Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting me

Rememberthekant · 2021-06-30T09:55:03+00:00

Not him thinking she has to ask her boyfriend of 4 months if she can get a car or a dog? Please. She seems very successful and he seems jealous.

angry_opossum_lady · 2021-06-30T09:39:46+00:00

The way he wrote it you just know she actually put a lot of work and effort into all of this and into improving herself in general, but he needs to deny it so he won't have to admit to himself she's way out of his league...

I hope her next "impulsive decision" is getting rid of that NVM 😂

ucompost · 2021-06-30T10:37:14+00:00

What is with men measuring their partners wallets??Ive witnessed so many comments from men Complaining about their partners spending “so much money” on “stupid things” (like skincare, a new car) and saying she’s bad with money while he’s sitting in their house SHE bought (and usually they spend $$$ on video games computer tech nerdy replicas etc)

Like she’s buying moisturizer and you’re buying A 300th set of gaming dice. She’s buying a new car to get to her job that’s a commute and you’ve bought a new bong. Cmon!

It’s the same thought process as the popularized “basic” label men give to anything women enjoy.

Far_from_deceived · 2021-06-30T09:37:43+00:00

this successful woman has no fear of going towards everything she wants. She has a car, a house, a business and a nice job where she works from home. It doesn’t simply “works out”, she knows what she’s doing, even though he claims she doesn’t. She’s not lucky, she is assertive and smart. Calling her “impulsive” is neglecting her capacity to make wise decisions.

As you can tell, this scrote is INFURIATED that life works out for his girlfriend without her asking for his opinion or help. He is afraid as hell that she doesn’t need him for anything because her decisions are assertive.

He should be happy for her, but instead he is JEALOUS as hell, judging her and most likely super afraid that her independence will make her leave him because he a useless, fearful piece of shit.

“THe mOst aNnoyIng paRt is tHat eVErYthIng WoRks oUt”.

ANNOYING????? He is annoyed by her success!!!!! He knows she is way better than him in every single aspect of life. Frustrated looser!!!!!

I hope she dumps his ass in a moment of “impulse” (which will happen).

arnezuara · 2021-06-30T09:39:09+00:00

She should drop him and other friends who called her impulsive.

ThrowRA_lantern · 2021-06-30T09:34:20+00:00

“my girlfriend is very ambitious and confident in herself (pursuing a career and starting her own business, progressing in life, creating her own style) and i’m really really jealous and can’t be happy for any of her successes, so OBVIOUSLY her behaviour is a BAD thing and i must drag it down as being impulsive, reckless, delinquent behaviour.” 🤡🤡

Edit: love how the first line was “I LoVE My GiRLfRieNd WiTh aLL mY HeARt”. BS!!

equilibum · 2021-06-30T11:49:20+00:00

“Even if it hurt to see her date other people” - does this mean he’s been lurking in the wings never as a platonic friend and always an interested party ? Red flags immediately!!!!!

“She wanted to explore life which I understood and supported” It’s none of his business!!! What did he have to “understand”?! What support did he give her?????! Lurking in the background and trying to manipulate her?

This is like hard level minesweeper red flag zone

apple_cores · 2021-06-30T10:00:41+00:00

Wtf lol those are all good things! Now if she was in super debt that would be another story but it doesn’t sound like it. Imagine being this jealous of the woman you supposedly love.

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-06-30T10:24:29+00:00

" I'm jealous that my girlfriend is talented as well as lucky 😭😭😭😭"

PeachPitiless · 2021-06-30T12:12:30+00:00

Omg I've had male "friends" talk this way to me in the past. Acting concerned when I do something like buy a house or just move somewhere else. They show up to talk to me about how I could be making a bad or impulsive decision. Like, what? You're not even my boyfriend, why do I have to sit down and talk to you about my life decisions?? And they're always the ones with the crappiest lives.

Platipus6 · 2021-06-30T10:51:20+00:00

Same class?? Kyle got held back 5 years lmao he’s dumb.

Queen needs to yeet him. It will work out :)

Gouda8995 · 2021-06-30T11:26:21+00:00

How long until he updates his post with "when she stormed out of the restaurant she bumped into a scout for a very ethical cartilage piercing modeling agency and now she's on her way to Paris on the agency's dime to be featured in their exclusive cartilage piercing photo shoot. So so ANGERY!"

creamtart_ · 2021-06-30T09:59:12+00:00

This guy has a very poor understanding of what constitutes impulsive behaviour.

Her decisions sound like thoroughly planned out life goals. He clearly hasn’t attempted to get to know her since this is striking him as “impulsive” decisions. If you know your partner, you know their goals and aspirations.

You can’t just buy a house on a whim. That shit is slow, and takes effort. Same with a damn grad degree. He has this incredible high achieving girlfriend, and instead of celebrating her wins, he has to trash talk her.

Classic insecure scrotery.

99natas · 2021-06-30T11:41:24+00:00

This is a common dismissal strategy I’ve had done to me.

Every woman’s accomplishment is luck and chance.

Every mans accomplishment is logic, hard work, dedication.

I’ve been “lucky” in business for 25 years apparently, I’m sure it’s just coincidental. So much luck because we all know when you have a vagina all the logic, hard work and dedication just fall out and the penis keeps it in.

This is not sexism. It’s just gravity.

OrangeCatsAreNice · 2021-06-30T11:20:11+00:00

He's jealous of her. Men that compete with women like this are always dangerous.

