20+00:00

I mean I can only comment on the sports bra part, but for me it’s because I hate sweating, especially with more layers on. I will say tho that the ones I wore covered up all cleavage. And I would wear normal leggings as I’ve got bigger thighs and shorts would ride up and make my inner thighs chafe

whatdidshewrite · 2022-01-06T19:29:18+00:00

Im a man; i wear tight shirts to enjoy the pump I get in the gym. I’d imagine the same applies to women

CursedLemon · 2022-01-06T18:55:29+00:00

I'm seeing a lot of answers here but none that hit on what the actual reason probably is: conformity

That's just how girls dress in the gym.

Slipthe · 2022-01-06T17:41:56+00:00

The women probably like staring at themselves. I know I check myself out in the mirror.

It's absolutely motivation to practice form and work harder if you think you look curvaceous as shit.

They wear that tight shit to look at their own asses in the mirror and to take those selfies later.

CuriousLiLPickle · 2022-01-06T18:14:09+00:00

Fair question. I purchased a pair of the butt scrunch leggings and although I have only worn them once, I do want to feel like I have the option wear an outfit I feel attractive in. I hate feeling like I’m meek. The gym gives me so much anxiety, looking dumb as a person learning machines and workouts, and as a woman. I do prefer to wear hoodies and layers, I don’t want to be stared at. But I also would like to feel like I don’t have to wear baggy clothes. It’s my thoughts at least.

TotalTravesty · 2022-01-06T17:34:59+00:00

Male here. My apartment building has a smallish private gym but also a lot of 20-something gym-goers wearing exactly what you describe. So I obviously notice but I can’t really be bothered with it because I’m so goddamn out of breath from HIIT that I can’t think straight, let along gawk at them.

Now, cards on the table, I’m a fan of the look because again: male here. But even if I weren’t focused on my workouts I’m not going to make myself look like a creep by ogling them or anything. I’m an adult after all! And at the end of the day, if you have such hot takes on what other people do at the gym then you’re not working hard enough.

Vtridolla · 2022-01-06T17:52:28+00:00

Most women I know do butt exercises or thighs/legs. Might just be the same reason us men wear tank tops/ sleeveless shirts. To look at our arms for the aesthetic.

I’m never uncomfortable with whatever women got going on. Do what you do. I just mind my business get my workout in and get out. Also as someone who dates women who are bodacious sometimes you just can’t help it. Like anything they put on thangs gon be thangin’.

Talking to this girl right now who’s ass is just big af for no reason. Small waist little titties just ass big aaaaf. She literally wears anything and it’s just poking. She wore these loose jeans the other day and they fit her ass like leggings.

quabbicoo · 2022-01-06T17:38:14+00:00

I’m probably a good candidate to answer this question.

I wear leggings, shorts, and sports bras. I can’t tell you the last time I wore a shirt over my sports bra while at the gym. Sometimes I wear leggings with butt contour - they’re trendy and I like them.

I usually don’t take my daily make up off just to go to the gym; I change and go. So I usually at least have mascara on.

I don’t view the way I dress as sexualizing myself any more than men who wear tight t-shirts or skimpy muscle tank tops drawing attention to their chests. When you work hard for your body, you like to show it off.

I’ve never been sexually harassed at the gym either. It’s very standard in my gym for women to dress similarly. Men look & glance, I also look & glance at other people because humans are curious and I’m adult enough to assume that people aren’t being perverted.

CatchPhraze · 2022-01-06T19:15:03+00:00

When I feel I look my best, it gives me the confidence to take on things I find intimidating. Like going to a gym where I'll be working out in public, something I'm loathe to do. Looking nice while working out gives me a kind of armor, it makes me feel more able to socialize if I need to. I'm more comfortable looking good and feeling good about myself then otherwise. Believe it or not that's my "comfort zone". I dont much think of it while I'm at the gym, it's sort of a self-hype thing before I go.

I'm sorry you don't like it, but I don't think it hurts anyone. In fact, if you spent more time on what makes you feel good instead of judging everyone else and coming up with made up reasons in your head, you might have a better time at the gym.

pokemin49 · 2022-01-06T19:49:07+00:00

The worst is how they ogle you at the gym. I'm not a piece of meat, ladies.

WilliamWyattD · 2022-01-06T22:40:13+00:00

Ultimately, it is about male attention. But one needs to be a bit more sophisticated than thinking it means they want to be stared at by any men, or by men at that particular time.

The more reactive nature of female sexuality combined with the visually objective nature of male sexuality creates a kind of overall sexual gestalt in which women feel better if they know they look good. So while this originates in direct male sexual appreciation, over time the dynamic transcends being directly appreciated at any given moment or not. It's now just encoded into female psychology. Women feel better when they think they look good, even if they are pretty sure no man they care about is going to see them. Hell, even if nobody is going to see them.

This is also why women wear makeup to work or dress nicely etc. Yes, it is rooted in sex, but does not mean she is hoping to be sexualized at that time.

KingWhoCared86 · 2022-01-06T17:33:35+00:00

Not sure the answer to the first question but the answer to the second question is yes. We use the mirrors all around the gym to catch a few glances.

nikki1810 · 2022-01-06T19:00:05+00:00

I feel like people that post these types of questions are really sexually driven, and assume everyone around them is too.

DarkSp3ctre · 2022-01-06T18:17:18+00:00

I don’t think they’re trying to sexualize themselves it’s just workout clothes.

KFC_Fleshlight · 2022-01-06T21:30:41+00:00

pick me, choose me, other girls are whores.

your first instinct is to say that the other girls are pick me’s but if you do some self reflection you’ll realise that maybe you are too.

OneDumbPony · 2022-01-06T17:50:29+00:00

Why do men like to be shirtless in gyms? They wear hardly any clothes and take care to cut their facial hair nicely so they seem presentable. They're obviously sexualizing themselves and are attention wh*res, do women feel uncomfortable as a result of this? /s

In all seriousness, it's still unacceptable for women to look unkempt and sweaty, even at a gym where you're working out. Leggings that seems to draw attention to butts are also really comfortable and were mandatory in a dance class I took (because they're easy to move in).

ProjectEngPro · 2022-01-06T17:34:04+00:00

They do it because it's a place with lots of young in-shape men.

It doesn't make me uncomfortable, some eye candy inbetween sets.

Although when I hear women complain about men looking at them in the gym... I'd say why you dress like that then.

ManzBearzPigzIzRealz · 2022-01-06T18:55:53+00:00

You are judging them and that’s perfectly fine.

GridReXX · 2022-01-06T21:39:07+00:00

I mean if I’m being honest when I’m working out I want to see my form — isn’t that the point when trying to isolate certain areas? I want to see my stomach contract. I want to see my glutes and my hamstring. I want to see my triceps. I want to assess my form as I’m going through the exercises.

This means likely wearing workout tights/shorts and a tank. And if I get hot/sweaty I take off the tank and rock the sports bra.

Other humans “sexualizing” me is on them.

John_Oakman · 2022-01-06T18:00:14+00:00

LVMs need to realize that women are dressing that way for real men and not them, and thus divert their gaze away accordingly.

TomorrowsWar · 2022-01-06T19:11:07+00:00

Looking good makes me feel good. I don’t care if someone thinks that’s vain. I don’t gawk at hot guys in the gym. I expect the same courtesy. I have no problems reporting men who make women feel uncomfortable and no issue confronting anyone being an ass at the gym. I’m not going to chastise someone for looking in my direction, even when I go into the gym looking like I’ve escaped Guantanamo. Don’t be a weirdo and we can all be happy.

