Can we finally put to rest this ridiculous idea of “fairness” in dating? I don’t know what kind of pill someone needs to take to see reality clearly, but please take it. I’m tired of the constant blaming of women for not being “fair.” They are not supposed to be.

From an evolutionary perspective, they were never meant to be. Women are wired to choose the best option available, but also someone compatible with them, and yes, I mean biologically. At the same time, a variety of traits has to be attractive across the population, otherwise we wouldn’t have survived as a species if everyone chased the exact same thing. Even so, that means that some people will be unattractive.

Then there’s culture. Yes, men are generally expected to initiate. Who told you that you could do nothing and still expect results? Who promised that you could just exist and women would fall at your feet? Maybe that happens for a small minority, I haven’t seen it, but the world can be strange. For most men, that’s not reality.

We also can’t erase cultural expectations overnight. So yes, deal with it. Extroverts will have an advantage. People who go out, socialize, and party will have an advantage because they will meet women who enjoy those environments and are more open in those contexts.

A woman shouldn’t react the same way to every man she’s interested in just for the sake of “fairness.” These are not the same men. And she is not the same person either. She has learned, changed, and gained experience.

Yes, there are many “rules,” and they often contradict each other. That is because there are many women with different preferences. This isn’t a video game where you follow a clear set of steps and get a guaranteed reward.

Looks matter. Social skills matter. And on a large scale, morals matter less than people like to think, because women don’t all share the same moral framework anyway. Social skills, on the other hand, have always been crucial for survival. This isn’t school anymore, where being “good” guarantees a reward.

Nothing about this is fair. And it is not supposed to be.

I don’t know who promised men that they are owed a woman, whether that is a relationship, multiple partners, or something casual, simply for existing. But whoever said that was lying.

So stop blaming women. If you need to blame someone, blame the person who sold you that lie. Or blame yourself for believing it for so long.