Zurflu · 2021-06-30T12:06:06+00:00

"I got a girlfriend who seems to be better and more successful than me in every facet of life despite being younger. Now I hate her for being better than me. How can I drag her down?"

heleninthealps · 2021-06-30T10:11:38+00:00

Haha, I'm so happy for her, this is describing my partner as well - everything he does or touches just works our and becomes successful and he never had to worry or think otherwise. But it never annoyed me wtf, I just have been happy to be with someone that doesn't complain about their life, or worry or procrastinate their dreams. What's wrong with this guy jeez.

excusemeILY · 2021-06-30T10:47:04+00:00

Envy is a powerful thing. Love how blind he is to the work she put into having those things turn out well. She needs better people around her.

m00n5t0n3 · 2021-06-30T11:56:45+00:00

This is so fucking hilarious 😂😂 impulsive= getting a car, job, and education. Lmao!! She's probably been thinking about them all for years. Also I love how he's like "I love my girlfriend" and then proceeds to describe how much he hates her.

catlady4u · 2021-06-30T10:38:55+00:00

Haha, he is soooo jealous and cannot control her.

devilooo · 2021-06-30T11:29:50+00:00

Screw that guy! I can’t believe he is complaining about her choices when they barely dated for 4 months!!!

He has no right to say anything about her buying a house, dog, changing job, getting piercings whatever, his role in her life isn’t even that important at this moment for him to feel this way, more so he has no right to be entitled and involved in her decisions at this stage at all.

She is in no way impulsive at all. Ugh!! his insecure ass makes me so mad.

detikripur · 2021-06-30T11:57:03+00:00

4 months of dating??? For that little time I usually don’t even let them know where I live and other things nevermind asking them about my life decisions.

Oh they knew each other for 10 years and he “waited” while she lived her life. How nice.

He thinks she has luck but maybe she actually does put the work into the things she does and he doesn’t pay any attention. Buying a house is no joke and doesn’t happen overnight. The price went down and it hurts him???

Piercings??!? Oh the horrors.

karabnp · 2021-06-30T12:31:18+00:00

He is a hater. SO jealous of her.🥴

In all fairness though, if what he said is all true/accurate about her/her life, “I’LL HAVE WHAT SHE’S HAVING!!” 🤣🥂😭

azula8 · 2021-06-30T11:57:34+00:00

Its always so sad when the men you root for secretly wishes you to fail. Its like the saying, God hates people who wrong those praying for them. I hope she finds out his real intent or reads this post. She doesnt need that type of negative energy.

Stay mad pathetic scrote

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-06-30T11:41:44+00:00

I hope she sees this and dumps him “on a whim” 🤪

Philodendronfanatic · 2021-06-30T11:48:38+00:00

How can this guy be so deluded?

She knows what she wants, works for it and doesn't feel the need to ask for permission from anyone to do things for herself. She has her life sorted. Things don't work out like that without a lot of work: work to get the grades for grad school and even a grant, work to get her business up and running, work to care well for a pet so that they behave well, work to take care of her interpersonal relationships, work to figure out what she wants and how to get it without burdening those around her.

She's a responsible, successful adult dating someone who is blind to that.

Also, this guy sounds like a creep who was her friend with ulterior motives for years. They've been dating for four months, why the hell should he have been consulted on a house purchase before then heck even after that point so early in a relationship? Why should she have moaned about how much work she needs to put into studying or how much time and effort starting her business took? Why should he have a say in her piercing decisions and how on earth does he come to the conclusion that she doesn't know how to take care of them?

catslovecheese · 2021-06-30T12:20:53+00:00

😂 Nothing ever "just works out". This woman is not only incredibly hard working and perceptive, but smart enough to make it all look effortless.

hi_elf · 2021-06-30T12:29:36+00:00

Perhaps she's a witch. I love her

CuntWaffe · 2021-06-30T13:52:43+00:00

He waited ten years in the wings, idolizing and putting her on a pedestal, just to see that she is independent, smart, and makes her own decisions? Did he not even try to get to know her in a decade?

Risoa · 2021-06-30T10:55:10+00:00

INSECURE DUDE ALERT

shockingupdate · 2021-06-30T12:12:23+00:00

All he had to do was sit down and eat his food but no, “Wah my girlfriend has agency and good financial and life skills, and does think she’s interested in without asking for MY permission, how could she do this to ME”

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-06-30T12:20:10+00:00

can you imagine having a successful, high-value partner and not being happy for that??

Is he on her side or not? I thought the goal was to SUPPORT and UPLIFT your partner....

dolphiya_or_parateen · 2021-06-30T12:26:03+00:00

His girlfriend sounds great. What is she doing with this envious troll?

thicctoria · 2021-06-30T12:33:07+00:00

This guy obviously doesn't even understand the process of buying a house - there's no such thing as buying a house "on a whim". He may also THINK that she has no clue what she's doing but the fact that her business is doing well is proof that she does and he's just chatting shit. I know too many ambitious, hard-working people whose businesses failed to believe that she's just going off pure luck. This guy also seems to have unresolved mental health issues that he's trying to pass on to her, subconciously or not. I'm saying this as a person with quite severe anxiety - it's not normal to worry and overthink like he wants her to. This woman sounds amazing and someone I'd love to be friends with - intuitive, ambitious, in touch with her own wants and needs. The only thing is that she needs to drop this NVM and asap because he's going to keep trying to sabotage her.