Slootando · 2022-01-06T17:35:53+00:00

By their revealed preferences, many women rather enjoy being sex objects, attention-whoring, and courting the male gaze.

simeneta_two · 2022-01-06T18:40:49+00:00

Because the gym is full of hot fit men and they want the attention
Because they’re hot and sweaty and wearing less clothes helps.
Because it can be hard to avoid womens gym clothes that aren’t sexualizing. I don’t know what “butt scrunch leggings” are but most leggings made for women will show off your ass and thighs even if that wasn’t your intention. And I don’t really see sweatpants or joggers that are sweat wicking.

MsQueenofDanger · 2022-01-06T20:00:16+00:00

Because that's the most comfortable clothing for lifting. I can also see if I am performing my excersices correctly and the clothing feels like second skin that doesn't get in the way. I also do like the way I look and want to show off the results of my hard work at the gym! It has nothing to do with attracting men or their opinions of me.

LalaTheSecond · 2022-01-06T17:39:02+00:00

Not me, my hobby is listening to Jack's Mannequin while silently crying on the treadmill. So far no takers.

backcourtjester · 2022-01-06T18:33:06+00:00

Some women will just look that way in literally anything apart from a muumuu. My girlfriend has to wear pants 3 sizes too big to look like she isn’t trying to show off her ass and its not fun for her. When you work out, you need range of motion and right now women’s fashion is behind on that. Unless you’re within a pretty specific body ratio, most things will make you look frumpy or slutty

Obviously this is not the case for all women and some of them are putting it in the shop window so to speak. I live in a pretty vain city and the dudes are doing this too. You’re working out in a spot with great lighting and mirrors, why wouldn’t you show it off a bit?

Any man who is uncomfortable with this is too immature to matter. Of course we notice and its on us to remain respectful and disciplined. No person ever deserves to be sexually harassed regardless of their attire and if you (not specifically you) can’t concentrate on your workout because pretty girls are around, get some equipment for your home

throwawaylessons103 · 2022-01-06T17:41:34+00:00

I wear those butt leggings to the gym.

They're really comfy and make my ass look fantastic.

I don't care if men look. I'm probably looking at them too if they're hot and wearing something revealing.

Yes, we like attention.

thetruthishere_ · 2022-01-06T19:43:45+00:00

Attention seeking.

I wear baggy clothes as I dont want to be looked at, I just want to workout and go. LOL

MrIrishman1212 · 2022-01-06T19:53:43+00:00

I mean guys do the same thing: tank tops, short shorts, those muscle shirts that are so lose and sides so cut you can see their nipples, just shirtless (beach gyms), and and also booty tight leggings that also can be tight around bulge (little different from woman leggings).

The gym culture tends to be more vain focused (not saying all gym people and culture are vain but an area that vanity is easily attracted to reside).

I would also argue that workout clothing has now been heavily marketed to be super tight, booty contouring leggings and sport bras. Just go to lulu lemon or even a Nike store and look at their advertisements and mannequins.

Also there has been a huge surge of Instagram modeling and insta gym people that have been heavily focused throughout different platforms.

Now imagine a person who tries to buy some workout cloths who has never worked out. They want something comfy and looks good, subconsciously they think of all the gym insta photos they have seen, they go to the store and see all the different models and ads with the described clothing, you are pretty inclined to buy the exact style of clothing unless you had already a pre-determined outfit you had in mind. Even as I guy I don’t like workout in athletic sweats but have started wearing them a little more cause some guys make dem athletic sweats look good.

mistresswhat · 2022-01-06T20:01:52+00:00

When I work out at home by myself I wear a sports bra and tiny booty shorts because it's comfortable. Sometimes a full face of makeup because I already put it on and there's no reason to take it off.

I'm guessing women at the gym have similar reasons.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-06T21:53:29+00:00

Obviously because they hate sex and hate getting attention from men and other women. Duh!

QuebecMadonna · 2022-01-06T23:47:10+00:00

Just live and let live. Simple as that. Most of the time those women are dressing for themselves and take pictures. Look at their soshul meejas, you’ll see the same booty shorts.

Mysterious-Session-2 · 2022-01-07T01:56:15+00:00

Women will still wear exactly the same in an all women gym. So……

globalholiday5090 · 2022-01-07T05:07:39+00:00

a certain type of outfit does not equate to sexualizing. its just an outfit. worry about urself its truly not that deep. maybe u should wear a full burkha

Baenerys_ · 2022-01-07T05:27:37+00:00

I don’t think I’ll ever understand how people care so much about what another person puts on their body.

themagnificentfaust · 2022-01-07T07:22:06+00:00

Well, going out there and doing sports is difficult for many people. If putting make up on or wearing tight clothes gives them the confidence to go to gym. Thats their choice and you shouldnt think much into it and sexualise women.

Even in women-only gym, women dress like that. Its not for the eyes of men.

ffandyy · 2022-01-07T13:51:09+00:00

Yes most the tile it’s ignorable but sometimes it’s so blatant that’s really annoying. They make it worse for all the women that try and avoid being looked at whilst at gym also.

lissssa-13 · 2022-01-07T23:57:13+00:00

Some women are taking photos and posting videos and trying to be influencers. Some are just wearing what they want and what looks good on them (in their opinion) because they like looking good.

This is kind of like asking why all guys grunt and make noise when they lift. First off, they don’t. And those that do, ya some are making a scene because they want attention, but the vast majority and just doing their own thing and don’t care / notice if you look at them.

Pinkbbee · 2022-01-06T22:27:44+00:00

If you’re not doing what the other woman are doing..then well it’s not ALL woman. Please you sound like a pick me right now, re-evaluate why you feel this way. Because in all honesty, these woman are just comfortable with their body and like what they do with it.

Sekina7 · 2022-01-06T18:51:17+00:00

Why are you so bothered? Why not admit your real issue ; insecurity and probably a flat butt. But you’re to cowardly to admit that so now you’re feigning concern for men. Do you know how dangerous your male identified mind set is ? Women wearing a tight dress and she is naturally curvy = slut who is asking for it.

NEWSFLASH , men sexualise and sexually assault women covered head to toe , like in in muslim dress For example or SCHOOL GIRLS. Just say you feel insecure and inadequate and keep it moving because the men you’re “defending” cheat on fake virtue signalling but male identified women like you , whilst insisting you go 50/50 and use their 50% to shoot their shot with the same hot gym women you resent And are protecting the poor men from 😂😂😂🙄

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-01-06T18:12:31+00:00

I have no idea what a "butt scrunch" is. I wear whatever is comfortable, although it usually also has to double as acceptable clothing since I run errands after. And I usually go to the gym after work, so of course I'll have makeup on.

Gari_305 · 2022-01-06T19:17:29+00:00

To the men - does this make you uncomfortable? Do you notice when women dress this way at the gym?

Yes I notice women dressing like that, it's just typical gym thot behavior . As for me feling uncomfortable, nah it's actually pretty funny, like watching national geographic the human version during mating season when other dudes tries to run game and either get yelled at or the fights (arguments or physical) break out between guys in determining who one of the guys will talk to her only for her to reject both.

As long as the dude, don't let it ruin his focus in working out, it isn't a problem honestly.

themostgianthorse · 2022-01-06T17:40:33+00:00

Attention is the coin of the realm

razormachine · 2022-01-06T17:37:26+00:00

I'm going to answer this, because good luck getting an honest response from women who do that. For that sweet, validating attention.
I do notice, usually it doesn't make me uncomfortable... I do take notice but I do not stand there and stare at their butts. Sometimes it can be uncomfortable though... half transparent joga pants and black thongs are... might as well open an OnlyFans account.

Shredddz · 2022-01-06T18:06:04+00:00

the whole reason these women are at the gym is to get attention and validation. Its a narcissistic ego trip. they just pretend to work out. they are just fishing for stares to pump up their fragile fake egos

Salt_Mathematician24 · 2022-01-06T18:48:25+00:00

Tbh I'd put it mostly to womens clothing being tighter and more revealing in general, cooler for when you start sweating and general unconcious influence by media celebs and fashion.

tonyghow · 2022-01-06T18:58:27+00:00

Because women are always putting themselves on display to attempt to find the next best suitor.
I notice. Not uncomfortable. I see it everywhere, especially in places where women don't need to show off their assets, like grocery stores, the DMV, post office, etc...

Women's answer will likely be, "I do it for myself! Not for men!" But that would be a lie.

One observational proof is couples working out together. The woman is not all made up and preening herself all over the gym floor. They do their set and peck each other on the lips every few minutes without looking at themselves in the mirror. This would imply that the solo women are doing it for show.

Zerofication · 2022-01-06T17:55:07+00:00

Females throughout their lives rely on instinctive behavior far more than rational behavior, and it's only from the perspective of a minority of females, who are capable of rational thinking on a level equivalent to males, such behaviors sometimes appear to be counterproductive or even contradictory.

Ok_Room1213 · 2022-01-06T17:59:29+00:00

Need to stare at something during sets and a booty in tight yoga pants is a great view. Keep doing your thing ladies.

lulll · 2022-01-06T18:18:40+00:00

they want attention in all forms. they want attention from men they like and they want to shit on the attention they get from men they hate, in the end its all attention. i think a lot of them won't admit it but they get a lot of satisfaction out of calling some guy a creep just for looking at her ass or something, despite her dressing to show it all off. its some power game with them

cykasenpai · 2022-01-06T23:56:19+00:00

Yeah I always found it distracting. Guy's sensitivity to sexual provocation is on a spectrum and I am more sensitive than the average guy. Tbh it's fine if a woman is sexually provocative as long as she accepts you staring at her or teasing her or chatting to her. What I don't like is when women put on the tightest yoga pants you could imagine and then actively shame men for being sexually provoked into looking at or talking to her.

I know it's a fine line between when a woman should or should not expect sexual attention (a burka is fine, a baggy hoodie and pants is fine, underwear is not fine, a short skirt and crop top is not fine... but are shorts fine...? well depends on tightness, length, etc.) and what responsibilities men have to "contain" themselves. It's a balance. Today's culture seems to completely disregard the male perspective, however, and assume that a woman can almost literally come to the gym in lingerie and she would still be in the right if a man stared at her in a way she perceived to be uncomfortable.

LaxDawg11 · 2022-01-06T18:35:04+00:00

I think you have many different kinds of gym goers so I’m not putting everyone in the same category here. But for many people, the gym is a gas station for narcissism fuel. They go to the gym to work out, yeah. But the real objective is you put your body on display and see what kind of reactions you can get.

And to be honest, it’s way easier for girls to achieve the ideal physique through working out than it is for guys—to be a sought after “fit chick” all you have to do is do your squats for a few months and develop your ass. Once you have an ass, you know you can wear the scrunchy ass leggings to the gym and get anyone’s attention. I see it happen all the time—at my gym it’s most often middle aged women going through midlife crisis. They come in wearing extremely small leggings and bras and they try to see who’s attention they can feed off of today.

I really wouldn’t have a problem for this if most women weren’t so “don’t fucking look at me or talk to me in the gym”. You come to the gym with highlighter colored leggings wedged up your ass and then you talk about how shitty men are for not respecting you and your space. Until the right guy decides to give you attention at the gym and then it’s okay if he does it.

“Women make rules if they don’t like you and they make exceptions when they do”

Aphor1st · 2022-01-06T23:55:16+00:00

Let’s stop judging women by what they wear. Your worth as a person is not tied to your clothing choices.

Wear whatever you want at any establishment. Burn the patriarchy and your bra.

FancyCocktailOlive · 2022-01-06T17:39:29+00:00

Why? Because women are taught by society that we have to look hot all the time.

goatismycopilot · 2022-01-06T23:00:15+00:00

The OP has too much free time and apparently her new hobby is not being like other women.

I go to the gym. I don't care what other women are wearing.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-01-06T17:54:01+00:00

I notice if the ass is really fat but for the most part it’s a turn off because it screams massive attention seeker.

Sultmaker_9000 · 2022-01-06T17:57:56+00:00

Not sure why the gym is relevant, women use any excuse to get their baps on display, how did Halloween become how it is now so randomly?

wtknight · 2022-01-06T18:03:47+00:00

does this make you uncomfortable? Do you notice when women dress this way at the gym?

Nope. I enjoy it. Although if I were single, I’d likely never date this type of woman. I like women who are more modest in public.

Siukslinis_acc · 2022-01-06T18:07:06+00:00

Because they want to attract the men working out there?

Tight clothing might be more comfortable as they would stop the flabby parts from flabbing around and the clothes themselves would not catch on something.

betabucks666 · 2022-01-06T18:11:04+00:00

Yeah, it's like ''oh be careful not to look at the dumb girl with the yoga pants doing hip thrusts'' or she'll write a twitlonger

Shredddz · 2022-01-06T18:17:39+00:00

I as a man do not feel uncomfortable. It makes working out way more fun, especially because I know they are impressed by my physique. I like them looking at me and feeling unfit and out of shape in their perfectly fine bodies. Its the place were they naturally are weak and insecure. Id never go to a gym without these kinds of women. the more attention seekers the better, because the more they will look and give me the same superficial attention that they are looking for. you don’t even need to be that good looking. the physique in itself makes them feel insignificant and humbled and makes them look up to you.

NockerJoe · 2022-01-06T18:31:48+00:00

By my observation, the most popular workoutd for women generally emphasize the hips and glutes. I see women mostly doing squats and deadlifts. My gym also has a womens only area so if women want to do their thing without men its always been easy and convenient to do it.

The end result is when you see a woman in the shared space doing something other than cardio like 80% of the time she's wearing skintight shorts and a fairly small haltertop or something pretty similar and doing a bunch of ass building exercises. The whole thing kinda has to be intentional in that sense because a lot of them are obviously showing way more skin than they otherwise would and going to the parts of the gym men work in, even if its theoretically less convenient for them.

Theres an unspoken rule of gym etiquette that men just kinda never address it directly. If you do, she may stop and you don't get to see the eye candy. If you act like a creep, same result. Rubbernecking is easy given the walls are lined with mirrors all over the place but gawking is a faux pas.

I would say its the same thing as gym bros who wear tops that show off a lot of the chest or really tight or revealing pants/shorts as well. They're hot. They know it. You know it. They work hard to be that hot and they want to show it off.

NotGoingoutofMW · 2022-01-06T18:34:28+00:00

First hand information from my girlfriend who is doing extact the same thing.

At first she wanted to feel sexy for herself and look at herself in the mirror and being proud (she was overweight in her teens).

Then she loved the attention from guys and girls which helped her getting FWBs, she loves sex and also has a little bit higher N-Count. I think at some point it became just a habit.

drew8311 · 2022-01-06T20:13:47+00:00

Male here

Nope not at all
Of course I notice, literally spend half my time looking. Need to rest between sets

fdslied2U · 2022-01-07T04:11:15+00:00

Men always notice this and i wouldnt say it makes us uncomfortable. More so annoyed, like youre obviously seeking attention but if i look in your direction for a few seconds ill end up on some girl power confrontation tiktok. I honestly think women and men should have separate gyms like back in the 1950s

YoDaddy1069 · 2022-01-07T05:52:57+00:00

I view it exactly the same as when girls post photos on social media that is clearly showing off their boobs and/or ass. The response is always “WE dOn’T dO iT FOr yOU, wE dO iT fOr oURsElVes”.

As a result women expect us to play this stupid game where they’re clearly whoring for attention but pretend like they don’t know what they’re doing and also simultaneously expect us guys to pretend like we don’t know what they’re doing as well. It’s insanely obnoxious and extremely unattractive. I could never date a girl who acts like that

littleseraphim1 · 2022-01-07T06:21:51+00:00

The real question here is, why are you focusing on what other women are doing and wearing at the gym when you should be focusing on your workout?