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-06-30T12:50:38+00:00

Sings Ariana Grande “I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it!’ Men: WHAT AN IMPULSIVE EMOTIONAL RECKLESS CREATURE

Whatever we do, we can never win…

ThrowawayCompassion · 2021-06-30T12:10:50+00:00

maybe she is impulsive because her sudden decisions work out spectacularly? shes one of those decisive people who go straight for they want with a good knack of luck. hes jealous. the other shoe to drop, sounds like he wishes her life was harder? fuck this guy

academinx · 2021-06-30T12:40:11+00:00

“A few agree with me.” one. Just say one. And it’s probably not someone who is a good friend of hers.

BlackGirlKnickers · 2021-06-30T13:04:57+00:00

Four months in and he's already negging and trying to control her. Also wtf? Was she not supposed to date before him? Was she just supposed to sit around or pine after him. This scrote has a lot of nerve so soon in.

DevilGirl-Crybaby · 2021-06-30T13:17:20+00:00

How the fuck does one buy a house on a whim good sir?

noseatbeltsong · 2021-06-30T14:11:49+00:00

This is so disturbing to me for some reason. First of all, she did all of these things before they were together, and she clearly had the intelligence and autonomy to make these decisions on her own. As another commenter said, they don’t just give mortgages and grad school scholarships to people acting on a whim. She clearly thought these things through, and he was not part of her decision making process for obvious reasons.

I find it really interesting that the reason they got into a fight was because checks notes oh right, she got her ears pierced. Something completely reversible and not damaging to her if she turns out not to like it. Also, tacky? Excuse me? He had absolutely no say in what she does to her OWN body. This is the equivalent of complaining about the color nail polish she is wearing.

Fingers crossed she dumps him. He’s incredibly insecure and will criticize everything she does because it won’t be good enough for him. He also sounds like a “nice guy” - they’ve known each other for 10 years, he’s always been in love with her, but they just started dating? It hurt him to see her date other people? Yikes

bunsmoria · 2021-06-30T12:57:13+00:00

I didnt know applying for grad school could be so easy done and a full grant at that. Where did I do wrong? Hmmmmm? Or having a side business where it just works well but you don’t know what you are doing?

This post sounds like a fake or the guy is just 🤨🤨🤨

OnlyPaperListens · 2021-06-30T14:27:30+00:00

Bored this week, might buy a house and go to grad school, IDK.

ItsFreezen · 2021-06-30T11:48:36+00:00

This Scrote's a weasel.

adventurelillypad · 2021-06-30T12:04:30+00:00

He sounds so jealous. Also why should she confront him especially if they’ve only been dating for 4 months..?

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-06-30T13:40:06+00:00

Hahaha he is trying so hard to paint her in a bad light... but he can't. She sounds driven and successful. He can't take it. Hope she drops this insecure and controlling lvm.

Maingurl · 2021-06-30T14:11:12+00:00

She's ImPulsiVe ShE boUghT a HoUse wiTh nO intereSt!

Lmao, jealousy is a disease! He can stay mad!

vforvendetta87 · 2021-06-30T12:51:25+00:00

An independent woman with drive… So what’s the problem?

12thwizard · 2021-06-30T13:36:02+00:00

Am I really reading this right? This scrote is really SO self-involved that he can't see how she's got life handled, and it's him that needs to re-evaluate his shit? Even after writing it down, and presumably proof-reading it....he still didn't see? Wowsa.

And here scrote dude, just because YOU didn't see her train the dog, doesn't mean she didn't. Does he think everything that happens, happens around him? Same goes for her business and academic skills. What a dick. Imagine being sick a dick that you believe someone needes 'consequences to their actions' for being successful! I'm honestly dying here from laughing!

akashyaboa · 2021-06-30T13:36:56+00:00

Yes because scolarships just happen and banks just give away loans without business plans. Also she has 300 diplomas and 10 higher educations but she doesn't know what she's doing.

Maybe instead of mopping in his corner he should talk to her and he'll see the thought process. But instead he just assumes she doesn't think her things through since she's a woman and much younger than him so he is salty about it.

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2021-06-30T13:51:28+00:00

Just the way he’s describing her tells me he is an abuser.

Sewud · 2021-06-30T14:17:23+00:00

You don't just get into grad school "on a whim" lol. Sounds like she's a hard-working person who is decisive and takes the proper actions to get what she wants. She probably thinks about that stuff before doing, she just doesn't tell him because he's a loser and a drag who would talk her out of it. She uses her energy well and that's why things work out for her. If she spent her energy being made insecure by this jealous boyfriend it would make her depressed.

DumpsterWitchy · 2021-06-30T14:22:14+00:00

Imagine being so unsecure about yourself and what you have accomplished in life (in his case nothing but bitching all day, I guess?), that you have to put your girlfriend down, and act whatever she did, just fell into her lap by accident and she did nothing to achieve it.

This guy is so toxic she should leave his sorry ass. All he will ever do is to put her down. He isn't happy for her, he just gets angrier and angrier, the more she accomplishes. Be it her own business or something as simple as a piercing. He is one of those persons who are "friends" with you, because they simply want to see you fail and get mad when you succeed. Like "I am always happy for you, as long as you do far worse than me".

She should just run from this NVM and find someone better. - I mean, she already has a dog, so ....