AreOut · 2022-01-06T18:22:13+00:00

low self-esteem so looking for any way to raise it

AnonymousAndy2018 · 2022-01-06T18:39:44+00:00

Women objectify themselves and are addicted to attention.

Next question.

via_cee · 2022-01-07T02:58:11+00:00

I bet ur insecure

blaze_eternal · 2022-01-06T18:07:33+00:00

The gyms I go to tend to be low key places oriented to mature professionals or even families, so I don't see too many women deliberately sexualize themselves. But there's always one or two that slips through the cracks.

I'll never forget the first time I saw a woman in full make- up at the gym. I thought to myself, "Being cute does not compensate for the fact that she's apparently a vain idiot."

Pastelitomaracucho · 2022-01-06T18:13:32+00:00

>Why do women wear such things that draw attention to their butt and breasts when you're at the gym?

Attention whores. Same reason buff guys wear those lose shirts showing everything

>To the men - does this make you uncomfortable?

Fuck no. Thanks for the eye candy, tho

>Do you notice when women dress this way at the gym?

For the most part, no. I try to focus on the workout as much as possible

friendofoldman · 2022-01-06T21:55:57+00:00

As an older guy it makes me slightly uncomfortable.

But mainly because I don’t want to seem like a Perv staring at a gal that is young enough to be my daughter if I’m looking in that direction.

I generally go to the gym early in the AM and at my gym at least, it tends toward middle aged or older during that time. After dinner it seems to turn into more of a meat market loaded with younger gals in tight outfits.

So I generally avoid the gym when it’s packed. Or just stick to the treadmills if I go later in the day. That’s how I avoid that mess.

But, everyone is there to work out, not stare at people. When I get into better shape I tend to check out my progress in The mirror and the best way is with more revealing clothing. So I don’t think there is anything wrong with it.

As for the makeup thing. I have a neighbor that cakes on the makeup anytime she steps outside the house. It’s just her personality. She seems a little insecure as she’s also had a boob job and a tummy tuck post kids.

I’d just chalk it up to some gals alway want to look their best and if the yoga pants lift up their butt and they think it looks good then they wear it.

chilikettlechips · 2022-01-07T00:28:21+00:00

The amount of sheer fucking will it takes for me to try to not even take a peek so I'm not that guy in the gym. I'd rather women didn't dress that way but fuckit, I still enjoy a peek every now and then.

Fragmented79 · 2022-01-07T01:13:32+00:00

It makes me uncomfortable as a man because I know they’ll be offended if I look in their direction. They are dressed that way for the roided Chads.

1master_dom · 2022-01-07T01:14:11+00:00

BRUH. I feel so strongly about this topic.

As crazy as it sounds, I don’t want to see fucking cheeks while I’m working out.

As soon as a woman dressed like that comes in, all the men are on edge, don’t know where to look. Nervous. Distracted.

When they leave, everyone is at ease again.

intent_joy_love · 2022-01-07T01:32:08+00:00

Yes it makes me feel uncomfortable, afraid to make eye contact, and makes me feel that I have to actively avoid them. They also take ridiculously long with every piece of equipment, text on their phones for 5 minutes between sets, and constantly pose and stare at themselves in the mirror. Putting on a full face of makeup and an outfit that shows both buttcheeks and complete cleavage / side boob to stretch a 30 minute workout into 3 hours is obnoxious narcissism. And some of them have the nerve to complain that there are “creepers” at the gym. If anything, she’s the creep for putting herself on display like that while the rest of us are trying to get in shape.

So yes it does bother some of us.

machiavellian_king · 2022-01-07T01:55:19+00:00

These women dont come to the gym to work out. They come for easy attention.

I used to hit on them and try to hookup but the success rate was quite low and i have pretty good game otherwise, so im thinking they are just looking for attention.

It can be distracting depending on how horny i am at the moment. Its one of the reasons i quit commercial gyms and set up a home gym. Came in perfectly handy when covid hit.

_-CHUBUT-_ · 2022-01-07T02:08:27+00:00

Attention whores

kvothevibritannia · 2022-01-07T02:15:06+00:00

Most women work out for attention attention. Have you ever met a woman who owns a home gym?

ArmDiscombobulated29 · 2022-01-07T03:13:35+00:00

Uhhh because those chicks don’t have anything else going but their appearance and as a man you just ignore them as there are millions of other sexy women

Sagittarius_AAA · 2022-01-06T18:04:39+00:00

I bet those are the women that will smack you in the face for glancing at them. Because you're sexualizing them and objectifying women. Sexist piece of shit/human filth. I'm going to cry and make a tiktok video about it.

goneaway2thewind · 2022-01-06T18:28:28+00:00

Women live with higher degree's of feminine complexes, they subconsciously behave in ways that attract others to themselves. Whether they are aware of it or not, it's evolutionary.

I'm more of a cerebral person so it doesn't make me feel horny or uncomfortable, my brain just processes the behavioral indicator

Physical-Ask9399 · 2022-01-06T17:55:45+00:00

Gym regular here. Women dressing like this at the gym does bother me because I know it’s just for their vanity and they would never actually go for me so why draw my attention?

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purplish_possum · 2022-01-06T19:54:43+00:00

I don't care why they do. However I'm glad they do -- I have no problem being surrounded by attractive women.

throwaway316stunner · 2022-01-06T20:00:02+00:00

Personally, as a man, and as someone who used to go to the gym, I actually don’t even focus on women or other people, unless they’re doing something impressive, like lifting an incredible amount of weight or something.

I’m not much of a socializer to begin with, I’m focusing on doing the exercises; more importantly, trying (emphasis on try) to do them properly. Even if I was, I wouldn’t cold approach a woman in a gym anyway.

Kaisha001 · 2022-01-06T20:16:36+00:00

Fortunately the only women who wander their way into the free weights section are usually there to work out, and not show off. So you can easily ignore the 'show offs'. Now if only the guys who had no interest in working out, and just sitting on their phones, would get out of the way...

stlmick · 2022-01-06T20:16:58+00:00

I only know one girl who did this. She was 18 with borderline personality disorder and it was evidently a phase. She is attractive. She said that she would try to talk to guys and usually would kind of get brushed off. It is very possible that her behavior seemed unusual to them, and they were just there to work out. There absolutely are guys who will flirt with or even harass woman at the gym, but most of us know that they are there to work out, will maybe look, but leave them alone. I'd rather not walk around with an erection in my workout shorts at the gym.

Feisty-Saturn · 2022-01-06T20:22:04+00:00

I look good and I like to look at how good I look while working out.

I’ve seen guys walking around shirtless in the gym or with those tank tops where the arm is so stretched out, their whole chest and side area is out.

So Idt it’s a gender thing. It’s probably a vain people thing.

TheBookOfSeil · 2022-01-06T20:24:44+00:00

Women like showing off their bodies (peacocking).
Nope. The only problem is when they dress in form-fitting clothing and then expect (certain) people not to look at them.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2022-01-06T20:27:53+00:00

They're looking for attention. Same reason why they post all the booty shots on IG.

thelilpessimist · 2022-01-06T20:28:50+00:00

just say you’re insecure and a pick me and go! bc women wearing, you know, WORKOUT clothes and makeup shouldn’t bother you at all. i bet you’d make a whole bunch of progress if you focused more on your workouts than what other women are wearing

Nobodyz_Nikki · 2022-01-06T20:34:35+00:00

They usually wear form fitting clothes to see their body definition but those are for the ones that go to truly workout. Then there are the ones that are seeking male attention. The men that feel uncomfortable about this either A) Don't want to display arousal of seeing those women B) Have issues with women and how they attract attention easier than men or C) Are there for the attention of other men and view the women dressed like this as competition.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-01-06T20:59:17+00:00

Do the men feel uncomfortable as a result?

Not just at the gym. Why the f*ck do women wear yoga pants everywhere, what's going on in their brain?

ChromaticVengeance · 2022-01-06T21:05:06+00:00

I personally exercise at home exactly for the reason of not liking when too much focus is directed upon myself. If I were going to the gym, though, I'd likely wear clothes that are enot tight on the body, because just the thought of receiving unwanted looks or having no control over who stares, makes me anxious.

Lately I dislike wearing anything off the shoulders, so I would likely wear something similar.

Insidious-Sid · 2022-01-06T21:09:03+00:00

They claim they wear it because of simply how it feels, or they like it, bla bla bla.

They actually wear it for attention. 100% attention.

We've been over this...

RegTextoffender · 2022-01-06T21:16:42+00:00

To the men - does this make you uncomfortable? Do you notice when women dress this way at the gym?

Want me to hit a PR? Have a hot 20 something doing pelvic lifts next to me in camel toe yoga pants.

SnooSprouts1580 · 2022-01-06T21:23:33+00:00

2) To the men - does this make you uncomfortable?

No. Why would it

Do you notice when women dress this way at the gym?

Yes.

toucherofwomen · 2022-01-06T21:37:56+00:00

They wear such things for attention yet they will never admit to it because they are insanely scared of being held accountable for anything.
Yes, we most certainly notice such clothes, it can make you uncomfortable because you have to keep telling yourself that you can't stare at or even look at her.

Playful_Art_5364 · 2022-01-06T21:40:02+00:00

Their socialized to.

I wish we could men’s only gyms. Like it’s annoying.

I personally go at like 6am to have it for myself.

I dislike when dudes show up half naked to. I also don’t want to see that shit.

I would pay for a gym where basic modesty was enforced.

ComfortableString190 · 2022-01-06T21:47:39+00:00

It’s a self confidence thing I believe. It’s also a huge distraction for men and I could do without it lol

SwinginPastMyKnees_ · 2022-01-06T21:48:51+00:00

There are two fit blondes at my gym who go out of their way to wear tight clothes and do some dumbbell squats in the middle of the weight-lifting section (which is dominated by men). They can easily take those dumbbells and do those same exercise in a less crowded section of the gym. I suspect they are trying to get the attention of some of the rich dudes (it's an exclusive gym).

It can be distracting sometimes. I will catch myself peeking from time to time between sets (I'm a guy; sue me). It doesn't make me uncomfortable, though.

DXBrigade · 2022-01-06T21:53:00+00:00

Want to show off their fit body.

klauskinki · 2022-01-06T21:56:27+00:00

Uncomfortable? LMAO! I can assure you that it makes me feel all sort of stuff except uncomfortable

manfrom-nantucket · 2022-01-06T22:04:05+00:00

They do it for attention
I hit the gym at 4am, the gym bunnies are never to be found at that time. Plus there is no need to wait for equipment.

froderenfelemus · 2022-01-06T22:10:47+00:00

When you feel good and confident you’re gonna do better 🤷‍♀️ if that’s what needed to motivate them, then let them pound on a cake of makeup. Some men train shirtless, women can show their belly button and scrunched pants

LiaraLynx · 2022-01-06T22:10:49+00:00

I always dress modestly when leaving the house. I do notice that some girls dress immodestly at the gym but it’s not the majority of women I see. Where I live it is kind of cold and people have a tendency to be covered up. I think the women show off their body for male attention because the clothes definitely do not look comfortable. I have no idea if men are uncomfortable or not, I’d imagine a women showing off skin wouldn’t be too offensive but if she is obviously doing sexual poses like sticking out her butt when men walk by then yeah maybe some guys would be uncomfortable.

2022-01-06T22:13:24+00:00

Women dress skimpy at the gym for validation, not necessarily fiending for sex. Women might say they hate when men look at them, but if a guy glances and isn't leering or licking his lips, women tend to find a quick glance flattering, at least if they are attracted to the guy as well.
Couldn't care less. The most I talk to someone at the gym is asking for a spotter if I know the person. I go there to stay in shape, not get my dick wet.

AnonRb6 · 2022-01-06T22:15:04+00:00

Because women love attention? As simple as that imho.

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-01-06T22:15:29+00:00

I wear two sports bras and a pair of leggings or shorts usually. It’s gets hot as fuck when you’re there for a while so it makes sense to wear less. I don’t understand the makeup though I feel like it would get runny and disgusting. But, I stay in the women’s only section the whole time. It’s cleaner, quieter, and I feel safe. Most of the girls who hang there the whole time dress like that as well.

elidiomenezes · 2022-01-06T22:16:42+00:00

Sexy is distracting. We like it, but it becomes a nuisance when we need focus.

DeJuanBallard · 2022-01-06T22:29:05+00:00

Yes we do feel uncomfortable, it's gone from "shit theirs a cute girl in here I can't be lacking, gotta push extra hard today" to "why tf are there 3 of you in matching gym shark outfits sharing one piece of equipment that you aren't really using for 20 mins at a time.. o yea, she wants attention, I will purposefully not look at her, guess that means I'm staring at the ground for the next hour" and it's because of intentional brainwashing, they have been convinced that they have to prove they like their own bodies by showing them off, they also falsely believe wearing name brand, skin tight, stretchy clothes, that are cute colors and match, will somehow make their workout more effective. 20 lbs of resistance with 5 min rest breaks and you didn't bring water but you remembered to take that stupid ass instagram photo.

kronos_1996 · 2022-01-06T22:30:51+00:00

As a man, I can only answer the second question.

I go to the gym 5-6 days a week and this happens at least twice each week. It makes me uncomfortable as my focus shifts towards not looking at them instead of my workout. Sometimes I go walk around the gym during my resting time because of how uncomfortable this is. To be fair most women dress appropriately and cause no discomfort. At the end of the day I see it as more of a funny situation overall, but in the moment it is indeed uncomfortable.

Coolio_Street_Racer · 2022-01-06T22:38:38+00:00

1+1=2

divingrose77101 · 2022-01-06T22:50:39+00:00

I wear what I wear at the gym to be comfortable. That is all. Baggy clothes cause friction and and ride up or cause other problems when working out. Most of the people at my gym are other moms and old people so I’m certainly not seeking attention.

PassMyGuard · 2022-01-06T23:42:48+00:00

r/asablackman

BigRedStick · 2022-01-07T00:17:05+00:00

Doesn’t make me uncomfortable. I mean I am a bit of a perv so I’d be lying if I said I didn’t appreciate the sight on occasion. But usually I actually feel exactly like you do, it’s a little bit annoying and clearly not practical or necessary. It does seem vain and like some sort of weird mating display or something. I feel the same way about guys who wear those tiny string tanks and so forth. I get perfect mobility in my gym shorts and t shirt. I’ll wear a regular tank if I’m really working hard. The gym is not the place to be drawing attention to yourself.

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-01-07T00:25:12+00:00

It really depends. Some of them might be single and hoping to meet someone. But more likely, they like taking gym selfies and sharing them on platforms like Instagram. There are many fitness influencers, and it seems that the whole gym aesthetic is a big part of working out for some people. Which yeah, I can see how that can make women look vain and silly, but if you take a look at the guys checking themselves out in the mirrors it’s not much better.lol The entire gym culture can be pretty vain considering many people work out in order to look better! There’s nothing wrong with it but it’s also not for everyone, that’s about all I would say.

alialahmad1997 · 2022-01-07T00:38:58+00:00

As a man it does make me look at some places I don't usually look at and made me hyper conscience to not stare..