Alkhemia · 2021-06-30T14:55:11+00:00

I, too, was with a toxic hobosexual in my twenties and I hope this lovely woman runs as fast as she can. In my case, my toxic hobosexual had no job, no degree, no driver's license, no future and he lived in my home, ate my food, and wanted to dictate my life. He threw a fit when I told him I was going to grad school because, in his considered estimation, I was wasting my time and ruining my life. 🙄

Like this clown, my ex was toxic and felt entitled to manage my life. This was twenty years ago and I have no doubt that my ex is still miserable, a loser and probably trying to sponge off of another poor victim. By contrast, I have a wonderful life, a great job, an amazing HV husband and a pretty cool grad degree. 😎

YgirlYB · 2021-06-30T14:25:22+00:00

This man is so so jealous. She reminds me of my friend who is a bubbly, happy, outgoing person. Her boyfriend got jealous of her and told her she makes him unhappy with her energy! Like, what?

How much do you guys wanna bet that she knew he wasn't right for her and that's why she refused to date him when they first met years ago? I hope she sees how amazing she is and stops putting up with his whining. Also, good on her for storming out. This behavior shouldn't be condoned.

Suspicious-Judge-380 · 2021-06-30T14:35:01+00:00

I guarantee you that this woman worked hard for everything he’s talking about. Even if you get into grad school “on a whim” you still have to put in an incredible amount of effort?? Men are so jealous when women are successful🤣

Also 2 new piercings is anywhere from 130-300 dollars if done professionally which seems pretty in her budget so i’m not seeing how that’s impulsive 🤣 he’s mad she has autonomy. notice how she’s been “impulsive” the whole time they’ve known each other, yet he still chose to date her, and then attempt to critique her. he really thought 4 months of dating would give him that credibility. cringe! hope she dumps him soon.

Sallou9 · 2021-06-30T16:08:12+00:00

See, this, I believe, is one of the fundamental differences between how men see women and how women see women.

As a WLW, I would see a woman like this and think "Shes so AMAZING. Talented, successful, daring, wonderful." It would make me love her. I would be gushing all the time about all the stuff the OP mentioned, and I'd be so happy for her

Men see the same woman and it makes them hate her. Think badly of her.

It really irks me.

Radenoughyet · 2021-06-30T14:50:14+00:00

How is buying a house, or going to grad school, impulsive? She knows what she wants and is working her ass off for it. It’s only “impulsive” because she didn’t ask permission from her boyfriend of 4 months

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-06-30T14:36:48+00:00

He jealous af lol Sadly, I’ve dated guys like this and they expect you tell them everything. They know everything about you from your sleeping schedule and daily routines. When something unexpected happens they get so tilted. The fact that he doesn’t he acknowledge her success is stupid. She’s not “lucky”. There was a lot of work and thought put into her decisions and he doesn’t see it. He’s jealous of her success and he’s comparing himself to her which is toxic.

Mimosa_usagi · 2021-06-30T14:39:33+00:00

He sounds so controlling and just like he also has something dark inside of him. Who gets angry that things work out well for someone they supposedly love. Also how does he know she ", doesn't,know what she's doing"? The reason she's so successful is that she knows a lot more than he's giving her credit for. He has the object permanence of a toddler of he thinks she doesn't put in hard work just because he doesn't see it happening in front of him.

glossiglam · 2021-06-30T15:04:17+00:00

What a little creep, he’s so jealous I wouldn’t be surprised if he tried to sabotage her

smaller_ang · 2021-06-30T15:59:33+00:00

"I thought we agreed you'd talk to me before getting a haircut". -tony soprano

lskfjd743 · 2021-06-30T13:56:29+00:00

I can't figure out if this scrote lacks a good understanding of the English language and/or a dictionary (he confuses/conflates the notion of "fortuitousness" with "impulsiveness" (although getting a car loan or a mortgage seems more of a function of long term planning and strategic thinking while getting a job offer from an internship seems more of a function of hard work and understanding how to play the office politics game) , or whether he is just your typical LVM gaslighter.

blue_avocado · 2021-06-30T16:03:07+00:00

Maybe, just maybe, she isn't impulsive. If her choices work out well, perhaps there is an enormous amount of thought behind the action that he (shockingly) is not aware of. Good for her! I love to see women succeeding. It's so motivating.

KMDMD · 2021-06-30T16:10:53+00:00

I forgot to mention how angry he is that she decided to be single for four years instead of being with him. So, you’re mad you didn’t get a chance to to be with this ‘annoying luckiest girl in the world,’ and simultaneously in your feelings now that you have her. Either step up to her level and live your best life, or pull her down to your unimpressive mediocre reality. Women can’t win!

splendiddiamonds · 2021-06-30T11:14:37+00:00

I call BS on “we met in college”.

He’s 5 years older than her and they met “a decade ago” when she was 18. He was 23 when they met. Translation: “we met when SHE was a teenager in college and I was an adult still hanging around with college-age guys despite already graduating (or possibly dropping out). I was the creepy adult hitting on teenagers at a party and this one stuck”.

“We didn’t start dating until 4 months ago because she wanted to experience life” = “she wanted to date someone in her own life stage and refused to date me when she was a teen and I was an adult, but I eventually wore her down after 10 years”

Reception_Queasy · 2021-06-30T09:48:05+00:00

Four months. She needs to consult him about everything before she does it after just four months. I'm sure she's worked hard on all these decisions she made for herself to give her a better life. I've done computer Science and love Creative writing, ended up taking a few courses, it is difficult. You do not breeze through it. I hope the next impulsive decision this girl takes is to stop dating this guy who did bring up how he's waited for her while she lived her life and dated other people.