But on the other hand it's really nice to see beautiful women

So I don't know

A88Y · 2022-01-07T00:39:45+00:00

I don’t get the makeup thing completely as that would just be uncomfortable with the sweating and all, but I get the sports bra and tiny shorts thing. Of course for some people that’s for Instagram, but honestly feeling not much clothing on your body is both physically freeing and motivating. I feel sexy being able to see the body I have worked for and am working to improve. Leggings also just in general show muscle tone not just ass, so they make me feel good, especially about my calves (also are very comfortable). None of that is for the men there, only myself and maybe my boyfriend. That being said I don’t know how men would view me doing this in the gym, though my general feel is that they don’t give a shit because they are there to work out not ogle me.

nick1812216 · 2022-01-07T00:45:18+00:00

Man here, I don’t mind at all!

But you’re right. I feel like if I glance at a woman dressed in tight clothes I’ll get arrested or for being a creep or something. So it has pros and cons

neetykeeno · 2022-01-07T00:46:53+00:00

Legging and shorts? That sounds a bit restrictive. I mean just saying that's three layers once you count underpants. And it all has to work together or you will have chafing or be hiking up one of the layers constantly. Plus y'know... needlessly warm once you really get moving on anything aerobic.

Ian_Campbell · 2022-01-07T01:10:50+00:00

It is annoying. These women are trying to bait you to catch you looking or whatever which is really just a hostile takeover of space the more of them there are. I have talked about this with a gay male friend and he was able to confirm this. The women obviously didn't know he was gay and they were trying to catch him looking by their behavior and reactions.

1master_dom · 2022-01-07T01:25:05+00:00

I’ll never understand how contoured bum cheeks and elastic so the pants go up your bum cheeks become normal in the gym.

It’s very tacky and attention seeking.

Leggings are practical but who can argue that that’s not sexualising yourself to the same men you claim make you feel uncomfortable in the gym…

doglover549 · 2022-01-07T01:28:33+00:00

i workout my butt quite a lot (for years) and would like to show it off in leggings that accentuate my curves. it makes me feel good that all of my hard work is paying off. i feel really confident in them and i honestly feel like i deserve to be confident after working so hard

I also wear makeup often to the gym. in general i wear makeup when i go out because i want to look professional and put together. however i end up going to the gym right after work/school and i don’t have time to remove my makeup. I bring my change of clothes in the car and drive straight to the gym.

i don’t wear sports bras but i feel that most women feel sweaty and want to be comfortable in what they wear.

jayval90 · 2022-01-07T01:32:04+00:00

Yes, it makes me feel uncomfortable regardless of whether I feel anything sexual towards her. Having giant "don't look here" targets is annoying and any enjoyment is shallow and completely offset by the discomfort.

Caring_Cactus · 2022-01-07T01:33:06+00:00

Men will feel uncomfortable depending on the integrity they have in their actions, some will feel uncomfortable and distance themselves while others will take advantage to try and flirt.

As for why some women do or don't do it, I think they could either be ambiguous, or to get something and/or flaunt for attention.

baked_zoomer · 2022-01-07T01:34:05+00:00

It's for other women, not men.

A hot girl is signalling her status as a high status (hot) woman amongst other women.

Women can get male attention even if they're in pjs and just got out of bed. Women can get male attention even if they don't have a vagina (don't ask).

Male attention is cheap and abundant. Female approval is sexy and valuable; this is what women masturbate over.

softcherryheart · 2022-01-07T01:37:16+00:00

The way I look at is is that men work on their arms, so they wear tanks to show them off and to look at their pump. Women work on their butts, shows their pump and their progress.

I don’t think showing off your progress is inherently sexual, those things are just inherently attractive. Like a guy with nice arm muscle pump or a girl with a nice booty pump strutting their stuff. But because women are more sexualized it’s a bigger problem for women.

TheX141710 · 2022-01-07T02:27:07+00:00

Uncomfortable is a vaginal word.

mystery1nc · 2022-01-07T02:36:56+00:00

It’s literally for the same reason that many gyms have an excessive amount of mirrors, not only to watch your form but to look at yourself get pumped. You’re going there to feel good and make your body look good, if you’re feeling like THE shit while you’re there it’s going to motivate you even more when you’re looking at yourself.

Also personally, I just cannot wear baggy or loose fitting clothes to the gym. It feels all in the way and distracting, not to mention the last thing you want is your clothes getting caught in a machine.

Waterbugs2 · 2022-01-07T02:43:25+00:00

Genuinely some women don’t even think about it , some women want the attention and some women don’t . The more you prioritize yourself instead of shooting glares at other people the more happier you will be .

Cauligoblin · 2022-01-07T03:22:01+00:00

It could be any number of reasons that young girls may dress that way at the gym, but ultimately they likely want to feel sexy and some may want to try to find partners. I think we all accidentally stare at people sometimes, there’s a line between that and harassment/ excessive staring to the point someone is uncomfortable, it is a tricky line to navigate and I will admit that. People can wear what they like to a place of business and only the business can implement a dress code, if you are uncomfortable with how other young women dress at the gym I’m not sure what to suggest other than to invest in hone equipment.

midwesternMD · 2022-01-07T03:23:38+00:00

Doesn’t bother me. If she’s cute, I’ll check her out between sets. I don’t let my eyes linger anywhere for too long though. It’d quickly fuck up my rest intervals/prolong my workouts. I treat the gym like I treat shopping: get in, get done, get out. Working out is just more enjoyable than shopping.

Gerpstarg · 2022-01-07T03:35:03+00:00

I also love how women always scream about men sexualising them, yet its the women who choose to walk around half naked, with their camel toe sticking out their yoga pants that are so tight, they barely have any blood circulation in their legs

and if you will say its just more comfortable, this is an absolute bullshit, having a piece of cloth cut into your crack is very far from comfort, for some reason I dont see any men weating tight pants that make every vein on their rod visible through the fabric lol

I would actually like to see the reaction of people if I dress in some ultra thin latex/leather pants and have my balls show through the fabric just as girls do with their yoga pants, i mean make it so that people would literally be able to see my dick head, would people like that? I dont think so, i think its fucking disgusting and people who come to the gym come there to work out, not look at your genitalia, but maybe im wrong lol

women sexualise themselves to attract male attention, because women love when men look at them and all women compete between each other for that attention

thank god there are adequate girls who just wear baggy pants and dress normally in general, when I see a girl like that in the gym, I want to give her a hug for not turning the gym into the female crack display center, those girls are actually gold and i wish them and their families best things in the world, you are amazing

naim08 · 2022-01-07T03:41:23+00:00

A big factor of working out is motivation, the constant motivation. Working out… isn’t exactly the best, most joyous or/and stimulating activity. It’s no wonder that we have phases where we workout, stop, get motivated, workout again, stop and repeat.

Why do we workout? Obviously, it’s healthy. Also, it’s great way to virtue signal; you’re active, have a healthy lifestyle and displaying ones work ethic/goal-oriented, etc. And it’s one way to tell people you workout, but it’s even better than when your show people you workout and their results.

Clothing is a big part of working out and is all over human history.

Kizka · 2022-01-07T04:31:45+00:00

Can't say anything about the clothes, but I understand the full face of makeup. If you're going to the gym directly after your job, you wouldn't first remove all your makeup, would you? I work in an office and put makeup on for that. I have to commute and if I were to first drive home and remove my makeup there's zero chance I still make it to the gym afterwards.

thatguyoverthere098 · 2022-01-07T04:40:17+00:00

I was actually thinking about bringing this up. I think a lot of places women wear stuff that is too sexually provocative depending where you live. But I also know regardless what they wear men are gonna check them out. So it’s a cycle. Porn is a real problem and enforces the male gaze. But with the accessibility it can be difficult to avoid. Because of this sexualization women are taking the power into their own hands. I don’t blame them. But I know it’s a cycle you yourself are responsible for participating in and now both sexes contribute to it.

billsull_02842 · 2022-01-07T04:59:44+00:00

women dont objectify themselves.