Aksentia_Ivanovitcha · 2021-06-30T14:48:17+00:00

I was put down by my ex, family and friends many times when i was sharing my choices with them. I can totally get why she prefers to make her choices by herself. I avoided making many descisions because my ex and others derided me when i shared with them. Many times it turned out i was right to choose what i wanted, but i became so depended on listening to them that it took a long time for the other shoe to drop -

Some ppl are able to see things faster and better than others, have guts to experiment in ways others dont, or have the ability to visualize how one descision connects to others to make a solid path - and those ppl who cant see the big picture usually would give those who do titles such as "impulsive", "indescisive", "undisciplined", "messy" etc.

Those types ended up making more of a mess of my life than if i just did what i felt like doing. Some inhibition is good ofcourse and i dont support going blindly with intuition, because it can also be influenced by bad things such as feeling better than everybody else or by a big tendency to gamble too much, or by past trauma. Consulting is good but when your environment is controlling and toxic it is better to not share your thoughts with anyone... and i too would not consult my life choices with a man im dating for only 4 months. Chill.

It seems to me that many of the supposedly "impulsive" descisions she made can be called educated guesses and calculated risks.

Finding a nice dog - i think its really weird hes upset about that. Not many dogs have bad behaviour problems. A dog is man's best friend for a reason duh. Also, maybe she baught him trained?

Getting a scholarship - thats not something that falls on you from the sky. You need to apply to the scholarship. It's the way to go when you apply to an expensive academy. I know several ppl who did it. Its not like the academy forces you to pay - if you get accepted and cant pay you pay an affordable fine and thats it.

She probably knew her grandparents wanted to buy her a car or something similar to make her life better.

About buying the house - it really was a good call. Just like her other purchases, nobody is putting you in jail if you decide to regret a big purchase. if you buy it and discover you cant pay, you can always resell it.

I can see why she didnt want to be with him at first. She looks like a wise woman and he like an obssessive type. I wonder how he managed to convince her hes a good call. I also love how he questions all her recent life choices except the choice to date him.

tellmesomething11 · 2021-06-30T15:01:24+00:00

I hate hate hate that he attributes her success to luck and not her working hard. My job is easy for me now, but I worked extremely hard to get to where I am. It’s easy for me because of my experience. I had an ex that believed everything I had was due to luck and/or my looks, I worked hard to pull myself into a new state of being and men like this one just suck.

pennynotrcutt · 2021-06-30T15:10:20+00:00

That’s called a blessed life. I would hitch my wagon to that star!

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-06-30T16:22:54+00:00

Wow....... This dude has some issues! I get like being frustrated if you've experienced a lot of crap in your life but that stuff he's talking about is not her being impulsive and stupid and not experiencing consequences. It sounds like her making some good choices and things working out. Why the heck is he pissed off about that? And maybe some of the choices for her piercings weren't impulsive. Maybe those are things she'd been thinking about for a long time. Isn't a lot of Life impulsive according to his definition?! 🤷🤷🤷

jenaemare · 2021-06-30T14:45:38+00:00

This made me angry. This is what I was like in my early 20s before meeting my narc ex. He taught me to walk on eggshells and be overly analytical and panicked about everything all the time. He took all the fun and spontaneity out of me.

cwfs1007 · 2021-06-30T14:56:07+00:00

On another note, those "few friends" who agree with him either weren't listening, afraid of conflict, or don't give af.

Impossible_Mud_7599 · 2021-06-30T15:02:36+00:00

I think every man I’ve ever dated contributed to this post.

Erlekoenig · 2021-06-30T15:09:05+00:00

And here all I wanna learn how to be as kick-butt at life as her. Only admiration and respect!

WestAtmosphere · 2021-06-30T15:25:09+00:00

So tldr he is jealous of her success and mad that he's too lazy to go out and get his own success. There is nothing stopping him doing "impulsive" things if he wanted to. He's just mad she's able to be free in who she is and he can't.

LovedDemons · 2021-06-30T15:40:29+00:00

She sounds very successful. He's completely jealous of her reaching out and grabbing life by the horns that he has to fucking lie.

'she is impulsive and things work out for her'

Every single time, my guy? EVERY time? It sounds like she puts the research behind things and took chances and he's warping the story because he's chicken shit and it's comfier sitting back and letting her do the work where he can still bitch and cry about it. I bet he's accomplished absolutely zilch in life so far.

That woman is a queen. I'm happy she is getting everything she wants in life. I hardly think she actually is impulsive (just living her best life and not afraid to fail) but if she were? Good for her it works out.

Claiming she is impulsive gives away how jealous he is. He's a little leech and needs to realize that if she is 'impulsive' his cry baby ass better wisen up and be silent because one wrong move and his ass might just be outside at an 'impulse' 🤣

smaller_ang · 2021-06-30T15:55:45+00:00

Sir, a lot of things dropped in value during the pandemic - are you mad that your girlfriend bought something at the right time????

FodderFigureIllushun · 2021-06-30T16:29:33+00:00

I'm gonna need her to post a tutorial because she sounds amazing.

ListenLady58 · 2021-06-30T16:43:59+00:00

Ah yes, the dumb asshole who can’t figure out how his gf (who can obviously do better than him) is successful and able to buy the things she wants and needs, so out of jealously he calls her impulsive. Classic jealous asshole right here.

I remember my ex saying he worried about my spending too after I got my engineering job. Some men are just absolute, jealous losers.

TERFSareawesome · 2021-06-30T17:03:27+00:00

What really stuck out to me is the last line. "a few agree with me that she's just too impulsive." So basically he's talking shit about her to her entire friend group. This chick sounds like she has literal magic- she sounds so fun to be around and like such an overall powerful success. And meanwhile she's got this man, who's supposed to be on her side, hating on her and by his own admission talking trash about her behind her back. I've had friends talk bad about me and it really hurts so much, and it can really screw up your friend group when someone does that. The fact that this man is doing genuine damage to her reputation that will last even if she breaks up with them is another reason it's such a risk to be with a manbaby LVM. They LOVE to poison people against you and a lot of people believe men more than women, and it can really do a number on your reputation long term (see: Britney Spears being smeared by Justin Timberlake)

msinclaire · 2021-06-30T17:09:51+00:00

She sounds like a smart cookie, so it shouldn’t be long before she catches on that her boyfriend is a jealous little bitch who is just waiting for something disastrous to go wrong in her life so he can justify his smug assessment of her and say ‘I told you so’.

Dump the boat anchor, girl.

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2021-06-30T18:35:46+00:00

Sounds very narcissistic. He is just criticizing her left and right. Meanwhile he mentions 0 accomplishments on his end, lacks self-awareness, what was he doing the entire time she was out reaching goals? just rotting.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-06-30T16:11:37+00:00

I like that every comment said he was the asshole.

jebemo · 2021-06-30T16:33:06+00:00

None of that shit is impulsive!!! Most of what was listed requires hard work and dedication. Dude is grasping for straws.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-06-30T16:38:44+00:00

Holy shit. Why bother being in a relationship if you just want the other person to fail?

Elegaunt · 2021-06-30T16:48:16+00:00

LVM tries to insert himself into her successful and happy formula for life, to everyone's detriment. I hope she gets out ASAP.

menina2017 · 2021-06-30T17:06:47+00:00

He should be so proud to be dating a winner!! Imagine being jealous of your partner and not so happy and proud of them.

Original1one · 2021-06-30T17:25:37+00:00

I love her! What a woman! he is soooo envious it’s hilarious.

BeeWren · 2021-06-30T17:33:11+00:00

He is beneath her like a slimy little bridge troll. She is not impulsive, she thoughtfully planned big adulting things - house, dog, job, degrees. Impulsive is doing something without forethought and it usually causes something detrimental. She is blessed!

And he’s jealous because he wants “consequences,” i.e. to see her fail somehow and wah! it’s not happening. I’ve had female friends who’ve done similar. Didn’t really celebrate good things going on in my life and literally asked, “what makes you so special?”

Notice how he doesn’t mention how his life is going but how to fix her. Ugh. Jealousy and resentment are 🚩🚩🚩. I hope she runs for the hills with her dog and leaves him in her glitter-covered dust ✨✨✨

dottywine · 2021-06-30T17:35:46+00:00

I can understand being concerned with your girlfriend making big purchases like a house or a car on a whim (IF -- and this is a big if -- you intend to be MARRIED to her...). But the fact that his last straw was an ear piercing she wanted on her own body... someone please bring me my barf bag lol

And yea, he seems jealous that she is able to do what she wants and be successful at it. For someone who "loves" his girlfriend, he sure seems to not understand that not everyone has to navigate life the same as him. He probably is attracted to her BECAUSE she's like this.

Ok_Occasion_5057 · 2021-06-30T14:56:34+00:00

Oh boy, jealous much?

EclecticBarbarella · 2021-06-30T15:14:24+00:00

She wanted a new car that she could afford from her kick ass job and went out and bought it and he’s mad? Is she supposed to consult him first? Never buy anything new? God I hope she dumps this dude and continues on with her fabulous life, she sounds like she’s one of those people who knows what they want so they make it happen and she needs to lose him before he manages to neg that out of her.

Zeniite · 2021-06-30T15:22:40+00:00

“Impulsive?” The poor dude means “inspiring as fuck”! I want to be more like her

Old_Parsnip_3000 · 2021-06-30T15:39:33+00:00

Heh, "luck"

ferociouslycurious · 2021-06-30T17:23:46+00:00

“I hate that she puts forth effort and it pays off, she’s making me look like a loser” - because you are, you lazy ass

WorkaholicParty · 2021-06-30T18:44:09+00:00

This girl has the go-getter energy, it's not luck or having it easy her mindset is so good that whatever she wants she gets and it looks effortless to outside viewers. I love that for her. And I live for it, sometimes I can get into that "zone" as well, too bad I occasionally self-sabotage. If she stays with this scrote she might lose herself, I only hope she knows he's garbage because tons of women ruin their lives to be in relationships with envious worthless men.

The guy is a misogynist: he's the kind of scrote who thinks women get jobs by being pretty and batting their eyelashes and should only have jobs and make purchases if their father/husband/owner approves of them. He's a broke loser as well, I can tell.

capresesalad1985 · 2021-06-30T20:47:58+00:00

I find the opening super creepy. Like he has been clearly chilling in the side lines...claiming he’s her friend waiting for YEARS to slip it in. He knows she doesn’t need him, for money, for sex, for anything...and he hates her for it.

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-06-30T21:09:55+00:00

"She knows what she wants and goes for it and it ends up working out for her. I can't stand it. She should be unmotivated and crippled by self-doubt and never take risks. Motivation, confidence, and risk-taking behavior are for men 'cause high testosterone; I'd congratulate a guy for all she did but she just makes me look like a wimp if I can't control all her life decisions. I've earned it, I've dated her for FOUR FULL MONTHS!"

waddamelone · 2021-06-30T17:04:03+00:00

How is her chasing her dreams “being impulsive”? This is some real small dick energy. If he’s broke and jealous he should just say that.

maraslove · 2021-06-30T18:00:53+00:00

This.... is why I don't date financially incapable calculating ass losers. I did once BY MISTAKE and I learned my lesson. That hideous little swine started telling ME what I should spend MY MONEY on. He was also jealous of my mom's Lexus and my car. Gtfoh! This is nothing more than resentment because she wanted other guys and chose him last. Her being incredibly successful adds more lemon to the wound. That was my exact situation and I made sure it never happened a fucking gain.