ChadThundagaCock · 2022-01-07T05:19:59+00:00

I don’t know, I’m not a woman. But probably because, similar to how men can be vain, women aren’t immune to wanting that ego boost.
It only makes me uncomfortable in the means that it can make it difficult to concentrate on getting a good workout done when I’m constantly being presented with a porn star looking ass and figuring out ways to maybe approach the woman and have sex with her somehow.

odd_cloud · 2022-01-07T05:20:13+00:00

I suppose it's because sexual and beautiful is mixed for women in the current culture. What's seems "sexual" for men may be just "beautiful" for women. I talked about similar topics with women and it seems that they do not feel the border between sexual and beautiful very well.

FrostieTheSnowman · 2022-01-07T05:58:27+00:00

Am a dude, but here are my unfiltered answers.

1: Why do some women intentionally sexualize themselves at the gym?

Either because she likes the attention/how she looks, or it's "for the 'gram." Seems kinda like a question that answers itself tbh.

2: Do men feel uncomfortable as a result?

Most of the time, no. I'm not a gym rat, so the concept of socializing at the gym is alien to me. I mostly ignore everybody. I am still a guy, though, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't steal some glances while working out. Never been called a creep at the gym before, cause I'm respectful about it. Only time it makes me uncomfortable is when it's highschool-aged girls wearing that stuff. For obvious reasons.

Blodeuwedd19 · 2022-01-07T06:17:58+00:00

Yes you are judging. You are also the one sexualizing them. Every woman should wear whatever they feel comfortable with and it's really none of your or anyone else's business. Never has anyone's clothes made me uncomfortable. Ever. You should really work on your insecurities and acceptance of others.

oneshotadc2020 · 2022-01-07T07:06:17+00:00

If woman only cared about comfort, why don't more woman just wear sweatpants? I've known stacked, packed and utterly jacked dudes who squat like over 400 pounds, which is ridiculous in a commercial gym, who do it in sweatpants. At no point can I see the details of their ass.

luliloo · 2022-01-07T07:06:59+00:00

I wore tight clothes from when I did a lot of yoga. You don’t want a loose shirt when you’re doing inversions.

Now I wear the same stuff to the gym. I don’t like crew neck tops but I wish they made higher cut sports bras and tops that don’t show cleavage when you bend over that were still stylish.

Monchi_21 · 2022-01-07T07:24:40+00:00

People want to look good. Even if some how ur “oblivious” to ur best physical features I think subconsciously we know what makes us look good. (Atleast I think women more so to men).

It’s weird cuz women complain saying they don’t want attention, yet they chose to wear things that make them stand out. Which they have the right to, I want everyone to feel confident and look their best.

Koipisces · 2022-01-07T09:06:53+00:00

OP, you claim that you go to the gym a lot? However it doesn’t seem like you understand how working out really works?? How long have you been going? And have you ever trained professionally? Layers get both in the way of both practice (and can even get stuck between equipment) and in the way of seeing the process and your body as it is. Plus it is gross when you sweat a lot in something baggy where as with tight clothes of the right materials you can wipe yourself with a towel and it’s better.

Also, you seem to forget that most men at gyms also train in shorts (or shorts + tights) and with a tight/small shirt or shirtless. Have you ever seen a man who would work out in a hoodie while working on his biceps?

Both men and women, whatever gender just want to work out comfortably (imo tight workout gear is def more comfortable as nothing is in the way) and check their progress in the gym. And I am sure they are all checking themselves out too, because their whole aim is to look better and I bet they also feel proud of themselves and their bodies. It’s their body so why not? And yes, some might do it all for the gram or external attention, but who cares. Having a good looking body is the whole reason they put in work. I wouldn’t waste my time working out and not show off the results. That’s how people work, everyone has a “vain” side and nothing wrong with that. Even you go to the gym to look better I suppose, so it is the same goal. Why do you even try to workout then??

Also you say it must be hard on men who might get accused of being a pervert when they accidentally stare?? Oh no these poor men loool. These men are probably working on themselves and not uncomfortable at all. Sorry but this post has huge pickmesha energy. Focus on yourself, not on other women.

OokiiStaR · 2022-01-07T09:18:30+00:00

Better question, why do wear what you wear to the gym? Because it fits your purpose? Because you can wear what you want? Because you'd find it weird if someone started a thread asking why you dress the way you do and then peppered in"im not judging,, but who are you dressing for?" And your answer would be "myself and my purpose." And it'd be weird if someone oversexualized it because leggings and tank tops were what turned them on. Or made them feel insecure. So they took their passive aggressive rant to reddit to find others who could fuel their righteous insecurity. But I'm just spitballing. Could be lots of things.

Rol9x · 2022-01-07T09:40:00+00:00

When I'm in the gym, I focus on my workout. The only things I notice is when someone is using a machine for way too long just to check their phone. So, I wouldn't know if anyone sexualises themselves.

stayconnecteddd · 2022-01-07T09:43:08+00:00

Narcissism exceeds in our society. Our capitalist, consumerist society is creating a generation of young men and women who are obsessed with how they look. Instagram and social media in general has caused a level of insecurity amongst young people, that has never been seen before.

Young women are sexualising themselves because it’s what they are being taught to do.

Mittelfingerhoch2-6 · 2022-01-07T09:49:06+00:00

Does not make me uncomfortable. My ltr had a killer body and wears very conservative opaque leggings and long arm or 3/4 arm opaque sport top and a sport bra.

She does not like to sex up anywhere as the looks are on her anyway.

Tat-Rat · 2022-01-07T10:30:36+00:00

I’m a man and it does not make me uncomfortable nor do I care. Do I think some women are mostly there to show off and get attention? Absolutely. Same with some men. 160lb Steve can have fun over there giving booty short Becky all the attention she desperately craves for all I care. In fact, I’m glad they seem to be hitting it off because that means less people on the equipment. My reason for going to the gym is me and I’m the only person that affects how others perceive me. If I spent time worrying about how Steve’s ogling eyes reflected on me as a man that would be time wasted that I could have spent on my pump. My advice? Pay no mind to Becky. Just do you boo…

cast-away-ramadi06 · 2022-01-07T11:04:32+00:00

This is why I don't go to big box gyms, only local gyms for weightlifters

happy_petite_spartan · 2022-01-07T11:29:41+00:00

Because it makes you feel confident and beautiful/ sexy which is a good feeling to have at the gym. It just feels good & it’s not so much about wearing something that makes other people pay attention to you, it’s about wearing what makes you feel good and if that means wearing leggings that accentuate your ass- so be it

Not every person at the gym is there for an intense sweaty no makeup workout

chingness · 2022-01-07T11:30:26+00:00

I wear tight leggings because nothing worse than them rolling down in the middrift area when you’re working out but I know exactly what you mean about some outfits.

I have no idea what their motivation is. I think we assign motivation like “they do it for attention” because we feel jealousy or we want to take people down a peg or 2. The reality is it’s none of our business what anyone else does or why they do it.

I get it though - I sometimes resent women who dress that way because we all get judged by them. I resent the way some women act because - well look at this sub - we all get judged for it. But at the end of the day we just need to let people live and focus on ourselves. We’d be much happier that way

vivvienne · 2022-01-07T11:32:02+00:00

It's vanity which is not inherently wrong, but that's what it is whether it's for self esteem reasons or for others to look at. If all that shit is supposed to be more comfortable, men by and large would be wearing it long before women do.

I wear sports bras because it binds my chest so I don't feel like I'm swinging free weights around with my body, but I also wear a shirt over it. When I was young I tried on some men's basketball shorts and well, if it were socially acceptable I'd wear those all the time.

O-j-O · 2022-01-07T11:39:29+00:00

Do the men feel uncomfortable? I don't, I think the presence of hot women in the gym is to mind what pre-workout is to body, it primes you for peak performance.