GlitteringContact8 · 2021-06-30T20:35:34+00:00

So “more successful, savvy and driven than me” is “Impulsive” now lmao

jesymix14 · 2021-06-30T21:20:16+00:00

I honestly feel so inspired reading about this woman. I think I'll be a little more ~~impulsive~~ today 💞

The_Moon_Piece · 2021-06-30T21:21:36+00:00

Holy shit. She sounds awesome, he thinks she’s property lol. Hope she drops this loser in an impulse.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-06-30T23:10:18+00:00

Good for that queen 👸👸👸 hope she finds this post and dumps the 🍤🤏 loser. They aren't even on the same page, or the same book, or the same library, and the library isn't in the same universe.

Ironsculpture · 2021-06-30T18:18:06+00:00

This woman succeeds in ways he finds inconceivable and he keeps stressing how it works out even if "she has no idea what she's doing" and how irritating it is to him. He does everything in his power to discredit her abilities even though it's obvious she's a competent individual capable of taking initiative and calculated risks in a way he never will. Just a jealous little loser.

EsotericKnowledge · 2021-06-30T18:26:20+00:00

"And the most annoying part is that things just work out." what. the. actual. fuck?

PS: "she applied and got a full grant for grad school for studying creative writing" ---- do you know how hard it is to even apply to grad school? How hard and grueling the GRE exam is? and she was accepted for creative writing which means a skill and passion that she spent her entire life developing is what they accepted her for, not even just good grades and good test scores like most programs. Not just because she one day "impulsively" said, I think I wanna go to grad school, and then the grad program was like "k!" ... JFC.

ferretcat · 2021-06-30T18:29:47+00:00

She sounds amazing, I really hope they break up, he doesn't deserve her in the slightest

sunbathingpug · 2021-07-01T08:49:44+00:00

Maybe she isn’t impulsive and the things work out because she thinks them through... he’s jealous because he’s incapable of doing the things she does.

Vaio200789 · 2021-06-30T18:53:27+00:00

I think if you like someone none of that would bother you. You’d be proud, happy they are so compétant and choosing you, and you wouldn’t think their decisions are /bad since they all work out. But he does like her and want to date her or he wouldn’t need advice. I think he is not comfortable / capable of liking a woman as an equal, he wants to like a woman who has a dependent and subservient role. Also, it’s fine to change your mind about someone after 4 months , you don’t like piercings and tattoos and they keep getting them you’re probably not compatible. It doesn’t mean she was supposed to ask you first though, you’re just not a match. But he made it all about « she should have asked permission! » lol

fairywakes · 2021-06-30T19:29:36+00:00

The jealously is just so blantantly obvious. She seems like an awesome gal and I hope she can sense his jealous evil eye, because I can sense men like this a mile away. They stink like shit.

theawkwardalli · 2021-06-30T21:03:48+00:00

Omg, can I be friends with his girlfriend?! She kicks ass!

mgkmaloo · 2021-06-30T21:22:45+00:00

All I hear is “This woman is a badass manifestor, living her life to the fullest” and some guy complaining about it

mynameisrominka · 2021-06-30T21:33:00+00:00

I hope he is being roasted to a crisp

IndigoTR · 2021-06-30T21:42:03+00:00

Yep I have experienced this. LVMs can be extremely resentful and jealous if you have more/do better than them. Why would he be mad life is easy for the woman he loves? He wants to see her struggle? Very sick mindset but one I am all too used to!

lolmemberberries · 2021-06-30T23:55:54+00:00

It sounds like she's intelligent, fun, knows what she wants, goes after it and has a family that loves her. He's big mad because he isn't half of what she is.

vilanellescat · 2021-07-01T01:32:27+00:00

Translation: my girlfriend is amazing and thriving and I’m a bitter, mediocre man who can’t handle it when women are successful on their own

san__404 · 2021-07-01T07:14:19+00:00

oh god. I really want to be her minus the nvm.

ChocoBananza · 2021-07-01T12:19:24+00:00

Yeah, I did the almost exact same things, except for the piercings. Full scholarship, car, an apartment, cats instead of dogs tho…

I bought an apartment ‘impulsively’ right before the pandemic, because I’ve predicted that the real estate prices would drop, and they did. I was able to pay in cash, and I became a homeowner before 30.

My life savings didn’t fall from the sky. My career didn’t appear randomly. I’m fairly confident that hers didn’t conjure out of thin air neither.

sleepysiri · 2021-07-01T16:42:35+00:00

Calls a woman impulsive. Continues to explain her doing a list of very normal adult things. What an insecure loser.

sleepysiri · 2021-07-01T16:43:16+00:00

“And the most annoying part is that things hits work out” MAYBE BECAUSE SHE ISNT THE IMPULSIVE INFANTILE THING YOU DESCRIBED HER AS

Edit: I really hope she doesn’t consider his words because it sounds like life is great for her and I hope it stays that way

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-07-02T03:04:38+00:00

He's mad she is a successful adult when he isn't. Pathetic jealousy. Plus carrying a torch for her for 10 years, that's just plain pathetic.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-30T17:46:14+00:00

If grad school is a fucking whim, buying a house the same and improving your life by accumulating assets (mortgage or no mortgage), then this guy is an idiot.