Det_Steve_Sloan · 2022-01-07T12:01:48+00:00

You know they're only there to chase men out of their league. Virtually none of them have even toned themselves with the weights they're toying with. When you see the same girl dressed provocatively for four months, who is not actually working out, you know what's up.

_mwk · 2022-01-07T12:03:36+00:00

i can understand tight clothes, there is nothing more horrible than working out in baggy clothes, it’s disgusting.

i can also understand wanting to check yourself out and feel hot af when working out, what i can’t understand either is the butt scrunch. this horrible weird thing isnt even flattering.

as for the make up, i usually go to the gym on my way back home from something, so i get there already wearing make up from the rest of the day. i think many people are like that.

last year, i switched from a normal gym to a girls only gym and while women still workout in tight clothes and sport bras, there are very rarely any woman wearing a skin colored butt scrunched legging with a sport bra that looks like a bikini, so my theory is that some of the most extreme ones are there to get attention

VanVahlen · 2022-01-07T12:05:09+00:00

Vanity or Motivation
No, you are usually focused on your own workout.I think the gym is the last place I would even think of paying heed to how people dress or Look.

g0juice · 2022-01-07T13:17:58+00:00

Attention.

christopherames · 2022-01-07T14:56:45+00:00

I think women do it for both attention from men (even if they don’t want to get approached) and to check themselves out in the mirror. It’s basically the same motivations as posting on IG

JameisBong · 2022-01-07T14:58:53+00:00

Attention. A hawt Chad might be single nand and why not show him what he can get?

Myrand0musername · 2022-01-07T15:23:02+00:00

Doesn’t exactly discomfort me (25m somewhat regular gym goer), but when I feel like it’s all I have the option to look at because it’s in every imaginable field of view I have available to me, I start to feel weird. Not a bad weird but a kind of weird that immediately makes me dissociate and exist solely in my head while on physical autopilot. I definitely have noticed too though it’s the vast majority of women at the 2 gyms I go to that dress this way. Wish I didn’t have debilitating anxiety lol maybe I’d talk to a couple now and then.

UpOrOnTheRocks · 2022-01-07T15:28:18+00:00

I know leggings keep women’s asses from jiggling especially while doing cardio, same way men wear compression shorts often under their regular shorts. I don’t fully understand the makeup but and neither the butt scrunching leggings cause they are purely aesthetic. I’m with you though, a 25F bodybuilding here and it baffles me to see women going out of the way to seek attention. I have a twin brother and he has told me about #2 in your post multiple times. I totally agree it makes us all look attention seeking cause in my xperience the women doing all the above are also the ones who use the squat racks to hip thrust everyday (like that needs to banned lmao)

creeperedz · 2022-01-07T15:28:28+00:00

While I am not judging these women

Proceeds to judge women excessively throughout the whole post

Personally, when I look my best I feel my best, when I feel my best I'll do my best. I like dressing nicely and while I'm working out I get super sweaty so layers I can remove and smaller breathable clothing is so much more practical. My boobs aren't "out". I have boobs and they're in my bra and I'm too hot to wear an additional layer.

Your post comes across as quite mysogynistic if you weren't already aware. Why aren't you asking why men wear leggings or stringer vests that expose their nipples? They're just wearing clothes that are fit for purpose but not to your taste. You're the one sexualising them. Some cultures might find your wearing of a tank top absolutely outrageous.

You continue to judge and poke fun at the clothes other people are wearing at the gym. Since you obviously just don't approve it would probably serve you best to focus on yourself and your workout instead of the clothes others are wearing since it bothers you this much.

revente · 2022-01-07T15:28:53+00:00

Kardashians and instagram.

The thot-culture.

solipsist96 · 2022-01-07T16:36:26+00:00

You say you aren’t judging them, but you absolutely are, in a variety of ways. Maybe that’s how they feel comfortable presenting themselves. Maybe they’ve worked really hard to achieve that body and they want to show it off, nothing wrong with that. Maybe they just feel more confident wearing makeup. If you don’t want to wear those clothes or do your make up, by all means, don’t. But you shouldn’t speak so negatively about people who do. They are not harming anybody.

Bambi_Writing · 2022-01-07T16:52:50+00:00

Adved gym-goer here- sometimes wearing loose clothing is very uncomfortable for me personally when I am working out. I like to wear leggings and a bra when I work out. And there's nothing wrong with that! Sometimes its easy to see which muscle or area you are working out with a mirror when doing reps. However, I feel for others it could either just be the current trend or just how the fast fashion industry is putting it out. Some women, in particular, can only go to the gym after school or work- which could explain them wearing make-up. I used to work out with a full face of makeup because I felt super insecure-took me a few years actually to finally get over it.

Everyone has their preference and is entitled to work out in whatever makes them feel comfortable!

In some gyms, there is a hookup culture of sorts. But even if a women were to wear sweats, no make up- just rolled out of bed hair- women still get hit on at the gym. Doesn't matter if you're wearing tight/revealing clothes or whatever.

Feisty-Present-9226 · 2022-01-07T18:03:22+00:00

I think it’s just what people are into. Personal preference varies greatly. Everyone is different after all. I’m a big fan of baggier clothes at the gym. I’m a dude btw. I’m very strong, lift as heavy as I can with good form, and prioritize strength over aesthetics due to what I compete in… so I carry around a little bit of a belly. I like hiding that belly a bit lol. I’m not a body builder with a fantastic aesthetic look (props to those dudes and girls for being disciplined enough for that look btw). Also at the gym I don’t notice other people. I’m the type that ignores everyone else, doesn’t talk to people, and focuses only on my workout. If you’re a person that wears tight stuff to highlight or show off parts of your body that look good? Fuck yea do it. Be proud of the work you put in to get where you are

Flow_Scholar · 2022-01-07T18:10:02+00:00

I typically feel uncomfortable, as I dont want to be rude but also struggle not to look.

Hey each to there own and everything, it's just not something I want to see when getting my workout in.

lordofcin_2 · 2022-01-07T21:17:06+00:00

I think purely because they are functional? I mean if we think ab it guys will have their shirt off at the gym and even wear sweat pants and shorts that kinda show off their stuff a bit. It's just that it's comfortable

JoanGreenCat · 2022-01-07T21:41:25+00:00

Ok we get it you are "not like other girls". Tight clothes don't get stuck on anything, you can see your progress better in them, they are comfortable and for bigger ladies keep the rolls without jumping up and down same with boobies. There is always a couple of girls with make up just going to the gym to post pics on instagram but so are men just walking around the gym shirtless.

teproxy · 2022-01-07T22:24:37+00:00

the gym is a place of empowerment, and the body. people want to show off, and if that comes with sexuality then so be it. I don't mind.

PM_ME_STRIPPERS · 2022-01-08T00:37:20+00:00

Finally someone from their own gender telling it how it is. Funny thing is everytime a man posts the same context he gets absolutely blasted for it because " women should be able to wear what they want at the gym, stop sexualizing!"

To answer your question, some women just do it. They dress sexy at the gym just for thrill of it. Knowing they will get stares. But those stares or looks will only be invited by who they deem worthy of being able to have that privilege. What i mean is, there is an extremely low chance of a woman publically lashing out/ calling out a guy for looking at her when he is attractive compared to if he is "ugly".

Are there women who dont like being looked at at all in the gym? Of course. and thats ok, people should be able to do their exercise in peace and safety.

However there is a difference between not bringing attention to yourself compared to actively dressing over the top and getting mad and angry because you are getting looks.

What is not ok when these certain women hop on tiktok make a video publically shaming a guy for looking, when they could have done that WITHOUT the camera. The hypocrisy is astounding especially when you see the sort of sexualised content they love to post on tiktok anyway

Why do women intentionally sexualise themselves at the gym? Do the men feel uncomfortable as a result?

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Title	Why do women intentionally sexualise themselves at the gym? Do the men feel uncomfortable as a result?
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