All the above are signs that she is capable of and he feels threatened.

And he talks about her as of she's a possession. And he's envious of his possession doing things without his "consent" and approval.

But what does he bring to the table? Criticism? 🤣

Le:

She's too impulsive= she's too good for this guy and he can't keep the pace, it's envious and wants to bring her down to his level.

xdecadent · 2021-07-27T01:29:54+00:00

He’s a hater. Full stop. She’s 5 years younger and wtf is going on in his life that he’s so bothered by her?

exhalefierceness · 2021-06-30T23:58:25+00:00

......................

Hot_Evidence_5404 · 2021-07-01T05:09:46+00:00

I also live on the edge impulsively and frivolously with my house, grad degree, awesome job, awesome dog etc. I also left a scrote older than me with zero accomplishments or motivation and infinite envy and rage lol.

Here’s the painful truth. She built a life while he played video games and jerked off all day to porn.

HumanAdhesiveness360 · 2021-06-30T16:22:23+00:00

This can't be serious

Inthefullspectrum · 2021-06-30T21:30:07+00:00

The only thing she did wrong was bought instead of adopted, and I don’t even sure he actually knows where the dog came from. And that boyfriend thing too

lskfjd743 · 2021-06-30T13:51:19+00:00

oh good, at least the friends are on her side!!

eveloe · 2021-06-30T17:08:08+00:00

Press press press press pressed!

midwesternwinds · 2021-06-30T17:19:00+00:00

Please tell me they roasted him in the comments!

FirePreferred_theOG · 2021-06-30T18:26:05+00:00

So she is manifesting a beautiful life for herself and continues to attract good things to her life (except this guy)..... I don't see what the problem is? Sounds like should break up with her and continue on his miserable and pessimistic outlook and she should be free!!

Live your best life girl!! Manifest that stay at home job in you house, roll in the money you make and all the good things you attract in the world! Hell, I want to be around her and learn from her energy. :)

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2021-06-30T18:58:19+00:00

I do the same thing. Boo hoo, become more successful then. Either do better or get lost.

Tanalize · 2021-06-30T22:32:32+00:00

She needs to find out who her backstabbing friends are and get rid of them after she gets rid of this loser.

eviewevie · 2021-06-30T23:12:19+00:00

Bestie with her new cartilage piercings 😍

Kittycaramackarel · 2021-07-01T00:02:13+00:00

I bet he's also bitter abt the fact that she dated other ppl, and is now piling that on top of this other stuff she despises her for.

Conclusion-Waste · 2021-07-01T01:07:43+00:00

God I hope she dumps him!

asoww · 2021-07-01T02:20:49+00:00

Praying for her to dump him immediately

makesmetired · 2021-07-01T02:48:18+00:00

I don't think these kinds of men realize how pathetic they sound when they get jealous of their girlfriends and secretly compete with them. This is so common nowadays with financial independence. What a loser. He would probably be bitter if she made less money and relied on him, so there's no winning.

_queeeen_ · 2021-07-01T03:15:21+00:00

She sounds like a Queen and a good luck charm. And he sounds… like a grumpy, jealous toad. NEXT.

wigsnatcher42 · 2021-07-01T03:38:16+00:00

....honestly, this sounds like a sensor vs an intuitive type lol

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2021-07-01T03:47:07+00:00

She “impulsively” got a masters degree!? Lol. Sure. That’s how going to class and studying 50 hours a week works, Jeffrey. And she just “lucked into” a prestigious school? Again, that’s not how admissions work. At all.

Damn, he doesn’t want to give her credit for shit.

This is outrageous to me. He won’t acknowledge that although she may have had some luck, she’s obviously very smart and worked hard enough to have enough money and good enough credit to get a whole house.

I hope she dumps him. It’s her body, her choice. And no one deserves to have their accomplishments minimized by a jealous person. He’s awful. Awful, I tell you!

Repulsive_Incident27 · 2021-07-01T04:45:04+00:00

Could he be anymore jealous!?

Hot_Evidence_5404 · 2021-07-01T05:01:18+00:00

I missed the part where he accomplished something…anything…other than finally convincing her to date him after 10 years. (Which by the way is astonishing that anyone would be convinced at all given what little I know about him)

BlackThummb · 2021-07-01T05:21:22+00:00

Wooow, he HATES her.

k_sugarplum · 2021-07-01T06:53:54+00:00

Decisions on a whim, which turned out to be really good decisions. He's green with envy. She takes initiative, can afford housing and education and has her own business. In short, she doesn't need him at all.

whenthingsconsidered · 2021-07-01T07:04:09+00:00

lol it's hilarious the list of things he is describing her doing as impulsive

car for her joy and convenience, house purchase, talking about big investment-worthy stuffs, a lovely loyal pet that she is taking care of, side business duh queen energy right there, expression with her body and appearance, and education and degree in a highly competitive field/school

Sounds like she's living her life to the fullest and he's just rotting and killing himself of jealousy

Guuurrrl_okeehay · 2021-07-01T11:40:19+00:00

I bet this is the guy who will say she was born with a silver spoon and compare her hardship to his and start playing who suffered more in life game.

Title	Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting me
Author	Flums666
Upvotes	2027
Comments	305
Date	June 30, 2021 9:19 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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